Kissing isn’t just about, well, kissing. There are many things to consider when trying to give a passionate, romantic kiss. Luckily for you, we’ve got you covered!
Kisses are funny things. Not ha-ha funny, but awe-inspiringly funny when done right. How is it that a kiss can leave you feeling absolutely nothing, while a romantic kiss can leave you breathless, overwhelmed, and absolutely thrilled all in one smooch? If you want to learn the difference, then you need to learn how to kiss someone passionately.
There are plenty of reasons to master the art of puckering up. Kissing a partner creates sexual tension, builds an emotional connection, and some say it can even make sex feel better. With that logic, who wouldn’t want to master the art of giving a passionate kiss?
If you haven’t yet experienced the perfect romantic kiss, then you’re obviously not sending the right signals. Here are some much-needed tips for how to give the perfect movie-worthy romantic kiss.[Read: 39 secrets to get your crush to notice you & stages to get their attention]
How to establish a connection and feel the chemistry
Establishing a physical connection will allow for a chance to connect emotionally, too. Yes, it sounds backward, but that’s just how humans operate.
Even our first judgment of someone is physical. It’s based on appearance.
While there are plenty of people who prefer to establish an emotional bond before kissing, the large majority of people will get to know you minimally, and then decide how deep your connection is based on your first kiss. So you want to make sure you get the kiss right if you truly like them.
Leaning in for that one moment that could make or break your chances with someone is terrifying, but these tips on how to kiss someone the right way can make it less daunting and give you more success. [Read: Emotional connection – 38 signs, secrets and ways to build a real bond]
How do I know when to kiss someone?
Timing can be the most intimidating part. What if you go in for a kiss and they don’t seem up for it? It’s normal to be worried about this. But with these signs, you’ll know when it’s the perfect time to go in for the big one.
1. You hold eye contact for longer than usual
Eye contact is intimate. Some people say staring into the eyes is like staring into the soul! So, if you’re holding eye contact with them for a longer time than usual, it’s because they’re interested in you. [Read: Prolonged eye contact when flirting – what it means & how to do it]
Another way to tell someone wants to be kissed if they’re not looking in your eyes is if…
2. They are looking at your lips
This is a classic thing to do when you are wanting to be kissed by someone. If things have been going well with this person, the mood is just right, and you notice they are looking at your mouth rather than your eyes, they are indirectly telling you they’re interested in kissing you.
3. The two of you keep touching
If there is an excessive amount of touching from their end, it can be a sign that they are wanting to be kissed by you. Lingering pats, rubs, handshakes, shoulder bumping—any kind of prolonged touching.
If you feel butterflies when they touch you, chances are they are feeling the same butterflies! Listen to your gut, because this is a sign to kiss them. [Read: How to flirt by touch & use subtle body language to seduce anyone]
4. You keep closeness
If you and your date seem to be getting closer and closer to each other as time goes by, it’s showing that intimacy is building between you.
Your date may be trying to indirectly get your attention and get themselves in a prime kissing position.
How to become a good kisser
We’re sorry to break this, but in reality, there is no good kisser or bad kisser. A kiss is all in the experience. It’s about how you make someone feel that leaves an impression on them.
The important thing to remember about kissing is this: it is more about them than it is about you. Sure, you are kissing them because you want to, but to make it a good kiss, you need to consider what would make them pleased. [Read: Lusty signs of sexual attraction to keep an eye on before your first kiss]
Think of it this way; you may be a good driver. But when you drive a new car for the first time, will you really be as comfortable with the new car as much as you were in your old car?
When you start getting better at driving the new car, it’s because you’re learning about what makes the new car unique and becoming familiar and therefore compatible with it. This same concept applies to kissing new people. The more you familiarize yourself with them, the easier the motions will come.
In life, everything takes some time to fit in. And just like that, a passionate kiss needs time too. [Read: How to kiss a friend and the subtle ways to get them to want to do it]
Tips for a passionate and romantic kiss
Now that you’ve learned how to tell when it’s the time to kiss someone, let’s go over a few tips and tricks for landing a passionate and romantic kiss.
