A first kiss is never easy.
It’s confusing and tricky, and one of those times that can go either ways.
She could kiss you back.
Or she could move her head away instantly, which is every guy’s biggest nightmare.
If you want to skip the scary part and get right to getting her to kiss you back in no time, here’s all you need.
If you want to know how to kiss a girl on a first date, read how to make out with a girl on a date.
How to get a girl to kiss you
Girls almost never initiate the first kiss. So even if you want to get a girl to kiss you, you’ll still have to work your magic and make a few moves first.
If you’re dating a girl, it’s always easier to take the plunge.
But if you want to kiss a girl on the first date, or kiss a girl you’re attracted to but haven’t yet asked out, you’ll have to take it slow and read the little signs she gives away before puckering up for a first kiss.
Arousing a girl and getting her to kiss you
Building the sexual chemistry is the easiest way to warm her up.
Use these ten steps when you’re with her and she’ll be wrapped in your arms within an hour’s time!
The best part about using these steps is that you can always back off the second she doesn’t respond to any of your moves. [Read: How to accidentally kiss a girl]
It’s safe, and you’ll never ever find yourself in an awkward situation.
#1 Get some alone time
If you want a girl to kiss you back, you need to build the moment. Take her to your place or see if you can get some quiet time in her place when it’s just the both of you. There should be no distractions, be it your cell phone or a stranger walking in when both of you are trying to get cozy. A dimly lit room would definitely work in your favor.
#2 Don’t ask her to kiss you
While this may seem like the easiest and bold thing to do, it almost always never works. Girls need to feel the sexual tension and arousal before making out with a guy. Unless you already know she wants to kiss you, don’t ask her to.
#3 Sit close and flirt sexually
For starters, sit close to her. And eventually, find an excuse to sit really close, either to read a book together or to show her something on your phone. Be discreet and never let her know what your intentions are, just yet.
Don’t get sexual straight away. Talk about how nice a person she is, about the time you first saw her, or about a few memorable events that both of you share. Once you’re warmed up, get personal with your talk. If you’re not dating her, talk about her relationships or the last time she made out with a guy. If you’re dating her, just talk about anything, it really doesn’t matter. [Read: Tips to flirt with a girl like a friend]
#4 Touch her now and then
Delicately touch her fingers or just play with her nails. She’s not going to mind it. Compliment her skin or her perfume. This is where you build the sexual tension by touching her softly. [Read: How to touch a girl and turn her on]
#5 Don’t laugh or try to be funny
You may be a funny guy, but this is not the time to show off your funny bone. It kills the mood. Lower your voice and speak softly. Watch out for her expressions and if she’s warming up to you, you’d see that she’ll reciprocate and start talking softly too.
#6 Get her in the mood
If she’s laughing, fooling around or excitedly talking about something in a high pitch, she’s definitely not warming up to you. Hold her hands and play with her fingers. Clasp her fingers with yours, and just stroke her palm or her forearm. Even if she’s confused about what you’re up to, she’ll start to calm down and get right into the mood.
#7 Place a small kiss on her cheek
This is the first tricky step, but it’s the one that can pave the path for getting her to kiss you back. Once you feel like she’s warmed up to you, talk about your relationship with her. Have a conversation about both of you and tell her you’re really happy to have known her. And just as you say that, turn towards her and softly place a quick kiss on her cheek and smile. She’ll involuntarily smile back. Whew! You’re almost there now. [Read: Tips to compliment a girl the right way]
If you’re too scared to kiss her cheek, you can clasp her hand and kiss the back of her palm. It does the same trick, only a lot safer.
#8 Watch her reactions
How does she react to your kiss? Is she blushing or does she look shocked? You just kissed her cheek, so she can’t really hate you for that.
If she blushes, she likes it! If she looks confused, don’t worry, you just jumped in too fast. Go back to stroking her fingers or play with her hair. And while you’re keeping your hands busy, keep talking about something that’s flirty or even sensual.
#9 Kiss her cheek again
If she was excited by your kiss, it’s time to take the plunge again. This time around, kiss her on her cheeks but let your lips almost touch her lips. Linger for a few seconds with the kiss.
#10 Watch her reaction again
Now you’ve taken it one step further. Does she like it? Are her eyes closed in pleasure or is she wide eyed and staring at you like you violated her?
If she looks confused, kiss her cheek again. If she looks offended, back away and pretend like it was just a friendly kiss. You got this far, but maybe you’ll have better luck the next time around. [Read: A first kiss story gone wrong]
If she blushes or comes closer to you, kiss her on her lips. You know she likes it and she definitely wants it.
Don’t break the sexual tension by moving away after the first kiss. Stay close to her lips. If she likes you and wants to kiss you back, she’s definitely going to make a move and kiss you back.
And there we have it, ten easy steps on how to get a girl to kiss you back even if you’re not dating her. Want to take it to the next level? Read how to touch a girl’s breasts after kissing her.
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