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30 Alpha Male Characteristics That Make You a Real Alpha

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Every guy wants to be the alpha. Read these 30 good and bad alpha male characteristics and find out if you have these traits of an alpha male in you.

There are different kinds of men in the world.

But the alpha male always stands outside and above the rest of them.

So why is an alpha male so enigmatic and yet, so elusive?

All guys dream of being an alpha, but hardly a few actually have the traits it takes to be him.

[Read: What it takes to be a real man the way he should be]

Who is the alpha male?

In the animal kingdom, the alpha male of a pack is the one with the most brute strength and courage.

But in a man’s world, an alpha male is more than just that.

To put it simply, an alpha male is a man who wants to survive more than anyone else.

He wants to lead life to the fullest, and achieve all that he hopes to achieve.

But that doesn’t mean he’ll survive better than anyone else or achieve more than anyone else.

Evolution’s lessons for the mortal men

If there’s one thing evolution has taught us, it’s a life saving lesson on how to be cowards. [Read: Do girls like shy guys who don’t make a bold move?]

The instinct to hold on to stability in our lives is the one thing that keeps all males safe and sound, even if they lead simpler lives. And that’s the one primal instinct an alpha male doesn’t know!

And that’s also the biggest alpha male characteristic. He doesn’t know how to survive, he only know how to live.

The 20 characteristics of an alpha male

Every guy can’t be an alpha male even if he tries. It takes more than a lesson on life skills to become that guy.

It’s true, an alpha male can get the girl he wants if he pursues her because girls are somehow fascinated by reckless men. But do you really want to be that guy? [Read: Things that turn a girl on sexually about a guy]

Use these 20 characteristics of an alpha male to find out if you’ve got that reckless maniac in you.

#1 Strength. An alpha male is strong. If he doesn’t have brute strength, he has loads of mental strength to think under pressure.

#2 A leader. An alpha male is always a leader. He doesn’t try to be one, he instinctively takes the lead when the circumstances arrive his way.

#3 Will to win. He has the will to win, and will do anything it takes as long as he gets what he wants. He always tries to be the last man standing.

#4 Ambitious. He’s a dreamer and is full of ambitions. He doesn’t think small, and is full of ideas that other people haven’t begun to comprehend.

#5 Competitive. An alpha male is extremely competitive, and takes immense pleasure in winning over his rivals.

#6 Charismatic. He’s charismatic, but not necessarily charming. He inspires everyone around him and awes people through his dreams and ideas. [Read: How to charm a girl and flatter her into liking you]

#7 Challenging. He doesn’t shy away from challenges. In fact, he always goes looking for challenges.

#8 Confident. An alpha male doesn’t mind silence in a conversation because he’s not nervous. He’s extremely confident and doesn’t need anyone else’s approval for anything.

#9 Rule breaker. He doesn’t follow rules and he paves his own path whenever he sees an opportunity. Almost always, he makes his own fortune using his own means.

#10 Inspiration. An alpha male inspires others, and almost all men he meets want to be more like him. He’s a role model, and all guys either hate him or envy him.

#11 Ingenuity. He’s smart, be it street smart or book smart.

#12 Optimistic. Optimism oozes out of every orifice of his. He’s extremely optimistic and is always convinced that what he’s doing is the right thing and the right way.

#13 Protective instinct. His protective instinct is always on. He’s alert and aware of what’s going on around him all the time. [Read: The right way to deal with your girl’s angry ex boyfriend]

#14 Calculative. An alpha male knows his plans. He knows what he’s doing, and approaches his goals with a reckless and yet, calculative mind.

#15 Egotism. His ego is unaffected by the opinion of others. He doesn’t care what other people think of him because he thinks he’s above mere mortals.

#16 He draws people. Every other guy and girl wants to be around him. He draws people with his ideas and his visions, or with his dreams.

#17 Risk taker. What others would call mad recklessness, he calls it his life. An alpha male loves taking risks, especially when he believes that it would work in his favor.

#18 Focus. An alpha male is very focused with his ideas. His determination pushes him through adversities.

#19 He creates his destiny. An alpha male writes his own fate. He doesn’t believe in fate and has a high internal locus of control. He believes that any events in his life are a result of his own actions.

#20 He’s dependable. An alpha male is a solution finder. He’s dependable and a workhorse, and won’t rest until he’s convinced he has what he needs. [Read: 15 reasons why nice guys finish last all the time]

The 10 dark traits of an alpha male

An alpha male does have a lot of fascinating and impressive positive traits. And that’s what makes him so desired and awed. But as with anything that has an extremely positive side, there’s also a negative and dark side.

Read these 10 dark characteristics of an alpha male to find out more about the dark side of an alpha mind.

#1 Arrogance. With a lot of confidence, unfortunately, comes arrogance. Alpha males are very arrogant, even if they don’t reveal this trait to the rest of the world. [Read: 10 biggest dating turn offs for girls]

#2 Intense rivalry. The will to win of an alpha male almost always turns into rivalry. Like in a death match, an alpha male takes all pitfalls and challenges personally, and that can cloud his better judgment.

