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Dry Humping and the Virgin’s Guide to Orgasms

Heard the rumors about dry humping and the fun it brings? But, what is dry humping? Learn how to do it for solo/coupled-up fun without going all the way. 

Dry Humping And The Virgin's Guide To Orgasms

When you’re a teenager who’s just started to explore your sexuality, the world can be a titillating place. Every kiss excites something, and every lingering touch stimulates something else. But, you feel like you have to behave like you know everything about sex already. The thing is, even full-blown adults can’t claim to be masters of sex and sexual stimulation! That’s why dry humping is the single best place to learn how to explore your sexuality and enjoy it from the get-go.

The truth is, dry humping is a safe experience. There is no penetration, no extreme touching, and you can control the pressure and speed to your own preferences. You can do it on your own, or you can do it with your partner if you’re not ready to go the whole way yet.

Even the sexually experienced still enjoy a good, old dry hump from time to time! [Read: 20 dirty questions to text a guy and seduce him instantly!]

What is dry humping?

Well, by definition, dry humping is nothing but dry sex. It’s a kind of non-penetrative sex or outercourse. Your partner and you graze each other’s privates against each other, but with your clothes on. Or, you can do it alone, with the help of a cushion.

You can feel each other down there, but you can’t see it or directly touch each other’s privates. And it’s probably called dry sex because you don’t exchange body fluids with each other. [Read: 10 sexy ways to discreetly seduce a guy who isn’t yours already]

Dry sex definitely feels good, as the friction and pressure you feel on your labia and clitoris could stimulate you and make you feel sexually excited. Your boyfriend too may enjoy his erection more because of the pressure he feels against his member. To understand it better, think of it as grinding your butt at a guy when you’re dancing at a pervy party. [Read: How to grind with a guy sexily and discreetly]

If you’re learning how to dry hump alone, you can use a cushion, as we mentioned, or any surface that’s hard enough to give you friction but covered enough to make it comfortable. The corner of a sofa or the edge of a bed are both good options.

Who is dry humping for?

If you haven’t had sex yet, either because you’re not ready or because you don’t intend to have sex until you’ve met the right person who you can spend your life with, well, good for you.

This feature is specifically for our younger readers who haven’t had sex yet, and are looking at other ways to keep the sexual excitement alive in their relationship. Of course, it’s also for those who are exploring masturbation and sexual stimulation alone. [Read: 20 things that turn a guy on sexually when he notices a girl]

You may think having sex at a young age is all the rage. But, anyone with a frisky teenage sexual experience to brag about wll tell you that sex is always better when you’ve reached consensual age and you’ve met someone you truly like.

So, dry humping is a great and safe way to explore sexual sensations alone or with your partner, without pushing yourself beyond your comfort level.

It’s better to wait – trust us

Without sounding like total prudes, we’d like to give you a piece of advice. Save your virginity for as long as you comfortably can. You’ll get to enjoy the other things a lot more by doing that!

If you’re 18 and still don’t feel ready for sex, don’t have sex. You don’t have to give in to peer pressure or do it just because everyone else is doing it. You’ll just regret it later. [Read: 25 signs your boyfriend loves you even if he doesn’t say it out]

Most teenagers can’t wait to grow up. In their haste to become adults, they lose their youthful innocence far too soon. If you’re a teenager who wants to be an adult early in life, you need to understand that you may lose your childhood over your pursuit of experiencing your sexuality.

Remember, once you lose your youthful teenage years, you’ll never get it back. Value your innocence. It’s the best part of being young. And really, you do realize that you have your whole life ahead of you to have sex with whomever you want, don’t you?!

Even if you’re in a relationship with a really great guy who says that he loves you, don’t jump into bed with him right away. Build intimacy first, and try to get to know each other better.

There is an easy way to understand if you and your lover are emotionally connected. If you’re uncomfortable talking about something sexual with your boyfriend, then you’re definitely not intimate yet. If you and your boyfriend really do love each other, both of you must feel really comfortable talking about anything at all, don’t you think? [Read: 15 signs of an emotionally controlling manipulative boyfriend]

How to dry hump your way to better orgasms

Dry humping can be a lot of fun. It can give you a lot of orgasms, and it can also feel just as good as sex if you play it well. By enjoying this experience together (or alone), you’ll start to feel more comfortable about sex in general. That doesn’t mean you should jump into it still, but it will help you understand what feels good and learn more about your body.

To enjoy a good dry hump, you need privacy and a comfortable place to sit down or lie down. Beyond that, everyone has their own way of doing it. Here are a few great tips to dry hump your way to a sexy orgasm!

1. Follow your instincts

When you lie down against each other, move your bodies against each other until the hips seem to move in sync with each other. If you’re dry humping alone, move your body in a way that feels good. [Read: How to listen to your gut and give strength to your inner voice]

2. Take it slow the first time

If you’re dry humping for the first time or not really sure about how to do it, use a bed or a couch. Dry humping is all about pelvic movements. The closer you place your private areas against each other while lying on top of each other, the more pleasurable it would feel. If you’re dry humping alone, it’s best to be on top of something, so you can feel more friction against the surface. The edge or corner of a sofa or bed will allow you to keep your legs on the floor, or lift them up when you want to. You’ll also feel strong friction against your clitoris.

3. Use your hands

Just like regular sex, dry sex isn’t all just about the action downstairs. Use your hands and run them all over each other, kiss each other passionately, bite and nibble. Dry sex will definitely heighten the sensation of everything else you do to each other. [Read: 10 ways to increase the passion while kissing your lover]

4. Avoid getting completely naked

The temptation of slipping it in will ruin the moment. It’s not worth it. If you ever do plan to have sex, it should never be a spur-of-the-moment decision. You and your partner need to discuss this calmly and rationally when you’re not clouded by sexual passion. By keeping your clothes on, you’re maintaining enough clarity to avoid a mistake you might regret later.

