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Are You Satisfying Your Girl in the Bedroom?

How can you positively, definitively know if your girl is satisfied with your sexual prowess? Find out with these signs.

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The satisfaction of a woman when it comes to sex is not just isolated to achieving an orgasm. It is a combination of foreplay, emotion and flexibility. If you know exactly what you are doing, you won’t have a problem with giving your girlfriend what she wants. If, however, you are not sure about your abilities, there is a chance that your girlfriend might be faking it.

What do you need to satisfy a woman in bed?

There are different ways to pleasure a woman, but there are a specific set of standards that must be met in order to do so. It’s not easy to generate the female orgasm, especially if two people hardly know each other. Some women don’t even know how to satisfy themselves. If that’s the case, how can men hope to measure up?

To fix that problem, here are some of the things that you need to be marginally aware or knowledgeable about  when it comes to satisfying a woman in bed:

#1 The G-Spot. It’s not that hard to find, but it is a bit difficult to reach for some. Achieving a g-spot orgasm can be difficult, because every woman has a different depth and level of sensitivity. The best way to go about it is to ask your partner what feels best for her in terms of speed, reach and pressure.

#2 Foreplay. Every woman requires a different regimen. Some women have predictable needs when it comes to foreplay like kissing, licking and touching. Some require a bit more complex steps like choreographed undressing, roleplaying, dirty talk, hair-pulling, etc. The choices are limitless, but it’s best to know which one works for both, you and your partner. [Read: 9 foreplay tips to rock her world]

#3 The location. Women have different preferences when it comes to setting as well. Some like it in risky places like public bathrooms, while some want you to spruce up your bedroom with roses and candles. Know what she likes and try to provide it for her if you can.

#4 Mood. The mood can be developed using location, food or conversation. It all depends on how your date or initial meeting goes. Some women find sensual food like chocolates and strawberries a turn-on. Some like talking about what you plan to do to get them in the mood. [Read: 20 things you can do to get her in the mood]

#5 The duration. If you’re really good at what you’re doing, you can make a woman orgasm in 10 seconds. Still, that doesn’t mean that one orgasm is enough. Women enjoy multiple orgasms, and sometimes they will expect more than one. You need to be physically primed to provide that using your prowess in bed.

#6 The choreography. Sometimes the missionary position is enough, but a woman may want to try something different now and then. Gently ease your ideas into a conversation while you’re in bed so that you can find out what she is willing to try the next time you sleep together. [Read: 8 crucial moves to turn your girl on]

#7 Confidence. You have to know what you’re doing or at least look like you do. Nothing turns off a woman faster than a guy who doesn’t know what to do with his hands or his penis. If you want some hands-on information, ask your buddies what they think is the best way to pleasure a woman. Don’t be shy. That’s what locker room talk is for.

Now that you know what it takes to satisfy a woman in bed, the next step is checking if what you’re doing is working for her.

How to know if she’s satisfied

Aside from moaning or screaming, there are other more valid ways for you to confirm whether you managed to satisfy your partner in bed. The best part about it is that you don’t even have to ask her.

#1 Her eyes. Look into her eyes and whisper sweet nothings while she’s amorously sated. While you’re doing that, check to see if her eyes are dilated. That is a sure sign that she has just had an orgasm.

#2 PC muscles. A woman who is experiencing an orgasm has significantly stronger PC muscle contractions. If you are very aware of the sensations that your penis is feeling, you can determine whether it’s a voluntary contraction or one that is generated by an orgasm. Contractions during orgasms are usually more powerful.

#3 She’s sleepy. If she hasn’t done anything but lie down after a round of sex and she ends up dozing beside you like a baby, that means you got the job done. Surprisingly, having an orgasm takes up more energy than doing anything to get an orgasm. That’s why both men and women want to sleep immediately after sex.

#4 Shivering. Although this can be faked, a real shiver is very obvious. When a woman shivers during and after an orgasm, you can rest assured that it’s real. A fake shiver is usually slow and weak, while a real shiver makes her look like she went out naked in the snow.

#5 Her moans. Boys, please stop basing a woman’s actual orgasm moan from porn. Those girls are actresses *sometimes, not very good* and they are exaggerating for the camera’s sake. A woman can scream, moan or groan like an animal if she’s actually having an orgasm. It’s not something that she can practice, unless she’s won an Academy Award.

#7 Her breathing pattern. If a girl chooses not to make any noise while having sex, you can base your assumptions on the way she gasps and breathes during and after an orgasm. When a girl comes, she will breathe slowly, deeply, sharply and heavily. After she’s done, she will breathe quickly, deeply and heavily as if she’s run a marathon. This will immediately slow down after a few seconds and that’s when you’ll know she’s satisfied.

#8 You can’t touch it. When a woman has had an orgasm, she will not allow you to touch her clitoris anymore. You can try, but her body can’t take it, because it has become super sensitive after climax. It’s the same as when men orgasm. You cannot keep stimulating the penis and overdo it after an orgasm. [Read: 22 common reasons women fake their orgasm]

In order to really maximize these tips, be alert and aware. These are subtle signs that cannot be determined in passing. You need to observe your partner and watch them for signs of faking. If you think you didn’t satisfy them, it may be time for you to talk about it.

[Read: 11 sexy ways to get better in bed]

If you want to have an amazing sex life, always communicate with your partner. Knowing whether she’s satisfied is not enough. You need to know if you are both happy in your sexual situation. Use these signs to see if your girlfriend or wife is happy with what you do in the sack. If she’s not, learn how to do it by asking her.

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