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How to Impress a Girl: 21 Atypical Secrets You Need to Know

If you’re curious about how to impress a girl, just be yourself, and everything else should follow. Keep reading to know everything about impressing her.

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Are you having a difficult time wooing someone you really like? If you’re wondering how to impress a girl the right way, you need to pay attention to what really matters to women and ignore the fluff that’s causing all the confusion in the first place. When you’re trying to impress a girl, guys tend to look at this the wrong way.

You don’t have to try too hard to impress a girl, but it’s often by being yourself where you can show her your charm. You don’t need to pretend to be someone else just to captivate her attention, but you can do this by baring your soul to her. Show her who you really are, and you’d do wonders in impressing her just by being real.

[Read: How to approach a girl you don’t know and impress her]

Don’t make a fool of yourself, fellas: How to impress a girl the right way

Firstly, there is a way to impress a girl without making yourself look like a total idiot – a fear many guys seem to have, yet they go for their crazy antics anyways. The great thing about impressing a girl that men don’t seem to understand is that we are pretty easily impressed. It really doesn’t take much.

The harder you try, the more you don’t end up impressing her but actually pushing her away. So if you really want to know how to impress a girl, then use your strengths to your advantage. If you have a sense of humor and wit, why not use them? These are just some of the tricks up your sleeve you can use.

[Read: How to impress your crush: 25 tips to steal their heart effortlessly]

Why should you impress a girl?

When you know how to impress a girl, you also know how to get the girl eventually. Whether it’s a cute girl who’s a stranger in your life or a friend who you want to date, everything starts by impressing a girl. If you want to date her, then it really is crucial to impress her *if you don’t want to end up in the friend zone or worse, as a stranger.*

Without a great first impression, she won’t be inclined to want to get to know you and develop a connection with you. Instead, you want to give her curiosity on who you are and why it would be worth it to get to know you. [Read: How to talk to your crush: The secrets to make them fall for you]

Just follow the right ways to impress her

Take it from a gal who has watched many guys make a complete fool of themselves or just downright failed to impress me. If you want to impress a girl the right way and make her want you, here’s how you should be doing it.

1. Be knowledgeable

Find out her interests and look into them. Gather as much information as you can on the topic, and you’ll impress her with your knowledge. You don’t have to be the smartest guy in the room if you want to learn how to impress a girl, but you do need to know what you’re talking about.

Don’t just talk about nonsense or false knowledge to seem cool, as she’ll be able to tell. When talking about her interests especially, be accurate with the facts, if there are any. [Read: 28 turn ons for girls that’ll make them melt in your arms]

2. Don’t go to extreme measures

Getting a horse-drawn carriage for a first date is way too much and will probably do the opposite of impress her. Women don’t care about the extravagant things – those don’t impress us. While romance movies claim that love is all about grand gestures, that isn’t what reality is all about.

You don’t have to go through such extreme measures to impress her, but it’s all about the simple things. Remember what we said about not trying too hard? Take note of this the next time you go around impressing her. Stick to the basics; that’s how you get the girl.

3. Do something kind for someone else in front of her

Kindness is something that impresses any woman. If you do something kind for someone else and she’s there to witness it, she’ll immediately be impressed. Of course, don’t just go around pretending to be kind when it’s not in your nature.

You need to be kind and really mean everything you’re going to do, whether she gets impressed or not. Maybe it’s helping a stranger, donating to charity, or helping a friend with a project.

Kindness is always an attractive and impressive trait for anyone. [Read: How to be kind to yourself & others & love life instead of hating it]

4. Argue with her – but make sure you have valid points

Okay, we’re not talking about the toxic kind of argument where you pick up a fight with her just because you feel like it. Instead, we’re talking about a debate – the healthy kind of argument.

