When it comes to knowing how to eat a girl out, most guys just don’t have a clue. Well, at least until some girl tells them exactly what to do down there!
To most guys, eating a girl out is just a waste of time. Why please her with a tongue when you can just use your dick, right? And to others, going down on a girl for a minute is just another way to get a girl wet enough to penetrate her. But seriously, going down on a girl doesn’t have to be seen as one optional part of foreplay.
Think of going down on a girl as one of the most, if not THE most, powerful ways to make a girl orgasm and have a much, much better sexual experience with you. You do want to please her and satisfy her, don’t you?
[Read: 17 sexy foreplay moves that’ll leave any girl feeling really hot and horny]
You might think that knowing how to eat a girl out doesn’t require any skill at all. You just go down, stick your tongue out, and watch her enjoy herself. The truth is, though, that doing so will get you almost not response. In fact, she might just make you stop.
There’s a lot more to eating a girl out than you might think. It takes time, skill, and practice in order to do it right and make her want you like nothing you’ve ever experienced before. If you don’t put in the work, you won’t please her. [Read: Cunnilingus techniques – All the secrets to make a girl orgasm just by using your tongue]
Some of you may be rolling your eyes because you don’t see the point in eating a girl out when you can just get right to the sex and please her that way. But you might not be pleasing her as much as you think if you’re just getting right down to business.
Girls need foreplay. They take a lot longer than men to get off and tend to enjoy foreplay to get things rolling and make the big O even better.
There’s this long-standing idea that if you don’t know how to eat a girl out, you just need to recite the alphabets from A to Z in your mind and roll your tongue the way you’d say the alphabet when you’re eating a girl.
Not that this high school advice doesn’t work, most guys take it way too seriously. Instead of enjoying going down on her, many guys look at this part of sex as a serious chore that needs total focus. Am I saying ‘D’ right? Did I roll my tongue wrong while saying ‘F’?!
And what’s meant to be a real turn-on, turns into a total mood killer for both partners! [Read: 18 sex secrets and tips to make any girl crave for more]
Before we get to the steps you need to keep in mind, let’s get this out of the way. If you want to make sure your girl enjoys your tongue-works down there, you need to actually enjoy pleasuring your girl down there.
Don’t just dip your tongue in, and slide your torso back up to her face with an accomplished grin. Get down there, get comfortable with your face in between her thighs, wrap your arms around her legs or butt, and work your magic. Think of oral sex, not as something you need to do to arouse her, but as a part of sex that’s meant to be enjoyed, just like undressing a woman, fondling her breasts, or sliding down her panties.
When you learn to relax your mind, and see oral sex as a way to excite your girl, and enjoy the act yourself, you’ll see that every time you have sex with your girl, or just about any girl, you’ll be sure to pleasure her beyond words. Every. Single. Time. [Read: How to pleasure a woman – 16 moves that’ll work every time]
Every guy wants to know this, and honestly, there’s no real answer. But there’s a time limit that most guys and girls agree on – 15 minutes. Now 15 minutes can seem like a lot, and there’s every chance your tongue would get sore too!
If you can survive going down on a girl for longer than that, you’re a star. And if a girl pushes your head down for longer than 15 minutes, she’s just being greedy.
How long do you have sex for? That’s subjective, and likewise, oral sex is subjective too. Some girls absolutely love it when a guy goes down on them. And for some girls, penetrative sex feels way better. So go down on her and come up for air now and then, and watch her face. If she’s writhing about in ecstasy, go with the flow. If she’s staring at the ceiling with a vacant expression, use the tips below!
[Read: How to satisfy a woman in bed and make sex really exciting]
Like I said, eating a girl out is a specific skill that some people just don’t have. Fortunately, this skill can be taught and, with practice, you’ll be making her scream in no time.
If you really want to please your girl like you’ve never done before, these tips on how to eat a girl out will leave you with all the information you’ll need to make her scream.
Build the anticipation. There’s nothing hotter than getting a text from a man saying that he’s going to please you like you’ve never been pleased before. It doesn’t matter if you’re at work or at the gym. When you get that text, you’re going to be in the mood.
