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How to Build Sexual Tension to the Point Where It’s Out of Control

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Sexual tension can be exciting and sexy, and oh-so-much-fun as long as you know the rules. Find out how to build sexual tension with someone you like using these tips.

Sexual tension is a sexy thing.

It can make you feel good about yourself, can make life so much more exciting and can give you something to look forward to everyday.

Have you ever experienced sexual tension with a colleague at work?

Then you’d know just how exciting it feels to drive to work every morning.

No Monday blues, no sick leaves, nothing.

You’re just excited to see this person and enjoy the sexual tension.

[Read: 15 obvious flirting signs between a guy and a girl]

What is sexual tension?

Sexual tension is that fuzzy, sexual feeling that two people who are interested in each other feel when they’re in close proximity with each other.

It can go away after a while, or it can stay on forever.

Have you enjoyed a little flirty game with someone at work without really talking about it? That’s sexual tension.

You may not like this person romantically, but you still enjoy the racy tension that’s building up between the both of you.

Sexual tension is best experienced when the two involved people just enjoy the tension without asking each other out or talking about it in the open.

After all, if you do ask your flirty sexual tension friend out, you’re killing the sexual tension because you’ve now made it obvious that both of you share something sexual.

So if you want to just enjoy the sexual tension, don’t ever say it out. Well, unless you want to take it to the next level of sexual intimacy or romance.

How to build sexual tension

Do you share something flirty with a friend of the opposite sex?

Firstly, if you want to build sexual tension with a sexy friend, you need to know her already. If you don’t, find a way to get to know her better. [Read: How to get a girl to notice you without talking to her]

If you try building the sexual tension with a girl who doesn’t really like you, you may just end up creeping her out or making her hate even standing next to you. So play it safe, build the sexual tension and enjoy the playful secret flirting.

If you want to build a sexual connection without ever telling your friend that you’re interested in her, learn to build the sexual tension using these 10 bold and yet subtle ways.

#1 Sneaky eye contact. Make eye contact often. But don’t be obvious about it. Look at this friend you like, but just as she looks back at you, look away. When you’re trying to build sexual tension, it’s all about being discreet.

Even if you get caught looking, just smile at this girl and look away in a second. When you make someone wonder if you were actually looking at them, you’re making them think of you and wonder if you’ve got more than friends on your mind. [Read: 10 subtle eye contact flirting tips]

#2 Talk naughty. Talk naughty, but don’t get dirty. Whenever the opportunity arises, talk about something funny and yet sexy. If you can see a bit of her cleavage, look straight at it and look away in an obvious manner. She may immediately cover it up, but she’d know you noticed it. You can talk naughty or just use your gestures, as long as you get naughty with her.

#3 Compliment with a hint of sex. Does she look particularly good today? Compliment her and talk about how good her curves look. If you want to build the sexual tension, you need to let her know that you admire her sexually without ever telling her directly that you find her sexy. [Read: How to compliment a girl and make her blush]

#4 Get into her personal space. When two people like each other, there’s always sexual tension in the air. Stand really close to her, almost to the point of touching her when you get the opportunity. Standing in a crowded elevator? Talking together with a group of friends? Get really close to her.

#5 Lingering touches. Are you trying to point something out on her phone? Let your arm graze against hers for a few seconds while you’re at it. Are you crossing the street with her? Place your hand on her back. Look for opportunities to exchange lingering touches with her. It’s the easiest way to make her feel the tingle of sexual tension without ever making it obvious. And she’ll definitely enjoy it too. [Read: How to get a girl horny and wet just by sitting next to her]

#6 Show yourself off. Look for ways to show off your sexy assets, be it your charm or your physique. Now this will work only if she’s already sexually attracted to you, so make sure you’ve warmed her up first with the earlier moves.

Let her take a sneak peek of you in your bare minimum or perhaps, give her the opportunity to graze your package accidentally. Do anything that’ll make things more awkward. If there is indeed sexual tension between both of you, anything that increases awkwardness will definitely increase the sexual tension.

#7 Intense goodbyes. Whenever you’re about to say goodbye, make her feel like you don’t want to say goodbye at all. Don’t do this when there are others around though. Sexual tension should always be a well kept secret.

Every time you have to say goodbye to her, hug her but linger just a second more than normal. Delay the goodbye with some idle talk or just stare deeply into her eyes like you want to say something, but are holding the thought back. It’ll take the sexual tension to an all new high. [Read: 6 tips to kiss a friend accidentally and get away with it]

#8 Overdo the gestures. Hold her hands when you have the opportunity, but almost clasp it by slightly interlacing your fingers with hers. Kiss her on her cheeks while saying goodbye, but almost kiss her lips. Place your hand on the back while crossing the street, but get it almost near her butt. Whisper in her ears when you have to say something quietly, but let your lips graze her ears.

You get what I mean, don’t you? Use regular gestures and turn them into super sexy sexual tension builders.

#9 Back away when it’s coming out in the open. Sexual tension gets stronger when it’s kept a secret, even between you and your friend. Both of you may know it and feel the sexual tension, but it’s all good as long as it’s kept a secret. If you feel like there’s an opportunity to talk about it, back away from it. Well, unless you do want to get the sexual tension out in public and do something about it. The longer you keep the sexual tension a secret, the more you can build the sexual tension. [Read: How to get a girl to have sex with you in 10 steps]

#10 Act on it, but don’t overdo it. How far are you willing to take it? Now that you’ve built the sexual tension up, it has to go somewhere. Do you like this girl, or are you just terribly sexually attracted to her? If you’re going to constantly rouse the sexual tension between you and a friend, the bubble has to burst at some point. So what are you going to do, make out or get out?

