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Men fantasize about sex. A lot. But what are the sexual fantasies for men that make them go tight in their pants and weak in their knees?

Men and sexual fantasies are like fish and water. If you really want to know what makes a man tick in his pants, you need to understand his fantasies.

A man’s big black book of sexual fantasies keeps getting bigger, and his fantasies keep piling up all the time.

You may have your own fantasy too, a new one that you created just this morning.

Oh, you don’t fantasize? Right, and I’m the King of Timbuktu!

Sexual fantasies and men

All of us fantasize. Even those dorky people who don’t seem to care about anything but their own zit and the mop of hair on their head.

If men and women don’t fantasize, porn wouldn’t be a multi-billion dollar industry and Mills and Boon wouldn’t be such a best seller, would it?

So now that we’re all too familiar with the fact that men and women fantasize and accept that all of us do, let’s get straight to the well kept secrets of your partner’s mind and their sexual fantasies. And of course, knowing this is going to make sex oh-so-much fun!

A man’s black book of sexual fantasies

Men think a lot about sex, and fantasize to no end. All the way from rescuing nude damsels in distress from the evil warlord who dies with one stroke of the sword to being washed ashore on a faraway island inhibited by only women with no clothes but oyster shells, the see through ones, of course. But one man’s fantasy aside, take a peek into what all men like in bed, and their all biggest sexual fantasies.

#1 Threesomes!

Right there, spot on at the top, baby! A man loves to have a sexual threesome. And coming to think of it, I don’t know if there’s one man alive who doesn’t want to have a threesome. [Read: Threesome sex]

I’m sure even Adam was frustrated with the Big Guy because Eve wasn’t enough for him. Some men say they want to have sex with two women because they want to brag about it, but I don’t think that’s the truth. If it’s just a case of bragging, then they wouldn’t really want to fantasize about the sex. They would rather fantasize about the bragging part.

Men think a woman’s body is the best looking thing they’ve ever seen (don’t women say the same thing?), so seeing two girls all over each other in such close proximity is just way too haute, in a completely delightful sexual way! This is one thing all men like in bed, no exceptions!

#2 Prostitution

I don’t know too many men who have the coin purses to drive down a dark alley and pick a girl up. And even the ones who do want to do that are quite afraid, what with all the sexual diseases scare going on around us! [Read: Happy ending massage]

I know, I know, women think their man’s sexual fantasy of banging a hooker is disgusting, but come on, this is a man thing, and so women have just got to accept it.

Men run behind women almost all the time they’re awake, so when they are able to get laid a few minutes into the talk, sometimes even less, it’s thrilling. The man is officially the cheap man’s James Bond once he hooks a hooker. But when he doesn’t have what it takes to pick her up in the first place, he sexually fantasizes about the prostitute scenario. His girlfriend may very well be the prostitute in his fantasy!

#3 Role playing games

Men love role playing. It’s like getting to sleep with different women in different scenarios. If a guy’s girl isn’t too keen on playing a stewardess or an airhostess, all he has to do is imagine a sexual fantasy of role playing. If you’re wondering what men like in bed, bring out your nurse or cheerleader dress and watch the sheets rise in the middle faster than you can say boingg!

But men do like women who want to experiment. And thankfully, women like Christina Aguilera talk about role playing like it’s the best thing any woman can do, which of course, convinces most women to participate in it. Every man loves to role play. The ones who say they don’t, either had their mate dressed up like their perverted physical instructor, or haven’t experienced it yet! [Read: Sexual role play for beginners]

#4 Women who are off-limits

What men like in bed is a woman who is off limits. Men love what they can’t have. But they still try. And that’s why a few women call men ass wipes. I don’t know why, but men find the thought of hooking up with a woman who is off limits extremely attractive and arousing. [Read: Sex with an ex and How to get a girl with a boyfriend]

In reality, making out with these women may come with its own share of worries, but in their heads, boy, can men spin a tale! This sexual fantasy includes balling their friend’s wife, his girlfriend’s best friend or her flirty sister.

