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How to Sext a Girl Right: 24 Tips to Avoid Creepy & Weird Vibes

If you’re not comfortable sexting a girl, odds are you’re not going to do it, or it’s not going to go well. It’s about time you learned how to sext a girl.

How to Sext a Girl

Learning how to sext a girl isn’t easy. Well, sexting whether you’re a guy or girl isn’t easy, especially if you’re new at it. There’s a lot of things you need to keep in mind, and if you’re nervous, it can hinder the experience.

Firstly, most of us don’t know how to take it to the next level without coming on too strong. You want to make sure she wants to take it to the next step, and that it’s a smooth transition.

If you don’t know how to sext a girl, there’s a chance that you’re either going to try to avoid it or you’ll struggle to go through this part of the relationship.

We don’t want any of those things to happen to you. Though it’s going to take some practice and time before you become more comfortable, it’s important you give it a try.

Sexting is a great way to increase the sexual tension between you two and amplify your feelings towards each other. On the other hand, if you do it too soon or sext the wrong thing *which can get you into trouble*, you’ll scare her off, and that’s not the experience you want to be left with.

[Read: How to start sexting a girl when you’ve never sexted her before]

Why the Need to Sext?

So, we’re all clued up on what sexting is, and it’s no secret that loads of people are doing it. But why, exactly? Are we just a bunch of horny beings looking for a digital fix, or is there more to it?

Let’s dive into why learning how to sext a girl isn’t just about spicing things up, but can actually be a game-changer in your relationship.

1. Enhancing Long-Distance Relationships

Okay, so you’re miles apart and missing the physical stuff – welcome to the world of long-distance love! Sexting becomes your best friend here. It’s like sending a virtual hug *or, well, something a bit more risque*).

It’s about feeling close when you’re in different time zones. Mastering how to sext a girl can turn those lonely nights into something a bit more exciting and a lot less distant. [Read: Long distance relationship: 46 LDR tips to make it work & not screw up]

2. Building Intimacy in a Digital Age

In today’s world, where we’re all glued to our phones, why not use that screen time to build some real connection? Sexting can be like those deep midnight chats, but with a spicy twist.

It’s getting to know what makes each other tick, but with the safety net of the digital world. When you learn how to sext a girl, you’re creating a private world for just the two of you.

3. Mutual Exploration of Desires in a Safe Environment

Ever wanted to talk about your wildest fantasies without turning red? Sexting to the rescue! It’s a no-judgment zone where you can be as bold or as shy as you like.

Plus, it’s a great way to find out what she’s into, without the awkwardness of a face-to-face convo. Learning how to sext a girl can open up a whole new world of ‘getting to know you’ – and trust us, it can be pretty enlightening.

4. Convenient and Spontaneous Connection

Let’s face it, we’re all a bit busy, and sometimes, setting the mood in person just doesn’t fit into our Google Calendars. That’s where sexting comes in. Quick, easy, and can be done while you’re waiting for your coffee to brew.

It keeps the flame alive, even when you’re swamped with work or life. Also, knowing how to sext a girl with just the right words can turn an ordinary day into something a lot more exciting. [Read: Emotional connection: 38 signs, secrets & ways to build a real bond]

5. Boosting Self-Confidence and Sexual Expression

Believe it or not, sexting can be a massive confidence booster. It’s like practicing your smooth moves without the pressure of being in the spotlight. And for her, it can be empowering to express desires without the fear of being judged.

How to Get a Girl to Sext From the Beginning

Sexting is just like sex in that you don’t just go right into it. You talk about it first. You get consent and make sure everyone is on the same page. Whether this is your girlfriend or someone you just started talking to, the same rules apply.

Do not just jump right into sexting because she said she was taking a shower like a lot of inexperienced boys do. Introduce her to the idea. Ask her if she would be comfortable doing that with you. If she says no, you do not have to ask her why. Just respect her answer.

If she agrees but is hesitant, talk about it. Make ground rules. Are pictures off limits? Are you keeping it simple or experimenting? [Read: How to start sexting when you’ve never done it before]

These are things you should ruffle out before someone takes it too far. There isn’t going back once you’ve made her uncomfortable so air it all out now.

Laying a foundation for openness is how you make sexting comfortable. You also need to make sure either one of you can put an end to it at any time and for any reason.

Sexting can be a very vulnerable thing and it can take some people a while to open up. It also just isn’t right for everyone. So, even if she agrees to it at first, she can rescind her consent at any time. [Read: How to show respect in a relationship and love each other better]

How to Get a Girl to Sext and Feel Comfortable With It

We gave you some introductory points on how to introduce the prospect of sexting to a girl. Now, if she says no, your reading ends here. If she says yes, read on to make sure it is a good experience for both of you.

