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How to Build Sexual Tension to the Point Where It’s Out of Control

Sexual tension can be exciting and sexy, and oh-so-much-fun as long as you know the rules. Find out how to build sexual tension with someone you like using these tips.

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Sexual tension is a sexy thing.

It can make you feel good about yourself, can make life so much more exciting and can give you something to look forward to everyday.

Have you ever experienced sexual tension with a colleague at work?

Then you’d know just how exciting it feels to drive to work every morning.

No Monday blues, no sick leaves, nothing.

You’re just excited to see this person and enjoy the sexual tension.

[Read: 15 obvious flirting signs between a guy and a girl]

What is sexual tension?

Sexual tension is that fuzzy, sexual feeling that two people who are interested in each other feel when they’re in close proximity with each other.

It can go away after a while, or it can stay on forever.

Have you enjoyed a little flirty game with someone at work without really talking about it? That’s sexual tension.

You may not like this person romantically, but you still enjoy the racy tension that’s building up between the both of you.

Sexual tension is best experienced when the two involved people just enjoy the tension without asking each other out or talking about it in the open.

After all, if you do ask your flirty sexual tension friend out, you’re killing the sexual tension because you’ve now made it obvious that both of you share something sexual.

So if you want to just enjoy the sexual tension, don’t ever say it out. Well, unless you want to take it to the next level of sexual intimacy or romance.

How to build sexual tension

Do you share something flirty with a friend of the opposite sex?

Firstly, if you want to build sexual tension with a sexy friend, you need to know her already. If you don’t, find a way to get to know her better. [Read: How to get a girl to notice you without talking to her]

If you try building the sexual tension with a girl who doesn’t really like you, you may just end up creeping her out or making her hate even standing next to you. So play it safe, build the sexual tension and enjoy the playful secret flirting.

If you want to build a sexual connection without ever telling your friend that you’re interested in her, learn to build the sexual tension using these 10 bold and yet subtle ways.

#1 Sneaky eye contact. Make eye contact often. But don’t be obvious about it. Look at this friend you like, but just as she looks back at you, look away. When you’re trying to build sexual tension, it’s all about being discreet.

Even if you get caught looking, just smile at this girl and look away in a second. When you make someone wonder if you were actually looking at them, you’re making them think of you and wonder if you’ve got more than friends on your mind. [Read: 10 subtle eye contact flirting tips]

#2 Talk naughty. Talk naughty, but don’t get dirty. Whenever the opportunity arises, talk about something funny and yet sexy. If you can see a bit of her cleavage, look straight at it and look away in an obvious manner. She may immediately cover it up, but she’d know you noticed it. You can talk naughty or just use your gestures, as long as you get naughty with her.

#3 Compliment with a hint of sex. Does she look particularly good today? Compliment her and talk about how good her curves look. If you want to build the sexual tension, you need to let her know that you admire her sexually without ever telling her directly that you find her sexy. [Read: How to compliment a girl and make her blush]

#4 Get into her personal space. When two people like each other, there’s always sexual tension in the air. Stand really close to her, almost to the point of touching her when you get the opportunity. Standing in a crowded elevator? Talking together with a group of friends? Get really close to her.

#5 Lingering touches. Are you trying to point something out on her phone? Let your arm graze against hers for a few seconds while you’re at it. Are you crossing the street with her? Place your hand on her back. Look for opportunities to exchange lingering touches with her. It’s the easiest way to make her feel the tingle of sexual tension without ever making it obvious. And she’ll definitely enjoy it too. [Read: How to get a girl horny and wet just by sitting next to her]

#6 Show yourself off. Look for ways to show off your sexy assets, be it your charm or your physique. Now this will work only if she’s already sexually attracted to you, so make sure you’ve warmed her up first with the earlier moves.

Let her take a sneak peek of you in your bare minimum or perhaps, give her the opportunity to graze your package accidentally. Do anything that’ll make things more awkward. If there is indeed sexual tension between both of you, anything that increases awkwardness will definitely increase the sexual tension.

#7 Intense goodbyes. Whenever you’re about to say goodbye, make her feel like you don’t want to say goodbye at all. Don’t do this when there are others around though. Sexual tension should always be a well kept secret.

Every time you have to say goodbye to her, hug her but linger just a second more than normal. Delay the goodbye with some idle talk or just stare deeply into her eyes like you want to say something, but are holding the thought back. It’ll take the sexual tension to an all new high. [Read: 6 tips to kiss a friend accidentally and get away with it]

#8 Overdo the gestures. Hold her hands when you have the opportunity, but almost clasp it by slightly interlacing your fingers with hers. Kiss her on her cheeks while saying goodbye, but almost kiss her lips. Place your hand on the back while crossing the street, but get it almost near her butt. Whisper in her ears when you have to say something quietly, but let your lips graze her ears.

You get what I mean, don’t you? Use regular gestures and turn them into super sexy sexual tension builders.

#9 Back away when it’s coming out in the open. Sexual tension gets stronger when it’s kept a secret, even between you and your friend. Both of you may know it and feel the sexual tension, but it’s all good as long as it’s kept a secret. If you feel like there’s an opportunity to talk about it, back away from it. Well, unless you do want to get the sexual tension out in public and do something about it. The longer you keep the sexual tension a secret, the more you can build the sexual tension. [Read: How to get a girl to have sex with you in 10 steps]

#10 Act on it, but don’t overdo it. How far are you willing to take it? Now that you’ve built the sexual tension up, it has to go somewhere. Do you like this girl, or are you just terribly sexually attracted to her? If you’re going to constantly rouse the sexual tension between you and a friend, the bubble has to burst at some point. So what are you going to do, make out or get out?

[Read: 12 devious ways to see a friend naked]

You can either let the sexual tension simmer on a low flame and let it die down eventually. Or you can use these tips on building sexual tension and make out with her and have the wildest time ever.

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