70 Sexy Texts to Send a Guy or Girl & Spark a Hot, Dirty Conversation Instantly!
Want to send a sexy text but don’t want to sound desperate or weird? Here are the best dirty messages to start the hottest convo, without trying too hard.
You want to send a sexy text. But not the kind that makes them screenshot it and show their friends for a laugh. You want something suggestive, playful, and bold enough to heat things up, without sounding like a total creep. Welcome to the art of the perfect dirty text.
Research shows that sexting, when done with mutual interest, actually builds deeper emotional and sexual intimacy in relationships, especially among young adults. It’s all about creating anticipation and mental imagery, which triggers dopamine and arousal in the brain.
📚 Source: Drouin, M., et al. (2013). Let’s Talk About Sexting, Baby
Whether you’re texting a new crush, a long-time partner, or someone you’re casually flirting with, here are the best sexy texts that are fun, flirty, and just the right amount of dirty.
Want gender-specific dirty texts to send a guy or a girl? Jump over to these guides, for a full walkthrough and all the must-knows!
👉 Must-knows to sext for the first time
Sexy Text Messages to Start a Dirty Conversation instantly and innocently!
Keep your sexy text messages bordering on naughty, and mysterious. It makes the exchange of texts more exciting because your partner wouldn’t know what’s on your mind. They may know you’re flirting, but they’d have no idea that you have a naughty sexting marathon on your mind.
Instead, they’ll feel like they’re the one that’s building up the sexual texts by asking the right questions, when in fact, you’ll be the one who actually starts the whole sexy game by saying the perfect first line!
You don’t have to initiate the conversation, all you need to do is slip one of these lines into the conversation, and see where it goes. [Read: 45 sexy ways to start sexting & 50 sext examples to get someone horny]
Are you ready to get naughty while texting sexy? Start with these very subtle and flirty sexts and go with the flow. These texts are effortless and can guide the conversation towards sexts, very slowly.
Want to jump right into bold sexual sexts? Use these guides instead:
👉 110 Sexy, Dirty and Freaky Questions to Ask a Girl & Make Her Wet and Horny
👉 156 Sexy, Dirty & Spicy Questions to Ask a Guy or Your Boyfriend & Make Him Horny AF
If you want to start slow and test the waters first, read on!
1. Oh gosh, my fly was open all this while!
2. I’m feeling so cold even though I’m under the blanket. Hold on for a minute, lemme put on my clothes.
3. I’m so bored… I wish you could be with me now. [Read: 49 naughty & freaky sex questions for couples to keep the spark alive]
4. I’m watching a sexy video of a girl/guy who looks just like you *share a link to an explicit video with a really attractive person so they would be flattered even if there’s only a minor resemblance*.
5. What are you wearing right now? [Read: 22 honest secrets to look good naked & feel great without any clothes]
6. Can you guess what I’m wearing right now?
7. It’s such a nice day to cozy up to someone, and spend all day in bed.
8. I just bought new underwear and can’t wait to show it to you.
9. If I were with you right now, where would you want me to touch you?
10. I’m watching porn.
11. My hands were busy, but they took a break to text you.
12. I’m imagining you’re with me right now…
13. I’m trying to sleep, but I can’t stop thinking about all the things I could do to you if you were with me right now. [Read: 27 naughty, sexy & fun games to play with your boyfriend in bed & out]
14. I’m looking for sex toys online…
15. I had a naughty dream last night and you were in me… *I mean it
16. Do you believe in kiss and tell? Cause I want you to kiss me and do things to me in your mind and tell me all about it.
17. I’m lying in bed and bored. Do you want to play Never Have I Ever?
18. What would you want to do with me after our date tomorrow?
19. I can see two pussies humping outside my window. They’re meowing so much it’s hard for me to go back to sleep.
20. Wanna play a game with me? [Read: The best dirty, sexy texting games to get naughty with one text!]
21. I’m feeling so horny, and I don’t know why!
22. You looked really sexy today… I can’t stop thinking of you.
23. It’s been ages since I had sex…
24. I just picked up this new dress/shirt today, and I’m trying it on right now.
25. My body is so sore, I wish I could get a massage right now. [Read: Emoji sexting: 30 fun emojis to make any text seem extra flirty & naughty!]