Build up the anticipation beforehand. Get her mind and body ready for what you have to offer, and you’ll be surprised at how pumped she’ll be to receive what you have to give her. [Read: 20 dirty questions to ask a girl and make her wet]
Heat things up in other regions first. Don’t just skip right to her lady bits and get to work. You want to make sure you’re getting her whole body on edge before ending your journey down there. Kiss her passionately, kiss her neck, feel her up, and make her know you’re about to get to work.
Make your way down, slowly and don’t ever hurry up. This part is very important because it helps to build that anticipation. You want her to be as turned on as possible because it’ll be that much easier to please her that way. So move slowly, kissing and licking your way down her body until you finally get there.
And by “magic button,” I mean her clit. If you don’t know where this is, then we have bigger problems than just your inability to give her oral. Find a diagram of a woman and locate the clit and then FOCUS on it. Knowing how to eat a girl out the right way is pretty much ALL about her clit. [Read: Clitoris stimulation: 10 sexy ways to please the clit]
We all now how much girls love vibration in that region, and that’s because the repeated movement of the clit is what gets women off. So try to recreate that motion by using your tongue to flick it back and forth and up and down. She’ll go nuts for this!
Ladies also need pressure in order to get off. So don’t just flick your tongue around, but press down on her clit with that powerful tongue of yours while moving it back and forth as fast as you can. This will best recreate that powerful vibration feeling girls love so much. [Read: 8 tips and tricks to give her oral like a pro]
Your tongue isn’t the only thing that you can use to get a girl off. If you really want to make her scream, you’ll use everything your mouth has to offer, and that includes your lips.
Kiss that area. Use your lips to pull on her clit. Get creative with how you use your mouth. Your lips are an important part of making her finish, so don’t think that it’s all about your tongue.
Speaking of your lips, you can also use them to apply a kind of pressure girls aren’t used to feeling down there—suction! Suck and pull on her clit and watch her go crazy for you.
Just because you’re eating her out doesn’t mean that you can’t use other tools to get her off while you’re down there. You can use your hands and fingers to stimulate her G-spot, too. Just slip in a finger while you’re going to town and watch her back arch and her moans escape! [Read: Magic fingers: The sexual art of using your fingers]
Don’t be afraid to break away and ask her how she likes what you’re doing. If you’re doing everything we’ve been telling you to so far, she should be gasping for air and unable to answer.
This will not only give you a chance to catch a little breather, but it’ll also help you to adjust your methods in order to please her just the way she wants.
Don’t just leave your attention down below. You have hands, and you can reach them to wherever you want! Reach around to her butt or reach up to her boobs and play with them a little bit.
By stimulating multiple regions, you’ll be able to please her in more ways than just her lady bits. You’ll have her practically overwhelmed with pleasure and sensations. [Read: 11 sexiest hot spots to kiss on a woman and arouse her]
There are countless positions that you can try to eat her out. Don’t limit yourself to just one spot, because different positions can feel a lot different to her. Try them all out and then hone in on the one that gets the best feedback.
Don’t just go hard for the entirety of your time eating her out. Switch up your tempo by going slow, then speeding up. You can apply a little pressure, and then apply even more before softening up again. Variety is key to getting her off.
This is something that not many guys think about, but it makes a huge difference. Girls have insecurities about guys eating them out, and if they don’t think you like it, they won’t like it, either.
Make it a point to inform her how much you like pleasing her and how much fun you’re having. This will relax her and allow her to let go and truly enjoy the experience instead of feeling insecure about it. [Read: How to talk dirty in bed: Dirty talk examples]
If you really aren’t sure what she likes and what she doesn’t, just ask her. Don’t be shy! This can be done in a really sexy way if you lean in close and whisper, “Tell me what you want me to do.” This puts the ball in her court, and you’ll learn exactly what she likes and wants. It will allow you to really focus on those things so you can eat her out like a pro. [Read: 15 things women wish men knew about the female body]
If your girlfriend’s a good one, there’s a chance she may grab your head and nudge you to come back up at some point *because she knows you’re probably tired, and she’s awkward*. But instead of coming right back up, stay down for just a while longer! Let her know you’re enjoying it so much you don’t want to come up. It’ll make her feel great, and she can enjoy your tongue without wondering if you don’t enjoy eating her.
[Read: More tips on how to be a cunnilingus pro once you know the basics]
Learning how to eat a girl out isn’t something that should be easy and simple. It’s going to take a little practice, but as long as you follow these tips on how to eat a girl out, she’ll be screaming with pleasure in no time.
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