5. Shorts are a good option

You get to feel a lot of bare skin against each other, and this can really feel sexy. If you’re wearing soft cotton shorts while he’s in his jeans, you’d end up getting stimulated faster and enjoy a better orgasm. The roughness of the denim against the thin material of your shorts will get the job done. [Read: First time sex and the virgin’s guide to nailing it]

6. Mix up your positions

You don’t need to indulge in the same motions the whole time. Both of you could end up feeling rather sore otherwise. Instead, shift your bodies now and then. You can press your pelvis against his leg, and use your hands to stimulate his package too.

7. Maintain presence of mind

Don’t lose your presence of mind just because you’re horny and can’t think straight. If you see that his pants are wet, or if he tells you that he’s about to ejaculate, pull back. There’s always a small risk of pregnancy if body fluids come in contact with each other. It’s unlikely with dry humping, but it’s still there. [Read: The dating girl code all girls definitely need to know]

Can you get pregnant by dry humping?

This is a common question.

The truth is that dry sex doesn’t lead to pregnancies – it almost never does. For a very long time, it was always understood that penetration of the guy’s penis into a girl’s vagina is the only way for the girl to get pregnant. But a few rare medical cases have shown that it’s not always the case. Sometimes, the exchange of body fluids can take place even without penetration and lead to pregnancy. But, the chances of that happening are so slim that you’d probably be a medical case study if you did end up pregnant. [Read: How to have phone sex like a sexy sassy minx]

Let’s explain a little more …

Let’s go through the worst-case scenario in simple terms to help you understand it better. During ovulation, an egg is released by your body into the fallopian tubes from your ovaries. The egg stays there for a while, until a sperm meets it. If this doesn’t happen, that’s when you get your period. These fallopian tubes connect to your uterus, which is further connected to the vagina through a cervix. That’s a lot of distance for a warrior sperm to travel, especially if the sperm isn’t deep inside you already.

If your boyfriend ejaculates his sperm, wets his shorts with his sperm, and still continues to have passionate dry sex with you, there’s a small chance that the sperm may travel onto your clothes and pass through your shorts and over the outer walls of your vagina. After that, if you go to the bathroom and wipe yourself rather deep using a tissue, there’s a very small chance that one of the sperms that were on your vaginal wall may be pushed into your vagina because of your tissue. [Read: Sex myths – 15 commonly accepted “sex facts” that are so wrong]

Realistically speaking, it needs a lot of coincidences for you to get pregnant by having dry sex with your clothes on.

But just to be cautious and smart. It’s never too early to be aware of how birth control works, even if you’re not having actual sex yet. If you’re comfortable with the idea, confess to a friendly adult that you’re indulging in dry sex so they can advise you and be your pillar of support if something scares you. [Read: 18 signs to decode a guy’s true feelings about you]

The guy’s side of dry humping

A guy may not always be able to orgasm if he’s dry humping a girl. If your boyfriend complains of blue balls *his balls hurt because he wasn’t able to ejaculate after getting an erection*, let him finish himself off in the bathroom or in bed while fondling you with his hands. If he can masturbate when he’s alone at home, he definitely can do a better job while watching you in bed. [Read: Big blue ball facts every girl’s gotta know!]

And most importantly, even if your boyfriend isn’t a virgin, don’t feel pressurized into doing more than just dry humping. Even if he whines about it, he’ll still enjoy it because getting sexually intimate with you is a whole new experience for him.

Think about it, if just passionately kissing you could give him an erection, don’t you think dry humping him will do so much more? [Read: Is your boyfriend pestering you to have sex with just-the-tip?]

Things to be careful of while dry humping

Dry humping is safe and a great way to explore your sexuality and build intimacy with your lover, without having to involve sexual penetration into the picture.

Here are a few things you can keep in mind to ensure that nothing goes wrong while having dry sex with your partner.

1. Be wary of zips and too-rough material

Sometimes even something as regular as zippers or thick jeans can end up grazing your skin, leaving you with an uncomfortable burn or a painful wound. [Read: Why does sex hurt? 15 quick signs something’s not right]

2. Move around to avoid getting sore

Change the pressure positions now and then, or when you feel the pressure getting painful. You’ll enjoy dry humping better.

3. Feeling wet is a good sign

You may feel wet down there, but it’s just your body’s way of preparing you for sex. It’s your body’s natural lubricant. This lubricant will help avoid getting hurt by making you more slippery down there. As long as the guy is wearing his jeans, and he hasn’t ejaculated, you don’t need to panic about your own lubricant. [Read: How to make him go down on you without a push]

4. Don’t move too aggressively

The lubricant released by your body can help protect your vaginal walls, but you still need to play it gently. Extremely aggressive dry sex could leave your vaginal walls with tears which could end up bleeding.

Now you know everything there is to know about dry humping, you can choose to try it or not. But, it’s a great way to start exploring sex before you’re truly ready to go all the way. If you’re doing it solo, use that time to learn what feels good for you. Then, when you are ready, you can pass that information onto your partner for a better sex life.

[Read: 25 easy tips on how you can make your boyfriend happy every single day!]

And well, that’s all there is to know about dry humping. And now that you know how to dry hump, share the word with your friends. You’d definitely be doing them a favor by letting them see the better side of dry sex over penetration sex!

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