36 Best Sex Positions for Small Penis Owners & Tips to Go Deep & Hit the Spot
Discover the best sex positions for a small penis to go deep, get tighter, and boost confidence, no matter what you’re packing.
Are you searching for the best sex positions for a small penis that actually work? You’re in the right place, because great sex isn’t about size. It’s about angles, confidence, and connection.
The truth is, most guys who think they’re “too small” are actually in the normal range. Studies show the average erect penis is around 5.1 to 5.5 inches, and that’s more than enough to satisfy most partners.
📚 Source: Veale, D. et al., 2015, A Systematic Review of Penis Size
So why do so many men feel insecure? Blame porn, social media, and years of “bigger is better” messaging. In a 2025 study, 55% of men reported being unhappy with their penis size, yet a whopping 85% of women said they were satisfied with their partner’s size.
📚 Source: Hadi Mostafaei, et al., 2025, the Impact of Media and Pornography on Penis Size Satisfaction
If you’ve ever worried about “slipping out” or not making her feel full, these sex positions are made for you. They focus on tighter fit, deeper angles, and more clitoral stimulation, so you’re not missing out on anything.
And just to be clear: women aren’t obsessed with size. They’re into the experience. So let’s give them a damn good one.
[Read: Does size really matter that much to women?]
The Best Sex Positions For A Small Penis
For those on the smaller side, great sex is all about finding the right positions that are tight and secure. Fun and challenging as they seem, you’re not going to want to be in crazy positions where your penis is prone to slipping out or ones that don’t make her vagina full.
These aren’t just random positions, each one is picked specifically to maximize what you’ve got and make her feel every inch of you.
1. Doggy style
Aside from the oddly socially acceptable name, doggy style is one of the definite fun and naughty sex positions that just makes you feel like a dirty boy getting it on with your equally naughty partner.
It’s also one of those magical positions that will make your penis feel bigger than it actually is. That’s because doggy style allows for fantastically deep penetration and gives you complete control.
Use the classic face-down doggy position, or have your partner lay flat on her stomach and enter her from behind. A definite win-win! [Read: Ways to make the doggy style your new favorite sex position]
Why it works: The angle and tight entry let you go deeper, and with her legs together or flat, you’ll feel a lot more friction and fullness with every thrust.
2. Reverse cowgirl
Get your girl on top in this reverse cowgirl position. This position is basically the girl on top with her facing in the opposite direction.
By having her grind you instead of bouncing up and down, she’ll be able to get some fantastic clitoral stimulation while never having to risk coming too far up and squashing your most prized possession!
For a great variation of reverse cowgirl, enter your girlfriend in the reverse cowgirl position, but then have her extend her arms to your calves, and her legs to your shoulders. This will allow for deeper penetration. And you’ll get a great view of her behind! [Read: Girl on Top Sex: How to Ride a Man & 33 Secrets to Look Sexy Doing It]
Why it works: She’s in control of depth and movement, and grinding gives continuous pressure instead of losing contact, perfect for smaller sizes.
3. Spooning, legs up
So it’s not the most exciting-sounding position, but it is very romantic and great for men who edge toward the small side.
Start in the spooning position, and then move both of her legs up, almost like the fetal position. This will narrow the vaginal canal and help prevent slippage. [Read: Spooning Sex Position: 20 Sexy Moves & Hot Reasons to Spoon in Bed]
Why it works: Her body angle shortens the vaginal canal and tightens the fit, which means you feel more depth and sensation without needing to thrust hard.
4. Doggy mountain
Similar to doggy style, prop your partner’s torso and arms face down on a sturdy stack of pillows, and enter her from behind.
Try to lean forward, touching your front to her back. The pillows act as a great prop to keep the two of you stable, allowing your hands to wander to her clit and breasts. [Read: How to Dirty Talk: 36 Sexy Tips & 55 Examples to Turn Anyone On with Words]
Why it works: The elevated hips change the angle for better G-spot access and let you thrust deeper without slipping out.
5. Cowgirl slide
Have your girl get on top and penetrate her. Once you’re securely in, have her lean forward so her breasts are against your chest, and extend her legs downward so she’s completely sprawled out on top of you.
This allows for tighter penetration and great clit stimulation if she rocks up and down as you penetrate her. [Read: Cowgirl Sex Position: How to Try It, 26 Variations & Secrets to Make It HOT!]
Why it works: The full body contact shortens her vaginal canal and adds pressure on your shaft, making it feel thicker and more satisfying for her.
6. The butterfly
This position is flirtatious, adventurous, and feels oh-so-good for both partners. With you standing, your girlfriend should lay on her back on a table or mattress that’s lower than your groin. Grab her butt and tilt her until she’s high enough for you to penetrate her.
