25 Most Common Dating Deal Breakers for Women Every Man Must Avoid

Ever wondered what puts off a girl and makes her lose interest in you? Here are 25 of the biggest dating deal breakers for women that can help you out!

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Expectations are a big part of the dating game. All of us have them. And as a guy, you probably have your own list of desires and likes that you’d want to see in the girl you date seriously. Have you ever wondered what makes a good guy a really great catch for any girl? It’s not easy to recognize common dating deal breakers for women, especially if it’s something you do subconsciously. And it’s even easier to focus on the wrong things, and wonder why your dates aren’t working the way you imagined it to be.

While physical attraction plays the biggest part in the game of attraction for a guy, there are a lot of other things that come to a girl’s mind when she wants to date a guy exclusively.

The ideal guy that all girls want

To really appeal to a girl and come across as the perfect knight in shining armor, it’s more often the little things that matter more than the big things that you think make a difference.

[Read: 12 Prince Charming traits that make every girl swoon]

Every girl wants a nice guy.

But beyond that, they want a man who can be more than just a friend. So all the nice guys who just got friendzoned, well, there’s a good reason why that happens to you all the time!

[Read: The real secret – Good guys vs. Bad boys and the kind of guys girls really like!]

Now you may assume you’re a great guy because you’ve followed all our pointers of being a great guy to the tee. But if you’re still having a hard time getting the girl of your dreams interested in you for a serious commitment, perhaps it isn’t the good but the bad you need to focus on, and get rid of!

25 biggest dating deal breakers for women

While there may be good qualities about you that make you a great boyfriend material, there could be a few traits of yours that could be putting off the girls you meet. [Read: 25 qualities that make a guy the perfect boyfriend material]

Here are 25 of the biggest dating deal breakers for women that could raise a red flag in your dating game, and make you appear less than appealing after a date or two.

And these deal breakers would probably hold true for you if you don’t have a hard time getting a girl interested in you, but are having a difficult time keeping her interested in you!

#1 Bad hygiene. If you’re ungroomed or just plain dirty, it’s obviously something no girl would want to put up with. What’s worse? Bad breath before a first kiss! Uggh!

#2 Braggart. Are you the cocky guy who loves talking about how awesome you are, without really having any proof to back up your achievements? Talking about your grand plans and sheer awesomeness is definitely good, but remember not to overdo it. [Read: 16 really important first date tips to charm a girl]

#3 Baggage. Do you have an eccentric lifestyle, messed up sleeping habits, or a weird family, perhaps? If there are some big issues that a girl has to deal with just to date you and talk to you, she may think you’re not worth the trouble.

#4 Player. Talking like a player may help you snag that first conversation with the girl of your dreams. But if you’re the kind of guy who just wants attention from every girl because you’re a serial cheater or a seasoned player, you’ll only find the girl who’s looking for a one night stand with you.

#5 OCD. Are you a control freak? Do you constantly check the lights or the car doors each time you lock them? Do you love doing things a particular way, and get annoyed if it’s done any other way? If you can’t keep your obsessiveness over wanting things a particular way, your cute habit would turn into a major annoyance to any girl in no time! [Read: 20 signs you’re a control freak and don’t even know it!]

#6 Male chauvinist. Do you think you’re a part of the elite breed because you’re a man? If you are disrespectful towards women, or even show a hint of male chauvinism by behaving like women are beneath you, you can kiss any self respecting girl’s backside goodbye!

#7 Ignorant and adamant. I’ve met a lot of guys who fall plump in this category. They argue on every point and don’t give up even if everyone around them knows this person is wrong.

If you’re the ignorant guy and believe you’re always right and that you win every argument all the time, chances are, people around you are giving up on the argument because they think they’re arguing with an idiot!

#8 Wandering eyes. No girl would ever, ever want to date a guy with a lecherous wandering guy. So if you catch yourself gleefully checking out another girl’s blouse or her short skirt in the middle of a date, brace yourself for a dirty stare or worse, the last goodbye. [Read: Men who stare at women and what women actually think of them]

#9 Cruelty. Some guys think they have a great sense of humor when they go picking on other people’s flaws. Perhaps, no one’s ever taught you manners, but that’s the residual trait of you being a bully during your formative years. If you are cruel and unkind to others around you, or if you take pleasure in others’ misfortunes or flaws, it’s a clear sign that you’re an unhealthy person to be around with.