#3 Perfectionist. An alpha male is a perfectionist and ends up demanding perfection from everyone around him. He can be very unforgiving when others around him don’t match up to his level of perfection.

#4 Bullheaded. He can be very stubborn when he truly believes in something, even if he’s completely wrong.

#5 Perseverance. He doesn’t know when to stop pursuing something because he’s so overly confident about his own abilities. He may achieve what he wants, but the journey may drain him. [Read: How to get a girl to notice you without even talking to her]

#6 Ruthlessness. Anything that comes in the way of an alpha male’s pursuit, he tries to eliminate it.

#7 Recklessness. His desire to win may be so intense, that he may end up turning himself into a reckless madman who doesn’t weigh the odds before doing something.

#8 Dominating. Alpha males can be very dominating, to the point where others could fear him or get frustrated with his behavior. [Read: 13 annoying boyfriend traits and how to avoid them]

#9 Apologies. An alpha male is unapologetic if he assumes he’s right.

#10 Pressure. He thrives under pressure and loves it. Even if it takes a toll on his health or the wellbeing of others around him, he continues to live life on the edge.

[Read: 15 things girls look for in a guy to fall for him]

As awesome as an alpha male may seem, it’s not something all men can be. You now know the real alpha male characteristics, so what do you think? Do you have the alpha male in you?

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3 thoughts on “30 Alpha Male Characteristics That Make You a Real Alpha”

  1. Truth says:

    DANG!!! This is me to the “T”….interesting though, but nothing to get overly excited about nor down about.. “Either you’re with me, or you’re against me”..

  2. Nic says:

    I often laugh in the faces of those deemed “alpha male” due to the fact they try their best to dominate me and my surroundings. Having my degree in Psychology and studying people and their personalities for years, I agree your list is correct with the exception of carrying intelligence. More often than not, alpha males are either controlling or having an inferior intelligence. Studies have proven this time and time, again. When you can not or will not focus on others besides yourself, you’re displaying behavior that is simply put, primative.

  3. Adrian says:

    This type of personality sounds somewhat psychotic and narcissistic. It sounds like the type of guy that controls others and cannot accept responsibility for his mistakes. Girls fall in love with THAT??? No wonder they end up in so many abusive relationships.

  4. ck says:

    I won’t lie. I carry all these traits and a few more. I do agree it’s more primative, but that’s why it’s so addicting. It doesn’t mean your stupid. I consider myself fairly intelligent, but I don’t feel the need to prove that to people. Maybe it is psychotic lol. I myself am both a sadist and masochist. Some would call me crazy. I guess a big difference between the guys you consider alphas and my definition is that an alpha doesn’t need to put others down to prove him self or feel on control. He’s in control of himself

  5. sxyconfidentwym says:

    I have worked for a guy like this before and I must say he was the worst person I ever met in my entire life and I have never ran fast out of a job as quickly as when I found out he was my line manager. When I working for him he lacked basic human skills like genuine respect and appreciation for others talents but he thought he was never in the wrong only everyone else. Stop thinking women love alphas because it’s simply not true I would never approach one to date let alone speak to infact when I working for him he took things personally e.g. I am a focused person and so I prefer to just start working but he was all like you need to pay attention to me and started lecturing me about respecting people I wanted to kill him.
    I found alpha males very unattractive there are far better handsome men than that guy in the picture my boss looked a lot like him but is indian but the features are all the same. He was just so full of himself and he was ugly as well anyway I’m happy I can pull a far better man that any nasty pretentious alpha male.

  6. Rose says:

    Booo to them if they can’t say sorry! All the ‘alphaism’ goes down the drain if they don’t have the dignity, humbleness and respect to others to apologise. That itself invalidates all their good traits if arrogance is present, even if hidden under a friendly and sweet fa

  7. Amanda says:

    Alphas are only good to go to bed or for 5-month-flings. No girl with a brain would want to marry one of those.

  8. Jesse says:

    Amanda pretty much summed up the reason why nobody wants to be a beta. Who wants to get stuck with the girl after all the alphas tossed her around? No thanks.

  9. "T"ruth says:

    A lot of guys fake being alpha male. They believe that being alpha male means behaving in a certain fashion, so they go about imitating those behaviors. In fact, so many pansies are doing exactly that up to the point that women can’t tell who is faking and who is the natural alpha male. A lot of women will also deem total losers as alpha males, because the women are low class losers themselves, only they cannot admit the fact to themselves. Therefore, if the twenty nine year old guy they are screwing has a drug habit and a booze problem, no job and a bicycle instead of a car, then he is a reckless alpha male stud in their mind if they are worthless trash women.

  10. james says:

    is being good at playing poker an alpha trait? It’s the only thing I’m good at
    and I don’t mind doing. does alpha trait have to be physical?

