As a guy, you’re probably accustomed to linking arousal with physical attraction and sexual variation.
For a girl, that definitely works too.
But to turn a girl on and arouse her, there’s a lot more to it than meets the eye.
A girl’s arousal starts from within, and as long as you know just how to excite her mind, you’ll definitely be able to get her tingly and wet in no time.
[Read: 25 things about a guy that turns a girl on sexually or otherwise]
How to turn a girl on
There are many ways to turn a girl on and you can learn all of them here, and the best part is that it’s all different.
But before we go any further, there’s one basic idea you need to understand.
Just because you’re up and hard in no time doesn’t mean the girl you’re with has to be ready for you too.
Don’t be selfish. Spend a few more minutes on foreplay, because women need more time than you to get turned on. But when they do get turned on, they stay turned on for much longer and enjoy a much better orgasm.
And another benefit of foreplay is that the longer you spend on foreplay, the lesser your chances of premature ejaculation or going limp halfway through the act. [Read: How to last longer while having sex without any difficulty]
So when there are so many good things you can achieve out of spending a few more minutes on foreplay, why would you want to go straight into the garage and miss all the fun of better orgasms?
15 easy tips on turning a girl on and arousing her
By using these tips on turning a girl on, you can add variety into your foreplay and make sex all the more exciting and fun.
Just remember to mix them up and use your own variations. And every time you start to get bored of sex, bring something new into the game.
#1 Kiss her nape. A girl’s neck *especially at the back and the sides* and her ears are extremely sensitive. If you want to turn a girl on, spend a while nibbling her ear lobes or softly biting her neck. And if she ever feels ticklish, calm the foreplay down by kissing lower on her neck and shoulders or by avoiding breathing heavily around her neck.
#2 Sit close to her. If you’re just sitting in a public place with the girl you like and want to turn her on, just sit really close to her for a few minutes, and use these easy steps on how to get a girl horny and wet just by sitting next to her.
#3 Foot massages. If your girl likes a good massage, then this can be orgasmic bliss for her. The next time you have some time on your hands, pour a good measure of moisturizer on your hands and lather up her feet when she’s lying in bed. Play with her toes as you massage her, and occasionally kiss her feet and tongue her toes.
#4 Whisper in her ears. It doesn’t matter if you’re speaking to your woman over the phone or if both of you are lying in bed together. Start speaking softly and whisper in her ears while cozying up with her. Compliment her or just tell her about all the things you want to do to her before you actually do anything. Just visualizing your naughty moves before you do it will turn her on.
#5 Flirty sexy texts. Can you imagine making a girl wet even when you’re not around her? Feels rather powerful and sexual, doesn’t it? Sexy text messages are one of the sexiest turn ons for a girl. As long as you get naughty and text the right lines and questions, she’ll be wet and horny in no time. [Read: 20 dirty questions to text a girl and make her wet]
#6 Soft touches. Touch a girl and let your hand linger on her body, either *accidentally* or intentionally. Even if you’re on a first date, if you learn to place your hands in all the right places like on her arms or her lower back, you’ll be able to turn any girl on before you’re done with the meal. [Read: How to touch a girl on a date]
#7 Rub a lotion all over her body. When your woman comes out of her bath in the evening, have her stand next to the bed and smear a lotion that’s smooth and slippery, but not too sticky. Start with her arms and move downwards while kissing her in all the strategic places that come along the way. If you take your time massaging her, she’ll be wet even before your hands reach her waist.
#8 Grind her when you can. Grinding at home may not be a huge turn on. In fact, it might even be funny and cute. But when you do that in a club, it’s a definite arousing move. If you’re at a party, grind her from behind and make sure she feels what you have in your pants. Just the thought of feeling your package in public will drive her crazy.
#9 Play truth or dare. If you want to try something different to turn each other on, play a sexy game instead of focusing just on each other’s bodies. Sexual truth or dare is a lot of fun when you play with another couple, but if you don’t have another couple around, both of you can still ask each other dirty questions and dare each other. If you choose the right questions and dares, your girl will definitely have a turn on she won’t forget in a long time! [Read: 30 dirty truth or dare questions for a sexy night]
#10 Public display of affection. Girls love the rush of sexual arousal intermingled with fear. It’s sexy and a sure turn on. If you slip your hands into her pants or down her shirt at a traffic signal, or discreetly get touchy feely in a crowded place, she’ll feel more aroused than normal. Just make sure you don’t overdo it and make your girl or anyone else around feel awkward about the whole thing. [Read: Public display of affection rules you need to follow]
#11 Speak her mind. If you know your girl well, you’ll know the fantasies that she enjoys. Before you start having sex with her, turn the lights down, run your hands all over her body and talk about a sexual fantasy of hers. [Read: Top 10 female sexual fantasies]
If you’re not sure about the kind of fantasies she likes, just start talking about a thought that arouses you and involves her. As long as you get into all the dirty intricate details, her mind will definitely turn her body on. [Read: Dirty talking in bed example]
#12 Change the routine. Try something new in bed all the time. Foreplay and sex can definitely get boring and dry if you stick with the same routine all the time. Dominate her at times, let her dominate you at other times, or learn to role play in bed. Do something different now and then, because change always brings excitement into your bedtime affairs.
#13 Go down on her. Many guys like the idea of going down on the girl, but don’t really indulge in it often. If you really want to turn a girl on, get her to drop her pants for you. Take your time before you go straight to the mound and spend a while touching her body with your hands and kissing her inner thighs softly. And when you’ve lingered enough, go down on her. She’ll definitely appreciate it.
#14 Make out on different places. Bring variation into your sex lives by making out in different places or in different situations. Making out in a new place always feels exciting and fun. And it’ll help both of you create sexual memories that’ll make for great conversations the next time both of you want to talk dirty in bed. [Read: The 7 sexiest places to have sex]
#15 Arouse her when she’s least expecting it. Turn your girl on now and then when she’s least expecting it. One of the best ways to test the waters here is by seducing her when she’s asleep. If you’re getting into bed and your girl is already asleep, play with her or start making out with her. She may be really sleepy, but the sudden arousal will turn her on a lot more than other times. And the sex will definitely be awesome too!
[Read: Find out how your size down there affects the kind of sex you have]
Do you want to make sex more sexy and exciting? Just use these 15 ways on how to turn a girl on and you’ll definitely be able to arouse her and give her some of the best orgasms she’s ever had!
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