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13 Subtle Eye Contact Flirting Tips to Catch Someone’s Eye from Afar

They say the eyes are the window to the soul. That’s true when it comes to showing someone you like them. Learn these eye contact flirting moves today!

eye contact flirting tips

If you’re not the best at flirting or you’ve had a few failures in the past, there’s some good news coming your way. You can use eye contact flirting to communicate your desire and cut out the stress!

Yes, no more panic, no more stress, and a lot more success!

It’s the easiest and safest way to get the message across and get a sign back in no time. It’s simple, instinctive and something that all of us indulge in without even realizing it.

Basically, flirting by eye contact is safe, fun, and an easy way to find out if someone is interested in knowing you better, without the pressure of making the first move.

[Read: How to flirt with your eyes and grab anyone’s attention in the room]

There is a difference between eye contact and staring!

Let’s clear this one up before we begin. There is a very big difference between making eye contact with someone and having a staring contest.

Staring makes people feel very uncomfortable. If you stare or hold their gaze for too long, they’re more likely to think you’re creepy than attractive. In that case, your eye contact flirting is not going to work!

When you first start making eye contact deliberately, you might feel awkward yourself. You might be worried that you’re not doing it right or that you’re holding it for the wrong amount of time.

It’s true that not holding eye contact for long enough isn’t going to work either – they might think it was an accidental glance. Yet, if you hold it for a couple of seconds too long, it’s just downright weird. [Read: What does eye contact mean to a guy?]

The best advice is to hold their gaze for just a second longer than you would normally if it were accidental. That second is very telling! It takes your eye contact from a mere glance to flirting. It’s safe enough to keep them comfortable, but it’s long enough to tell them that it was more than an accident.

The happy side of eye contact flirting

Let’s face it, eye contact flirting is harmless.

You could exchange a glance on the street or while having coffee at a restaurant.

As long as it’s mutual, it’s a fun and flirty experience that can bring a smile at the end of the day. [Read: Why some guys stare even when the girl isn’t interested]

Who doesn’t love a few stolen glances now and then, even if you don’t intend to date that person?

The best part of eye contact flirting is the fact that it can help you gauge someone’s interest in you without even asking them out. And secondly, you can let someone know you’re interested in them and warm them up to a first date without even saying ‘hello’.

Put simply, if flirting makes you break out into a cold sweat, eye contact flirting is the easiest way to side-step the awkwardness and feel better about the whole thing.

[Read: The socially awkward person’s guide to flirting]

13 magical eye contact flirting moves to get someone interested in you

What do you do when you see someone you like at a coffee shop or at a party? If you’re not sure what to do, well, eye contact flirting may be the best thing in the world to help you get their attention and make an impression in no time.

Just use these simple eye contact flirting tips and you’ll be able to get the right message across in no time.

1. Casually glance now and then

See someone you like? Casually glance at the person now and then. Soon enough, the one you like will notice you back. [Read: How to look fabulous and appealing when trying to catch someone’s eye]

2. Exchange a fleeting glimpse

Don’t be hasty or you’ll end up looking like an annoying stalker. When the person you like catches you half-staring and stares back at you with curiosity, lock eyes for a second and look away immediately.

3. Go back and repeat the glance

Look at the person you like again. Stare at him or her, but look away immediately as soon they look back at you. Don’t linger and stare back for more than a second just yet.

4. Let them know what’s on your mind

At first, the person you like may assume it’s a passing glance. But as they catch you sneaking a few glances now and then, they’d understand that you’re interested in them.

Don’t stare for more than a second just yet because you’ll kill the excitement. Instead, build the excitement.

5. Build the excitement

Now that you’ve got the one you like looking back at you now and then to see if you’re still staring, it’s time to build the excitement. Stop staring for a couple of minutes. Wait for them to stare at you now and then.

We’re all curious, so the person you like will wonder why you aren’t staring anymore and may start to stare at you more often, to check if you’re still staring.

