How to Make a Girl Want You, Desire You and Think Of You Sexually

Attraction is a complicated thing and it’s not always mutual. If you want to learn how to make a girl want you, just follow these easy steps.

how to make a girl want you sexually

Girls may be drawn to a guy for his personality. Yet, even if you’re a guy with a great personality, it’s easy to end up becoming just a friend instead of a lover. Being friend-zoned when you want something more is never a good thing. If you want to learn how to make a girl want you, you need to employ a few clever tactics to get the job done.

[Read: How to flirt with a girl and make her fall in love with you]

How to make a girl want you without any doubt

Girls love great guys who are a lot of fun to be with. But then, there are a lot of great guys walking the planet. When you’re attracted to a girl who is drop-dead gorgeous and can get the attention of any guy she wants, it’s not easy to make her desire you sexually.

But there are ways you can try and some are often very successful indeed.

Most guys are too afraid to make a move on a girl who’s very good-looking because they’re afraid to get spurned. Let’s be honest, these types of girls are not short on offers and aren’t likely to accept the offer of someone who doesn’t fit the bill.

However, by being yourself and using a few easy tips, you’ll make her see the major potential in you instead. [Read: How to make a girl like you without asking her out]

One thing you should never do? Don’t let her know that you like her too soon.

Sometimes you have to make someone work for your attention in return. It’s reverse psychology but in the world of love, sometimes you need to act a little cleverly to get what you want!

It’s also true that if she doesn’t like you yet, she may end up distancing herself from you to avoid any awkward moments. That’s not going to get you where you want to be. [Read: 25 things about a guy that turn a girl on sexually and otherwise]

Instead, behave like a friend. Yes, a friend. Don’t worry about being friend-zoned because the following tips will make sure that doesn’t happen.

The must-follow steps to make a woman want you sexually

If you find yourself becoming attracted to a friend who’s getting a lot of attention already, you can definitely make her desire you and want you.

All you need to do is play it safe and slow by using these steps to turn her on and make her want you. [Read: How to get a girl to have sex with you by arousing her very subtly]

1. Be a good friend

Sometimes, behaving like a friend can be the easiest way to a girl’s heart. But there’s a very thin line between being a friend that she’s attracted to, and being a friend she considers a brother.

If you want her to want you, be a good friend who’s there for her, but don’t always be there for her. Speak to her when she’s around. But, make sure she sees you flirting with other girls now and then too.

Don’t be the friend who’s going to give a shoulder to lean on. Instead, be the friend who talks about current events and fun things.

She’s got to love your company to start with, but she should never feel like you’re an indispensable friend. If you go wrong here, you may just end up getting into her friend zone and lose all hope of sleeping with her. [Read: How to avoid the friend zone with an attractive girl]

2. Flirt with her

Try to spend time with her when she’s alone. If her other friends are with her, you can avoid her or just wave a hello and move on after a quick chat. The more you hang out with her as just a friend, the lesser the chances of you ever making her desire you.

Spend time with her only when she’s all by herself. That’ll give you enough time to date-talk her and discreetly flirt with her.

Flirt with her, make her feel warm and awkwardly nice while hanging out with you. And treat her just like you would treat your girlfriend, but don’t ever call her your girlfriend though. [Read: What to talk about with a girl you like to make her like you]

3. Don’t be possessive

You may like her a lot and hate all the other guys that flirt with her. But you know what, you don’t own her. And she’s not your girlfriend.

So never behave possessively or prevent her from meeting or talking to other guys. You’ll end up losing her because you’ll become a creepy guy.

Instead, have your own life, but give her your time when you bump into her or have some alone time together. Don’t be stuck at her hip. She’ll never fall for you and you’ll end up becoming her doormat. [Read: How to stop being possessive in a relationship and love better]

4. Be her exciting secret

As we said earlier, spend a lot of time with her and flirt with her, but do that only when she’s by herself. Create a secret relationship that no one knows about other than the both of you. By doing this, you’ll make the relationship more exciting and thrilling.

Become a part of her life. Text her often at night when you know she’s alone. Talk about personal issues, and indulge in everything a couple would do. But keep the relationship a secret. Of course, that doesn’t mean when things progress you have to hide it, but in these early stages, it’s best to keep it between the two of you. [Read: How to text a girl you like and make her want you]

5. Make her miss you

Now, this is tricky but also a lot of fun. Once both of you are closer and like spending time with each other, call her every night for a week or so. And then, don’t call her one day. If she meets you or texts you the next day asking why you didn’t call, she obviously missed you and wanted to speak with you!

