The best way to warm a girl up to your touch on a first date is by using a two part strategy.
Of course, you can skip one part if you want to. But using the two part date approach can help you build the momentum for something more than just a touch.
And don’t all men love happy surprises at the end of a date?!
Planning a two part date
Plan a dinner date, and follow it up with a walk or another stop for dessert. That gives you enough time to warm her up and take a few chances without ever seeming desperate.
Picking the restaurant
Picking a date restaurant isn’t just about good food. Choose a restaurant where you can sit next to her, at right angles. Avoid restaurants where you have to sit facing each other unless you have no choice. [Read: How to pick a date restaurant]
A romantic setting with small cozy tables is just perfect for a date. It can help you touch her easily, and get the right buzz going. Learning to pick a good date restaurant that gets both of you in a romantic mood and spares plenty of time in between each course is half the job done.
At the restaurant
Have a pleasant conversation and don’t try thinking of ways to touch her just yet. Instead, just lean in occasionally and get closer to her while talking about something. At times, soften your tone to a whisper so she’s forced to come closer to hear you.
As you get the conversation going, if she leans in towards you or you find her smiling back a lot, you’re ready for the next step. [Read: How to be a good date all the time]
Warm her up with your conversations
There’s nothing better than happy, flirty conversations to ensure that she has a great time with you. And during the middle of the conversation, place your hand on the table “absentmindedly”. Does she reciprocate your move now and then by placing her own hand on the table?
Placing your hand on the table lets her know that you’re reaching out to her. If she does the same, she’s obviously excited for a hopeful touch too!
Discreet accidental touches
Discreet touches can be a huge sexual turn on if it’s done the right way. Slide your feet towards her very slowly until you almost touch her feet. Discreetly try to get as close to her as possible without actually touching her or making her feel awkward.
And if your foot is able to make the slightest of body contact with her feet, stop squirming and see if she takes her foot back. The smallest of bodily contact is always more exciting than an obvious move. Take your time and never rush through any of the steps. Remember, the more discreet you keep the touches and grazes, the more you’ll build the sexual tension. [Read: Tips on using the sneaky flirty touch]
Use your hands
Once you’re halfway through the date and find that she’s enjoying your touches and the happy conversations, touch her now and then. Place your hands on her palm while emphasizing a point or complimenting her. It makes everything about the date so much more genuine and intimate.
Use corny lines if you have to
Corny lines always work, even if it’s rather obvious. Tell her you know how to read palms, and reach out for her hand. Tell her she has nice earrings, and reach out to delicately touch her ears. Tell her she has a nice ring… or a bracelet. Find anything on her that you can compliment and use the excuse to touch her. Just stay away from her girly parts though! [Read: How to compliment a girl the nice way]
Don’t molest her with your touches
Just because you have an excuse to touch her doesn’t mean you should constantly touch her. Touch her a few times on the date, but don’t ever overdo it, especially if she’s not reciprocating your move. Build the sexual tension with the little discreet touches and it’ll do all the magic.
And always remember this. Touch her a few times, she’ll crave for your touch. Touch her too often, and she’ll think you’re a creepy pervert.
The second part of the strategy – After the restaurant
If you’ve built enough chemistry in the restaurant, she’d be eager to spend a while with you. Take a walk with her or plan a drive to another restaurant for dessert.
You may have worked your magic at the restaurant, but there’s no way you can get touchy feely with her even if you’ve aroused her enough to want to kiss you right there.
You need an excuse to find a quiet spot for some touching time. And that’s where a walk or a trip back to the car to drive to another restaurant can make all the difference.
Walking out of the restaurant
As you walk out of the restaurant, allow her to lead ahead. And while you’re standing by her side, place your hand on her back. It’s what a gentleman does, and she really shouldn’t mind it. And hey, you’ve got a great excuse to actually touch her too!
Taking a walk together
After stepping out of the restaurant, it’s time to push your luck again. As you walk down to another restaurant or to your car, come closer to her and somewhere in the middle of a conversation, place your hand around her waist without making it seem like a big deal.
If she snuggles closer to you, yeah, two thumbs up!
If she stiffens up or acts awkward, take your hand off her slowly like you didn’t realize that something awkward just happened. Acknowledging an awkward moment only makes things more awkward. But if you’ve worked on the sexual attraction in the restaurant, there’s no way she’d move away from you!
Find a lonely spot
As you’re walking down the street, try to find a lonely path that’s not too crowded. If you’re walking back to your car, that’s just perfect because there’s nothing more private than a car on a first date.
Touch her again
As you get into the car, hold her palms or touch her shoulder, and tell her you’re having a great time. Use the excuse of touching her shoulder to compliment her again, either about her soft skin or the smooth fabric of her dress. Tell her how soft it feels, but never rush this, because you really need to make her feel comfortable to your touch. [Read: The best things to talk about on a first date]
Talk softly in a low tone
Don’t start your car just yet. Talk to her. And talk softly in your deep manly voice!
Tell her about how wonderful a time you’re having with her, and all the other nice things in the world. Stall the moment and build the love.
Making a bold move
Gently stroke her cheek once and rest your hand on her cheek as you tell her you’re really happy to have met her. Do it only if you feel like the moment’s right. If she reciprocates by coming closer or touching you back, what are you waiting for? Kiss her cheek or go closer and wait for a kiss. [Read: First date kiss gone bad story]
On the other hand, if she blushes and doesn’t really do anything back after you touch her cheek, gently take your hand away and start the car. It’s time for dessert and a second round of warming her up all over again.
It doesn’t matter if she reciprocates after dinner or after dessert. You’d be able to warm her up and ensure that you build the romantic connection anyways. But always remember to never overdo your flirty touches, especially if she doesn’t reciprocate your moves.
Understanding how to touch a girl and build the sexual tension at the same time can be a breeze if you play it safe and slow. But always wait for her to reciprocate before making the next move. Click here to read about how to make out with a girl on a first date.