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Fractionation Seduction: How Men Seduce Women Using Emotions

You might have heard some whispers about a technique to seduce women. We found out that it’s called fractionation seduction—here’s how it works.


What is Fractionation?

It is said that fractionation is the process of seducing a woman using psychological techniques. Fractionation is a technique invented by Neuro Linguistic Programming expert, John Grinder, and renowned psychologist, Carl Jung.

And the seduction part was developed by different “experts” on women, like Neil Strauss and Derek Rake.
The concept of fractionation seduction takes advantage of information gained from advanced human psychology and hypnosis. Using fractionation techniques, it is believed that a man can seduce a woman within minutes of meeting her. Not many people know the secrets to fractionation seduction, but it is gaining ground within the spheres that are actively searching for the effective formula that will help men attract women.

Now that we’ve given you an idea of what it is, it begs the questions, “Is it effective? Is it useful? Is it worth a try? Or is it something that should best be left as a study instrument, as opposed to a tool that can lure women into men’s arms?” [Read: How to think like a woman and get the girl]

How is it done?

To put it simply, fractionation uses neuro-linguistic programming routines and emotional triggers in order to develop a strong emotional rapport with women. That doesn’t sound simple at all, but read on, and we’ll elaborate.

The purpose of this process is to trigger a mini emotional roller coaster that will confuse her emotions toward you. This seems as if it’s in line with the process of seduction, considering that the mess of emotions will prevent a woman from making an unbiased decision about how she truly feels about you.

The technique itself is so subtle that a woman won’t realize it’s being used on her, unless she is looking out for it.

[Try: How to get a girl to like you]

How to use fractionation seduction

#1 Grab her attention. The experts who developed fractionation seduction start out their lessons with a few tips on how to get women interested. One method is by peacocking, which is done by wearing extremely eye-catching outfits or pieces of clothing, like a red shirt, a cowboy hat, or even an overly elaborate suit.

Another method is called negging. This is when a guy points out something negative about a girl and irks her into starting a discussion about it. It is highly recommended that the statement you use is not extremely offensive.

Lastly, you can grab her attention by starting a conversation, then bowing out before it gets too deep. After a while, you can resume the conversation and let it last a bit longer. This push and pull method will keep her on her toes and increase her curiosity about you.

#2 Develop a minor level of trust between you and the woman you want to seduce by letting her get to know you better. Once a woman shows interest and is engaging you in conversation, tell her something personal about yourself. Better yet, tell her a secret. Studies suggest that people who share personal information are more attractive to their counterparts. [Check out: 40 first date questions to have a great conversation]

#3 Incite positive feelings by asking her to recall an experience that made her feel ecstatic or happy. As the conversation deepens, you can look for an opportunity to ask the girl about a moment that will elicit feelings of joy, ecstasy, or any other positive feeling. Let her talk about it in detail before moving on to the next phase.

#4 Incite negative feelings by asking her to recall an experience that made her feel depressed or scared. After she discusses her happy moment, you can introduce a sadder topic into the mix. Open up about something random that most people get sad about, like a traumatic breakup. If you’re willing to push boundaries, you can open up about a relative or pet that recently died. If that doesn’t work, you can discuss something that makes you angry–say a political stance you both agree on–or some disturbing news.

#5 Repeat steps 3 and 4 twice. Transition from these topics at least twice by telling your partner that the sad topic is too serious for the moment. After a happier topic, you can transition to another sad topic again. [Want to bring up a lost love as part of step 4? Try: How to talk about a past relationship with your partner]

What is the purpose of the steps outlined above?

Fractionation seduction is a type of hypnosis technique that pushes a person to feel a whirlwind of emotions in a short amount of time. The emotional rollercoaster a woman experiences in the scenario above is the significant catalyst of the whole method.

Women feel more attracted to a person they feel they can connect with. Because the woman shared her happiest moments and her most vulnerable ones with you, she will start to consider you a confidant. The strong emotions that you elicited from the exercise serves as a connection she can draw from.

The conversation also leaves a permanent impression on the woman you like, because it wasn’t shallow. Even though many people have conversations just like that, it’s always different, because no two stories are alike. You become someone special to this woman, and this paves the way for you to move forward with your budding relationship. [Looking to take it a step further? Read: How to create sexual chemistry and make it stay]

How effective is it?

Those who promote fractionation say that the method will work as quickly as 15 minutes, but that isn’t exactly true. Sometimes, it won’t work as quickly as that, because each person approaches the method differently.

Following the steps is not worth much, unless you are experienced in flirting, talking, and exuding confidence.
If you don’t succeed in any of the steps, the whole concept of fractionation won’t work. The margin of error is so wide that most people who try it without practicing will fail. You could turn off a woman because the methods you chose for step 1 didn’t work. You could make her uncomfortable from asking too many personal questions. Worst of all, you could offend her if you don’t approach the conversation with tact and sensitivity. [Try: 20 questions to ask her to show your sensitive side]

In order for fractionation seduction to work, a person must be confident and eloquent enough to pull it off. Appearances may matter up to a point, but the whole concept of fractionation relies on how well a man can steer a conversation to the topics he wants.

For those who want to try fractionation, it would be a good idea to practice talking to your friends and let them judge how well you’re doing. Practice in front of a mirror, with your grocery cashier, and even with your boss—that’s just as difficult as talking to a woman, anyway, right?

If you succeed, you are well on your way to getting the girl of your dreams. If not, you can always learn from your mistakes and try again. Just make sure that you use fractionation seduction responsibly. Never use it to take advantage of someone, and always make sure that you express your intentions clearly.

[Next, read: How to woo a girl and make her fall for you]

Are you ready to use fractionation seduction on your next night out? Try out these steps and see how well you connect with the woman of your dreams.

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