#5 Exotic locations

The lives of many men turn out to be quite boring, as the relationship wears on happily. Most of them stare at the same patch on the wall every single time they have sex with their woman. And for a few more unfortunate souls, there’s even a fixed time frame to have sex. Yikes! So what do men do?

They dream about making love at some other time of the day, in some other part of the house. And if their sexual fantasies are on a high, they drift away to some beach resort, a parking lot, or a club. When it comes to screwing a girl in his sexual fantasies, the world is definitely his oyster. But this is really great for the couple, his libido surges on a high if he’s having sex and thinking about that new spot he dreamt of earlier that day. [Read: Fun on the beach]

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51 thoughts on “Sexual Fantasies for Men”

  1. David Fredenburg says:

    These are all great ideas and true but what about the guy that likes a woman to wear certain clothes like soft knits and furs? Or certain colours or have her hair done a certain way to look sexy for him. Are there very many men out there that are into this type of thing?

  2. Confused says:

    A lot of the tips this site has are helpful, except there is sooo much emphasis on including others. I would never ever ever want my man looking at another woman, much less having a threesome. The thought just makes me sick to my stomach. Why can’t a man ever be satisfied with one girl?

  3. Man says:

    I am a man and although it turns me on thinking about a threesome, I would never in a million years share my girl with anyone! That is never a good idea and certainly not healthy for any relationship. Eventually it will bite you in the ass. I am definitely into lingerie and dress up and role play, probably more than anything.

  4. Jenny Harper says:

    I know men have alot of fantasies I have tried getting my husband to tell me some but all I got was one I did it he loved it so why does he claim that is it. how do I get him to open up I am very open.

  5. Alyssa says:

    You’re definitely wrong about the “there is no man on earth that doesn’t want to see 2 women all over eachother” type of thing. My boyfriend thinks it’s disgusting to see 2 women all over eachother. He thinks it’s wrong. We both share the same idea on homosexuality and, although people can do whatever they want to be happy, its wrong. I know a lot of guys hate it when it’s 2 guys, bit love it when it’s 2 girls and how it’s so much more acceptable. I mean if it stayed straight, I guess it’d be fine. Pffh. Tl;dr my boyfriend never has, never will like a 3some with 2 girls because HE doesnt like it, not me.

  6. Bi-Female says:

    Alyssa, you disgust me. Homosexuality is not wrong. If you don’t like it then just shut up and don’t say anything.
    The world doesn’t care how you feel about it.
    If you don’t like it, you don’t like it.
    I hope your boyfriend’s penis drops off with gangrene.

  7. Ms.Adams says:

    Well, this article was interesting, but you got one thing wrong “Men think a woman

  8. Burnt Cake says:

    1. Not every man wants a threesome, not a decent man who cherishes the company and intimacy of his partner anyway
    2. Not every man enjoys the idea of getting with a dirty hooker

  9. dubious reader says:

    Okay yeah sorry but why do threesomes necessarily mean that a couple is less committed? What about polyamory relationships? also, this article is verging on kinky; not actually really kinky. There are LOADS more things than what you get from 50 Shades of Grey seriously, because that’s not exactly the pinnacle of porn. Be a little bit more open minded, and you’ll have LOADS more fun, methinks.

  10. Vicki says:

    Role play is cool depending on the roles. I’m into Star Wars nerds, so if I have to wear the metal bikini he better be dressed as Han Solo. However, he’d be the one chained up.

  11. A Man says:

    I don’t agree with this list. Too much insistence that every man has the same taste. I think there are probably a lot of men who would disagree with this article. The worst two for me on this list are threesomes, and prostitution.

  12. donald norman says:

    I don’t believe the prostitution one on the list. I love role play more than any one else. my wife uses me as her g/f. I wear panties. I can only use oral or fingers and use my “clitoris” on her clitoris. no intercourse allowed and she is always left soaked and squirting. this is so hot for both of us. I will at times be allowed to F*** the heck out of her which is always hot too because we don’t do it often. for us it is a very sensual style of lovemaking

  13. Amy says:

    my husband has told many times the only fantasy is seeing a beached whale, and the whale is me. And for him I’m disgusting and ugly. Its been that way for 45 years of marriage

  14. Urusigh says:

    Since the article was pretty short about why guys like some of this stuff (as a fantasy anyway), I’m going to try to add a little more perspective.