#10 Extremely touchy. Good for you if you’ve snagged a smoking hot date, but try to keep it in your pants for the first hour or so, will you? If you try running your hands against her or try groping her discreetly even when she shows no sign of reciprocation, you’re probably making her cringe! [Read: 13 lusty signs of sexual attraction to watch out for before you touch her]

#11 The overly dominating male. Do you think being an alpha male directly translates into a grand display of domination and authority? You may assume that dominating and controlling behavior brings you respect, but in reality, it’ll make you look like an arrogant prick to any girl. [Read: 30 alpha male characteristics of a  real alpha]

#12 Unreliability. Would you call yourself a reliably and trustworthy person? If you don’t have respect for time, or can’t be trusted with the simplest of tasks, the girl you date may just find your childish behavior completely inappropriate for a long term relationship.

#13 Addictions. Are you guilty of harboring any uncontrollable addictions? If you’re one who’s addicted to something the girl you’re dating can’t understand or tolerate, it’ll definitely turn out to be a big deal breaker for her in the relationship.

#14 Selfish men. As subtle as a selfish guy may try to behave, it’s very easy for everyone else around him to see through his selfish attitude. So if you’re a guy who keeps only your own interests in mind before you do anything, be it plan a date or a day out, you’re risking the chance of losing a great girl even before both of you can get to know each other. [Read: 12 signs you’re being a selfish lover in the relationship]

#15 Possessive and jealous. Jealousy and possessiveness is cute in small measures. But an overdose of jealousy and insecurity is something that’ll push anyone away from you instead of bringing them closer to you. [Read: 17 signs you’re a jealous and possessive guy]

#16 Chivalry. While the lack of it may not be a deal breaker, chivalry can definitely be a bonus that can win you quick brownie points. On the other hand though, bad table manners and ungentlemanly behavior will surely be a big put off to any girl you date. [Read: Chivalry is dead because men are lazy]

#17 Clumsy guys. Clumsy and sluggish guys who can’t carry themselves with grace, and worse, don’t know where their body starts or ends while brushing across other people on the street are just a big put off for anyone, let alone the women they date.

#18 Full of yourself. Being confident about who you are is a trait that’s definitely seen in positive light. But if you’re arrogant and vain, conceited and full of yourself, to the point of annoyance, you’ll come across as a braggart and a bore to any girl you meet.

#19 Social filter. Do you blurt out any thought that comes to your mind without really thinking your thoughts through? Being vulgar and rude, and saying things without thinking may sound funny on the Family Guy, but it’s extremely unfunny and would make you seem like a nutter in real life. [Read: A guide to the right things to say to a girl to make her like you during a conversation]

#20 Clingy men. Some guys don’t understand the concept of space and distance between a couple. They’re extremely clingy from the word ‘hello’ and they just come across as creepy weirdos who need to get a life. [Read: 10 things a guy does that makes him a really creepy guy]

#21 Abusive men. Don’t ever abuse a girl. Period. Not emotionally, physically, or in any other manner. She will leave you eventually, however hard you try to hold her back.

#22 Opinionated men. Don’t be too opinionated and argumentative in your discussions with the girl you like. Communicating with a guy who only wants to convince everyone else that he’s right and the world is wrong, even if its for the most trivial of matters is something no one likes to indulge in. [Read: The 15 worst kinds of toxic relationships you could get into]

#23 Timid. Can you take a stand for the woman you love? Are you a man of principles? When you can stand up for the woman you love, and be her strength and support, she’ll only love you more for it. On the other hand, if you’re meek and timid, you’ll only embarrass her. [Read: 15 traits that make a guy a real man!]

#24 Compulsive liars. Nobody likes someone who lies through their teeth, especially if it’s something that comes naturally all the time. If the girl you want to date realizes that you’re a liar who finds an excuse to lie even when there’s absolutely no reason to, she’d always be suspicious of you no matter what you say or do. [Read: How to stop lying to yourself and the girl you like]

#25 Unemployed. This is touchy, but true. As much as all of us can pretend like we live in an ideal world where money doesn’t matter, you know it does. If you’re not focused in life or don’t have a serious job when everyone else knows exactly what they want out of life, it’s definitely going to impact the relationship negatively.

Do you have to change the person you really are?

Remember, a girl could still choose to date you even if several of these deal breakers are an ingrained part of who you are. But if she dates you, it’s probably because she sees something else in you that’s positive and outweighs the cons of these big deal breakers. [Read: 25 qualities in a guy that makes a girl find him sexy and desirable]

But in due course of time, she’ll start to see the real you. And in all probability, she won’t like the real you. And when she does tell you about the traits she dislikes, you’ll only assume she’s nagging you because that’s what women do!

[Read: 25 awesomely bad ways to be a total badass that all girls love!]

If you can take a few moments to understand these 25 biggest dating deal breakers for women, you won’t just be a gentleman and a better man, you’ll also have a woman in your arms who feels immensely lucky to have you! Now isn’t that worth the effort?

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Elizabeth Arthur
A mom of two who’s currently working on a novel, Elizabeth Arthur lives in Cornwall. And when she’s not chasing her boys around the house, she enjoys sittin...
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