26. I just got out of the shower. Thought of you. Now I’m back in.
27. My lips are bored. Any ideas for what they could do?
28. I have a surprise for you. Clue: it’s under my clothes.
29. I just found a photo of you. Now I’m even more distracted.
30. If I sent you a selfie right now, how much trouble would I get into?
31. You know what’s unfair? You’re not here right now.
32. I had the filthiest thought about you. Want to guess what it was?
33. Do you want to be the reason I have to change my sheets tonight?
34. My body keeps remembering the way you touched it.
35. I just moaned your name without meaning to.
36. I’m not wearing underwear. Just saying.
37. I wish your hands were here. They’re much better than mine.
38. I dare you to tell me what you’d do to me if we were alone.
39. I’m lying in bed and thinking of your hands. Everywhere. [Read: 113 Sexy Texts For Him to Make a Guy Hard, Turn Him On & Leave Him Horny!]
40. I just walked past someone who smelled like you and almost lost it.
41. I want you to say something that’ll make me blush. Try me.
42. What part of my body are you craving the most right now?
43. You have no idea what I’d do to you if you were here right now.
44. I’m in public, and thinking things I really shouldn’t be.
45. Can you distract me? I’m dangerously horny and dangerously bored.
46. I bet you can’t make me turn red with one text.
47. I’m sending you three emojis that describe what I want to do to you right now… guess them.
48. I want you to write a one-sentence fantasy involving us. Go.
49. If I said “I’m wet”/“I’m hard,” what would you do next?
50. You’re my favorite notification.
[Read: 80 Flirty Texts, Questions & Naughty Must-Knows to Flirt with a Guy Over Text]
Sexy Texts to Send When You’re Already Hooking Up
So, you’re already sleeping together and know what gets them going. Here are some naughty little prompts to heat things up between the sessions:
1. I still can’t stop thinking about the sound you made last night…
2. I left something in your bed last time. Guess you’ll have to find it next time.
3. My body still feels like it’s recovering from you.
4. You made me do laundry early. Everything still smells like you.
5. I want you again. Tonight. Same time? [Read: Emoji Sexting: 30 Fun Emojis to Make Any Text Seem Extra Flirty & Naughty!]
6. I still taste you. Not even sorry.
7. Last night’s memory is stuck on repeat.
8. I just found a scratch you left. Want to add more tonight?
9. Do you always make people this weak after one night?
10. I was trying to work, and then… you happened in my head.
11. Tell me your favorite thing I did to you last time. I want to hear it.
12. If you show up at my door right now, no one’s stopping us.
13. I miss the way your body feels on mine. It’s a problem.
14. I want a replay. Same moves. Same moans.
15. Showered. Clean. Ready to get dirty again.
16. Do you have any idea what you did to my thighs last night?
17. I literally can’t sit still thinking about what you did with your hands.
18. I left a mark on your shoulder. You better leave one on me next time.
19. I wore your shirt today. It smells like trouble.
20. I think my bed misses you more than I do. And that’s saying something.
[Read: How To Get A Girl To Sext And Actually Feel Comfortable Sexting You]
Why Sexy Texts Feel So Damn Good (Backed by Psychology)
Have you ever wondered why just reading one dirty line from someone you like can make your whole body buzz? It’s not just the words, it’s your brain on lust.
According to psychologist Joseph LeDoux, anticipation plays a bigger role in arousal than the act itself.
Have you ever noticed how just one steamy, suggestive message from someone you’re into can make your stomach twist, in a good way? There’s real brain chemistry behind that buzz.
Studies show that texting and sexting tap directly into our attachment styles, which shape how we connect. In one study, researchers found that securely attached people text more, but it’s often the insecurely attached, especially avoidant folks, who sext (via text or picture) more freely. That speaks volumes about what we subconsciously seek: connection, without the mess.
📚 Source: Drouin & Landgraff, 2012, Texting, sexting, and attachment
Think about it: Sexting activates the reward pathways, dopamine, anticipation, mental imagery, all of which feel arousing.
For those not ready (or able) to dive deep emotionally, sexting can feel safer than real intimacy, but it still delivers that heartbeat-racing spark.
And here’s the real kicker: Emotional regulation, and the ability to manage anticipation and desire, factors heavily into sexual satisfaction. People with better emotional control (often tied to secure attachment) report higher relationship satisfaction overall.
