36 Sexy Ways to Tease Your Man & Make Him Want to F You Right There

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Want to ensure the best night both of you have had in a while? You need to learn how to tease your man sexually, and take him from 0-100 in seconds!

Learning how to tease your boyfriend makes you feel super-powerful!

How to tease your man and make him crazy for you

Beware of blue balls

The science behind the tease: why it really works

Want to ensure the best night both of you have had in a while? You need to learn how to tease your man sexually, and take him from 0-100 in seconds!

Want to know how to tease a man sexually, and make him want to rip your clothes off before dinner’s even served? You’re in the right place.

Teasing is more than just a few sexy moves, it’s a delicious psychological game. In fact, researchers define sexual teasing as a type of intentional erotic provocation, where a sexual “promise” is made… and then delightfully withdrawn. It’s that maddening tension between what he wants and what you won’t quite give him yet that drives him wild.

📚 Source: Meston & O’Sullivan, 2007, Sexual teasing and desire

Whether you’re just starting to date, or you’ve been together long enough to predict his every moan, knowing how to tease your guy sexually keeps things hot, playful, and always a little unpredictable. This list isn’t just about sexy lingerie or dirty whispers. It’s about using his senses, your confidence, and a sprinkle of psychological genius to leave him absolutely begging.

So if you’re ready to turn foreplay into a full-on tease and power move, let’s dive in.

[Read: How to make a guy hard – 25 casual and subtle moves no man can resist]

Learning how to tease your boyfriend makes you feel super-powerful!

One of the best feelings as a lover is being able to turn your partner on to the point where they just CAN’T wait any longer. It makes you feel like you’re in total control of their pleasure, and it’s one of the most satisfying and powerful feelings in the world.

Once you learn the secrets behind how to tease your boyfriend, you’ll see how effortless the whole thing can be.

Of course, when it comes to getting it on, foreplay is a vital part of ensuring that everyone walks away fully pleased. Without it, you run the risk of neither of you being able to finish, and that’s just not a good time for anybody. That’s why learning how to tease your man is such a great idea.

Teasing is the best form of foreplay, simply because it creates the most anticipation. The feeling of anticipation can do wonders for turning someone on and making them want you, which is exactly what you want to do during foreplay.

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How to tease your man and make him crazy for you

Teasing is mostly about doing something seemingly mundane, but with a sexy twist. It’s a promise for later and a way to keep him thinking about you all day.

So whether you’re looking to leave a naughty note in his lunch or go full-on dirty girl at the office, there are plenty of ways to tease your man and leave him hard.

1. Naughty texting, aka sexting

Texting is a great way to get him hot and bothered when you can’t actually be with your man. The most obvious way to get him all riled up is with a nudie pic – but with the dangers of naked sexting, sharing, and internet hacking, this may not be the route for you. Plus, it leaves little to the imagination. Instead of baring it all, tease your man with sensual texts.

Is he working hard? Tell him: “I hope not too hard. I want you to have plenty of energy for what I plan to do with you tonight.”

Want to get a little more to the point? Try something more overt, like: “I got myself all wet thinking about you licking me last night. What should I do now?”

Since you don’t actually have to speak the words, you may find it easier to lose your inhibitions, so go wild and he’ll be desperate to get home! [Read: 25 easy sexy texts to get him all worked up]

2. Teasing him in public

If you’re feeling brave and want to learn how to tease your man, this one is definitely exciting. The next time you’re out at a function or a wedding reception, make sure you give your man a subtle grind on the dance floor. Better yet, the next time you’re out with your friends at a restaurant, simply lean in to his ear when no one’s looking, and whisper “All I want to do right now is wrap my mouth around your c*ck.”

If you’re feeling brave after your brazen tease, reach under the table and give his package a little rubdown. Quickly rejoin the conversation with your friends, so they’ll be none the wiser.

Remember not to get him too riled up during dinner, or you may just end up skipping out on the bill! [Read: 50 dirty things to say to your boyfriend in public]

3. It’s all about your lips

Not those ones! The ones on your face, silly! By all means, ladies, flirt with your lips. When you’re out on a date with your man, make sure you’re making full use of licking your lips and using your tongue to caress your straw. Show him what he’s in for later by drawing his attention to your pouting mouth.

4. Surprise lunch strip show

Everyone loves a pop-in at work from their beloved, right? And he’ll especially love it when a great lunch is paired with some great fondling. Figure out when his lunch break is and show up with his favorite take-out. Let him know that lunch isn’t your only reason for coming.

