What Makes a Man Sexy: 15 Desirable Traits that Make You Hot AF

Sexy is in the eye of the beholder, that is why love is such a mystery. However, there are some agreed upon things for what makes a man sexy.

what makes a man sexy

Sexy is in the eyes of the beholder on an individual level. But, if you pick up any magazine or you watch any movie, some men just make the girls swoon. If you ask what makes a man sexy, the good news is if you weren’t gifted with the looks of an Adonis, it is the total package, not just the packaging.

The 15 attributes of what makes a man sexy

Many things make a man sexy, not just their outer shell. If you want to increase your sex factor, these are the things to increase your sex appeal. There are many components that make a man sexy.

#1 Their fitness level. Even if your face is mediocre, nature has programmed women to think strong and muscular is sexy. Even if you aren’t a bodybuilder, having a six pack on your stomach is much sexier than drinking one every night. Women think a guy who looks like he can kick anyone’s ass is sexy. [Read: The 20 rules to be the instant hot guy]

#2 Their charm. What makes a man sexy? Charm is definitely a big one on the list. Someone who knows how to talk to women, knows the right things to say, and makes them feel good about themselves, is definitely sexy. If you learn what makes women tick and have the charisma to talk their pants off, you don’t need the outside package. You are sexy to the mind and engage them right off the bat. [Read: 12 Prince Charming traits that make girls swoon]

#3 The way they dress. A guy who knows how to dress well is definitely sexy. There is an old saying that women dress for other women. We put on things that make other women envious. Men, well, they typically dress for comfort or budget.

If you want to up your sexy factor, start dressing like the guys you see in the bars who score. Find your own style and put some effort into it. You will be surprised at how sexy making an effort to look good can be.

#4 Power. Guys who wear uniforms, hold powerful positions, or have a command over those around them, are very sexy. There is a reason why presidents like Bill Clinton who, shall I dare say, is not very sexy, can get any girl he wants. He was the leader of the free world. Women find men in positions of status, prominence, or power, very sexy. [Read: 16 powerful secrets of self-improvement]

#5 Wealth. Yep, I hate to admit it, but there are women out there who find wealth to be very sexy. Someone who picks up the tab for the bar, wears an expensive suit, or drives a luxury car, can be very sexy to some women.

#6 Maturity. A mature guy is about the sexiest thing to a woman. Most guys *sorry, men* take a much longer time to grow up than women. That is why emotional maturity is so sexy to a woman. Putting their needs first, having a strong sense of self, and being self-assured, are all very, very sexy things.

#7 Smell good. Pheromones are real. There is nothing sexier than a guy who wears aftershave or a sexy cologne. Not many guys are very concerned about the smell factor, but they should be. Women go wild over a guy who smells good, trust me.

#8 Talent. Girls find a talented guy highly sexy. Whether you play the guitar, sing, or even play the harmonica, there is a reason why musicians always have all women swooning. It is because men with artistic talent reach our emotions, and we feel like they “talk to us.” That type of communication is highly sexy. [Read: 23 hacks to be a lot more attractive to women instantly]

#9 The ability to communicate. Different from maturity, although most men think that a girl likes the mysterious bad guy only, some find the ability to communicate highly sexy.

If you have emotional conversations and meet a girl’s needs by understanding and caring for her, that is super sexy. Not all guys relate, which women find frustrating. If you figure out how to communicate with girls on their level, we find your capabilities very sexy.

#10 Mystery. Being mysterious is sexy to a woman. When mysterious, we think you have depth, and there is more under the surface. Being mysterious doesn’t mean being a dick and closing yourself off. Instead keeping things under wraps and engaging by having more layers than what is on the surface.

#11 Bad boy persona. Women find the bad boy quality to be very sexy. Why? We are taught from a very young age to play nice, be good, and accommodating. The bad boy is the epitome of the opposite. He doesn’t play nice, he bunks the system, and he goes against the grain. All things we are conditioned not to do.

It is super fun to feel bad sometimes. The bad guy allows us to be the bad girl we always wanted to be. That is extremely sexy. [Read: The truth about why good girls like bad boys]

#12 Age. When a woman gets gray hair, she runs to the salon to have it colored. When a guy gets gray hair, he gets sexier. Why is that? Some women find that sexy because they see it as a sign of maturity and being wise. It is especially sexy for women who look for a daddy figure or someone who’s had enough of the games that younger guys play and look for someone who has been there, done that, and doesn’t want to play anymore.

#13 The way you move. What makes a man sexy? His moves! A guy who knows how to control his body out of bed is seen as someone who knows how to work it in bed. If you move well on the dance floor with rhythm, it signals to a woman that you probably know how to make the right moves behind the scenes. If you are not a great dancer, stay off the dance floor, because that isn’t sexy! [Read: 16 things all women look for in a man before falling for him]

#14 Eyes. Perhaps the sexiest thing on any guy is his eyes. Sometimes it is in the clarity and color, but most of the time it lies in what they tell you. Truly the window to the soul, a guy who looks you in the eye and speaks to you without saying a word, is seriously sexy. [Read: Subtle eye contact flirting moves that work]

#15 Motivation. There is nothing sexier than a guy who knows what he wants and will do what it takes to get there. It becomes increasingly difficult to find a guy who has a goal and is working toward it. If you are a go-getter, self-motivated, and highly energetic, that is a rare commodity and high on the sexy scale.

Being sexy isn’t all about looks, although they do come into play. Sexy is an entire package that tells a woman who you are and gives them a dream about what it would be like to be with you.

[Read: The 16 traits women instantly fall for in a guy]

Although chemistry is the ultimate guide to why people fall in love, if you want to know what makes a man sexy, build on what you have, find your niche, and be the sexiest you possible.

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Julie Keating

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