1. Make sure it’s the right time and place
This might sound obvious, but if you have a full make-out session on a public bus, that might not be the best way to approach a passionate kiss. So, make sure your situation is appropriate for kissing. Surroundings can make the moment, so pay attention to them!
Stay away from family situations or being around other people in general. The more private, the better. Also, make sure you both are in the right mental and emotional place for a passionate kiss. [Read: Relationship rules – 30 must-know tips to live your best love life!]
2. Have good breath
No one wants to kiss someone who has bad breath. You wouldn’t want to, right? So make sure you pay attention not only to your oral hygiene but to your overall hygiene as well.
Make sure you brush your teeth and use mouthwash. Shower every day and even put some cologne or perfume on so you smell good too.
3. Set the mood
You want to make sure the mood is right for a passionate kiss. That can mean moving to a more secluded, intimate room when you’re with other people, or just stepping closer to close the gap.
Not only does setting the mood make the kiss a lot better, but it also allows them the chance to figure out what’s happening.
Having a warning of your kiss arriving is crucial for making sure they want it in the first place. So set that mood right! [Read: 33 subtle signs to know when to kiss a girl and time the moment well]
4. Start with lots of eye contact
Looking someone in the eye is a very initiative move, especially when you hold that eye contact. This is a way to get their attention and make sure they see your intentions.
So if you want to know how to kiss someone and get the right message across, be sure to make eye contact frequently. Let them know you’re engaged. This will also increase the intimacy and let them know a kiss could be coming their way.
5. Make them laugh
The more they laugh, the more they like you. And the more they like you, the better the kiss will feel on their end. Even if it’s not that good, having that emotional connection and having their attraction will make it seem even better.
So, tell some jokes. So long as you’re avoiding any sexual innuendos, you’ll be safe. Focus on being yourself and letting your humor out in order to show them what a great kiss can be like.
6. Get consent
You can’t just kiss someone without making sure they actually want to be kissed. Just because they’ve been nice and even flirting doesn’t mean they really want your lips on theirs.
You should wait for verbal or very, very clear body language that suggests they actually want to do it first. This means you have to watch out for eye contact, their eyes on your lips, and even them leaning in really close. If you kiss and they don’t want it, you’re in trouble.
With that said, you can also ask them directly if you can’t read their body language. You don’t want to just come out and say, “May I kiss you?” Some people may like that, but others want it to be more romantic.
So, you can say something like “I’d really like to kiss you right now,” or “I’ve been thinking about kissing you all night.” Or, you could be fun and lighthearted and say, “Do you want to make out?” [Read: 23 signs he wants to kiss you and how to tell when he’s going to try making a move]
7. Initiate physical contact beforehand
Don’t let the first time you even touch them be a kiss. You have to be sure they’re comfortable with your touches first. If they’re not, then kissing is the wrong thing to do.
First, you can lean in and bump shoulders or just touch their shoulder if they made you laugh. Gauge their reaction and if it’s a good one, you can try again. Don’t move in for the kiss until they’re comfortable with closer physical contact from you.
8. Move slowly as you lean in
If you’re going in for the kiss, don’t make the mistake of trying to be hard and passionate. Those kisses should be reserved for romantic comedies, not for your very first romantic kiss with someone new.
The goal is to not even let them realize you’re doing it and they shouldn’t be alarmed that you’ve suddenly stepped up right next to them. [Read: 55 tips & things to do on a first date to leave your date smitten & in awe!
Instead, move slowly and lean in while moving your eyes from their eyes to their lips. This signals your intentions and also helps heat up the moment. The anticipation is what you really want at that moment.
9. Take it slowly
When you get nervous, you may want to rush through the kiss and end up more wet and sloppy than cool and sexy.
Don’t rush your kiss. Going in slowly will help you get your bearings, relax, and create a sensual moment for your partner. [Read: First kiss tips – 29 secrets to make the first smooch sexy and irrestistable]
10. Make it soft and sweet
Again, don’t try to force your face against theirs. Instead, just keep it soft and sweet. It’s not about seeing how much you can kiss them, it’s about making that single kiss say more than you can with words.