After his meal, give him your best lap dance as a sexy form of dessert. Make out like you were teenagers, and promise him there’ll be more waiting for him after work. [Read: The girl’s guide to strip clubs and female strippers]

5. Morning shower make out

Want to know how to tease your man? Drive him crazy and catch him just after he gets out of his morning shower, right before he gets his clothes back on. Tell him how much you’re dying to get on your knees – and then do it.

Make him go wild by showing his member some much-needed affection, but don’t give him the full monty just yet.

Suck lightly and focus on licking the head and balls while you stroke him up and down. Remember, he doesn’t get a happy ending until he either A: gets home or B: relents to being super late. [Read: How to give good head – The biggest guide and 50+ blowjob tips and secrets]

6. Have a little taste

For those girls who don’t mind get a little, erm, personal with themselves, then this one is sure to get him hot.

While you’re out in public, have friends over, or are otherwise entertaining, get into a nook of the next room where only he can see you and dip your fingers into your panties, lifting them back up into your mouth, so he can watch you tasting yourself – then give him a playful wink.

Remember, you’ll be fully clothed for this, so you don’t actually have to do the deed. Just let him think you’re being a naughty girl, and you’ll gain the desired effect! [Read: 60 really dirty, seductive things to say to a guy and turn him on]

7. Tell him you’re not wearing any underwear

For some reason, guys love thinking about their lovers and having easy access to them. One way to ensure that you drive your man nuts is to simply tell him that you’re not wearing any underwear. He’ll immediately start picturing you in all sorts of teasing images.

8. Show him you’re not wearing any underwear

If you don’t want to stop the teasing with just telling him you’re going commando, SHOW him. Take a little picture and send it his way.

Or if you’re already with him, grab his hand and let him feel that you’re not lying.

Both of these are perfect ways to tease your boyfriend and drive him crazy to the point where he’s dying for you. He won’t be able to keep his hands off of you after pulling these moves on him. [Read: 30 subtle, obvious and really naughty flirting tips for women]

9. Spend the day walking around in lingerie – but don’t let him touch you

If there’s one thing that gets guys really riled up, it’s putting a show for them and then not letting them touch the goods. That’s how to tease your man!

Get yourself some sexy lingerie, or even use something you have lying around. Then spend the day showing yourself off to him but make it clear he can’t touch… until later. This will drive him mad for you. [Read: 18 physical turn ons that arouse a guy instantly]

10. When leaning in for a peck, hit him with some tongue action and walk away

Unexpected displays of sexuality turn men on in amazing ways. All you have to do when he leans in for your normal, everyday goodbye kiss is to give him a passionate kiss instead.

He’ll be thinking about you all day long.

11. Purchase the toys you talked about and leave them on the bed without saying a word

Maybe you’ve been talking about experimenting with some toys but neither of you have pulled the trigger on it yet. All you have to do to tease him and drive him crazy for you is buy one of those toys – and leave it on the bed for him to find.

Don’t make a peep about it otherwise. This will get him in the mood so fast he won’t know what to do with himself. We suggest doing this in the morning and leaving before he does so he finds it while you’re already gone. [Read: 13 must-have couple’s sex toys for naughty first timers]

12. Tell him all the things you want him to do to you

When he’s least expecting it, whisper in his ear all of the things you want him to do to you. Tell him how badly you want him to work his magic on you, and the images will start going around in his mind. He will go nuts! [Read: How to talk dirty to a guy and sound really, really sexy]

13. Give him a hot oil massage

When it comes to learning how to tease your man, there’s nothing sexier than rubbing hot oil on his body. This is a great way to get him to relax, but also a fantastic way to get him in the mood for later.

When you’re doing this, make your way up and down his entire body, pausing on the good parts, but never quite satisfying him the way he wants. This will make him want you more later. [Read: Massaging your partner to orgasm – 20 pivotal dos and don’ts]

14. Slowly undress him

It may sound strange to undress someone as a means of teasing them, but hear us out. This is the perfect opportunity for you to touch him all over without him being able to stop or control you.

This is also a great time to put some other techniques into play at the same time, to overload his senses.

15. Make him watch you get undressed – slowly

It’s not called a stripTEASE for no reason. If you want to tease your man, sit him down in a chair and make him watch as you slowly take off each article of clothing – saving the best for last. He won’t be able to keep his hands off you when you’re finally naked. [Read: Striptease 101 – Your effortless guide to doing it like a pro]

16. Start kissing him slowly and make your way down his body – but never stopping anywhere

This is the same kind of teasing that the hot oil massage does, only better because it’s with your mouth. Start at his neck and slowly make your way down his chest, then stomach, stopping just above his goods before going back up.