Women love the banter. If you can get her to argue – in a nice way, of course – then you’re in. Not only is she spending time talking to you, but she’ll leave with you on her mind. Not to mention, this shows your intellectual side by so much. [Read: Can’t take a stand? Here’s why girls just can’t stand the nice guy]

5. Be honest – and blunt if you have to

Don’t agree with everything she has to say just because you want her to like you. It might actually have the opposite effect. Women are impressed by a man who has an opinion and isn’t afraid to be heard. If you want to learn how to impress a girl, don’t just be a yes man.

Stick to your opinions and beliefs, and don’t compromise them just because she feels or thinks differently. So don’t be afraid to show what you really stand for, as this kind of integrity is admirable on anyone. [Read: Why you should tell the truth even when it hurts & why it matters]

6. Be confident – but not cocky

Men usually ride the line of confident and cocky far too closely. The truth is that these two things are easy to get confused with one another. However, one makes you seem like an asshole, while the other makes you seem more attractive. If you can be confident around her without being a jerk about it, it’s impressive.

Show her confidence, and we mean the real type of confidence and not the one that makes you self-absorbed and narcissistic. [Read: How to express your opinions without appearing cocky]

7. Follow through when you say you’ll do something

Your ability to match your actions with your words is impressive to anyone. So if you want to know how to impress a girl, don’t make promises you can’t keep. If you say that you’re going to do this at a specific time, follow through with your words.

So when you actually call her when you say you’re going to call, she’ll be impressed and elated. So if you pick up her number and say you’ll call later – do it. Don’t leave her hanging; you’ll never hear from her again!

8. Communicate your feelings

It’s harder for men to open up about their feelings than it is for women. It’s as if they’re afraid they’ll break when they open up their emotions and become vulnerable to anyone.

So if you want to know how to impress a girl, communicate your feelings and don’t be afraid to show them. It shows a kind of maturity that’s rare to find, and girls like that. [Read: How to talk to girls and leave them swooning for more!]

9. Be clean

If you want to know how to impress a girl, keep your car clean, your home clean, and yourself clean. Always be freshly shaven, groomed, and proper. You should also always wear clean clothes and smell immaculate. All of these in combination will impress a girl.

Hygiene and cleanliness are everything when it comes to impressing the girl you like. This is the one aspect you can’t sacrifice at all costs.

10. Be chivalrous

In a society that has somewhat forgotten about chivalry, opening a car door, holding the door open as you step inside, and even holding an umbrella over you when it rains are all things that score you major bonus points.

Chivalry is everything when you want to know how to impress a girl as it gives her an insight on how you’re going to treat her once you end up dating. Show her that chivalry isn’t dead, and you’ll win her heart and soul. [Read: How to be chivalrous – The art of modern chivalry]

11. Be interested in what her friends are talking about

When you’re around her and her friends, your willingness to join in the conversation and socialize is impressive to a girl. It means you know how to hold a conversation with others and blend in, even with people you barely know. Her friends mean the world to her so the fact that you’re willing to join along with her friends is everything to her.

If you still have your main attention on her, but you can butt into the conversation and carry it on your own without her help – that’s admirable. [Read: How to win over her friends and win the girl’s heart]

12. Don’t answer your phone when you’re with her

There’s nothing more annoying than a guy who constantly checks his phone when they’re with you, making you feel ignored and disregarded. It’s annoying and disrespectful, at all costs. Ignoring your phone when you’re with her will earn you a lot of credit with her.

It’s impressive because it’s difficult to put it down when the world is running on technology. Girls appreciate that. Not constantly checking your phone every 5 minutes will make her feel loved and acknowledged. [Read: 15 cell phone rules every couple has to follow to build real trust]

13. Always ask follow up questions – bonus points if you stump her

When you’re asking her about her life, hobbies, jobs, etc., always ask some follow-up questions to her answers. Not only does it prove you’re paying attention, but we’re impressed by your ability to come back wanting to hear more about it.

Asking her questions makes her feel you were actually listening to what she’s saying, and you’re engaged in the conversation. If you want to know how to impress a girl, then ask her questions *relevant ones, of course.* [Read: How to talk to your crush and make her fall for you instead]

14. Compliment her on something other than her appearance

Believe it or not, girls aren’t all that superficial. We don’t always appreciate it when guys focus on our physical attributes. So if you want to know how to impress a girl, give her a unique compliment. Tell her you admire how her mind words or how her kindness shines out of her.