    #1 Threesomes!

    I wouldn’t put this even near the top of the list personally, but it at least makes the top 10 for every guy I know, so… really, it’s about variety and safety. The man gets twice as many chances to discover mutual sexual compatibility and bears only half the responsibility for each woman’s pleasure. The idea of getting twice the potential benefit at half the risk definitely appeals to both the ambitious and risk-averse men, so this is something of a universal winner. That said, most of these same guys keep it a fantasy because we are rather possessive about being our partner’s sole source of sexual satisfaction. Try not to read that negatively ladies, for men the trust and mutual desire implied by physical contact is generally viewed as a prerequisite to a relationship, not a result. Being with two women in bed is less about being with two women emotionally (which rarely factors into the fantasy at all) and more about having twice as many options when deciding which woman he wants to pursue the relationship with.

    #2 Prostitution

    Really, this one’s about hedonism and safety. Sex with a prostitute (as men imagine it, since few actually take that step) is sex with a woman who is great in bed, whose sole focus for the evening is giving him pleasure, and who won’t say “no” to his other fantasies or fetishes, mock him for them, or otherwise hold them against him in or outside of the bedroom. What woman doesn’t find attractive the idea of a partner who is skillfully focused entirely on doing whatever she likes best without any risk of embarrassment or repercussions outside the bedroom?

    #3 Role playing games

    A psych study asked men which they would rather have on a deserted island, 50 pictures of the most perfect woman he could imagine… or 50 pictures of different, merely good looking women. Every single guy picked the second. It may be as unlikely as travel to the moon, but pretty much every man envies the theoretical man whom all women desire and want to sleep with (and since them actually sleeping with him is our only sure proof that they actually find him sexually desirable…). Sleeping with a different woman every night would be a waking nightmare to most of us if it turned true, but simply having the option would prove that we are near universally loved and trusted by the female gender, which would pretty much be the biggest validation of our masculinity even theoretically possible. So role play gives us the best of both worlds, the variety and illusion of being loved, trusted, and desired by many… and the confidence of knowing our partner and benefits of learning from and teaching her what works best in bed.

    #4 Women who are off-limits

    It feels like breaking the rules and being that daring risk-taker, which is to say really exciting. This is usually best when combined with role-play (popular fantasies of this sort are student-teacher, cop-criminal, “at work” women such as flight attendants, nurses, secretaries…) Who doesn’t want to get “naughty” in the bedroom sometimes?

    #5 Exotic locations

    The article sums this up well, but one part it misses many of the positive implications involved. Imagining taking her in the kitchen, the shower, even the back yard… these all play in to the idea that he is in control of when and where it happens, which is to say that she finds him so desirable that she won’t refuse him regardless of when or where the urge strikes him. This is a heady feeling for men used to having to time their moves just right, go to extensive effort to get her “in the mood”, or who are accustomed to having their advances rejected. Given that many people loosen up and get more adventurous when traveling, this can be just as effective a first step toward other fantasies in reality as it is in his head.

    Like anyone else, men want to feel desired and safe (trusted) in the bedroom. That’s first and foremost. Once they have that then they want to feel like they aren’t “missing out” on any possibilities by staying with a single partner. Let’s face it, the “playa” (and men pretending or wanting to be such) often taunt the faithful man with what they get and he doesn’t, so when the comparison is one woman versus all other women… well, his girl needs to be giving him something to compete with (even if only in his head, since the well mannered man won’t kiss and tell, he just smiles serenely) and reason to believe that his faithful commitment does indeed earn him a better sex life than the lines and tricks of the pick up artist ever could.