Which means you want it to be very soft and gentle. Don’t push harder when you finally kiss. Instead, let it be soft, sweet, and over before they want it to be.
11. Keep your mouth relaxed
Don’t force your lips to pucker or kiss too hard. You may think it’s passionate, but it can come across as awkward.
If you’re not sure what to do, then just mirror what your partner is doing. A good kiss is an exchange, and a two-way street—not just one person taking control.
12. Keep it wet without getting drooly
Wet kisses are extremely passionate, but there’s a thin line between passion and drool. While wet kisses are a turn-on, drooling kisses are a big turn-off. When you kiss your partner, they need to feel your moistness on their lips. But yet, it should never be overdone. [Read: 104 kissing tips to be a good kisser & make them want to eat your lips!]
To test your kiss, kiss the back of your palm for a second right now. Do you see any moisture on your palm? If you see a circle of wetness, you’ve overdone it. If you see nothing on your palm, that’s not good enough.
The perfect initial wet kiss is one in which you see just a thin surface of moisture on the back of your hand which evaporates within a few seconds after you’ve kissed the back of your hand.
By getting familiar with this kind of kiss, you’d know exactly how much you need to part your lips while kissing someone and just how wet your kiss has to feel to leave them craving for more.
13. Use your hands
Move your hands over each other’s backs and in front too, if both of you are comfortable with it. Soft sensual touches always have a way of bringing more passion and romance into the air. [Read: How to touch a woman’s breasts and feel her up for the first time]
14. Pay attention to your partner’s body language
You should also read their body language. Are they leaning away from you and not even facing your direction? If so, they don’t want a kiss and you may have moved too fast. If they’re into you and want you to kiss them, they’ll be facing you and your proximity should make them seem happier.
After you know that they want to kiss you, then you need to continually pay attention to their body language as well. As we just said, some people have different kissing rhythms than others.
So, you need to be tuned into what they are saying with their body. Pay attention to things like whether they are moving closer to you or pulling away.
You can tell what they like or don’t like by being aware of these nonverbal cues. In other words, don’t be selfish and only kiss the way you want to. Incorporate their body language signals and desires too. [Read: Mutual sexual tension – 44 signs, causes and ways to get more aroused together]
15. Stay in the moment
When you’re kissing someone passionately, you need to avoid being distracted by anything else. Just close your eyes and enjoy the sensation.
If you’re distracted, your partner won’t feel the intimate connection and would end up experiencing a less-than-pleasurable kiss.
16. Linger between kisses
When both of you start kissing, kiss each other for several seconds at once without forcing your way in. Don’t worry about how long the kiss lasts as long as you feel comfortable.
Don’t stick your tongue into your partner’s lips immediately. Take your time and test the water by playing it slow. Always wait for your partner’s reciprocation before going too far. [Read: 30 different types of kisses, what they mean & must-avoid smooch mistakes]
Take time between each kiss by parting your lips from your lover but keep them really close, almost at the point of kissing again. You can even linger on their lips to make the kisses drawn out more and more each time.
17. Gradually increase the intensity
Just because you want to have a passionate kiss doesn’t mean that you have to go full steam ahead into a heavy make-out session. But you also don’t want to drag a small kiss out too long either.
So, you should gradually build up to a passionate kiss. You should also use your body language to tell your partner what you like and don’t like.
18. Find a rhythm
Don’t forget to breathe and find what feels good to both of you. If you’re unsure if they want to take a break for a second or a minute, you can ask them.
Some people don’t like constant kissing for 20 or 30 minutes without a breather. So, make sure you’re not smothering them too much.
19. Touch each other’s face
A passionate kiss involves more than just the kiss. As you kiss each other, touch your partner’s face and shoulders with your hands. You could also clasp your partner’s hands with yours, just as long as everything you do is subtle and delicate. [Read: How to make out – 22 secrets to leave anyone moaning in your arms]
20. Passion isn’t just experienced on the lips
If you want to know how to kiss passionately, you need to remember this fact: a kiss is just a kiss. It’s what you do while kissing that makes a kiss passionate.