[Read: 12 devious ways to see a friend naked]

You can either let the sexual tension simmer on a low flame and let it die down eventually. Or you can use these tips on building sexual tension and make out with her and have the wildest time ever.

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14 thoughts on “How to Build Sexual Tension to the Point Where It’s Out of Control”

  1. nori says:

    This sounds more like sexual harassment. I would not appreciate it if a guy acted like that.

  2. Jake says:

    Just because you don’t appreciate it doesn’t mean other women don’t. I’ve done the same type of thing with many girls and had some great times with them, they all seemed to love it.

  3. anna says:

    I agree, this advice is not good. I would find it offensive if a man went straight from glancing at me to “complimenting my curves”, unless we were in a swingers’ club or something. I think the best tactic for a man is to show interest in what a woman has to say (and genuinely engage in an interesting conversation), then take her away to speak privately, and very slowly move closer to her. Smile and be pleasant but not too cheery. If she likes you even a little that’s enough to build tension and keep her feeling safe enough in your company.

  4. thisguy says:

    It’s all about being subtle, so subtle that she almost doesn’t realize it, and then maybe use facial expressions, eg: wink, to help her understand the meaning of something.

  5. krenee says:

    Y’up, unless I am flirting with a guy and he clearly is ok, many things on here would be considered outright creepy and cause me to run away from the creep or tell him off. Even subtle this has to be mutual! If some guy complimented me in an even slightly sexual way, held my hand without my permission, was showing off his assets..like flexing biceps, complimented my figure, had a lingering touch… wow that is all the fastest way to scare a woman away and get her to think you are a creep. My boyfriend was a total gentleman for months and won my mind over and we are still crazy for each other. I feel for him because he didn’t act like a creep. This article was clearly written by a guy who doesn’t get women. This would have worked when I was 16!

  6. James L Russelled says:

    Some of these moves would certanly work if she already has an attraction towards you.Certanlyiif she looking to date or get down for a night. But there are some women who just don’t want to be touched until completely. confortable. The most absurd part of this entire article is that picture, what the heck is that guy doing in the restroom with his hands on her.If that’s happening than your definitly haveing sex soon.IE like 5 minutes…lulz

  7. Robert says:

    This article is great. It’s for someone that you already know, these are not pick up routines. Of course these tips work. Yeah, not so sure about the kissing of the ear, might work in a club with a drink or two, but I’d save that one till have more green lights. Good basic reminders of male stuff. Good tips.

  8. Thomas says:

    For everyone: if you don’t believe in yourself, have self respect, and have goals then you will keep on tearing your life down. I try to learn new things and step forward in life every day. Some people think old dogs can’t learn new tricks, but humans aren’t dogs. People are hard to figure out and your brain is more complicated than you think….so improve yourself and be proud of who you are, then better things will happen in life. Everyone likes a person who is confident. Stay positive and focus on what you’re doing at the time instead of thinking of other things. It will help you perform to the best of your ability.

  9. Henderson says:

    I think these will only work if you know that the girl feels the same way about you, if she isnt feeling you then these gestures might be really creepy and maybe even gross to her.

  10. someone says:

    Girls dont know what they want. They say they want nice guy but they reject nice guys and make “lets yust be friend” speach and they chase bad guys, maybe this work but most girls dont notice

  11. Nice Toast says:

    I find it rather absurd that so many of these commenters feel the need to say, “this only works if the girl’s interested!”

    GEE, REALLY? Thanks for the info, I was about to try these on the pastor’s wife!

    As much as we men enjoy being spoken down to, it’s a little insulting to act like we all just fell off the turnip truck. OBVIOUSLY, these only work in a situation where there’s mutual attraction. Come on now, you all act like a guy is going to print the article out and walk around with it in his pocket, using the advice here word-by-word on every woman he comes across.

    Is it possible some dude out there COULD do that? Sure it is. Would a guy who was that clueless and socially inept, be someone with deeper issues to deal with than an inability to talk to women? The question answers itself. Not to mention, with a guy like that, it really wouldn’t matter what he did. Those are the guys who give off that “creepy sadsack weirdo” vibe that women can smell from a mile away. But for men who actually leave the house on a regular basis, the kind of paranoia in this comment thread is completely unfounded. Just like “not every woman is the same,” not every man is an oblivious social outcast.

    And as for the ones who are in complete denial that any of this is true; spare us. Are you seriously implying that you can’t read between the lines here, and recognize how it relates to what happened in your own budding relationships? Please. It’s the same way with every single article written for a male audience, that talks about anything related to love, sex, or relationships. There’s always a peanut gallery saying “u sound like a rapist,” “women aren’t idiots, they can spot this crap,” “my boyfriend didn’t have to try any of this fancy flirting business, he just took me to the rec center and we played a game of Parcheesi.” And of course, God Forbid anyone should let my comment go unchallenged with accusations of being a jaded, lovelorn misogynist, who is also a virginal mama’s boy with a micropenis, and yet, paradoxically, is also probably a serial date rapist.

    Whatever. I’m sure someone will just have to say some retarded variant of “u mad bro?” I ain’t mad, though; not even close. I think it’s hilarious.

  12. alex says:

    This is the truth but always remember that if you see her giving signs of that’s weird to back off a bit and go back a step trust me it helps alot.

  13. Emma says:

    Use any of these on me and I will punch you.

  14. Metale Cechy says:

    Najwieksza porazka w zyciu czlowieka to rozziew pomiedzy tym, kim mlgl sie stac, a tym, kim stal sie w rzeczywistosci.- Ashley Montagu.

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