When it comes to learning how to tease your boyfriend, this one is simple yet very effective. [Read: How to kiss him passionately and romantically]

17. Guide his hands along your body

Take his hands and move them over your body just as you want them. Let them linger at the good spots sometimes, but then pull them away and refuse to let him touch others. He’ll be dying to be the one controlling things after a few moments.

18. Guide him slowly into the bedroom

This is a simple, yet very powerful way to tease him. All you have to do is grab his hand and pull him behind you as you slowly, agonizingly, make your way into the bedroom. And then close the door behind him. [Read: How to arouse a man instantly even if he’s just not in the mood]

19. Dress to your best

The things that attract the opposite sex are those things which are unique to you, so make the most of them.

Full hips, large breasts, long legs, narrow waists, and round buttocks are all areas that the male’s sexual attention is focused upon, so whatever your particular physical strengths, make sure you dress to make the most of them. Then just sit back and watch him rise to the occasion!

20. Dirty flirty

Not everyone is an expert at the humble flirt, the art of innocuously inserting innuendo into normal conversation. However, this tease trick is definitely worth learning to get your guy hot under the collar. [Read: 30 subtle, obvious and really sexy flirting tips for girls]

21. The common tongue

The tongue is so suggestive of sex, and you can use it in many different ways to get your guy horny. Licking your lips, the rim of your glass, your fingers… any one of these will have him horny as hell.

Learning how to tease your man doesn’t have to be complicated, most of the time, you already have the tools you need!

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22. The quick change

When learning how to tease your boyfriend, some methods need a bit more work than others. This particular method needs some prep, but if he’s picking you up from your place, pretend to have a change of heart over your clothes. Then, do a quick change in front of him to give a little extra glimpse of flesh he wasn’t expecting.

Super tease territory. [Read: How to strip tease – 19 sexy moves for newbies to undress like a stripper]

23. Wear something lacy

One of the most tried and tested ways of getting a guy horny is to adopt a little sexy lingerie for the evening. And this isn’t the sole territory of the bedroom. A revealing glimpse of a stocking top or bra can have a devastating effect. [Read: 34 physical turn ons that arouse a guy instantly]

24. Miss wet t-shirt

Difficult to prepare, but if you’re in a scenario where there is likely to be water being thrown around—a summer party, theme park, water park, etc. — make sure your clothes will be as revealing as possible when wet. This’ll have your guy with his tongue hanging out, meaning you know exactly how to tease your boyfriend!

25. Rock your confidence

If you want to learn how to tease your man, take over the room, girls! A bar, a restaurant, a party, whatever. Let everyone know you’re there and become the center of everyone’s attention. Guys find confidence a very horny trait. [Read: 12 bad girl traits every guy craves to see in his woman]

26. Sit on his lap

If there’s nowhere else convenient to sit, then sit in his lap. Just make sure you execute the odd wiggle to pretend you are getting more comfortable and have the blood rushing to his nether regions at the same time.

27. Phone filth

If your relationship is strong enough, show him some porn on your tablet or phone mid-evening to get his sexual fervor sky-rocketing. He won’t want to wait to get you home! [Read: 15 sexy conversation starters to get you both horny in no time]

28. Let your fingers linger

A woman’s touch alone can be a great tease. However, where you might normally touch the knee or hand, touch his thigh or chest, and let the touch linger.

It’s just about the best subliminal indicator of sexual attraction there is and that’s how to tease your boyfriend.

29. Photo synthesis

Show him some naughty pics of yourself half or fully naked, either before or during the evening, to get his heart thumping and horny as hell. A great teasing tip. [Read: Seductive selfie – 34 best sexy selfie poses and tips to show yourself off]

30. Food can be sexy too

If you’re eating out somewhere, choose your food carefully in order to achieve the greatest naughty tease value.

Bananas, oysters, chocolate mousse, or anything that can be slid sensually and suggestively between your lips. It’s bound to get him as horny as hell. [Read: The best dishes to get your sex drive to skyrocket!]

31. Send a voice note he’ll replay on loop

Sometimes, it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. A slow, breathy voice note whispering just how much you want him can short-circuit his brain faster than any sext. Tell him exactly where your hand is. Or say something subtle: “I wore that thing you like today… and no one else knows.” [Read: 17 Hacks to Have a Sexy Voice & Seduce Anyone With the Way You Talk]

The sound of your voice becomes his new obsession. Studies show that auditory stimulation, especially with emotional and sensual tone, lights up parts of the brain associated with arousal and bonding. 📚 Source: Huron, D., 2001, Is music an evolutionary adaptation?

32. Play the “Don’t You Dare Touch” Game

This one’s wicked, and insanely hot. Set the scene: you’re sitting on the couch or in bed, legs tangled, wearing something soft. Every time he reaches out to touch you, you gently push his hand away and say, “Not yet.”