Before we get started, remember that every single girl is different. What may help one feel comfortable won’t work on another and that is her prerogative.

1. Do Not Send Unsolicited Photos

This is a golden rule to follow. No matter how proud you are of your six pack or your junk, no one wants to see it in a photo. We are here to tell you that it does not turn on most women.

And if you think it will turn her on, you’re wrong. If she does want a photo from you, she will ask. Trust us, she will. You no longer have to wonder. [Read: Dick pics and why men love sending these to women]

2. Do Not Ask for Photos

The same goes for asking for photos. As a girl, as soon as women get this question, they are immediately turned off. They find it to be very superficial, and, well, icky. Understand the pressure put on girls to turn you on while at the same time they want to feel respected and make sure those photos never get out.

You can beg and promise you’ll delete them right after, but don’t. Just don’t ask.

3. Only Do It in Private

By this we mean, be alone in your room or home. Make sure no one is around. Not just for your own privacy but also for hers. If a buddy of yours catches wind of what’s happening, you are invading her privacy. Don’t be texting other people or watching TV.

Give her your undivided attention just as you would if she was physically there. She may have agreed to sext with you, but if those texts expand outside the two of you it is a breach of her trust. [Read: 16 fun emojis to make any conversation feel naughty]

4. Take Baby Steps

Ease into sexting. Think of it as the foreplay before sex. Instead of getting right to what you would do if you were in bed with her, take it from the beginning. Romance her with your words.

Say what you did on the date. Talk about rose petals or candles or music. Set the scene so she feels more comfortable. Let her know you want her to enjoy sexting just as much as you.

5. Be Confident

Own your words. You want to be sure she is comfortable every step of the way, but also be confident in what you are saying. Don’t second guess yourself. Make sure early on she knows you are totally fine with her telling you if she doesn’t like something you said.

That is how you learn. [Read: How to talk about sex without sounding like a pervert]

6. Be Respectful

We know we have covered this a lot, but we feel like it doesn’t hurt to say it again. Be respectful of her choices just as you expect her to be of yours. You can politely move on from something either one of you isn’t into.

7. Be Honest

Although this is good advice for everything, it is especially important if you have never been together in real life before. Don’t tell her your package is bigger than it is or that you have experience with things you have only seen in porn.

The benefit and attraction of sexting is that yes, it is fantasy and imagination, but it is based on truth. [Read: 16 tantalizing sexting tips to sext the right way]

8. Ask Her What She Likes

If you don’t know where to start and don’t just want to blurt out something you’re unsure about, ask her what she likes. It can be PG-13 like kissing her neck or racier.

But by asking her what she’s into, you have a guideline of where to start instead of bombarding her with words and phrases that might scare her off. Remember, the goal is to engage, not overwhelm!

9. Open Up

Share your fantasies. If you are both comfortable cranking things up a notch, share something that you want to try. Talk about things you’d never do but like thinking about.

If you trust each other fully with these more delicate topics, the sexting will be a better experience as will any physical interactions between you. [Read: 14 sexting tips to effortlessly sext like a real pro]

10. Don’t Freak Out if Something Doesn’t Flow Perfectly

Things happen. Just like sex, sexting will not go off without a hitch every time. Autocorrect can turn the word fuck into duck and things can go from sexy to awkward really fast.

Instead of getting in your head about it, laugh it off and move on. These things happen. [Read: The embarrassing things that can go wrong during sex]

11. Erase It

When you are done, delete the conversation from your phones. You may have a desire to go back to it later but don’t. Just delete it. You never know who has access to your phone. Anyone from the government to your little cousin looking for a game could see it.

It is always better to be safe than sorry.

How to Sext a Girl and Get Her to Enjoy Having a Naughty Conversation With You

So, you’ve got the basics down on how to sext a girl. That’s great! But let’s be honest, it’s a whole different ball game to get her to actually enjoy these spicy exchanges with you. To turn those basic skills into a real art form, keep these key tips in mind:

1. What’s Your Relationship Like?

Listen, if you two are just friends, trying to sext her isn’t going to be a good idea. You cannot start to sext someone you don’t have any sexual chemistry with.

And even if you think your friend may be into you, sexting her is too pushy and forceful. You need to look at the relationship and really be honest with yourself on what it is. [Read: How to build sexual tension with a girl to the point where it’s out of control]

2. Lay Down the Rules

We know rules can be annoying, and you want it to be spontaneous, but it’s important to create boundaries that will protect both of you. You two need to be on the same page.