This tilted angle allows for great G-spot penetration, and if she squeezes her thighs, you’ll actually get a tighter thrust, and she’ll feel way more filled up. [Read: 45 Minxy Sex Moves & Positions for Girls to Impress a Guy & Blow His Mind!]
Why it works: Gravity + tilt = deeper penetration and a tighter grip, two things small penises love.
7. Legs on shoulders
Enter her in missionary positionand put her legs up on your shoulders. This allows you to take total control and thrust deeper. Many women love this position as well, as you are free to play with her clit or grind your pelvis against it, all while stimulating her G-spot. [Read: Missionary Sex Position: What It Is and 32 Secrets & Variations to Make It Hot!]
Plus, if you’re into feet, this a fun and sexy position for a little toe sucking!
Why it works: Lifting her legs naturally tightens the vaginal canal, giving you a snugger feel and letting you reach deeper without needing extra length.
8. Splitting bamboo
Remember, the closer you can get your pelvises, the better! Conquering small penis positions means allowing for the deepest penetration possible.
For this position, have your girlfriend lie on her back with one leg flat on the bed and the other bent upward. Straddle her thigh and penetrate her, lifting her other leg up over your shoulder. This will allow for extra pressure sensations and deep thrusting. [Read: 30 Day Sex Challenge – 30 Sex Positions for 30 Days]
Why it works: Asymmetrical leg positions let you get closer and hit at angles that maximize stimulation even if you’re not super long.
9. X marks the spot
This is a great sex position for a small penis because it helps to get a tight fit by raising her legs. In this position, your girlfriend should lie on her back and cross both ankles with her feet resting on your chest. You then penetrate her and use small rocking motions to drive you both crazy!
Why it works: Her crossed legs make the entry tighter and give your shaft more grip, increasing both friction and control.
10. Pile driver
This one is slightly more acrobatic but it guarantees fantastic results for all involved! In this position, the woman lies on her back and swings each leg back over her head, as far as feels comfortable.
Her legs should be facing toward the floor and then you will squat over and penetrate her. [Read: Average time for sex – how long we want vs. how long we last]
Why it works: This position compresses her body and shortens the vaginal canal dramatically, so even smaller lengths feel huge inside her.
11. The x-rated
Picture the 69 position in your mind. Well, this is a lot like that but instead of your penis being in her mouth, it’s in her vagina instead. [Read: 69 Sex Position: 26 Best Positions, Ways to Do It, Tips & Most Common Mistakes!]
Why it works: The stacked angle tightens everything up and lets you get deeper thanks to gravity and her tilted hips.
12. The slide
This position is perfect for creating a slip-and-slide effect which will stimulate her clitoris and vagina. Lay down on your back and then your partner lays on top of you, on her stomach. Your face to face and your legs are tightly closed around hers.
Penetrate her and then she slides up and down your body, creating a delicious friction. [Read: Deep Penetration: 21 Mistakes, Sexy Tips & Secrets that Make It SO Good!]
Why it works: With your bodies completely pressed together, the tight space boosts sensation and gives the illusion of a thicker shaft.
13. Kneeling Missionary
In this variation, your partner lies on her back while you kneel between her legs (instead of lying down). You can place her legs over your shoulders or hold them up while you thrust from a more upright angle.
Why it works: Kneeling instead of lying down gives you more control and leverage to angle your pelvis better, helping you hit deeper with less effort and create more clitoral contact.
14. Edge of the Bed
Have her lie on her back with her butt right at the edge of the bed. You stand or kneel on the floor and penetrate her from there. You can lift her legs or keep them flat depending on what feels best.
Why it works: This position brings your bodies closer, giving a shorter thrust distance and letting you thrust with control and depth, and the bed edge gives her great G-spot access.
15. The Scissor Slide
Lie on your side and have her lie facing you, but with one of her legs draped over yours. Penetrate her while you both move your hips in a grinding, side-to-side motion. [Read: Lesbian Tribbing: How to Scissor a Girl & 18 Secrets to a Perfect Glide]
Why it works: This position keeps things tight and sensual. The lateral angle shortens the vaginal canal and creates clitoral pressure, especially during rocking instead of thrusting.
16. The Koala (Standing Carry)
Stand with your partner wrapping her legs around your waist and her arms around your neck (like a koala). You hold her thighs or under her butt for support and thrust while standing.
Why it works: Because her thighs are wrapped tightly around your waist, the pressure and tightness are high, and the close contact makes even smaller movements feel intense. Great if you’re strong enough to hold her up or using a wall for support.
17. Clit Hug (Modified Lotus)
Sit cross-legged, and have your partner sit on your lap facing you. Her legs wrap around your waist while you both hold each other close. She grinds or rocks rather than bouncing.