Flirt with her and charmingly ask her if she missed you because you didn’t call. Use different ways to make her miss your company and constantly create scenarios where you force her to realize that she actually likes you and misses you when you aren’t around. [Read: 17 easy ways to make a girl miss you and always stay on her mind]

6. Confession time

Confessions are the best way to open a girl up. Of course, she won’t start confessing about her sexual escapades to you just yet. You need to warm her up to it.

During one of your late-night calls, tell her that you bumped into one of your exes who was a horny wild cat.

The girl you like will obviously be curious and would want to know more about your ex. Use this excuse to go into the details of your sex life.

Be patient and start funny, and get more descriptive and add explicit horny details as the conversation goes on. Play this game carefully and watch her reactions. Speak softly and make sure you describe the events like an erotic story. She won’t be able to stop herself from visualizing you naked. And chances are, she’ll also be wet down there just listening to you! [Read: 20 dirty questions to ask a girl and get anyone wet in under 15 minutes!]

7. Talk about sex if she shows she’s open to it

If you’ve pulled off your sexual confession without a hitch and she liked what you had to say, she’s definitely turned on now. Ask her about a horny experience from her past.

She may hesitate at first, but encourage her just a bit. If she’s horny, she definitely won’t mind getting into details. And as she tells her stories, gasp and talk like you’re imagining the whole thing. It’ll be a huge turn on for both of you.

8. Encourage her to talk dirty with you

You may wonder if all these steps are even possible, but you won’t believe how easy it is to get a girl talking dirty in a nighttime conversation until you’ve tried it.

Trust us, it’s really easy, as long as you’ve warmed her up with your horny stories. Now that you’ve got her confessing all her dirty deeds to you, it’s time you get yourself into the picture.

Compliment her for being such a naughty girlfriend, and discreetly tell her how awesome it would have been if you were her boyfriend. Saying that will definitely spark a fire of lust because she’ll know exactly where you’re going with the conversation.

Speak softly, don’t get overexcited, and don’t stop with the dirty questions. [Read: 34 sexual questions to ask a girl and make her really wet]

9. Have phone sex

If you’ve used the list of dirty questions while talking to her, chances are, both of you are already really horny. Now start creating imaginary situations to turn her on even more.

Tell her something like “I wish I was there right now, there’s so much I would want to do…” And when she whispers back softly and asks you what you’d do, you’ve hit jackpot.

Describe what you’d do to her in detail. Start off from kissing her neck to taking her top off to whatever else you have in mind. Avoid talking about kissing her on the lips straight away though, it’s too personal and straightforward for many girls. And before you know it, both of you would be talking dirty and having phone sex with each other! [Read: How to have phone sex and arouse anyone you’re talking to in no time]

10. Go for it and ask her out

Well, so now you’ve made her want you and crave for you sexually. But what’s next? You just had phone sex with her. You’re on a high, but don’t end it right there. Ask her if she’d like to meet you, or go out on a date with you the next day. She’ll be too horny to resist.

And when both of you meet up on a date, it’ll probably end with both of you having sex or falling in passionate love. Either way, you’ve got the girl of your dreams wanting you and craving for you sexually. Could you ask for anything more? [Read: 15 best ways to ask a girl out and warm her up to a definite yes]

Be careful not to go over the top

These steps will certainly get a girl wanting you, but you have to be careful that you don’t push things too soon. When talking about sex, or even attempting to move into the subject area, be mindful of her reactions. She might think that you’re just being a creep and pestering her for sex.

You have to let her see that you’re being cheeky and that you’re attracted to her. You also have to show an interest in her personality and show her that you like her as a person too.

If you jump straight in and only ever talk about sex, she’s going to label you as someone to avoid. That’s not exactly what you’re going for, right?

Simply be respectful and add in a little cheekiness. Watch her reactions and if she’s not showing you any signs of discomfort, keep going and see where it leads.

[Read: How to get a girl horny and wet just by sitting next to her]

If you want to know how to make a girl want you and think of you sexually, just use these steps. If you play it calm and safe, you could be in bed with the girl of your fantasies in a couple of weeks!

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Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...