  15. hnna says:

    i recently found out my boyfriend watches porn and it bothers me… terribly he said it was becasue he cant help but wanna look at someone else and they mean nothing to him i think its the whole have sex every day the same way same room kinda thing my new goal is to do more erotic things hopefully itll fill the sexual void hes having wish me luck <3 ( btw id be chill with a threesome they have a good point men love wemon bodies easpcally two of the together not to mention one of the girls is someone he loves very much the others a random slut ) js

  16. mister y says:

    most men don’t tell their fantasies,first because they are afraid the women they care about will throw them out on their ear, second because when women get angry what is the first thing they say in public? ,why they blirt out the man’s dirty little secret of course. men don’t talk for fear of betrayal. personally i would like to be my woman’s best girlfriend.i would love her to dress me up,put make up on me and go wherever.if she would do that i would be willing to trade in my manhood and spend the rest of my life being a woman

  17. hatt mann says:

    I have had a sexual fantasy, about being pegged by a woman. I have even went as far as buying a strapon. I just don’t know how to approach a woman, that has a fantasy of pegging a guy. What should I do, and how do I approach a woman to get her to make my wildest fantasy come to reality?

  18. Erin says:

    I have a lot of fantasies and particular turn ons in bed, like spanking, being handled roughly from time to time, masturbation ect. and have shared all of them with my boyfriend (exempt for my fantasy with a strap-on, hello Hatt mann ;D). So far he hasn’t shared any with me even after I asked him point blank. All I can see is that he likes me to be feminine, e.g. wear skirts, have long hair and put on make up.
    What can I do to make him open up? Or could it be that he truly doesn’t want anything beyond what he’s getting?

  19. freelove says:

    first off, the threesome thing. Most men find it erotic to see two women enjoying each other’s body’s. The prospect of two women also enjoying his body at the same time is erotic and plays into ego. Regarding the few comments about it being wrong, gross, or not cool because of jealousy, let me say as a women who has been with the same man for 8 years I have a trust with my man, we just recently began a three way relationship with a female friend. it is one of the best things that has happened to us. Not all couples are down with it, and I understand. I can be hard to imagine your man being with another woman, But if you have trust and love in your relationship than those feeling shouldn’t factor in. I personally never thought I would enjoy seeing my man be with another woman, but having it be within my control allowed me to discover parts of my sexuality that I had no idea were there. If you feel that having two women enjoy each other in a open sexual nature = Homosexuality you are very mistaken and I am sorry you have lived your life so close mindedly. I enjoy feeling the soft touch of a female. We just know how to do things in a way a man doesn’t get. That doesn’t make me gay. I do not strictly find women attractive, I find both sexes to be attractive, I think people should be able to love and enjoy whoever they see fit. this fantasy also goes the other way, some men want to see their woman be ravished by another man, and that is also great. No one is saying you have to be ok with this stuff, but at least be accepting and do not judge people based off of what they enjoy sexually.
    I find that most people are so uptight about things they forget that humans are naturally sexual and to limit your self to a small handful of things will begin to cause your relationship to become boring. To the guy who wants a woman to penetrate him with a strap on, there are plenty of websites that cater to those types of erotic desires. Keep looking and i’m sure you will find a woman who wants to do it, and enjoys it.

    To the girls who’s boyfriend is not being open about his desires. for some men it is hard for them to open up about what they really want to do because no matter how much coaxing you do he is afraid it will scare you away, or that you will see him in way that he isn’t ready for. Is he indulging in your fantasies? Maybe you can take the little bit he gives you and incorporate it into what you want. when he comes home/over be there in a tiny skirt with no panties, and a semi see through shirt with no bra, if you don’t have naturally long hair, get a wig, greet him in a very light delicate way, if he like you to be the girl who needs a strong man to help her, tell him you have been waiting for him because you need something fixed, play it up his fantasies may just include you being helpless, but he also may not want to get rough because he is afraid he could hurt you. I have found the best way to explore what my man enjoys is when we are having sex, during foreplay try new things on him to see if he enjoys it. suggest bondage while you are enjoying each others bodies. if he watches porn skim through his collection to see what he may be watching, that can clue you into what he may fantasize about. I hope this helps, and that you can get him to open up.

  20. Valerie says:

    I’m really sad to see prostitution on here. I get the aspect of having a woman that is kind of dangerous and aiming to please but 90% of those girls are either under aged, beaten, slaves, etc. Any man that would buy a woman that is being forced to have sex is a disgusting pig who deserves nothing but a spit in the face.