Why it works: This ultra-close position keeps your bodies locked together, perfect for maximum clitoral stimulation and connection. It’s less about depth and more about intense, focused contact.
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The Best Anal Sex Positions for Men with a Small Penis
Anal sex isn’t just for porn stars with massive equipment, in fact, a smaller penis can actually make anal more pleasurable for your partner. [Read: How to Have Anal Sex & 51 Bum Must-Knows to Prepare for Your First Time]
It’s less intimidating, easier to ease in, and often leads to better comfort and control. These anal sex positions give you more depth, tightness, and connection, no matter what you’re packing.
1. Doggy Style Anal
We’ve already mentioned that doggy style is a classic, and it works just as well for anal. With your partner on all fours and you entering from behind, you get the control and depth you need, without overdoing it.
Why it works: Anal doggy lets you thrust at your own pace while giving her control to adjust, and the tight entry makes every inch count. [Read: 24 Benefits of Anal Sex (and Risks) that’ll Make Your Bum Wanna Bend Over]
2. Plank (aka Flat Doggy)
This is similar to missionary, but your partner lies flat on their stomach instead of on their back. Enter them from behind while they stay flat.
Why it works: Her cheeks naturally press together in this position, which increases friction and tightness, perfect for maximizing stimulation with a shorter shaft.
3. Missionary Anal
This one’s perfect for beginners. Your partner lies on their back and lifts their legs while you enter from above, like standard missionary, but from the rear.
Why it works: You get eye contact, control, and the ability to go slow, plus the position gives you a shallow angle, which reduces slipping and keeps pressure consistent. [Read: Does Anal Sex Hurt? 31 Secrets to Make Anal Sex Less Painful & More Fun]
4. The see-saw
Sit with your legs extended and lean back slightly for support. Your partner sits on your lap facing you, with their hands behind them and resting on your legs. They can rock back and forth for penetration.
Why it works: The angle compresses your bodies, and rocking instead of bouncing keeps you inside the whole time. Bonus: it feels more intimate. [Read: Anal Orgasm: How It Works, Feels & 34 Must-Knows to Help You Experience It]
5. Anal pile driver
This is for the more adventurous types. Your partner lies on their back and lifts their legs over their head, with their hips elevated. You squat and enter from above.
Why it works: The deep tilt opens them up while shortening the anal canal, making your thrusts feel longer and more intense.
[Read: What does anal sex feel like both physically and mentally?]
6. Side Saddle (Side-Lying Anal)
Lie on your side, and have your partner lie on their side facing away from you. Enter them from behind slowly and wrap one arm around their waist.
Why it works: This cozy position keeps everything tight and slow-paced, ideal for smaller penises and beginners. Less thrusting, more grinding.
7. Face Down, Ass Up (FDAU)
Your partner lies face down, legs together, butt slightly elevated with a pillow under their hips. You enter from behind and keep your chest close to their back.
Why it works: Keeping their legs together increases tightness, and the angle lets you thrust deeper while staying snug. [Read: 18 Easy-to-Hard Anal Sex Positions that Make Backdoor Sex Feel So Darn Good!]
How to Have Mind-Blowing Sex with a Small Penis (Tips that Actually Work)
Women aren’t fixated on size, popular culture made it look like they are, but it’s not true. So, if you’re looking to up your sex game, it’s good that you came here. Because whether you have a small or larger penis, there’s always room for improvement.
1. Get over your penis size
First, you’re going to need to get over the size of your penis. Because you’re worried about it, you’re preventing yourself from relaxing during sex and this is a huge problem if you want to improve your sexual experience.
So first things first, you need to accept the size of your penis. Just do it, it’s time. [Read: How much does size really matter when it comes to penises?]
2. Penetration isn’t the main event
So many men think that penetration is the highlight of sex, but it’s not.
First of all, most of the nerve endings are in the vaginal canal which is the outer third of the vagina – most penises can reach this part.
However, aside from that, women love oral sex and manual stimulation, so vaginal penetration isn’t the main highlight. [Read: How to give her oral sex like a pro]
3. Don’t compare
Never compare the size of your penis with anyone else’s. Trust us, nobody is bothered. Everyone is too concerned about the size of their own or, if they’re your partner, what you can do with it.
Comparisons do nothing but drag your self-confidence down to the floor.
4. Don’t mention the size of your penis
If you want to have good sex, refrain from talking about the size of your penis. What do you expect a woman to say when you talk about the size of your penis? It’s awkward and shows her that you have self-esteem issues.