📚 Source: Alessandra Ragona et al., 2023, Motivations, Behaviors and Expectancies of Sexting
So when you craft a sexy text, whether you’re waiting for the flame to catch or trying something bold, you’re doing more than flirting. You’re playing with the wiring of connection and comfort in your partner.
[Read: How to Dirty Talk: 36 Sexy Tips & 55 Examples to Turn Anyone On with Words]
How to Start Sending Sexy Text Messages to Someone
Starting a sexy texting convo isn’t that different from a first kiss, equal parts excitement, nerves, and please-don’t-make-this-awkward energy.
But here’s the thing: it’s not about being perfect. It’s about reading the vibe and knowing when to push the tease.
According to researchers, gradual escalation and suggestive ambiguity increase arousal far more than blunt directness.
📚 Source: Klettke, B., et al., 2014, Sexting and Psychological Health
One flirty line can turn a boring convo into a straight-up fantasy. And five minutes later, both of you could be mentally naked already. That’s the magic of texting chemistry.
[Read: Snapchat Sexting: How to Own Your Lover With the Snap of a Camera]
Using Sexy Text Messages to Seduce Someone You Like
Firstly, if you want to seduce a sexy friend or a new lover, or want to start talking dirty for the first time through text messages, you need to read these two features we’ve mentioned below.
They’ll guide you every step of the way, from the very first subtle text you need to send the one you want to start a sexy text conversation with, to the texts you need to send after turning them on. [Read: 156 sexy, dirty questions to ask a guy & make him horny just listening to you]
And once you’ve mastered the art of sending sexy texts to a girl or a guy using the links above, read on.
Sending a sexy text to a sexy someone should come naturally. You can say anything you feel like, and as long as you feel horny, chances are, you’ll say all the right things.
[Read: 51 Long Distance Sexting Ideas to Spice Up Your LDR Relationship in Minutes!]
Things to Know Before Texting Sex
You can always text a naughty line like “I want you now… come on and f**k me!” It works and sends the message straight through. But it comes with a major flaw, especially if you two haven’t been sexting regularly already.
When you make a sexy text sound too explicit, or say a sexy line without any subtlety, your text loses its sensual appeal. It’s like watching porn every day. Yeah, it’s exciting. But somehow, it gets meh way too soon, and doesn’t arouse you slowly to the point where you lose your mind.
Sending a sexy text that screams “f**k me” is too direct. And as inviting as it seems, it’s still boring because you leave nothing to surprise.
Your partner may read it, smile, and just play along because you’ve initiated a sexy conversation. But in all probability, they’re not feeling a buzz in their loins, and they’re not even remotely turned on. [Read: How to have phone sex: 26 tips to make them horny listening to you]
Let’s face it, shocking sexual sentences don’t always work. They’re fun, but they cut the suspense and go straight to the end.
And in a realistic world, how many times can you ask your lover to leave everything *and come and get you because you’re sitting naked and are horny AF*!
If you want to enjoy a sexy text conversation, you need to involve your partner subtly. You need to excite them slowly and you need to make them feel like they’re a part of the sexual buildup. And the best way to start a sexy text conversation is by starting slow and easy and playing with the sentences to turn the person on one step at a time. [Read: How to dirty talk: 36 sexy tips & 55 examples to turn anyone on with words]
The Subtle Art of Initiating a Naughty Conversation
Okay, honestly, if you two have been sexting each other already, just go straight to the wildest, naughtiest playful texts to keep things hot and horny.
But if you want to be subtle and take it one step at a time, try to be discreet. With the right kind of texts, you can excite the person you’re texting, and make them want to sit up and ask YOU a few dirty questions, instead of just you spewing out lines of sexy one-liners and hoping one of them will turn your lover on.
Once you use any of these lines as your sexy text conversation starter, it’ll automatically get the other person’s mind racing into sexual overdrive.
All you need to do after that is play along and answer the questions keeping sex in mind. And before you know it, both of you will be all hot and bothered!
And remember: it’s not about the perfect line, it’s about the tension you create between the lines.
[Read: What to Do When You’ve Sent a Sexy Text to Someone Else]
Use these naughty and sexy texts the next time you want to initiate a dirty conversation, without sounding like you’re trying too hard. Whether it’s the first flirty spark or a post-hookup tease, sexy texting is about connection, imagination, and a little cheeky courage.