If you’re both interested in sexting, do it on an app that’s encrypted or deletes messages and photos from your phone. Technology is great, but things can happen. [Read: How to get a girl to send nudes by asking her subtly]

3. Timing is Everything

When it comes to learning how to sext a girl, timing is everything. If you’re just getting to know a girl, sexting is a bad idea. A sext too soon can send the wrong message.

Before sexting, there are a couple of things you should have already done. Firstly, you two should have kissed already, don’t jump the gun. Then, see how she responds to that.

4. Know When to Back Off

You two may have already kissed, but when you tried to sext her, she became uncomfortable and awkward. Don’t force it on her; read the signs, and know when to back off.

It doesn’t mean she’s not interested, but you’re going to fast for her. We know you want to take that step, but she may not be ready yet. [Read: How to get a girl to sext you and actually feel comfortable doing it]

5. Think With Your Head

You need to know that for women, foreplay is mental. You need to mentally arouse a woman if you want a positive reaction.

So, sexting can be a great way to mentally stimulate a woman, but that means you’ll need to use your imagination and be descriptive in your texts.

6. Use Photos Carefully

Sending a dick pic may sound like a good idea at the moment when you’re horny, but is it a good idea to send it to her?

If you two haven’t been sending photos to each other, don’t make your first photo a dick pic. We already said it and we’ll say it here again. If you’re not 100% sure she’d be comfortable receiving a sexual picture of you, don’t send it. [Read: Why men love sending dick pics and why women hate receiving them]

7. Use Some Emojis

Your message shouldn’t be something she needs to decrypt. But you can certainly use some emojis here and there to add more flair and personality to the message.

However, for now, stay away from overly sexual emojis such as the peach or eggplant. Keep the emojis playful and light, she how she responds to them.

8. Don’t Make Crude Compliments

If you get to the point where she’s sending you sexy photos, watch what you say. You can make compliments, and you should make them, but keep them respectful.

If you two haven’t been intimate, don’t be vulgar. Instead, be relaxed and romantic with your responses, like “I love the curves of your body.” [Read: 35 sexy things to text a girl and leave her feeling wet]

9. Don’t Force the Sext

You need to be in the right mindset to sext a girl. If you feel like you have to do it right now, don’t do it. It needs to come from a place of confidence and arousal.

If you force it, you’re not going to have a good experience. If you’re not in the mood, wait until you are. There’s no rush.

10. Don’t Nag for Nudes

Oh man, those type of men are really annoying. You need to understand she doesn’t owe you any nude photo. Just because she’s interested in getting to know you doesn’t mean she has to send you a picture of her ass.

So, if she says no, you need to stop nagging her for a photo. You’re going to get nothing, and you’ll kill the relationship.

11. Reveal Your Fantasies Once You Two Sext

Don’t reveal your sexual fantasies before you two have been intimate or have sexted. You two need to ease into it and get comfortable around one another.

If you reveal your sexual fantasies too soon, it could scare her off. Timing is everything. [Read: 20 sexy texts that can help you start sexting a girl]

12. Learn What She’s Into

When you’re sexting, this is your chance to learn what she likes in bed. You can’t get it any easier than this; she’s literally telling you what she’s into.

Of course, there’s a chance she’s saying certain things because she feels you’ll like them. But for the most part, take this as an opportunity to learn about her desires.

13. Have a Goal

Of course, you can sext for the sake of it, but you should have an end goal. The entire point of sexting is to make her aroused and eager to actually experience sex with you. So figure out what your goal is before sexting her. You’re not sexting her ‘just because.’

[Read: 20 dirty questions to ask a girl that’ll make her so horny she’ll start sexting you!]

Keep These Tips in Mind

Sexting a girl may sound pretty straightforward and simple, but there’s a lot more to it than meets the eye. It’s not just about sending a risqué text and hoping for the best. The real art lies in creating a shared experience that’s enjoyable, respectful, and exciting for both parties involved. So, please keep these tips in mind to ensure that the experience is fulfilling and comfortable, not only for you but also for her.

[Read: 42 secrets to satisfy a woman in bed & make her wet just thinking of you]

Now that you know how to sext a girl and arouse her in all the right ways, the next time there’s wild chemistry going on with a girl you like, test the waters by taking it to the next level.

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Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer, and the creator and author of her short stories on TheLonelySerb. She completed her first degr...
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