By doing this, you’re actually making the one you like as interested as you are in building the staring game! [Read: 13 signs of unspoken attraction to know if someone is into you]

6. Reverse the eye contact flirting

Look straight ahead, and don’t face the person you’re trying to make eye contact with. But at the same time, focus on them and keep them in your line of sight.

Don’t stare directly, but keep your focus on them. Wait for that person to look at you. And just as they look at you, turn your face towards them and stare back at that person.

By doing that, you’re now discreetly making it appear like they’re the one interested in looking at you, and not the other way around!

7. Stare for a longer duration

You’ve been exchanging fleeting glances until now, but now that you’ve got the one you like excitedly waiting for you to stare back, lock eyes for more than a second before looking away. [Read: How to catch your crush’s eye and grab their attention]

8. Smile and blush

Talk to your friends or appear busy, and stare for a second or two. And each time, look away smiling in an obvious or awkward manner. Don’t smile at the person you’re staring at just yet. Always smile only while looking away.

9. Watch their response

Is this person looking at you as often as you’re looking at them? If they are, it’s working and you’re on your way to talking to them very soon.

If the one you like isn’t reciprocating your glances no matter what you do, they’re not interested, so give up and move on. You can’t win all your eye contact flirting games.

10. Smile while “staring”

Now that you’re certain the one you staring at is equally interested in staring at you and exchanging stolen glances, it’s time to take the plunge.

During one of your longer glances, look straight into their eyes and smile, just a little bit. If it comes off as awkward and slightly silly, that’s ever better!

But remember, when you decide to give this step a try, there’s no turning back here!

If the person smiles back at you, you’ve struck gold. If the one you’re staring at looks shocked or looks away hastily, they just need a little more time to warm up. [Read: 75 Flirty questions to ask your crush & make them think of you]

If the smile’s worked in your favor, here’s what you need to do. If you’re the girl, give the guy an opportunity to talk to you. Check out this guide on how to start a conversation with a guy – 25 subtle moves that really work.

If you’re the guy, what are you waiting for, make a move! Use this guide on how to approach a girl and talk to her in a way that’ll impress her.

11. Make eye contact when you’re talking too

If you already know the person and want them to know you like them, stare deeply into their eyes when you’re having a conversation.

Think about how much you like them, and your eyes will glaze over and let them know exactly what’s on your mind. And don’t forget to smile, it sends the right message across. [Read: 20 signs of attraction in a conversation]

12. Feeling brave? Take the eye contact flirting up a notch

If you’re at a party or just want someone to know you’re interested in some flirty fun, follow the same steps as mentioned above, but instead of just staring for a few seconds into their eyes, stare into their eyes and look them up and down once with an appreciative smile.

It lets them know you’re checking them out and find them attractive. [Read: How to tell a guy you want to have sex without coming off slutty]

13. Ladies, make it obvious you like him with this tip

Acknowledge his stare and drop a few signs to get him to talk to you. If you’re taking a trip to the ladies room alone, look towards the ladies room when he’s looking at you, look back at him, smile and get up. Walk slowly and look at him one more time as you walk across him. [Read: How to get a guy to approach you and talk to you – All the steps you need]

You’ve established the flirting, now what?

Now you have to be brave and go for it! Approach the one you have your eye on, quite literally, and make witty conversation!

You’ve already worked out that they like you back, otherwise they wouldn’t have reciprocated in your flirting game. That should make you feel slightly more confident about approaching them and striking up a conversation.

When you head over there, remember to be yourself. You don’t have to pretend to be someone else, you’re more than enough as you are!

[Read: Eye fucking – How to master the art and get anyone to eye fuck you back]

[Read: 75 huge signs to tell if a guy likes you and secrets to make him like you more]

Eye contact flirting can be fun and extremely exciting if you indulge in it the right way. Overdo it or underdo it, and you may end up losing the connection. Just follow these steps, and you definitely won’t go wrong.

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Sarah Summer
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