Fantasized about having an orgy? Curious about BDSM? Life is meant to be lived, so don’t be too embarrassed to turn your sexual fantasies into reality.
Sexual fantasies are meant to stimulate your senses, break down barriers, and offer you a risk-free glimpse into a world fueled with intense energy unlike any other. It is a place where your deepest, darkest, and kinkiest yearnings are brought to life. The thing is, many of us choose to leave these fantasies exactly where they are: in our imagination.
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to usher these fantasies into real life? Ever wondered whether you would be as satiated doing these acts for real, rather than just in your mind? Well, there is only one way to find out. Don’t be afraid to try it because, honestly, what’s the worst that can happen? You broaden your sexual horizons? You try something new? You have mind-blowing orgasms? As long as your sex fantasies don’t lead to jail time, there is no reason why you shouldn’t try them out in real life.
Adventure awaits in fantasy land
They say that the type of sexual fantasies you have says a lot about the type of person you are—and some even go so far to say that it draws on your fears and dreams. Personally, I’m not up for discussing the technical and scientific side of things, and want to dive right into the sexual fantasies that you can try in real life.
So, ladies and gentlemen, here are 12 arousing suggestions you can try the next time you feel like spicing things up in the bedroom.
#1 Playing dress up. As tame as this may sound, many people don’t have the courage to approach their partners for dress-up play time. Don’t worry, because you’d be surprised by how many people are willing to don a costume to appease a sexual fantasy. Whether you end up dressing up as Princess Leia and Han Solo, or start with something simple like naughty nurse and patient, the sky is the limit when it comes to playing dress up. Don’t forget the crotchless underwear! [Read: The sexual roleplay guide for beginners with dress up examples]
#2 Using toys. I’m not talking about the usual staples, like handcuffs and vibrators. There is a whole world of sex toys out there just waiting to be played with. From the Picobong Transformer, to the Tantus Juicer, bring your kinky fantasy to life by playing around with these highly sought-after toys. Whether solo or with your partner, I’m sure that you will have a ball of a time. Oh yes—don’t forget to buy extra lube. [Read: The vajankle and other creepy sex toys you probably have no idea about]
#3 BDSM. BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism. The movie 50 Shades of Gray turned this taboo topic into something acceptable, so why not turn up the kink and indulge in this sexy lifestyle? Keep in mind that there is a vast array of practices out there, so be sure to only consent to things that you feel comfortable doing and receiving. Start by gathering more information from chat groups and blogs before seeking out a partner. [Read: 50 shades of dangerous? The right way to get risque!]
#4 Rape Scene. According to a piece published on Psychology Today, “From 1973 through 2008, nine surveys of women’s rape fantasies have been published. They show that about four in 10 women admit having them (31 to 57 percent) with a median frequency of about once a month.”
Sexual assault is a horrible thing, yet many women indulge in these erotic fantasies. There’s no harm fooling around, so grab your partner *with prior consent, of course* and force them to sexually surrender to you. Whether you are a man or woman, it works both ways. Go all out together and stage a kidnapping scene for good measure.
#5 Role playing. The difference between role playing and sexual dress up is that role playing focuses more on the storyline than on the costumes. This is perhaps the easiest fantasy to indulge in. Examples include hooker and customer, plumber and bored housewife, and pool boy and MILF.
#6 Practice cuckoldry. Cuckoldry is more common than you think. It is so popular that the internet has even come up with a term to describe it. It basically entails a husband letting his wife sleep with other men. He doesn’t have a problem with this and, in fact, gets aroused from it. Don’t be too ashamed to bring this up with your wife, because at the end of the day, her being able to sleep around with Alpha males while you watch in enjoyment may turn her on, too. [Read: How to explore cuckold fantasies and have fun doing it]
#7 Threesomes. Why not invite a third party into your bedroom? Many couples love doing this, so there’s no reason why you shouldn’t give it a whirl. Whether you invite an open-minded friend to join in the fun or source for someone outside of your circle of friends, the sexual world of threesomes is your oyster. It may be a complicated topic to broach with your partner, but certainly one worth trying. [Read: Threesome sex or three times the trouble? The complete guide to the ménage à trois]
#8 Orgies. Also known as a sex party, an orgy is something that satiates everyone involved. Think of it as achieving multiple orgasms as a team. Whether you have several people working on you at once, or you take turns doing everyone in the room, orgies are basically threesomes with twice or even thrice the number of participants. [Read: 9 types of wild sex parties you can have at home]
#9 Swinging. If you’re not up for something as crazy as an orgy, or are too embarrassed to have more than one person working on you, swinging is just the thing you need. It’s basically cheating with consent. It entails switching sexual partners with someone else, so there’s still privacy and intimacy. There are parties that cater to this lifestyle, so do the research with your partner and do yourselves a favor by attending one.
#10 The one that got away. Both women and men constantly fantasize about the one that got away. Whether you have slept together in the past or made it to the door, but were never invited in, it is time for you to bust out your little black book and make some booty calls. Whether they’re already attached to someone else or single, they may just be up for a little one night stand.
#11 Public sex. From joining the mile high club, to doing it in the bathroom of the local pub, many sexual fantasies entail doing it anywhere but at home. Whether you want to do it on the down low or make others aware of what you’re doing, there are a myriad of places you can get down, dirty, and loud at. Examples include fingering your woman at the cinema, giving a blowjob in a changing room, having sex in the VIP room at the club, or indulging in a good ol’ quickie in the car. [Read: 7 sexiest places you can ever have sex in]
#12 In front of an audience. If you are proud of your sexual prowess and want the world to know what you can do, then making a little porno and posting it online is the way to go. You can either go all out and show off, or you can artfully position the camera so that it doesn’t capture your faces. Another way to have sex in front of an audience without worrying about your mother coming across it is live streaming. ChatRoulette, a website that randomly connects people from around the world for webcam chats, is a good option.
There is truly no point being a prude when it comes to sexual adventures. Sex is a pleasurable act and should be enjoyed as such. The better you make it, the happier you will be. What are you waiting for? Try these sex fantasies, and turn up the kink today.
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Born in Singapore and raised in Malaysia to multi-racial parents, Lianne is a self-proclaimed travel and food junkie. Having traveled extensively around the wor...