These are genuine compliments that’ll absolutely make her day.  So dig deeper than just her appearance. Find out what she’s good at and compliment her. [Read: 19 compliments for girls that’ll definitely make them go awww]

15. Notice the little things

As we said, it’s not always about grand gestures and the big things, but it means a lot to girls when you notice even the small things. It earns you major bonus points if you notice that she just got her nails done, bought new perfume, or changed up hot eye makeup for that day.

Make sure to really observe these changes and tell her that you’ve noticed them if you want to learn how to impress a girl. [Read: 50 cute and sexy things guys do that girls just love]

16. Show your ambitious side

If there’s anything attractive on a guy, it’s when they have ambitions and goals and actively go after them. So if you know what you want in terms of your career path and life purpose, don’t hesitate to show them.

This will give her the impression that you’re someone who has confidence in their abilities and skills and doesn’t hesitate to go after what they want. It’s always a sexy look on a guy when they’re not just a go-with-the-flow type of guy with their goals, but they’re determined to go after them.

17. Have emotional and mental maturity

It’s rare to find a guy who has emotional and mental maturity. So if you want to know how to impress a girl, showing her your maturity is one way to do that. [Read: Signs of emotional maturity: 20 traits to look for in someone]

Don’t be afraid of emotions, don’t shy away from conflict, and don’t be passive-aggressive when you don’t get what you want in life. These are just some of the many examples of what you should avoid to be emotionally and mentally mature.

18. Don’t get her into bed right away

Again, women aren’t that obsessed with sex as you might think. They’re naturally led by emotions, which means they’d appreciate it if you first develop emotional and mental intimacy before jumping them into bed.

If you want to learn how to impress a girl, connect with her on a deeper level than just the physical aspects – that’s how you get a girl. In other words, don’t be too fast in showing her your intention to get her into bed. It could give her the perception that it’s all you’re after.

19. Have a sense of humor

Do you really want to know the secret on how to impress a girl? It’s all about the charm of making her laugh and having a sense of humor. Everyone has a sense of humor; it’s just a matter of finding yours.

If it’s sarcasm, then why not use that to your advantage and make her laugh? They say that once you make a girl laugh, her heart is a step closer to being yours. [Read: How to make someone laugh when they’re down & lighten their burden]

20. Don’t play mind games with her

If you want to ruin your chances altogether with the girl you like, then by all means, play mind games and confuse her more. Many women will tell you how sick they are of guys who find it amusing to play all kinds of mind games with them. So if you really want to know how to impress a girl, just be honest and real with her.

Stop with rules like calling her only after three days and never being the one to initiate first. Mind games are never the way to impress a girl. If anything, that’s the fastest way to turn her off and avoid you altogether. You’ll act like a complete jerk by acting this way.

21. Dress up nicely

Just because girls aren’t superficial doesn’t mean you can’t look nice and dress nice. It’s bonus points if a guy knows how to look presentable and appear pleasing to the eyes. So go on, put on your A-game with your outfits, and wear your best clothes.

But remember, don’t try too hard as it might just make you look uncomfortable and awkward. Dress nicely, but still be yourself.

[Read: How to make someone like you: 25 ways to draw anyone to you]

So, how to impress a girl?

You can impress a girl with any of these 20 tips mentioned above. However, the most crucial is still to be yourself. It doesn’t matter how nice you dress and how many acts of kindness you show if it’s obvious you’re just trying to put up a front for her to like you. She needs to feel like you’re being your raw and authentic self if you want to impress her.

Knowing how to impress a girl has a lot more to do with your intentions than it does anything else. It’s all about who you really are and avoiding playing games with her.

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Annabel Rodgers
Annabel is a lifestyle writer, cheese enthusiast (Wisconsin native over here) and fantasy adventure author-in-progress who enjoys all things love, dog,...