Every time I meet a single guy, they usually ask me why I’m in a relationship when I could be so much happier being single and by myself.
According to them, being in a relationship takes a lot of work.
The constant pleasing, impressing and wooing are just not worth it, they say.
Do you feel the same way too?
Does a relationship ever feel like something that needs a lot of effort and pain to you?
Well, if it does, you’re probably in a wrong relationship. Or worse, you’re going about it the wrong way.
[Read: 7 secret signs that your relationship is a bad one]
Pleasing your woman and your relationship
Happy partners make for happy relationships.
If you have friends who are in perfectly happy relationships, chances are, they’re happy with each other.
Happy couples don’t make an effort to keep the relationship happy.
Instead, happy couples take pleasure in keeping the relationship happy.
If you’re truly in love with your girl, looking for ways to please her won’t seem like a chore to you. Instead, it’ll feel like a fun hobby, just like spending time on your Xbox.
So if you’re keen on looking for new ways to keep your woman happy, well, good for you. If all partners in the world were like you, we’d have a lot more love and happiness in every relationship, wouldn’t we?! [Read: 25 things that turn a girl on sexually and otherwise when she sees a guy]
How to please a woman the right way
Love and relationships are a trial and error kind of thing. Sometimes, it takes experience to read the opposite sex better. And at other times, it takes a better understanding of the opposite sex.
If you want to know how you can please a woman you love, learn to understand her needs. In bed. And everywhere else.
As long as you make a happy effort to keep your girl happy, she too will make an effort to keep you happy. And before you know it, you’ll be in a perfect relationship that’s overflowing with love and wide smiles!
If you want to know the right way on how to please a woman sexually, read these 20 tips on satisfying a woman in bed. But if you want to understand how to please a woman emotionally first and cater to her sexual needs too, then read on.
How to please a woman emotionally
As a woman, I can tell you that everything starts and ends in the mind for us, be it sex, love or how we dress. If you want to please a woman, you need to start by understanding her mind and making her feel like she has a warm and special place in your mind and in your heart. [Read: 15 really sexy ways to turn a girl on and excite her mind]
Use these 10 tips on how to please a woman emotionally to warm the cockles of her heart, make her happier and fall more in love with you.
#1 Ogling at women. One of the things all girls find disrespectful is when her man stares at another women when he’s around her. If it’s just a passing glance at a girl who’s wearing something revealing, well, your secure girlfriend may have a laugh about it. But if your constant embarrassing stares at other girls bothers her and makes her feel insecure, well, that’s just not good.
For starters, don’t even look at other women sitting on another table when you’re with your girlfriend. Once she’s secure enough, she’ll probably point out attractive or skimpily dressed girls to you herself! [Read: 10 biggest dating turn offs for all women]
#2 Make her feel special. If you want to please a woman, always make her feel special and wanted when she’s with you. Never make her feel like an accessory in your arm. Don’t take decisions on her behalf. In everything you do when you’re with her, ask for her suggestions and let her know that her opinions matter to you.
#3 Have conversations that matter. Communicate with your girlfriend or wife and let her know what’s on your mind. Every now and then, ask her about her own life, be it about her work, her future plans or what she’s been doing all day. Sharing our thoughts on daily lives with a special someone gives more meaning to our life and to the relationships we’re in. [Read: Perfect things to talk about in a perfect relationship]
#4 Involve yourself in her life. Play an active role in your woman’s life. If she’s having a hard time deciding on something, pay genuine attention to it, find out all you can about it, and help her make a good decision about it.
Participate in her plans and her goals in life when she asks you for help. When you help your woman make up her mind, she’ll feel more protected and secure about her future because she’d realize that she can always count on you for anything.
#5 Give her the extra hand. Be the support your woman needs when you’re with her. If you find her struggling with something, offer her a helping hand to assist her. Don’t be lazy around her, and don’t think twice before offering your help.
If you were in her place, wouldn’t you appreciate it if your girl offered to help you with something? Always put yourself in her shoes and try to do everything you can to keep her happy.
#6 Surprise her. Happy surprises are never ever boring. If you want your woman to feel loved and pleased with you all the time, learn to create magical memories that’ll make her smile each time she thinks of you. Don’t forget her special days, however insignificant the occasion may be to you.
#7 Protect her. To a woman, there’s nothing more important than a man’s protective instinct. Every girl wants to date a guy around whom she can feel safe and secure. Pay attention to her needs and always be willing to step up to the occasion when she needs any kind of help. You won’t just please her, you’ll help her realize what a fabulous catch you really are. [Read: 15 things girls look for in a guy to fall for him]
#8 Be affectionate. If you know girls, you know they’re more touchy feely than guys. As a guy, you may feel awkward about holding hands or sharing an occasional hug, but to a girl, the touch of a close friend or a lover makes the relationship feel more meaningful and loving.
If you want to please her, learn to make her feel loved and special when she’s with you. Hold her hands while crossing the street or while sitting in a café, touch her now and then for no reason at all, and let her know that you can’t keep your hands off her. Even if she brushes your hand off, she’ll still blush on the inside knowing how irresistible you think she is! [Read: 50 really cute things to say to your girl and please her]
#9 Be chivalrous. Chivalry may have been a code of the knights, but luckily for chivalrous men, it’s also something that can make a huge difference when it comes to pleasing women, sexually or emotionally.
Treat your woman chivalrously and let her see that she’s the most important part of your life. Make her feel like a princess when she’s with you, and give her all your attention and pamper her often. She’ll definitely be pleased with you. [Read: The rules and code of modern chivalry for men]
#10 Respect her. Your woman may love you, care a lot for you and think she’s lucky to have you. And yet, she could be unhappy in the relationship if you don’t respect her and her opinions. To all humans, respect is one of the integral aspects that give us self confidence and meaning to life.
Do you really take your woman and her opinions seriously? Do you genuinely look to her for advice and help? If you want to please your woman and see her happy, learn to treat her with respect. If you can’t respect your woman, chances her, you won’t be able to have a perfectly happy relationship with her. Take her more seriously and listen to what she has to say. After all, there’s no greater way to please a woman than by letting her know that you have enormous respect for her and her thoughts.
Once you’ve understood these ways on how to please a woman emotionally, you’d be ready to be a better lover and a better man. Click here to continue reading the next part of this feature on how to please a woman sexually.
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