How to Grind with a Guy Sexily and Discreetly

Want to know how to grind with a guy and make him wet his shorts at the same time? Here’s a discreet guide to do just that without making it obvious.

how to grind with a guy

Whenever we think of the art of grinding, we usually associate it with adolescents.

But in reality, it’s something that all of us use all the time.

As a girl, there’s a thin line between being classy and being crass.

Of course, you can grind with any guy you like, but will that lead to anything better than a one night stand?

[Read: Tips to hook up with a guy the right way]

If you want to grind with a guy and look good while doing it, you need to know a few things to do it the right way.

And most importantly, never be too obvious when you’re trying to grind with a guy.

It’ll just make you seem too easy to get.

How to grind with a guy the right way

If you want to have a good time with a guy you meet at a club or anywhere else and still be respected and pursued by him, you need to learn to arouse a guy, and yet make it seem like it was him making all the moves all through the way.

[Read: Sexy tips to seduce a guy who’s not yours]

What is grinding really?

Now all of us do know this, but for the uninitiated girls, grinding is the art of moving your butt around a guy’s crotch, especially while dancing with him. Sounds quite bold, yes, but it’s something that comes naturally between opposite sexes when they’re aroused by each other.

Many girls wonder about the right way to grind and look good while doing it. But understanding how to grind with a guy needs no lessons. You can do it any way you like and the guy will still like you for it.

But what matters is how easy you’re going to play and give in to a guy’s crotch.

[Read: 20 sexy questions to ask a guy and seduce him]

How to grind with a guy and arouse him

If you want to know how to grind with a guy, arouse him, and still feel good about yourself, here are 10 tips that can make all the difference between a hard to get girl and an easy to get girl.

#1 Get a girlfriend to dance with you. Dancing alone makes the whole grinding game rather obvious. To start off, dance with your girlfriend and make it seem like you’re not really noticing any guy. Soon enough, you’ll have a few cute guys dancing around waiting for your attention. [Read: How to get any guy’s attention no matter where you are]

#2 Dance next to the guy you like. But don’t even bother looking at him just yet. Watch him from the corner of your eye and see if he’s been noticing you. Or if you want to grind with some guy who hasn’t noticed you yet, just move along on the dance floor until you’re close to him.

#3 Brushing time. Dance normally as you always do, but move really close to a guy you like and brush him with your butt *accidentally*. Don’t try to get his attention just yet and don’t make it seem like you’re desperate to dance with him by looking at him. Wait for him to do something or reciprocate. Right now, just make it seem like you’re dancing with your friend. But don’t stop the occasional butt brushing, let him feel your touch and want more of it.

#4 Touch him with your breasts. Grinding is the easy part. The tough part is to make it all seem discreet. As you’re dancing with your friend, move your shoulders around so your breast touches his arm now and them. Does he notice your accidental touch? Does he smile or does he move closer to you? If he notices it and tries to get your attention, flash a small cute smile back at him and let him know that you’ve noticed him. But don’t do it too obviously, and avoid letting him know that your touches were intentional. [Read: 25 tips to look really cute in front of a guy]

#5 Drop your hands. Keep your hands by your sides as you’re dancing and let it hover near his butt and legs. He’d obviously start moving about a lot more just to get more of your touches. Always keep your body or hands really close to a guy, but avoid making the first touch if you want to make him work for your attention.

#6 Dance by his side. Move along the dance floor so you’re dancing by his side. You don’t need to stand in front him to grind him just yet. Just build the sexual tension up by letting your hands and hips touch each other often. But as always, don’t give him too much attention just yet. Just have fun with your own friend who’s dancing with you. [Read: Why guys like a good chase]

#7 Let the fingers touch. Let your fingers touch his fingers as both of you dance beside each other. And when your fingers do touch his, don’t move them away but don’t do anything about it either. It’ll drive him crazy and all he’d want to do is clasp it. He may even try that!

#8 Step in front of him. Once you’ve had a lot of body touches going on and he’s constantly trying to look for ways to touch you, it’s time to get to the part where you grind with him. By teasing him long enough, you would be able to arouse him and make him work for your attention instead of being too easy to get which is always a good thing. It’ll make him want you more too!

Step in front of him and move your pelvis around so your butt is constantly touching his thigh. This will be his cue to come close behind you. If he’s shy, a few *accidental* touches on his crotch with your butt while dancing will definitely do the trick. [Read: How to talk to a guy and make him like you instantly]

#9 Move your butt around. Once he’s right behind you, get really close to him and press your butt gently against his crotch. Sway around and dance like you always do, but pay more attention to swaying your hips around so you can feel his pants tighten behind you.

#10 Drop your hands to the side. If the guy isn’t placing his hands on your hips already, drop your hands down or run it down your hips now and then as you sway your hips. Even better if you can get your hands to drop down and touch his fingers often. You’ll arouse him so much that all he’ll want to do is hold your hips or your hands and come even closer while you move your butt all over his crotch. And really, that’s all there is to grinding and making it seem like the guy is doing all the work!

While a club may be the best place to grind with a guy, you can also discreetly grind with a guy at concerts or even in crowded queues. It’s easy and fun, if you’re in the right mood! [Read: How to make out with a guy like a sex goddess]

Grinding tips to arouse a guy

If you’re grinding with a guy and want to turn him on a lot more, all you need to do is use these three little tips to drive him wild.

#1 Stand in front of him as you’re dancing. Raise one hand and place it behind his neck while grinding with him.

#2 Slip your thumb into his jeans or just under his belt when he’s behind you. Guide his hand to hold you around your waist or just under your breasts.

#3 Graze your butt against his crotch until you feel him harden up. Turn around and get your pelvis as close to him as you comfortably want to. [Read: 6 tips to get a guy to kiss you when you want him to]

Now that you know how to grind with a guy sexily and discreetly, try these moves the next time you’re out clubbing. Sometimes, making a guy think he’s working for your attention even if you liked him first can be so much fun.

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Jana Snow
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