  11. JamesWest says:

    This is MTV’s version of an alpha male. A real alpha male, of which I am, does admit when he’s wrong and does apologize. I was a Captain in the Army, and before that a SGT. The most admirable trait a leader can have is to show his troops he can make mistakes, and is thus a mortal. Which in turn gives them a leader to believe in. Yes to be an alpha you have to be the best. But that comes from a combination of genetics, talent and dedication, along with iron will…and experience.

  12. Young Buck says:

    Though all these traits are true to some degree again like before stated intelligence and stong intuition are needed in the list . A true Alpha doesn’t need to act out or show that he is an alpha he just simply is . In today’s day and age betas try to mimic an alpha form by putting others down and by being belligerent and attention seeking though really they are just a beta scared of the true alpha I am 19 years old and have confronted guys in their 20s 30s and 40s over this matter. A couple of times due to their lack of self control they loose it and try to compensate through a physical fight with me and of course I always win .

  13. Mel says:

    This list is not truly complete and actually not the true alpha traits. A true alpha male puts those he loves under his wing, he not only protects but he does what is best for his family. He is trustworthy, dependable and the leader of his close and extended family and friends alike. His mate feels protected, happy and healthy with her “alpha” because she doesn’t have to be a provider, protector or competitor, unless she wants to. And true alpha’s aren’t intimidated by ALPHA FEMALES, in fact, that’s what they crave. Which is why so many alpha men end up in unhappy relationships with weak women, divorced by middle aged, mostly because society has taught men that alpha females are undesirable or gay. VERY UNTRUE!! Typically they end up going back to the alpha females later in life, after child rearing, which is very sad indeed. A true alpha is very very hard to find because society has put a scarlet letter on strength, and leadership.

  14. Andy says:

    #15 – Egotism. The practice of thinking of oneself excessively because of an *undue* sense of self-importance. The operative word being undue. It doesn’t matter if you are an ‘alpha’ or ‘beta’, to think so highly of yourself that you exhibit egotism is to be flawed. The best people in this world can see outside themselves, empathize, understand their value relative to others, and incorporate this information to yield effective positive results for themselves. Simply possessing egotism should not be a measurement for identifying an alpha.

  15. Robert says:

    This defines omega, with some characteristics of alpha. The term reckless, is used loosely all over this article to convince omegas they are alpha. Western society has always favored omegas over alphas, because they are easier to control. The article contradicts itself constantly! Perfectionist/recklessness? This article is designed to gas up the competitive insecure omega… With some characteristics of alpha

  16. Gar says:

    I don’t want to control you; I control myself. No exceptions.
    I don’t want to hold you back; I want you to be the most powerful partner or adversary you can be.
    I never lose; I’m either up to the challenge, or learning what to do next time.
    I don’t respect women for being women. I don’t respect men for being men. I don’t respect you because of the color of your skin, or how many years its been since you were born. If I respect you, its because you’ve earned it from me, but I will be as polite to you, as you are to me, whether I respect you or not. Thats just business.
    I dont walk away from fights because “they’re not worth it”; I walk away because I’ve already won.
    I will never lie to someone I love, because I’m brave enough to say that I will be loyal no matter what the future holds.
    I’m not afraid, because I already learned that there will always be someone or something bigger then you, and there is no reason to worry about that.
    I don’t take anyones word as gospel, on anything.
    I always think before I act, but I never hold myself back when my heart tells me to jump right in.
    I believe your responsible for your safety, with no exceptions, but if I saw you attacked, id stand up for you under any circumstance.
    If you think I know what im talking about, I’ll teach you what I know, but if you don’t want to listen, ill do it all myself, and its all the same to me.
    If you cross me, I’ll maul you like wild animal because you’re not bad enough to **** with me, but if you act politely, I’ll treat you friendly and politely.
    I’m cocky, and sometimes arrogant, but im the first to congratulate you on your achievements, and the most likely to see your talents.
    I have my own ideas, and my beliefs aren’t usually popular, but you will never see my philosophy conflict with my actions. Now THAT’S what an alpha male looks like.

  17. Bella says:

    I agree, that is what a true alpha is. Unfortunately there are far too few; finding one is near impossible lol

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    Hey Bella do you wanna hook up honey write to me baby

  20. A man says:

    If you read these traits and try to be anything like this, you still have one flaw and that is you are not alpha, you are just following rules to seem alpha. To be alpha, you have to be alpha male from your own discovery of yourself. That includes disregarding everything this article tries to teach you, society tries to teach you and whatever your mother taught you. You will still attract a lot of good women by acting like alpha, but all you relationships will be flawed and will always end in a power struggle, because you will always try to prove that you are alpha.

    Rather realize you are alpha, see these traits as describing your own persona, instead of dictating to you. Be yourself, with flair and without fear of anything. And if you want to be even more alpha, disregard everything you just read and don’t take any advice. Even the part of not taking any advice, especially that part.

    Dammit, women want real men. Real men who lead real lives. Men who are, not men who try to be. But the woman that will stay with her man for eternity will be the one who believes in her man’s alpha state, even when he doesn’t seem to believe in himself. A real woman, who really loves, admires and believes in her man. Or not. A real woman follows her heart.

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