Sex is all in the mind, for men and for women.
It may be an activity where all the action is felt down below.
But unless your mind doesn’t enjoy it, you’ll end up bored.
So when it comes to arousing a woman and making her love the things you do in bed, you need to make her feel good about the things you do to her in her head.
[Read: 20 things that turn a girl on sexually and otherwise when she sees a guy]
What women want in bed
When you’re in a new relationship, getting naked in front of each other is all it takes to get the bodies warm and ready for action.
But if you want to have wild, passionate sex with a girl and make her love the things you do to her in bed, you need to do more than just drop your shorts.
You need to keep her needs in mind.
And you need to give equal importance to all aspects of lovemaking.
10 things you can do to make her love it
If you’re wondering what women want in bed, don’t think further. Just keep these 10 things you should do in mind, and you’ll definitely make the special lady feel more loved and sexy, and ensure that she has a great time too. [Read: How to make out with a girl after a date and make her love it]
#1 Take your time. This is something most men don’t give a thought about. More foreplay. Guys know the rules, but they just can’t help it. All you want to do is stick the shaft and drive. But think about it, by delaying the penetration and enjoying the foreplay, she’d feel more wet and will enjoy sex a lot more. Isn’t that worth the effort?
And here’s another thing to remember. By extending foreplay, you’re giving your mind and your little guy more time to prepare for sex. And by spending more time on foreplay, you’ll reduce your chances of losing an erection midway. [Read: 20 ways to keep an erection up and hard for a long time]
#2 Emotional connection. To enjoy sex better, girls need to feel connected to the guy emotionally. Well, this doesn’t make one night stands less sexy. But in a relationship where you’ve had sex a few times, you always need to focus on making her feel loved and emotionally connected to you. It’ll make her enjoy the night a lot more. [Read: How to hook up with a girl on a one night stand]
Speak to her lovingly, kiss her all over her face and ears, and whisper sweet nothings into her ear as you prepare to make love. Get this right, and she’ll definitely feel more connected to you and even fall more in love with you.
#3 Physical connection. When you have sex, the two bodies unite and become one. When you’re on top of the girl, make sure both of you are positioned well and feel comfortable. Neither of you can enjoy sex if your bodies don’t feel comfortable against each other.
Breathe together and take in your breath just as she takes in hers. When your bodies unite and synchronize with each other perfectly, breathing and all, she’ll feel more connected to you and may even think she’s found the perfect match for her body.
#4 Variety and games. Lovemaking is passionate. But too much of a good thing can bore anyone. So try to mix in the passionate sex with games and fun. Girls love having a nice time in bed, and it doesn’t always have to be about sex. Cuddle her, tease her, play with her clothes and just have fun with each other for a while before deciding to jump each other’s bones. [Read: 10 sex games your girlfriend will love and enjoy]
#5 Set the mood right. If you want to have awesome sex, you need to set the mood right. You can use perfumed body oils and give her a massage for half an hour while focusing on her love spots, so you can make her feel horny and relaxed, and extend foreplay at the same time.
You can even use porn if you’re not in the mood for something elaborate. Or both of you can go clubbing on a Saturday night and grind against each other in the club until you make her wet and want to take you right there.
While you can’t create perfect sexual moods all the time, put in an effort to build the sexual tension up, and she’ll definitely orgasm a lot better. [Read: How to make a girl horny just by sitting next to her]
#6 Self esteem. For a woman, self esteem is one of the most important things to feel sexy about herself when she’s in bed with a man. When you’re making love with your girl, make her feel loved and comfortable, and compliment her body or any other specific regions that you find sexy.
Women love a man who boosts their ego in bed. Overlook her awkward spots and don’t stop complimenting her body. And she’ll bring out the sexy minx inside of her who’ll feel confident and give you a better time in bed.
#7 Make her mind go wild. Girls have an active imagination too. And if you can stimulate her mind into thinking dirty and naughty, she’ll definitely get wilder in bed. Recreate fantasies that she’ll enjoy, talk to her about the first time both of you saw each other naked, or remind her about the time both of you did something wild outside the house. And when you learn which fantasies turn her on more than the others, use those fantasies while having sex with her. [Read: How to fantasize and talk dirty in bed]
#8 Give all of her your attention. For guys, there are just two parts of a girl’s body that occupies their attention in bed. But if you really want your woman to have a wild time in bed, don’t isolate yourself to just a place or two on her body.
Focus on all of her, kiss her hands, lick her navel, kiss her toes, the back of her neck and everywhere else. If she moans or gasps, you know you’re doing the right thing.
#9 Satisfy her. Can you really enjoy sex if you don’t finish yourself off? Of course, you can’t. And for girls, it works the same way too. Don’t get carried away while having sex and focus only on your own needs. Take it slow and warm her up, and don’t ejaculate until your woman has orgasmed first. Or if you’d like, try to orgasm together. But don’t end it before she’s had an orgasm. [Read: 10 steps to get any girl to have sex with you]
Even as you have sex, focus on her pleasure and work your way to make her orgasm. By doing that, you’ll feel more proud of accomplishing a good finish and keeping her satisfied.
#10 Sex has to end with love. Just like foreplay, afterplay too is rather important for a girl. For a guy, sex is just sex. But for a girl, sex includes foreplay and afterplay to have a better impact. Cuddle up after sex and talk to each other for a few minutes. Add in a few kisses and compliments and she’ll love you for the great guy you are. [Read: How to make a girl think of you sexually]
Just don’t finish up, turn away and fall asleep. Pillow talk after sex can bring both of you closer and make her feel appreciated and loved.
[Read: Top 10 sexual fantasies for girls that turn them on like crazy]
And now that you know what women want in bed, try to make sure your girl has a great time when she’s in bed with you. Remember to focus more on her pleasure, and you’ll end up feeling on top of the world too!
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