Sex is a confusing subject for beginners. I wish someone was there to guide me when I lost my virginity. Someone to tell me the best sex positions for beginners and how it would feel the first time would have been so helpful.
For me, it was a traumatic experience. I was housesitting for a family member and my boyfriend came over. I was a virgin, and he wasn’t much more experienced than I was. All I remember was the pain and thinking why is sex such a big deal? It doesn’t even feel good. That was then.
Of course, after that experience, you have other sexual experiences. You grow and learn what you like and don’t like.
[Read: The dirty truth about losing your virginity no one told you]
Sex can vary wildly in quality depending upon the position you choose.
Some positions might cause you discomfort or even hurt, yet other positions might be a world of pleasure for you. It’s about experimenting, but having a few of the best sex positions for beginners up your sleeve will help you to find what suits you much faster.
The right sex position for you will make you feel good, will help you to connect with your partner, it will be comfortable, and it won’t make you self-conscious.
Even when you find a position that you enjoy, it’s a good idea to keep mixing things up and trying new things too. If you stick with the same routine all the time, sex is going to become pretty boring. [Read: 14 sex moves that feel good: So easy and yet so mind-blowing]
When you first start having sex, it’s easy to stick to the same things because they feel easy and safe to you.
However, good sex is about experimentation and trying new things occasionally. Don’t be afraid to test new positions out with your partner and to talk about how they feel. Communication is key if you want to enjoy sex from the get-go!
If you’re about to lose your virginity and you’re nervous, I get it. Trust me, your first time isn’t going to be a mind-blowing experience, you may fall asleep from boredom.
But, don’t fold your cards and quit just yet. It gets better, trust me.
That might sound negative, because some people do have wonderful first experiences. But for the most part, it’s, well, a bit awkward. We all have to start somewhere! You can make that experience much more enjoyable by doing your research into positions first.
What really helps is an idea of some of the sex positions for beginners that just work better than the others. Don’t try to recreate the Kama Sutra, just keep it simple. In this case, the simpler, the better. [Read: First time sex and the virgin’s guide to nailing it]
If you’re new to sex or are trying to find the best positions that are safe, easy and make you look great in bed, here are the best positions for beginners that can make you feel sexy, experience real orgasms, and feel great doing it!
Who doesn’t love missionary? Regardless of whether you’re a beginner or seasoned in sex, the missionary is a favorite for everyone.
It’s intimate, it’s easy, thus, making it perfect for beginners. The part that many people love about the missionary position is that you can look at each other face-to-face. This actually works to alleviate performance anxiety because in a way, you bond through eye contact.
For this position, the girl lays on her back with her legs bent at the knees, fanned open, while her partner is on top, entering her. She leaves her legs as is, raises them up a little, she can wrap them around the guy’s waist, or rest it completely on the bed. The guy then thrusts in and out at different speeds and pressure.
However, very few women orgasm via penetration, so don’t focus so much on that. You’re better off stimulating the clitoris if you want to hit the big O. [Read: How to spice up the most basic missionary sex position]
You may think that doggy style is an advanced sex position, but it’s not. In reality, it’s really easy to do for both men and women.
What does matter though is the intensity. The problem usually is the one performing gets a little too excited and applies too much pressure when thrusting. So, if you want to give doggy style a try and you’re the one performing, keep in mind the other person and don’t thrust too hard.
For doggy style, the woman gets down on her knees and hands. Literally how you would look like if you were crawling on the ground. Now, you either stay in the position or drop your chest and head to the bed, leaving only your ass in the air. Either way is fine.
Usually, women feel more pleasure with only their ass in the air. To find the right spot, raise or lower your ass accordingly. [Read: All the ways to make doggy style your favorite sex position]
There’s something really sexy about being pulled to the edge of the bed and fucked. Now, this can be a little tricky if you’re not the right height for the bed.
However, that can easily be solved with pillows under the woman’s hips or the guy can kneel. You’ll figure which one works best.