  21. Phil says:

    My fantasy #1 is to have my wife seduced by a male masseur.

  22. Claire says:

    My boyfriend doesn’t want to have a threesome. He thinks he can’t even satisfy one woman in bed, let alone two. (We have not had sex yet, he wants to wait.) He is bisexual, so maybe we could try one with another man (I do find m/m to be very hot ;D) but for now he’s far too shy.

  23. Jim s says:

    I think fantasizing is healthy in a relationship, I want to have a threesome 2 guys 1 lady and enjoy both of them.

  24. Roxanne91 says:

    Hey everyone is entitled to their own opinion, if someone finds homosexuality wrong that does not deem them disgusting (vice versa). Don’t try to instill your own beliefs and morals on others just because it isn’t similar to your own. Personally my bf also is uncomfortable with the idea of me hooking up with another girl even if he is included. I even once told him that I really wanted to and asked if he’d be willing to and he got very upset and questioned our relationship which he never had done before. The universe is vast along with the various types of ppl within it! πŸ™‚

  25. hmmm...loved the article, didn't like a lot of comments says:

    hmmm…loved the article, didn’t like a lot of comments. Lighten up people. I’m not for or against same sex people. Let them be. And hey, the article is only making suggestions. So what if a few of the words in the article are a generalisation. But the disclaimer is that te author wrote “I don’t if there is any man alive…” therefore the author is saying that he doesn’t know any man that would want this…he doesn’t know every man alive right?! Lol. They are just a few suggestions. Add your own πŸ™‚ …I’d love to try these with my boyfriend.

  26. michelle says:

    First of all, I wish my wife would initiate a conversation about sex. She seems to have absolutely no interest in sex; at least with me. I’d be thrilled to talk about sexual fantasies with her, and share each others thoughts on the subject. One of my biggest fantasies is to tell her of my sexually submissive nature, and how I would enjoy being sexually dominated by a woman. I would love to be crossdressed in a sexy outfit, and have her verbally humiliate me, and pleasure her sexually in any manner she desired. I would also enjoy telling her how much I get turned on at the thought of her flirting and having sex with another man; then coming home and telling me about it in detail. Also; another one of my strong fetishes is for women’s nylon clad feet and shoes. I would truly love for my wife to come home from work after a long day on her feet; and order me to slip off her shoes, and order me to message, kiss, and smell her warm smelly nylon clad feet.As an afterthought, she’d order me to kiss and smell the inside of her well worn smelly shoes.Thus; showing me she’s the boss! However; I just don’t think my wife has it in her to be that adventurous and consider trying any of the scinerios I’ve described! I guess I can continue to fantasize! Any comments, or opinions are welcome.

  27. jay says:

    while having sex i often ask my wife about my friends or colleagues or my cousins she wants to see naked or she want to suck or get involved with. It definitely turns her on and then i share the names of her friends or cousins i wanna have sex with. we change our names and we talk about their appealing looks and sexy bodies and we enjoy it completely. but it doesnt mean that its hurting our 10 yr old relationship, rather its brings fun to the same old routine.
    I sometimes talk bisexual to her, involving 2 men and she enjoying us both, when guys can think of having 2 women ..y cant women enjoy 2 men! i often ask her curiosity for trying lesbian and i talk about my desire of sucking a guys cock.
    she sometimes fingers me and make me wear her silk panties… its all part of the fun

  28. gabriella says:

    Seems a lot of comments about threesome missed the point. Don’t confuse a fantasy with a desire with intent. What guy in the world hasn’t thought, wondered and imagined (ie fantasized) about two women doing all sorts of awesome things to him at once? But that doesn’t mean they are ready to take action. It’s a fantasy.

    And the homophobic comments in this thread are just wrong.

  29. Zuly says:

    Good for U jay, don’t let the spark die!

  30. Alexis The Dragon says:

    Who wrote this!? what do you mean all men are into role-play, men imo are pretty dull when it comes to sexual matters most of the time and most I know arn’t into role play.

    Isn’t it more WOMEN who are into role-play? I know I am.

