The one thing that can really make or break your chances with someone new is the first kiss. Even though it may seem really superficial, many people decide in that moment if they want to continue things with you or not. For that reason, knowing a few kissing techniques will help you to make the perfect first impression.
Kissing is a pretty intimate thing. Most people play down the significance of pressing your lips to someone else’s but come on, it’s a pretty big deal! Even if you don’t want to have a relationship with the person you’re looking to kiss and just want to give them the best kiss of their life, knowing what to do and what to avoid will help you out. [Read: 15 Types of kisses: Deciphering the truth behind their smooch]
Many people look at kisses in the movies and think, “why can’t I be kissed like that?” However, those kisses are calculated, planned, and even choreographed to look amazing and desirable. Wouldn’t it feel great to give someone a kiss that will make even the best on-screen smooch seem lame?
What you have to remember is that some kisses just don’t work out straightaway. That’s fine, you just need to figure out a little damage control in the heat of the moment! Being able to laugh about it and try again always helps.
The best kisses make your heart race, knees weak, and definitely leave your wanting a lot more. Those kisses all have these 15 things in common. Master these kissing techniques and you’ll be dolling out heartbeat-skipping kisses in no time. [Read: 12 foolproof kissing tips for that picture perfect smooch]
Gauge the other person’s reaction to your proximity throughout the evening. If they shy away when you get closer, maybe you should reconsider going in for the kiss. If you’re finding that they’re moving closer and closer and even initiating some contact between the two of you, you’re probably safe.
Timing is almost as important as the kiss itself. If you mess up the timing, things can get awkward really quickly. The best time to lean in and smooch is when the two of you have naturally drawn closer together. This is usually toward the end of the date/night when you are both feeling comfortable around each other. [Read: When to kiss a girl: 15 Subtle signs to predict the magic moment]
Too drastic of a move makes it hard to gauge their reaction and makes it difficult for you to change something if it’s not appealing to them. When you move in for the kiss, do so at a slow *but not too slow* pace. Easing your way into it builds the anticipation, and that’s a huge factor when it comes to making it a heartbeat-skipping kiss. Kissing techniques aren’t all about dong anything fancy, it’s sometimes just being able to read the other person. [Read: How to get a guy to kiss you when you want him to]
When your lips finally touch, don’t shove your face as hard as you can against theirs. Very gently and softly touch your lips to theirs. The softness will create a tenderness that will be unmatched. They will be asking *almost begging* for more.
By this, we mean put the idea in their head early on and work up to the kiss. It’s kind of like foreshadowing, but for real life. Initiate physical contact *innocently* throughout the night. Get closer to them as the night goes on. Set yourself up to give them that amazing kiss.
When you’re finally ready to move into the kiss, you’ll need somewhere to put your hands. It’s always awkward kissing someone without touching them in any other way. It reminds you of two little kids planting their first kiss on someone – sad and uncomfortable. Kissing techniques don’t always come down to what you do with your lips!
When you go in for the kiss, put one or both hands on the sides of their face. If you only use one hand to grab their face, use the other to grab them by the waist and pull them in gently so they’re that much closer to you. [Read: How to kiss a girl for the first time and not screw up]
Pay attention to their body language. If they’re pulling away, crossing their arms, or seem like they’re keeping their distance, the kiss might have to wait. However, if they lean in and accept your kiss, gauge if they want more.
If they’re still lingering after you’ve given that first heartbeat-skipping kiss, lean in for another and carry it on so it’s a little bit longer of a kiss. Only this time, make it a little more urgent and needy. Body language can tell you a lot about whether or not you’re doing a great job. It will lead to that amazing, unforgettable kiss. [Read: 15 secrets to make your first kiss really memorable]
Just keep them closed. Don’t open your eyes unless your lips are not touching each other’s. It makes things awkward and uncomfortable if you catch them looking at you, too. It can kind of ruin the moment.
Bad breath = horrible kiss. When all someone can pay attention to is how bad your breath is, it takes away from the rest of the amazing things you’re putting into your kiss to make it incredible. Just chew a mint or some gum shortly before the end of your date.
Nobody wants to kiss dry, cracked lips. They’re very noticeable and uncomfortable. Keep your lips plumped and soft with some chapstick throughout the night/day. Do NOT “moisturize” your lips by licking them. This just makes them wet and gives them a slobbery quality – not good.
When you kiss someone, closed lips make it impossible to mold your lips with theirs. However, lips that are too open are just a gateway for slobber and too much tongue. Keep your lips slightly parted, just enough so you can mold your lips to theirs.
At least not at first. Tongue should be something that is initiated by the other person. Tongue comes after your initial kiss because it’s amazing. Throwing in some tongue too early can be awkward and uncomfortable for the other person. What if they don’t want your tongue in their mouth just yet? Skip the tongue if you want to give them a heartbeat-skipping kiss. [Read: 11 signs of a bad kisser and 15 foolproof remedies]
Don’t drag it out so long. A heartbeat-skipping kiss is one that is just brief enough for someone’s heart to actually skip a beat. It’s short, sweet, simple, and, if done correctly, will leave them coming back for more right away. Let them come back to you for more, but keep it short yourself.
If you’re finding that you’re struggling to make the kiss work and things aren’t coming together in the way you thought, then just leave it at that and don’t force the kiss. It will seem forced; and no great, knee-buckling kisses were ever made by force. [Read: How to kiss a guy for the first time and leave him feeling turned on]
Take a deep breath. In order to give a truly amazing, toe-tingling kiss, you need to be relaxed. The whole process of kissing the person should be as natural and relaxed as possible. If you’re calm and things happen naturally, the person on the receiving end of your amazing kiss will feel at ease, allowing them to fully enjoy it.
Your first kiss with someone new will always be a little nerve-wracking. If you don’t feel butterflies and slight nerves, you don’t like them that much! Use those butterflies to add to the passion when you kiss that special someone and give them a smooch to remember!
[Read: 10 simple moves that will make every kiss of yours feel passionate and romantic]
Everybody wants to have that knee-weakening, heartbeat-skipping kiss. By following these 15 kissing techniques, you’ll be the one to give them a kiss they’ll never forget.
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