Who doesn’t love a few stolen glances now and then, even if you don’t intend to date that person?
The best part of eye contact flirting is the fact that it can help you gauge someone’s interest in you without even asking them out. And secondly, you can let someone know you’re interested in them and warm them up to a first date without even saying ‘hello’.
10 eye contact flirting moves to get someone interested in you
What do you do when you see someone you like at a coffee shop or at a party? If you’re not sure what to do, well, eye contact flirting may be the best thing in the world to help you get their attention and make an impression in no time.
#1 Casually stare now and then. See someone you like? Casually stare at the person now and then. Soon enough, the one you like will notice you back.
#2 Exchange a fleeting glimpse. Don’t be hasty or you’ll end up looking like an annoying stalker. When the person you like catches you staring and stares back at you with curiosity, lock eyes for a second and look away immediately.
#3 Repeat the glances. Look at the person you like again. Stare at him or her, but look away immediately as soon they look back at you. Don’t linger and stare back for more than a second just yet. [Read: First glances and love at first sight]
#4 Let them know what’s on your mind. At first, the person you like may assume it’s a passing glance. But as they catch you sneaking a few glances now and then, they’d understand that you’re interested in them. Don’t stare for more than a second because you’ll kill the excitement. Instead, build the excitement.
#5 Build the excitement. Now that you’ve got the one you like looking back at you now and then to see if you’re still staring, it’s time to build the excitement. Stop staring for a couple of minutes. Wait for them to stare at you now and then.
The person you like will wonder why you aren’t staring anymore and may start to stare at you more often, to check if you’re still staring. By doing this, you’re actually making the one you like as interested as you are in building the staring game.
#6 Reverse the eye contact flirting. Notice the one you like from the corner of your eye. Don’t stare directly, but keep an eye on the person you like. Wait for that person to look at you. And just as the one you like looks at you, stare back at that person. By doing that, you’re now discreetly making it appear like they’re the one interested in looking at you, and not the other way around.
#7 Stare for a longer duration. You’ve been exchanging fleeting glances until now, but now that you’ve got the one you like excitedly waiting for you to stare back, lock eyes for more than a second before looking away. [Read: 10 tips to look sexy without trying]
#8 Smile and blush. Talk to your friends or appear busy, and stare for a second or two. And each time, look away smiling or blushing in an obvious manner. Don’t smile while staring just yet. Always smile only while looking away.
#9 Watch their response. Is this person looking at you as often as you’re looking at them? If they are, it’s working and you’re on your way to a fun evening. If the one you like isn’t reciprocating your glances no matter what you do, they’re not interested, so give up and move on. You can’t win all your eye contact flirting games.
#10 Smile while staring. Now that you’re certain that the one you like is equally interested in staring at you and exchanging stolen glances, it’s time to take the plunge. During one of your longer glances, look straight into their eyes and stretch a little smile. There’s no turning back here. If the person smiles back, you’ve struck jackpot. If the one you’re staring at looks shocked or looks away hastily, they just need a little more time to warm up.
If the smile’s worked in your favor, here’s what you need to do. If you’re the girl, give the guy an opportunity to talk to you. If you’re the guy, what are you waiting for, make a move!
If you already know the person and want them to know you like them, stare deeply into their eyes when you’re having a conversation. Think about how much you like them, and your eyes will glaze over and let them know exactly what’s on your mind. And don’t forget to smile, it sends the right message across. [Read: 20 signs of attraction in a conversation]
Eye contact flirting for flirty stares
If you’re partying or just want someone to know you’re interested in some flirty fun, follow the same 10 steps as mentioned above, but instead of just staring for a few seconds into their eyes, stare into their eyes and look them up and down once with an appreciative smile. It lets them know you’re checking them out and find them attractive. [Poll results: What part of a girl’s body do guys like most?]
Eye contact tips for girls
# Guys find it easier to approach a girl who’s willing to exchange a flirty stare. If you like someone, stare back and build the eye contact. He’ll approach you more easily.
# Acknowledge his stare and drop a few signs to get him to talk to you. If you’re taking a trip to the ladies room alone, look towards the ladies room when he’s looking at you, look back at him, smile and get up. Walk slowly and look at him one more time as you walk by. [Read: 8 qualities men like most in a woman]
Eye contact tips for men
# Don’t stare at a girl for too long. It’s scary.
# Be very subtle with your stares or you’d end up looking perverted. Eye contact flirting is a slow and exciting game that builds the momentum with time. If you overdo it or stare for too long, you’ll end up looking desperate.
Eye contact flirting can be fun and extremely exciting if you indulge in it the right way. Overdo it or underdo it and you may end up losing the connection. Just follow these 10 steps and you definitely won’t go wrong.