While kissing your partner on the lips, part the kiss to move your face lower and kiss your partner’s ears, chin, and areas around their lips and even the neck. [Read: Neck kisses – 22 erogenous ways, dos & don’ts to kiss the neck & melt anyone]
Even if you start with a kiss on the lips, you don’t have to focus solely on the lips. Move your lips away slowly after the first few kisses on the lips and graze your lips against your partner’s neck or chin. Breathe onto your partner’s skin and you’ll feel a lot more romantic and sensual.
21. Don’t hurt each other
Don’t bite hard or give hickeys unless your partner wants it. Yes, it’s easy to get carried away when you’re on a passionate high, but you’ll end up hurting your partner or giving them a less-than-enjoyable experience when you tug at something or knead something too hard.
22. Flirt a little
You don’t have to kiss for a long period of time without saying something to your kissing partner. So, you can take some breaks in between and flirt a little bit with them.
You can say things like “Your eyes are so beautiful,” “I have been waiting for a long time for this,” or “You’re so hot!” [Read: The flirtiest ways to be a tease, catch anyone’s attention & stay on their mind]
23. Don’t contradict each other
You can use your tongue and you can use your hands. But always be soft in your approach unless your partner reciprocates your aggression. When you’re in a new relationship, both of you have to learn from each other.
Let your partner take the lead in kissing for a minute or two before you switch and take the lead. By doing this, both of you can understand each other’s kissing styles and learn about what either of you likes instead of turning a good passionate kiss into a confusing disaster. [Read: First kiss red flags – 18 bad signs & what you can learn from a bad kiss]
If your partner gets aggressive or tries to dominate the kiss, let them take control for a while. And once you learn about their style of passionate kissing, you can improvise on your own kissing style to create something new and something a lot more sexy and passionate.
24. Look them in the eyes sometimes
Make eye contact with your kissing partner between—or even during—the kisses. Most people kiss with their eyes closed, but you don’t have to keep them closed the entire time.
Keeping eye contact during a kiss or in-between little kisses creates a vulnerability shared between the two of you that creates a rush of excitement.
So, try to sneak a peek at your partner between the kisses. Keep eye contact short during a kiss unless you know that your partner likes a lot of eye contact. [Read: Eye screwing – how to master the secrets of intense sexual eye contact]
25. Let out a gentle moan
Make your moment a passionate one by letting out a moan of pleasure as you kiss. Let your breaths sound out and allow your hands to wander. Cup your lover’s face in your hands while you kiss or whisper sweet nothings in between pecks to really amplify the moment.
26. Get aggressive now and then
Passion is nothing but sensuous aggression. Now that you’ve been kissing your partner for a few minutes or even seconds, push your partner’s face back with your lips or by holding the hair at the back of their head. By doing this, you’re taking a perfectly romantic kiss and turning it into something passionate and sexy.
But no matter how aggressive you get when you’re experiencing a sexual high while kissing, always go back to soft relaxed kissing.
A burst of passion feels great and makes a good change of pace when you’re kissing for longer than a few seconds. [Read: 27 sexy ways to give a hickey, what one looks like & love bite must-knows]
27. Explore other erogenous zones
Erogenous zones are “feel-good” places on the body. But they are different for everyone. So, try kissing their ears or neck.
Pay attention to their reactions to see what’s sensitive and where they are most responsive. Their moans or words will tell you what they like. And when you learn that, keep doing it to please your partner even more.
28. Whisper in their ear for a memorable finish
When you pull away from your kiss for good, linger your lips next to their ear and take a small breath. Then, whisper in their ear. This will not only make them tingly from your closeness, but it will also leave them something to remember.
You can whisper about how much you liked it, how you want to do it again, or something else seductive. Whatever it is you whisper, it is sure to leave them thinking about you for the next few days. Sexy words – 23 seductive words, dos & don’ts to make dirty talk sound erotic]
29. Let them make the next move
When you kiss them softly and pull away after a really gentle kiss, they’ll want more. But you should let them go in for the next move.
