Desperate to drive your woman wild? We’re looking at the 10 erogenous zones guaranteed to blow her mind…and make you the king of the castle.
We know for a fact that it doesn’t take much to get a man sexually excited. Show him a photo of a naked woman or just grab his crotch, and he’ll be good to go. Women, however, are a different story. For the ladies, good sex is something like a Beethoven symphony; there’s the overture, the crescendo, and the final climactic *pun not intended* movement. In other words, women prefer to enjoy the scenic route, while men prefer to get from point A to point B as quickly as possible.
Getting your lady wet and wild in bed requires you to push the right buttons to get her in the mood. By buttons, we mean a woman’s erogenous zones. Erogenous zones could also be referred to as a woman’s sweet spots; the metaphorical switches that turn her lust into overdrive.
Top female erogenous zones
While we are all familiar with the common fun parts between the legs, there are far more unsuspecting parts of her body that will easily get you into her good graces, should you know where and how to touch them properly.
#1 Feet. First, you don’t need to have a foot fetish to enjoy a good, sensual foot rub. Apparently, both sexes enjoy the feeling of their feet getting caressed. Women, on the other hand, have more sensitive feet—especially on the skin near their toes. Exploit this by oiling up your hands and gently pressing the flesh of her soles with an upward motion.
#2 Head and scalp. If you’ve ever experienced getting a head massage, you will not contest the fact that gently massaging the scalp is one of the most relaxing and soothing feelings ever. The human scalp is home to thousands of nerve endings, which makes it highly sensitive to touch.
A good way to get her in the mood is by gently running your fingers outwards from the crown of her head to the edges of her hairline in a motion like grasping a basketball. This will definitely send shivers down her whole body and make her warm and fuzzy.
#3 Abdomen. Women can get pretty self-conscious about the look of their abdomen, but little do they know how good it will feel if they let their man play with it a little bit. The lower abdomen—particularly the area below the belly button—is home to a network of nerves connected to the vagina. This means that fondling the skin of the abdomen is like “nudging” her vagina into activity.
You should be careful, though, as some women can find abdominal stimulation a little ticklish. Tease her into submission by planting a gentle kiss, drawing lines and circles with your finger, or signing your name on her belly with the tip of your tongue. [Read: 11 sexiest spots to kiss a woman and drive her crazy]
#4 Lips. Lips are meant to kiss and be kissed! The lips are an obvious erogenous zone and are readily capable of receiving pleasurable sensations due to their high concentration of nerve endings *which is a hundred times more than the fingertips*. They are sensitive to pressure, moisture, and temperature.
The act of kissing sends signals to the brain, which release the feel-good hormones oxytocin and serotonin, which translates into a higher state of sexual arousal. However, be a creative kisser and don’t just gape your maw like a dead fish. Employ a combination of sucks, pecks, and nibbles to get her feeling good and wet. [Read: 10 easy techniques to kiss passionately and romantically]
#5 Inner thigh. I bet you’ve seen this in a movie before: while driving a convertible down the freeway, the guy has one hand on the wheel while the other hand is caressing a beautiful woman’s inner thigh as she moans in sexual agony. This is pretty accurate, as that fateful patch of skin is near the vagina!
Think of the inner thigh as the switch to the floodgates. Manipulating it can get her wet and excited. You can achieve this by gently caressing her inner thigh with the tips of your fingers, especially the obverse side with the fingernails. Stroke her inner thigh, gently moving upwards near her vagina. This will tease her into a sense of anticipation and she will enjoy the effects as one thing leads to another.
#6 Ears. As a rule, body parts located on the head are sensitive to touch. The ears are no different. Ear stimulation can have varying results, ranging from ticklish giggles to low, erotic moans, so it is advisable to test the waters first before going full contact.
Start by tracing the curve of her ear, from top to bottom. Begin with the outer lobe and if she responds well, proceed to kiss her on the lobes and give her ears a gentle nibble. Continue to watch her responses as you run your tongue inside the cup of her ear. While you’re at it, why not whisper something dirty to her in your bedroom voice to add fuel to her fire? [Read: How to dirty talk to a girl and say the things that’ll really arouse her]
#7 Small of the back. To demonstrate how sensitive the small of your back is, try giving it a flat hand slap. Hurts, doesn’t it?
The small of the back is covered by a thinner patch of skin compared to the rest of your body, in addition to being located just millimeters above the base of the spinal cord. The small of the back is home to a bunch of nerve endings that will definitely hit her sweet spot if you touch her there.
One good way to touch her here is by giving a back massage. Take her top off and make her lie on her stomach. Gently run your hands from the small of her back upwards. Make sure that your thumbs are keeping the pressure on the trench of her spine while the rest of your fingers rest on the curve of her waist. Once you’ve revved her engine up, bombard the small of her back with a lot of moist kisses and watch her writhe in pleasure. [Read: 10 secret pleasure triggers to arouse a girl instantly]
#8 Nape of the neck. The nape of the neck is another area chock-full of nerve endings and covered with a thin patch of skin. That’s why this area is the first to hurt when you get a sunburn. Giving this area a great deal of attention is a good and quick way to get her horny.
Start by giving her a shoulder massage and work your way up to the back of her neck with gentle feather touches. A good indicator that she’s loving it is when she cranes her head to expose the back of her neck more. When that happens, time to bring in the lip work and plant as many kisses and nibbles as she wants.
#9 Nipples. The female nipple is an erogenous zone which people are universally familiar with. Men are drawn to it, and it is the first thing in our mouths from the time we are born. The nipples are one of the most sensitive parts of the body, and a part where stimulation leads to immediate sexual arousal; women can actually get orgasms from nipple stimulation. The nipples, along with the clitoris, are both directly wired to the female brain center responsible for arousal.
However, this degree of sensitivity requires you to have great care when touching her nipples. Don’t be too rough when touching her and always pay attention to her responses. A good way to start is by tracing circles on her breast. Start from the base and make smaller spirals, working your way up toward her nipple. Another way is to gently massage her breast with one hand, while using your lips and mouth to caress her areola and nipples. [Read: 11 fascinating and fun facts about a woman’s breasts]
#10 Clitoris. The clitoris is the crown jewel of the female body. With over 8,000 nerve endings in a patch of flesh the size of a raisin, it’s bound to do wonders. However, don’t be fooled. Not all clitorises are alike and women respond to different types of clitoral stimulation. Furthermore, the more nerve endings there are, the greater the likelihood of hurting her is if you touch the clitoris incorrectly. [Read: Clitoris stimulation: 10 moves to please the clitoris and make her really horny]
The main trick to achieve the best out of her clit is using featherlike touches. This type of touch is so light, it is almost not there at all. This kind of touch gives a strong sense of anticipation and will make her want more. A good way to get her going from the berry is by drawing light circles around her clitoris, without actually touching her clit. Watch her reaction and work your way to a spiral to the center and then gently add pressure.
The next time you’re going to have sex, think of it as something like a road trip. The journey is equally important as *and is sometimes more fun than* the destination. So warm up your hands and explore the uncharted terrain of your lady’s erogenous zones.
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Paul Timothy Mangay
Paul aka Morty is a keyboard-pounding cubicle-dweller based in Manila where he occasionally moonlights as a writer for anyone in need of his mediocre word-strin...