From that moment on, the sex will never get to the level it could have gone. Leave penis size conversations outside of the bedroom. Period. [Read: The average penis – easy answers that’ll make you a know-it-all]
5. Test out sex positions for a small penis
If you have a small penis, not every position is going to work out for you. This works the same way with larger penises. You need to find a position that works.
Focus on positions where you can hold her legs closer together, creating a tighter fit. Stay away from standing positions because there’s more space between you two. [Read: Why a bigger penis can actually be a bad experience for women]
6. Don’t go crazy on the lube
Usually, we tell everyone to pack on the lube when they’re having sex. However, for smaller penises, you shouldn’t use too much lube. If it’s too wet inside the vagina, it’ll feel like your penis is too slippery.
You need some traction to stimulate the vagina. If you accidentally put on too much lube, a hand job can help you reduce the amount of lube and it feels amazing so it’s a win-win.
7. Maybe give anal a try
If you have a smaller penis, then why not try anal sex? See, women are much more hesitant to have anal sex with a man with a larger penis and you can understand why.
A smaller penis can create a much more pleasurable experience during anal sex, so this is also something you might like to try. [Read: How to prepare for anal sex – a beginners’ fantasy guidebook]
8. Focus on the clit
When it comes to understanding how to have good sex with a small penis, the clit is your golden ticket to pleasing her and making her go crazy.
Just because you have a small penis doesn’t mean you can’t stimulate her clitoris. Use your fingers, mouth, or penis when it comes to stimulating her clit.
In general, you should have a strong understanding and technique when stimulating the clitoris. That way, you don’t need to focus so much on penetration. [Read: Hot and easy ways for men to get way better in bed!]
9. Go heavy on foreplay
No matter what size of penis you have, most men go through foreplay way too fast and jump right into penetration. But the vagina is like a car, you should take some time to warm up the engine before you start driving.
So, spend more time in foreplay, it’ll make the entire sexual experience more enjoyable and builds up the sexual tension. Plus, bringing her to orgasm before penetration will reduce the pressure you have on yourself.
10. Keep her legs up
If you’re going into the missionary position, then you should take her legs and raise them.
Place them on your shoulders or hold them in your hands as this will allow for deeper penetration and sensation. Plus, you’ll be able to have vaginal access without any interference with other body parts.
11. Use sex toys
Sex toys exist for a reason. Regardless of the size of your penis, you can use sex toys to increase sexual stimulation and feeling.
Sometimes it’s hard to find the best angles, but with a sex toy, it may help you hit the spot you were trying to find. Plus, you can also give her a deeper penetration. [Read: The sex toys you need to try with your lover]
12. Communicate
Throughout sex, you should always keep an open line of communication. How will you know if they like the position or move if you’re not communicating with them?
Remember, sex takes two people, so, make sure you’re both happy and satisfied. [Read: How to talk about sex without sounding like a pervert]
Does Penis Size Really Matter? What the Science Says
Short answer? Not nearly as much as you think.
The pressure to have a “big one” isn’t new, but it’s been massively exaggerated by porn, locker room myths, and decades of media hype. Science tells a much different story.
In one 2025 study involving over 52,000 heterosexual men and women, 55% of men were unhappy with their penis size, but 85% of women said they were satisfied with their partner’s size, meaning the real issue is perception, not performance.
📚 Source: Hadi Mostafaei, et al., 2025
Another research review found that penis size was not a strong predictor of a woman’s sexual satisfaction. Instead, factors like communication, emotional intimacy, and clitoral stimulation ranked far higher.
📚 Source: Shirley Loos, et al., 2022, The Effect of Penis Size on Partner Sexual Satisfaction
And when women were shown 3D penis models to pick their preferred size, most didn’t choose the “porn star” look. In fact, they chose sizes just slightly above average, and even smaller for long-term relationships.
📚 Source: Prause & Park, 2015, Women’s Preferences for Penis Size Using 3D Models
So what does all this mean?
If you’re worried about your size, know this: your penis is probably just fine, and your partner likely agrees. What matters more is knowing how to use it, which is exactly what the rest of this article is here to help with.
[Read: Why are men so obsessed with their penis size?]
Confidence Is Still the Sexiest Thing You Can Wear
Let’s be real, you could have the biggest tool in the shed and still suck in bed. What actually makes someone unforgettable is how they connect, communicate, and create pleasure.
So if you’re rocking a smaller penis, who cares? You now have the technique, the positions, and the psychology to back it up. Confidence isn’t about size, it’s about knowing what you bring to the table and owning it.
[Read: 18 sexy ways to be incredibly good in bed and leave anyone wanting more]
Because at the end of the day, it’s not the size of the boat… It’s all about learning the techniques and the best sex positions for a small penis, and mastering how well you steer it, tease it, grind it, and make her beg to come aboard again.
