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How to Kiss a Girl for the First Time and Not Screw Up

Are you afraid she’ll back away when you try to kiss her? Use these 10 steps on how to kiss a girl for the first time and you won’t ever go wrong!

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Kissing a girl for the first time is an art.

It’s not hard, but it’s definitely an art many guys haven’t mastered yet.

Kissing a girl on a date or an empty hallway is all about perfect timing.

You try to kiss her a moment too early, and she may back away.

You try to kiss her a moment too late, and she may have lost the mood.

Now it does sound really tricky.

But there are ways to turn things in your favor, and create the perfect chemistry whenever you want!

[Read: 10 ways to arouse a girl and make her want to kiss you!]

How to kiss a girl for the first time

The biggest worry for any guy who wants to kiss a girl is the dreaded moment when you pucker up and move forward, and she backs away!

It just makes everything so much more awkward.

And if she ever does back away from a kiss, things could just go from awkward to no contact!

So if you do like a girl and desperately want to kiss her, don’t make the crucial mistake of getting the timing wrong.

[Read: 25 things about a guy that turn a girl on sexually and otherwise]

The big mistake: Rushing into a first kiss

There’s no feeling that’s worse than lunging for a kiss, only to watch your date make an awkward expression and back her body away from you. *her embarrassed smile or laugh will only make things so much more awkward!* [Confession: A teenage boy’s first kiss gone completely wrong!]

And that would almost always happen if you rush into the kiss without giving your date a chance to prepare herself for that inevitable smooch.

If she likes you already, chances are, she may not oppose your kiss. But if it’s just a first date, and you lunge for a kiss, there’s every possibility that she may back away even if she thinks you’re a nice guy and had contemplated over kissing you at some point during the date. [Read: How to touch a girl on a date and warm her up for a kiss]

10 steps to kiss a girl for the first time and make her want more!

Take it slow, use the steps given below, and you’ll be well on your way to perfecting every kiss. And the best part, you’ll be able to use any circumstance to create the perfect setting for that first kiss, and kiss the girl even if she’s never even considered kissing you yet! [Read: 11 moves to seduce a girl and get her in bed within a few days!]

#1 Alone time. The most important thing you need to ensure is privacy. Kissing a girl for the first time is awkward for the first few seconds, until it starts to get perfect. But for that transition to be smooth, you need to avoid any kind of distractions.

Try to get some alone time with the girl, be it in your room, in your car after the date, or in a quiet corner as you walk her home. It’s very important that you find the right place with a lot of privacy, or you may end up ruining all chances of kissing her.

#2 Don’t talk about the kiss. If you know the girl already, chances are, you’ve spoken with her about the first kiss at some point of time, either while text flirting with her or over the phone. [Read: 20 sexy questions to text a girl and make her wet!]

But when you’re in the moment, in a quiet place where there’s no one else but the two of you, don’t talk about it. Don’t mention anything about wanting to kiss her or about wanting to make out with her. She knows both of you have discussed it and so do you. Don’t make the situation awkward by arm twisting her into a kiss because both of you have talked about it!

#3 Take your time. There’s nothing like the perfect time to kiss a girl, especially when you’re the one who’s in control of the situation. Relax, sit down with her and just talk about something. Help her feel at ease, because the more comfortable she is, the more the chances of her enjoying that first kiss with you. Just flirt with her, and talk about something both of you did that day.

#4 Don’t ask her if you can kiss her. It’s true, girls love a knight in shining armor and she’ll love a guy who’s chivalrous. But asking her if it’s okay to kiss her isn’t a sign of chivalry, it’s a sign of awkwardness.

Don’t ask a girl if you can kiss her because her answer will almost never be in your favor. If she’s really into you, she may accept to kiss you, even if she feels surprised by your *bold question*. But in any other case, you’re setting yourself for a fall.

There’s one thing you can do though, you can kiss the girl gently on her lips, bring your face back a few inches, look into her eyes and ask her if you can kiss her. By doing that, you’re teasing her sexually, and she would definitely say “yes”, and it’ll actually make the first kiss a lot more intimate! [Read: 15 secrets to make your first kiss so much more memorable]

#5 Get closer. The best way to warm her up for the first kiss is by cozying up with her. If you’re sitting down, seat your butt closer to her so your arm can easily graze against hers. And if you’re standing, move into her personal space and just stand a few inches away from her body.

The second you get into a girl’s personal space, it’ll make her feel awkward. But don’t let her awkwardness scare you away. Talk to her and flirt with her, and don’t make it obvious that you’re coming closer to her. Instead, just pretend like you came in closer involuntarily, and didn’t even realize it. [Read: How to sit next to a girl and make her horny and wet without being obvious]

#6 Warm up the sexual tension. Touch her often. Use your finger and run it through her hair or along her arm. Compliment her as you touch her, be it about her hair, her fragrance or her soft skin.

If she smiles or blushes when you touch her, it’s a sign she likes what you’re doing. Speak softly in a low tone and avoid any sudden movements. Whisper in her ears, and run your fingers against hers playfully. [Read: 50 cute things to say to a girl and make her blush before kissing her!]

#7 Make your intentions clear. Move in close until your face is just inches away from her face. You don’t need to stop talking though, just say something, but as you say it, look at her lips, and then back again at her eyes. She’ll know exactly what you’re looking at, and her mind would be racing just as fast as yours is!

Wet your own lips discreetly as you stare at her *not in a murderous maniac kind of way*. Licking your lips subconsciously sends the message across to the girl that you intend to come in for a kiss very soon, and moist lips are so much better to kiss. [Read: 10 sexy tips to kiss a girl passionately and arouse her]

#8 The perfect time to kiss. If you use these steps on how to kiss a girl for the first time, you don’t really need to worry about the perfect time to kiss her because you’re the one in complete control of things.

But just to create the right cue, move in closer for the kiss when there’s been a bit of silence for a few seconds. Stop talking and don’t say anything. Just look into her eyes, and run your fingers through her hair. If she just looks back at you without saying anything, that’s the perfect moment you’ve been waiting for!

#9 Take it easy. So yeah, you’ve just kissed the girl. But don’t get carried away and ruin the moment. When you kiss a girl for the first time, you need to be very gentle and delicate. Place your lips on hers and kiss her lips softly.

Don’t try to use your tongue too early into the kiss. Instead, just relax, and try to enjoy the way her lips feel against yours. You have all the time to try new things later. But for now, just focus on kissing her gently, and don’t get pushy. [Read: How to make out with a girl on a date and make her love it!]

#10 Don’t be overenthusiastic. When you kiss the girl for the first time, don’t let your hands wander too soon into the kiss, or she’s just stiffen up or push your hands away *and that’s a terrible mood kill!*

As you kiss her, place your hands on her shoulders or along the sides of her arms, and just move it gently along the sides of her body. Don’t try to move your hands over her breasts or her stomach unless both of you have been kissing for a while.

Touching a girl’s breasts during the first kiss can make things awkward. Well, unless you know the perfect way to do it and make her enjoy it! [Read: The right way to place your hand over the girl’s breasts when you kiss her for the first time!]

A first kiss can seem complicated, but by using these 10 steps on how to kiss a girl for the first time, you’ll be in complete control of the situation the whole time. And you’ll definitely build the right kind of sexual tension to make sure she enjoys that first kiss, just as much as you do!

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