When two people first fall in love, there’s always a lot of physical intimacy.
In fact, new couples have a hard time even keeping their hands off each other!
They cuddle and cozy up in private, in public and every other place in between.
And somewhere along the way, that dreamy infatuation stage of love starts to get diluted with a mature kind of love.
And somewhere along that road, those hair-tingling touches that lead to sex too start fading away.
[Read: The 9 stages of love all couples go through in a relationship]
The importance of non-sexual touches in love
Of course, it’s natural for all of us to hop, skip and jump from one relationship stage to the next.
What starts off as infatuation could eventually blossom into seasoned love, and everyone’s happy with that.
But the transition from one stage in love to the next isn’t as simple as we may think.
Sometimes, love flickers, and at other times, it fades away into oblivion. And that’s all because we forget the simplest and easy things that matter in a successful relationship. [Read: 25 easy rules for a successful and everlasting relationship]
As a relationship progresses, it does need its share of sexual intimacy and sexual touches. But along with that, it also needs a healthy dose of non-sexual touches too.
The power of touches and the way you feel
A touch is reassuring and uplifting. And at least for that moment, it feels like someone else understands us and relates to us, and most importantly, connects with us.
Do you ever feel like hugging your partner or just cuddling up with them for a few minutes for no reason at all?
And when you’re feeling down and depressed, do you ever feel like dragging yourself to your lover and sinking your head into their chest?
Sexual touches and physical intimacy keeps a relationship exciting and fresh. But non-sexual touches keep a relationship going by constantly satiating our need to feel loved and cared for. [Read: The secret behind the power of the flirting touch and ways to use it!]
16 non-sexual touches to feel connected and loved
Non sexual touches in love are a sign of trust. They reduce anxiety, and they bring two lovers closer and helps them bond better. It even helps you stay healthier and feel happier in your everyday lives. And when you touch your lover, you’re creating a connection that makes them feel better and more loved, and in return, you’d feel better about yourself too!
Here are 16 non-sexual touches that you can indulge in with your own lover. Try any of these touches and both of you will feel closer, bond better and feel more connected in no time! [Read: 25 really romantic ideas to make your lover melt]
#1 Playful wrestling. Do you ever fight each other in jest with pillows or with your hands while playing on the bed? This may seem immature, but it’s a great way to feel closer and relieve stress at the same time.
#2 Kiss on the forehead. A kiss on the forehead is a perfect way to show your affection. Lean in and kiss your lover on their forehead when you’re sitting with them. Chances are, your partner will close their eyes and smile because they can’t help but feel good about what you just did!
#3 Tickles. A tickle can be annoying at times, but it’s still a lot of fun. It’s a great excuse to touch each other non-sexually, and make each other laugh and feel good at the same time. [Read: 8 happy pillow talk conversations to feel drenched in love]
#4 Stroke their hair. Run your hands through your partner’s hair while cuddling up. You’ll feel great and your partner will feel a lot more loved.
#5 While walking past them. Give your lover a naughty pat on the butt while walking past them, or interlace your fingers with theirs for a second as you walk past each other.
#6 Wandering hands. Let your hands wander over your lover’s body when both of you are watching the telly. Run your hands against their palms or over their arms, or just about anywhere else. It doesn’t have to be sexual at all, and it’ll still make both of you feel more connected. [Read: 10 different ways to say ‘I love you’ without saying a word]
#7 Dance together. It doesn’t matter if you don’t know how to dance. When your favorite tune’s playing in the background, hold each other’s hands and dance along. Your boyfriend or girlfriend may laugh about it, but they’ll feel good about it too!
#8 Hold hands. Hold your lover’s hands now and then when you’re with them. It doesn’t matter if you’re at a restaurant, in public or lazing a home.
#9 Sit on their lap. Sitting on a lover’s lap or resting your head on their lap will make your partner want to cuddle you back instantly.
#10 A hug. A simple hug could seem meaningless, but it’s something that’ll make both of you feel really good. Just hugging each other for about half a minute releases feel-good chemicals in your body that’ll make both of you feel loved and connected, and it’ll have an uplifting effect on your mood too. [Read: 30 romantic and sexy questions for couples to keep the spark alive]
#11 Driving. Place your hand on your lover’s thigh when they’re driving the car. If you don’t want to make your gesture obvious and feel awkward about it, place your hand on your partner’s thigh while saying something to them or while emphasizing about something. It’ll feel natural, and yet, it’ll make your partner feel good about being in love with you.
#12 The stroll. Do both of you hold hands while strolling down a park or while walking down a flea market? Place your arm around your girlfriend, or wrap your arms around your guy while talking a leisurely walk together. [Read: 10 easy ways to be a happy couple that’s envied by all other couples]
#13 The hand on cheek. Hold your lover’s face with your two hands, or place your palm on their cheek while saying something. It’s an endearing gesture that’ll always make your partner feel good.
#14 Massage and rubs. A massage always feels good. Give your partner a shoulder or back rub at the end of the day now and then, when you feel like it. They’ll feel relaxed and grateful at the same time. [Read: How to give a sensual massage and work your magic!]
#15 Playing with the feet. If you’re lazing on the couch with your partner, place their feet on your lap and run your fingers around their toes. You could tickle it or massage it, and it’ll still feel just as playful and good.
#16 The kiss. Just how often do you kiss your lover? Has the kiss just turned into a move you do during foreplay? A kiss is a powerful connection. Kiss your lover often, even if it’s just a casual peck on the lips. As long as you feel like kissing your partner often, your relationship will grow stronger, and both of you will feel more loved too.
[Read: 7 secret signs your relationship is starting to go bad]
Remember, non-sexual touches are just as important as sexual touches in a relationship. Indulge in them often, and both of you will feel more loved, connected and happier every single day!
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