You’re physically close, giving him just enough to taste, but not to touch. The more you pull away, the more his dopamine-fueled brain wants to chase. It’s classic reward anticipation at work. 📚 Source: Berridge & Robinson, 2016, Wanting vs. liking in the brain

33. Tease him with your reflection

Here’s a visual fantasy you probably haven’t tried: the mirror tease. While you’re getting ready, “accidentally” leave the door open, letting him catch glimpses of you in the mirror, putting on lingerie, adjusting your bra, slowly brushing lotion on your thighs. Don’t make eye contact right away. When you finally do, hold it.

[Read: Sexual Voyeurism, the Horny Rush & Naughty Ways to Enjoy It as a Couple]

The mirror creates distance and mystery, and studies show watching someone from a third-person perspective (hello voyeurism) can seriously amplify arousal. 📚 Source: Roney, J.R., 2003,Visual exposure to the opposite sex and hormonal response

34. The “cum later” rule

Ever told him he’s not allowed to finish until you say so? That’s what this move is all about, you’re in charge of the ending, and until then, he’s your personal plaything.

Use this during foreplay, oral, or mutual teasing. Say it with a wicked smile: “You don’t get to cum until I give the green light.” Add a blindfold or handcuffs for extra chaos.

This taps into delayed gratification psychology, which not only increases desire but makes the final release so much more intense. 📚 Source: Horne, S. et al., 2021, Regulating desire in daily life

35. Use the ice cube trick

Here’s one that’s pure sensory tease. Next time you’re feeling bold, grab an ice cube and run it along his jaw, neck, nipples, or thighs. Then follow the trail with your warm tongue or a whisper. The hot-and-cold contrast creates a rush of skin sensitivity and keeps him guessing what’s next.

Sensory play like this amplifies arousal by activating nerve endings and making his skin crave your every move. 📚 Source: Komisaruk et al., 2011, The science of orgasm

36. Whisper your fantasy mid‑conversation

Here’s the ultimate stealth tease: drop a bold fantasy into an otherwise innocent moment. Like during dinner or while you’re brushing your teeth. Look at him and say, “I had this fantasy last night… want to hear it?” Then pause. Let him beg for it. [Read: Mutual Fantasy: How to Fantasize & Talk About Someone Else While Having Sex]

Teasing his mind is often more powerful than touching his body. Erotic anticipation triggers the imagination, and that’s where the real heat lives. 📚 Source: Janssen, E., 2011, Sexual arousal: psychological and physiological perspectives

Beware of blue balls

Pawing, licking, and teasing your man is hot and all, but don’t take it too far! Learning how to tease your boyfriend needs to come with limits. Being super stimulated with no release can result in something men affectionately refer to as “blue balls.”

This is a buildup of pressure and stimulation that can make his testicles swell with varying levels of pain. Teasing is fun, but happy endings are way better!

[Read: Everything you need to know about blue balls]

Being a tease isn’t about manipulation, it’s about mastery. It’s knowing when to give, when to hold back, and how to make him crave you in the deepest, most delicious way.

And now that you know exactly how to tease a man sexually, with your body, your voice, your mind, and your confidence, there’s no going back. He’s officially obsessed.

Just remember: with great teasing power comes great responsibility. So go light the fire… and make sure you’re the only one who can put it out.

The science behind the tease: why it really works

Ever wondered why teasing drives him so crazy? It’s not just your lingerie or a clever text, it’s brain chemistry at work.

When you tease a man sexually, his brain lights up with dopamine, the neurotransmitter responsible for desire, reward, and pleasure. This surge creates a loop where he’s anticipating something intensely pleasurable, but because you’re holding off on the full reward, that anticipation just keeps building.

It’s the same psychological mechanism behind addiction, romantic obsession, and even cliffhanger endings on Netflix, and guess what? You’re the episode he can’t stop craving.

The longer the delay, the greater the eventual release. And if you’re using emotional, physical, and sensory teasing together? You’re literally activating multiple arousal systems at once: visual (seeing you), tactile (wanting to touch you), auditory (hearing you), and imagination (fantasizing about what you’ll do next).

📚 Source: Georgiadis & Kringelbach, 2012, The Human Sexual Brain

So yes, teasing isn’t just sexy. It’s a neuropsychological power move. And now that you know how it works, go ahead and make his mind, and body, melt.

[Read: 20 Arousing Sex Fantasies That You Seriously Need To Try At Least Once]

It’s one thing to be a sexy tease, it’s another to be a cruel one. So remember these steps, and learn how to tease your boyfriend in the right way and have him begging for more.

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