To do this position, the woman lays on the edge of the bed, having her legs hanging off. Then, the guy grabs her legs, placing himself in between them, entering her. Then, it’s all in his hands. He thrusts away till the sun shines. For guys, you’ll be able to support yourself by holding her thighs or ankles. [Read: Sex in a new relationship: How to make the first time less awkward]
Now, honestly, it took me a year to figure out how to do this. My friends would tell me, “It’s like riding a horse,” which is helpful information if I had ridden a horse before. So, my nerves got the best of me, and I avoided this position. However, once you get the hang of it, you’ll never want to stop riding your man. So, how do you do this position? Lemme tell ya.
The guy lays on his back. The woman crawls on top of him, straddling him. Yes, like you ride a horse, whatever that means. Take his penis with your hand and slowly lower yourself onto it. Do it slowly.
I know you’re horny, but it could sting a bit. Then, you either move up and down or back and forth. I suggest mixing it up a bit with the techniques. I wouldn’t recommend starting in this position, as you need to be wet for this one. [Read: 18 must-know girl on top tips to make this position way sexier]
Everyone love spooning, but this time, it’s a little different. So, we all know the traditional spooning position when you lay on your side and your partner lays on their side behind you, right?
Now, this time, you’re not going to be in your PJs, you’re going to be naked. It’s one of the best sex positions for beginners because it’s easy enough yet has serious potential for orgasm.
If you’re a woman, slightly lift your top leg so your partner has enough room to enter you. Your partner controls the pressure and thrusts by holding your breasts, waist, hair, or neck. For women, there is a higher chance for G-spot stimulation while in the spoon position. [Read: 15 ways to make spooning sex better than any other position]
If you want intimacy, this is one of the sex positions for beginners that works like a charm. It’s especially great if you’re nervous about sex, which at one point, we all are. No one told me about this position, and I wish they had You’ll be able to relax and become comfortable with your partner while facing them.
So, to get into this position, you’ll want to both lay on your sides facing each other. If you’re a woman, move up slightly higher than your partner, positioning your hips above his. Then, wrap your top leg around his which gives him the space to enter inside of you. [Read: Dry humping and the virgin’s guide to orgasms]
Okay, I admit, this isn’t the most intimate one when you think about it right away, but when you try it, you’ll actually see how great it feels.
For women, you lay on the bed face down. The guy is going to come from behind and enter you. Now, the romantic part is when you have your head to the side and they lean in to kiss you or brush your hair out of your face. See, it’s the little things that count in life, and in sex.
This one is slightly more advanced but it still fits in the realm of the best sex positions for beginners. It’s exactly the same as girl on top, except you’re facing the other way. Your partner is going to have a rather sublime view of your ass and you can pull whatever face you want, without them seeing you! [Read: How to do the reverse cowgirl: What it is & how to ride in sexy style]
You can also lean back, lean forward and move in circles if you want to, depending on what feels good for you.
Remember we talked about the missionary earlier and how it’s one of the best sex positions for beginners? Well, you can modify it a little too.
Put a pillow under your ass for extra G-spot potential, or you could put your legs up on your partner’s shoulders for a deeper thrust. It looks like it should be an advanced position, but it’s not! That’s the beauty of it. [Read: Reverse missionary: How to drive your lover nuts with passion]
This one is a little similar to the face down position but it’s a little more intimate because the man will press his body down on top of the woman *lightly, of course* and she will feel every inch of him.
The woman should lay face down on the bed with a pillow under her pelvis. The man should lay on top of her and enter her from behind. The thrust should be slow and steady, and of course, make sure that you don’t lean too much on your partner’s back.
These best sex positions for beginners are far easier than they sound and they will give you a much better chance at enjoying your first time. Talk to your partner and see what they want to try too. You can come to a good conclusion together, or you could just move from one position to the other and experiment away!
[Read: 10 intimate sex positions to feel the romance in the bedroom]
Sex doesn’t have to be as complicated as we make it look. At the end of the day, it’s really quite simple. You just need to know the best sex positions for beginners, and you’re good to go.
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