How to Be a Freak in the Sheets without Being Creepy
Want to brush up on your teasing skills and drive him wild in the sack? Find out the most powerful sex secrets that will drive your man crazy in bed.
Yes, we all know that confidence, self-love, massages, and the occasional blowjobs are what every man wants. As a matter of fact, most women actually believe that by doing these things, they’ve got sexy down to a science. But the question is: do you have what it really takes to drive him loco? Can you really drive him wild in bed without making him think you’re some sort of nympho sex fiend?
There is a fine line between being a freak and a creep in the bedroom. I assure you that by the end of this feature, you will learn how to fill your relationship with intense sexual passion. You will also find out the most common moves most women do without knowing that they are crossing the line into crazytown.
How to drive him wild in bed, and when to hold back
Below are some of the tried and tested ways to give your man the most intense sexual experience he’s ever had, and along with it are some pointers for when you’re crossing the line.
#1 Break the routine. Are you open to new ideas? Well, you should be, because men love it when their woman is willing to try something new every now and then. I’m not saying you should go all 50 Shades of Gray, just practice an occasional change-up.
Think of it this way: You don’t want to eat at the same restaurant every day, right? You want to try new dishes and different flavors. The same goes with the sexual desire.
If you’re always doing the whole romantic lovemaking routine, try being bossy for a change. Your man wants you to tell him what to do. Don’t act like a sexual traffic cop, but guide him with one-word responses, sexy gestures of approval, or moaning sounds. He will go crazy!
Yes, I know, you two are all about sweetness, love, and romance, but right now I need you to be little dirty and rough. Fuel his dirty mind and be spontaneous! The novelty factor drives up the dopamine levels in his brain, thus, fueling his libido.
Want to go further? Please, please, please, try new positions! Nothing is naughtier than finding new positions and angles for you two to enjoy. You can also do it in different rooms of your house. This way, you will get creative when it comes to picking the right position for each location. [Read: 20 hot sex ideas to blow your lover’s mind]
Don’t do the creep! Experimenting is so exciting because the new levels of novel sensations and interactions can be intoxicating, but make sure you don’t get too carried away. Leave room for your partner to absorb the sensations of every new thing you bring into your sex life. Don’t attempt to perform every Kama Sutra position while trying to include a sex toy all in the same night!
#2 Into bondage, anybody? And no, I’m not talking about hard-core kinky bondage where you’re strung from the ceiling by your nipples. I’m talking about bondage that’s not much of a pain, but lots of gain. Ropes, for example, can make sex way hotter. In lieu of ropes *or any nautical knotting skills*, you can also try a silk scarf or furry handcuffs.
Getting tied up boosts the sexual energy between you two because it brings in the vulnerability element. Let him tie you up because nothing is sexier than you being at his urges’ mercy. He will be dominant, but that doesn’t mean he will be the only one who will enjoy. His focus will be entirely on you because you won’t be able to reciprocate. It’s a win-win situation! [Read: From the Red Room to the real world – BDSM for beginners]
Want to go further? Want to add to the arousal while you’re bound? Beg him to release you, and ask him if you’re allowed to come.
Don’t do the creep! The knots don’t have to cut off the circulation, you know. Bondage doesn’t have to hurt, so the important thing is to feel comfortable in everything you do. If you and your man are newbies to the wonders of bondage delights, limit the first few sessions to just 10 minutes. Do your homework thoroughly because if done incorrectly, bondage activities can leave you injured.
#3 How about some roleplaying? Nothing adds more steam to your sex life than role playing and dressing up. The novelty of him seeing you dressed up as one of his favorite fantasies will leave him hard. And the best part about this is that the possibilities behind role playing are limitless.
Now that getting dressed up in the name of sexual discovery sounds intriguing to you, here are some simple ideas for you to get started: home delivery, French maid cleaning service, teacher and student, and the boss and his sexretary. [Read: The sexual role play guide for beginners]
Want to go further? Pretend that you and your man are total strangers. Set up a time, and choose a bar where no one knows you. Play out a scenario like you don’t know each other, so act like you’re meeting for the first time there. Flirt with a couple of guys *and by this, I mean innocently* before you approach him, then introduce yourself.
