How to Seduce an Older Woman and Make Your Fantasy Come True

how to seduce an older woman

For many young men, one of their fantasies is learning how to seduce an older woman. Many don’t know how to do it, but it’s not as hard as you think it is.

If you’re a guy, you probably have a list of fantasies you want to check off the list. I get it. You think you’re the only ones with fantasies? Think again. Maybe you want to try a threesome, have sex in public, or try BDSM. These are all valid fantasies to try out and not that hard to achieve. Now, you probably also want to know how to seduce an older woman. This is where the term ‘MILF’ originated from, right?

I mean, there is probably one friend who has a hot mom. From then on, in the back of your mind, you dreamt about the day you’d seduce her. [Read: 21 smooth ways to bag yourself a sugar momma]

How to seduce an older woman

Now, if you want to seduce an older woman, it’s completely achievable. I know, you may be surprised, thinking you’d need a specific skill in order to do this, but really, it’s not like that at all.

Now, this doesn’t mean can hook up with every older woman you set your eyes on, come on, don’t get cocky. But, if you follow these tips, you’ll be able to work your magic and eventually seduce an older woman. It may take a couple tries, because, you know, practice makes perfect.

#1 Don’t think you’re smarter. Here’s the thing, when a guy seduces an older woman, they act cocky and know-it-all. It’s going to work for you. Don’t try to approach them like you’re an older guy because you’re not.

At the end of the day, you’re younger and they know it. So, yes, be confident but don’t act like you have the secrets of life in your hands. [Read: 13 reasons why you should go for a cougar]

#2 They’re not into games. I know you have a set of games that you pull out of your pocket when you want a girl, but it’s not going to work this time. These women have seen every game in the book. They’ve heard every line so whatever you plan, drop it. Though they do like being charmed and flirted with, as all women do, they’re not into mind games. Your games will backfire. [Read: How to stop playing relationship games]

#3 Don’t be too forward. Like I said before, older women don’t like games. But this doesn’t mean you walk up to them and ask them if they want to get laid. Though, you can be more direct to her in comparison to a younger woman. Just know there’s a difference between being forward and being rude. A big difference which may result in you getting what you want or not. 

#4 Show confidence. If you approach any woman, regardless of age, confidence is a very important factor in seduction. If you want to know how to seduce an older woman, you need to remember that she looks for a man who’s self-confident. Show her that you’re capable of handling her and the age difference isn’t an issue for you. She may like younger men, but she doesn’t want to hook up with someone who’s immature. This is when you show her you’re more than that through conversation and self-confidence.

#5 Don’t be a stage 5 clinger. Listen, this can be used for any woman, never mind her age. Show her that you’re independent and not needy. Being clingy isn’t appealing to women. Show her through actions and words that you’re an independent man. It’s okay to leave her at the bar for a little bit and then come back to her. She’ll be impressed that you’re not drooling beside her. [Read: 13 simple ways to be less clingy and avoid being a stage 5 clinger]

#6 Be honest. They know bullshit when they see it. Don’t manipulate her into sleeping with you or promise something you can’t keep. Tell her what you’re looking for, whether it’s just a hookup or a relationship. That way, you both know where it stands and what it is. It’s a win-win for both of you at the end.

#7 Vulnerability helps. Older women look for a connection when having sex. Of course, this doesn’t mean they want to be in a serious relationship with you but this does mean they want chemistry. See, they’re past the age of just having sex for the sake of it.

Instead, they want great sex and that means they’re looking for a spark. Be open and vulnerable with her. Have deep conversations, get to know each other, and create a connection.

#8 Be classy. Don’t post that you had sex with an older woman on your Facebook or make an Instagram story out of it. If you want a positive experience with an older woman, discretion goes a long way. They won’t brag about you to their friends because sex isn’t a big deal to them. If you feel the need to tell everyone about it, then it seems to me you’re still immature. [Read: 15 ways to court a woman like a classy gentleman]

#9 Learn from her. She has a couple years on you and this is a great advantage to you. You’ll learn a lot from her right from the second you speak to her. Take this as an opportunity to learn about yourself and gain more sexual experience. Though this may be a fantasy of yours, you’ll be able to become a better lover from it.

#10 Take charge. Yes, she may be older than you, but she’ll be mighty impressed if you take control of the situation. Be the one to kiss her, to ask her out, to make the first moves. Of course, she’ll have the final say in whether she wants to move forward or not, but the point is, you make the first step. If you’ve made it this far, she’ll be expecting you to know what you’re doing.

#11 Expect her to be experienced. Don’t be shocked at the level of her experience. Of course, she has experience, she’s older than you. She’ll most likely be more relaxed and confident in bed.

This may intimidate you in the beginning but what did you expect? She has more life experience than you, so this is what comes with the territory. Does that mean you’re not going to satisfy her? Of course not. [Read: How to get a girl horny and wet by sitting next to her]

#12 Keep the love alive. Naturally, this depends on what you two agreed on, whether it’s just sex or something more serious. But if it’s heading down into a relationship, then in order to seduce an older woman you need to keep the romance alive. Treat her like you would any other woman. She likes to be treated, complimented and given attention.

[Read: Your personal, no-fail guide to picking up a MILF]

So, still thinking about seducing her? For many men, this is a huge fantasy. If you still want to make your fantasy come true, use these tips for how to seduce an older woman.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic
A serial dater, Natasha Ivanovic knows a thing or two about men and the dating scene. Much of her writing is inspired by her encounters with men - and for good ...
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