Don’t be the first to kiss again because you want to make sure they want it just as much. If you’ve played your cards right, they do.
How do I show someone that I want to be kissed?
If you’re looking to be on the receiving end of the romantic kiss, there are still steps you need to take to initiate things. After all, a kiss is a two-person act. So, what can you do to show someone that you want to be kissed?
The quickest way to get your feelings across is to be direct. If you tell the person that you’re wanting to kiss them, then chances are they might lean in and do just that.
But we understand this isn’t something that a lot of people are confident about voicing. There are still other ways you can show your interest in kissing without outright speaking your wishes. [Read: 19 secrets to not be shy & awkward around your crush and talk casually]
All of the tips listed above about how to have a romantic and passionate first kiss also can be applied if you’re wanting to show someone that you want to be kissed!
Creating physical contact through gentle touches, keeping the space between you close, prolonged eye contact and even looking at their lips are all great ways to show someone that you want to be kissed.
How do I get kissed the way I want?
No matter what kind of kiss you’re hoping to receive, it won’t happen unless the mood is right. So, do as much as you can on your part to set the scene. [Read: How to tell your crush you like them – the 20 best low-risk methods]
If you’re dying to be kissed at a certain location, the only way for that to happen is to go to that location yourself! Just because you don’t want to initiate the kiss doesn’t mean you don’t get to put any effort in. So, make the effort to plan a date with this person to the location you hope to have your passionate kiss.
The moments leading up to a kiss are all about indirect communication. With this being said, you will need to make your expressions and actions clear and direct for them to be able to read. Use your body language to communicate.
If your date can’t understand what you want or how you want it, it’s because your communication skills are lacking. This is where being direct and upfront about being kissed comes into play.
Movies scenes to inspire the perfect romantic kiss
Looking for a little inspiration for how to give a romantic kiss? We’ve compiled the four most iconic kiss scenes from movies for you to watch and learn from. [Read: Simple peck or steamy makeout? What you can learn from a first kiss]
1. The Notebook
The Notebook is a new-age classic love story. Long-ago lovers Noah and Allie row across a river and get stuck in a massive rainstorm. When docking, they begin arguing over why they’d broken up as teenagers.
Allie demands to know why he never wrote to her, and the whole scene finishes off with Noah yelling, “It wasn’t over… It still isn’t over!” and dramatically kisses her in the rain. The passion between these characters makes this romantic kiss a must-mimic.
The “I’m flying” scene from Titanic is probably one of the most iconic romantic kiss scenes of all time. Rose meets Jack on the bow of the Titanic where they share their first kiss. What makes it romantic?
The sprawling pink sunset in the background mixed with the way he holds her waist and their arms fold into one another as they kiss. This scene is movie-mush heaven.
In this scene, Demi Moore is working her pottery in the best way possible. Patrick Swayze comes in to lend a helping hand. He comes up behind her and the two of them have a somewhat sexual clay session together. Their fingers intertwine and suddenly they’re enveloped in a very sexy, very romantic kiss. [Read: The 30 best subtle, obvious & really sexy flirting tips for girls]
4. Spiderman (2002)
Ah, the upside-down kiss. This scene follows Spiderman as he rescues Mary Jane from a gang of men. After the rescue, Spiderman dangles upside down from a building, and his heroine approaches.
She unfolds the bottom of his mask and kisses his upside-down mouth as rain pours over both of them. This kiss is iconic, romantic, and sexy.
Movies about teenage lovers reunited, a sinking ship, a ghost, and a superhero don’t seem to have much in common. So what makes these movies stand out? Their romantic kisses.
The stories may be different, but these movie kiss scenes have one thing in common: passion. Each of these characters is wildly passionate about the other, and you can see it when they kiss.
Learning how to kiss someone passionately can be easy if you use these tips. After all, a passionate kiss is about understanding each other and the kissing styles. Don’t worry, you’ll figure out how to kiss someone and leave them with a lasting, amazing impression of you.