The best part is that you can be whoever you want to be. You can introduce yourself as Brigitte, a sexy girl who’s here on a family vacation, but she’s bored and is looking for some fun for the night. Let your creativity run wild with your name and your story.
Be extremely flirty with him, and make sure people around you notice what you’re doing, then tell your man you want him to take you to his place. And of course, stay in this Brigitte character all night long.
Don’t do the creep! Role playing is not an audition, so instead of stressing about your acting performance, focus on your sex performance. Trying out different scenarios every time is not necessary. You need to find a scenario you and your man like, and use it again and again in different variations.
Also, try to veer away from anything too freaky. It’s important that you know what your man is into and what he’s definitely NOT into. Nothing will make him run away faster than playing the part of a sexy clown, when you know that he’s deathly afraid of them!
#4 Talk dirty to me. Nobody likes to have quiet and boring sex. We can’t talk about adding a new dimension into your sex life without using dirty talk phrases. Your man loves to hear what you want to happen next during foreplay or the main event. What he sees, feels, and hears are direct lines to his brain down there.
Dirty talking doesn’t have to be used in bed only. You can build sexual tension without being near him by sending him sexy messages or emails.
Want to go further? Try these phrases:
I love how you taste!
Give it to me right now!
Don’t stop! Right there!
Mmm, that feels amazing.
I want your c*ck in my mouth right now.
I love it when you f*ck me like that.
Finish wherever you like.
Don’t do the creep! You must be confident when talking dirty. Make sure you speak clearly and slowly, so that you can accentuate the meaning of every word you’re saying. If you stutter or say the words in a weird *think too fast, too slow, with a disconcerting accent* way, you’re going to ruin everything.
Practice dirty talking a few times to yourself before using the phrases on your man, just so you can ensure that what you’re saying is indeed sexy, not creepy! [Read: 23 sexy tips to master dirty talking]
#5 Let’s play. Why have regular sex when you can have naughty and incredible sex? In order to keep things fun and naughty, spice up your life with sex games. There are different types of games: some are on the tame side, while others are on the kinky side. You’re free to choose and try a game you’re most comfortable with.
Shut the blinds, turn off your phones, and get ready for a night of pleasing and teasing.
Want to go further? Here are some sexy games you can play behind closed doors.
– Tease, tease, tease. Mess with your man all day. Don’t forget to be extremely sexual while teasing him. Send him texts like “You’re in for a big surprise tonight,” or “I’d jump you the minute you walk into the bedroom.” Then, in the evening, when you start to get physical with each other, he’ll unleash all the sexual frustration you’ve been giving him all day.
– 30 seconds. The name says it all. You have 30 seconds to give him as much pleasure as possible. Yes, 30 seconds is not enough, but that’s actually good news because it’s now his turn. He will have 30 seconds to give you pleasure and bring you closer to orgasm. The person receiving the pleasure is not allowed to speak, so he just sits back and enjoys it.
– Don’t “O” game. The winner of this game is the person who comes last, so you must make him orgasm faster than you. The 69 position works like a charm in this game. When he’s about to come, he will try not to, but you will pull him even closer, in order to make sure he will orgasm first… and he’ll be doing the exact same thing to you. This game is incredibly hot because it’s playful and builds up the tension really well.
Don’t do the creep! The most important thing here is to make sure you are both on the same page with sex games. Make sure that your man agrees to your rules before starting. You should have a safe word when playing these games because things can easily get out of hand. By using the safe word, you won’t take things too far. [Read: 9 sexiest foreplay tips to make sex even better]
Once you know how to be freak in the sheets and please your man in the best way possible, you can be sure that he will be blown away. With these techniques, you will give him everything he desires in bed. Get vocal, try new positions, try some light bondage, hot role playing, and kinky games, and no other woman will enter his mind ever again.