Oh god, learning how to make out for the first time can be a stressful mess! I remember the first time I made out with someone. I was sixteen, sitting on the couch with my then-boyfriend. We would share innocent kisses when he then asked me, “do you want to French kiss?”
I was obviously mortified. French kiss? What do I do? How do I position my head? I was a sweaty, nervous mess. Needless to say, the first time wasn’t amazing. It wasn’t bad, but it wasn’t great. I was trying to figure out how this all worked, where does my tongue go, how much pressure I should use.
It took me some time to get the hang of things, that’s for sure. And though this story is embarrassing, I wanted to share it with you because you need to know your first time making out with someone may not look like something out of a movie.
Instead, it could be a little awkward at first, but that’s okay. It takes time to learn anything new for the first time, so don’t be hard on yourself. Instead, when it comes to learning how to make out for the first time, enjoy the moment and try to go with the flow.
[Read: 15 secrets to make your first kiss very memorable]
How to make out with someone for the first time – The beginners walkthrough
Okay, I don’t want to stress you out or make you panic, so let’s walk you through this straight away.
#1 Are you ready? Do you want to make out with this person? Or are you doing this because you think you have to? Because you don’t need to make out with anyone unless you want to, so don’t go into this feeling any pressure. If you want to do it, then do it. If not, don’t do it. [Read: Sex with a new partner – How to start your adventure with a bang]
#2 Use your manners. It can be a little hard to control yourself when you really want to kiss someone. But nothing is more frightening than having someone’s mouth charging to yours without any heads up. When it comes to kissing, use your manners. You can lean in slightly and see if they accept and lean in towards you. But if your partner is dodging any physical contact, don’t do it.
#3 There had to be physical contact before making out. You cannot just grab someone and start making out with them. Okay, you can, but depending on the circumstances, it can be frowned upon.
If you two have kissed before, then you can slowly transition into making out. But there should be physical contact before the make-out session. [Read: The 4 relationship bases of making out and 9 must-know metaphors]
#4 Go with the moment. If you’re wondering how to make out for the first time ever, you should remember that there will be a moment when you two will share this emotional connection that will lead to the kiss. Feel that moment, feel the energy. Are you two being pulled closer together? Is the sexual tension building?
Well, that’s the energy you want when going into a make-out session. Both people want to be kissing each other, and they want more. [Read: When to kiss someone – 15 subtle signs to predict the magic moment]
#5 Your goal shouldn’t be sex. It’s your first time making out with someone; the goal shouldn’t be sex or showing off some new move you discovered. The first makeout session should be the moment where you’re getting to know them. It’s fun, light, and you’re feeling the chemistry. You shouldn’t be thinking about having sex; focus on having fun.
#6 Where do your hands go? While you’re making out with them, you’re probably wondering where do you put your hands. Well, you have a couple of options. You can hold their hands, their face, have your hands around their waist, rub the side of their leg – it really depends on what you and your partner feel comfortable with. [Read: 14 key moves that’ll make you really good at making out instantly]
#7 Communicate with each other. If you’re kissing someone for the first time, but don’t like the pressure or speed they’re using, let them know. Of course, you can do this in a non-offensive way by pulling away and saying, “ I like when you kiss me like this,” and then show them. This is new for both of you, so it may take some time to understand what you both like.
#8 Use compliments. If you want to know how to make out for the first time AND appear confident at the same time, use compliments because they always work! When you’re making out, you can use compliments to hint to them what you like while making out. If you like when they nibble on your lip, say, “I love when you nibble on my lip.” It’ll make them feel good, and they’ll do it more because now they know you like it. [Read: 15 sizzling tips for a beginners’ make out session]
#9 Flirt! When you’re making out with someone for the first time, you’re getting to know them. So, flirt! You can kiss, stop and flirt, kiss again. The world is your oyster, and there’s absolutely no guide you need to follow. Flirt, kiss, flirt again, just enjoy the experience.
#10 Know when they’ve had enough. Your partner may not want to make out with you, or after some time; they want to take a break. Whatever they want to do, you need to respect their decision. If they’re stiffening or pulling away, they’re letting you know they need a time out. [Read: A simple peck or a steamy makeout? What you can learn from your first kiss]
#11 There’s no time limit. You can make out with someone for five minutes or three hours. When it comes to making out, there is no time limit. You and your partner just need to go with the flow. Whatever you two feel comfortable doing, do it. Making out is about getting to know your partner and vice versa. [Read: How to make a makeout session feel really, really sexy]
#12 Just relax. Listen, I know you want to blow their mind with your kissing skills, but just chill out. If you go with the flow, relax, and enjoy the moment, you will definitely rock their world. If you’re nervous, tense and unable to relax, it’s not going to be a fun make-out session for either of you.
[Read: How to master the first time you make out and do it really well]
You have nothing to worry about when it comes to learning how to make out for the first time ever with someone new. Start by trying to relax and enjoy the moment with your partner. And follow these steps!
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