  31. Jane says:

    So my fantasy has always been to watch a guy I’m into fuck a hooker & for her to fuck him.
    Last night I met that guy…
    Went to the local brothel & got the hottest hooker there…
    Paid a fortune… Even had the bondage room πŸ™‚
    She couldn’t get him hard at all…
    Half an hr later after I thoroughly enjoyed watching time was up πŸ™
    He jumped off the bed and came over to me on the bench seat at the end of the bed & no joke when rock hard when I touched him, he apologised & said sorry I tried jane but can I wash that whore off me I just want you….
    1 guess what happened for the rest of the night….
    Anyways long story short yeah I agree it is a fantasy for men to fuck a hooker & for an audience but when the time presents itself how many of them can actually perform????
    Mind you I’ve got tonnes more respect for him now & know he will try anything to try please me… Next days off are going to be fun…. If he can do what I have in mind il be one very very satisfied chick :)))

  32. Kay says:

    This one line irratates the hell out of me “this is a man thing, and so women have just got to accept it.” Really? We HAVE to? I am by no means a feminist, nor am I someone who takes offense easily but that’s just bad writing.

  33. Linda says:

    Any this saddens me a great deal ! I would not take this from any man he does not respect you I would have left him long ago! Sounds like a pig!

  34. cante davis says:


  35. Bigballerplus says:

    my husband and I are into fantasy

  36. Bigballerplus says:

    submissive bondage and massage

  37. Bigballerplus says:

    Role play is great!

  38. Guest says:

    Well said.

    “Most of these same guys keep it a fantasy because we are rather possessive about being our partner’s sole source of sexual satisfaction”.

    I definitely feel like this. My girlfriend recently asked me “what are your sexual fantasies?” I didn’t know what to tell her as I hadn’t really considered that stuff I’d thought about like sex on a plane, or the beach, or in the office even counted as ‘fantasies’ – but just ‘things I’d like to try’. She told me that a threesome, with another girl, was one of hers. Much to my surprise, I actually felt pretty uncomfortable about it – a bit freaked out actually. I really care for this girl, I couldn’t imagine sharing her with ANYONE. Not even a hot girl.
    Having sex with two girls sounds amazing in my head, for a number of reasons, but having sex with MY GIRLFRIEND and another girl? No thank you.
    It actually bugged me for days. So we spoke about it and we both agree its a sexy idea but neither of us really want to introduce a third party into the bedroom.
    Actually, she has a vibrator which I’ve watched her use, and used on her a few times now. The first time – I didn’t like that either. I just felt a bit … jealous, and redundant like… I wasn’t needed. My dick cant vibrate and hit her g-spot and clit at the same time! So I told her that it felt a bit strange when I used it on her, that I wasn’t very involved, just a sort of passive party lying there holding this vibrator on the right spot, and I was a bit jealous that something other than me could give her such intense orgasms.

    I think that was a bit silly, I understand now that my involvement makes it even more intense, and sexy for her. Me using it on her, and/or watching, and masturbating, and her knowing this is all going on at the time, the thoughts really turn her on, and make it more intense, so I appreciate and enjoy involvement πŸ™‚

  39. guest says:

    Plenty of men are. The idea of two girls is nice but the idea of sharing my girlfriend with ANYONE is not something I like. See some of the comments above for an explanation πŸ™‚

  40. Monica says:

    Sounds like you should either confront your wife…or find a Mistress on a bdsm site like fetlife πŸ˜‰

  41. Hawley Griffin says:

    I think the number one fantasy for men would be to actually feel “desired” by a woman we find attractive. The vast majority of men will die before they ever experience that.

  42. Antoinette Reyes says:

    This one seems much more appropriate for women fantasies then what they listed on that page

  43. Antoinette Reyes says:

    Agreed I would not tolerate that

  44. Jeremy Love says:

    Getting to know your lovers sexual fantasies is a form of calibrating your sex lives into an understanding and trustworthy relationship. Exploring a fantasy together can be a bonding experience that will connect you emotionally and intimately.

  45. Jeremy Love says:

    You might enjoy my fantasy weekends page…

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