7 Things Nice Guys Do That Girls Mistake for Flirting

things guys do that girls mistake for flirting

Nice guys do lots of things for women out of the goodness of their own hearts. But that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s trying to flirt with you!

Nice guys don’t always finish last. Many times they don’t care if they are first or last, because they are more concerned with others than themselves. That’s because they have manners, and that’s what nice guys do.

I know it might be hard to understand that there really are just some nice, good guys out there. No, they don’t all live in the south. They are everywhere!

Anyway, let me reiterate the fact that if a guy is nice to you, it does not mean he wants to sleep with you. I mean, he might, no doubt, but it’s very important to remember that there really are just some great guys out there in the universe, who were raised properly, and know how to treat people.

7 signs he’s just being a nice guy, and not a flirt

Check out the ways nice guys continue to confuse girls everywhere, by simply being nice and gentlemanly in all that they do.

#1 Nice guys holding doors for you. This might be a shocker, but just because you breathe the same air a guy breathes, does not mean he’s flirting with you. Just because you might be walking into the same entrance as the dude in front of you on your way to work, and find that the dude happens to pause, and motions for you to go ahead of him, all the while holding the door for you, does not mean he is in love with you.

He is however just a human with really awesome human common sense. It’s called manners people, go and get you some. He’s just a dude holding a door for you, and if you were to turn around to see him holding the door for you, you would probably find him still holding it for the other ten people walking up, including other women. Who knew! [Read: How to read mixed signals and turn it into love]

#2 Nice guys smiling at you. We all know the whole bitchy resting face look people have. But did you know that people have the capability to smile, and that smiling is way easier than frowning, and probably even easier than walking around with bitchy resting face? If a guy smiles at you, it does not mean he wants to get with you.

It simply means he’s probably a happy little fella, who has no problem spreading his happiness out into the world and being a really nice person. If a guy smiles at you, stop being so vain and thinking he wants you. [Read: 7 reasons you’re not being approached by guys who like you]

#3 Nice guys buying drinks for you. I know most people probably assume that if a guy buys you a drink, he’s just trying to get you home. Although this might seem hard to understand, it’s true. Some guys literally just have the manners and kind heart to want to buy you a drink, even if you don’t even know him.

Think about the random strangers paying for other strangers in the Starbucks drive-thru that went viral. It’s an act of kindness, and doing acts of kindness not only make you feel good about yourself, but it makes others feel good too. Who wouldn’t want to be in a complete feel-good environment?

So remember, just because a guy might buy you a drink, alcoholic or not, does not mean he is flirting with you or trying to hit on you. It literally just means he’s offering to pay for your drink. Now, if he were to invite you over to his table or offer to keep you company, then that’s when you’ll know if he is indeed flirting with you.

#4 Nice guys complimenting you. Have you ever had one of your girlfriends tell you that your hair looked great, or they liked your shoes? Yes, of course, you have. And unless your friend is a lesbian, then your friend wasn’t giving you the compliment because she wanted to get in your pants. Perhaps she wanted to borrow them, but not get “in” them.

Just like girls, guys are allowed to compliment you without it meaning they are flirting with you. Why wouldn’t you want a guy to tell you he likes your shirt, or hair, or whatever compliments his kind-hearted soul wants to give you.

Take it, enjoy it, bask in it, and maybe even take a selfie secretly, to remember just how great you looked. But, take those kind words, and remember that he’s not necessarily flirting with you, just because he pays you a compliment and notices you. [Read: 15 sure signs he likes you but isn’t into you]

#5 Nice guys letting you cut in lines. If you’ve ever found yourself standing in a long line at the post office or grocery store, and the guy in front of you kindly offers for you to cut in front of him, it’s a great feeling. It’s a feeling that makes you feel like a winner, and it might also tempt you to do a double-take at the guy who just let you cut.

Although these moments may not happen all the time, when they do, it’s important to remember that there are still men with manners out in the universe. Just because he let you sneak in front of him, does not necessarily mean he wants to get in your pants and likes you.

He’s a stranger! He doesn’t even know you. And even if he does want to know you, he’ll start that off with a conversation while you’re in line. If he just lets you cut in without talking to you afterwards, then he was just being really nice.

#6 Nice guys offering seats up for you. When you find yourself on a crowded subway, train, or bus, and a random guy taps you and gestures that you can take his seat and he’ll stand, it’s very cool of that guy. It doesn’t happen all the time, but when a guy offers his seat up for you to sit down, it’s definitely a sign that he was raised properly and has manners.

Just because a guy decides to let you sit down and take his spot, doesn’t mean he wants to do you. He’d probably do the exact same thing for an elderly woman, if she were to have gotten on at the same time.

#7 Nice guys being touchy-feely talking to you. If you know a guy who always touches you when talking to you, it probably annoys you a little bit and also makes you think he’s in love with you, because why else would he always want to touch you? I don’t mean a creep who gropes you and makes you feel uncomfortable, but I mean the guy who maybe sometimes pinches your shoulder, or touches your arm, or always gives you a hug immediately when he sees you as his way to say hello.

[Read: 15 essential relationship tips for single ladies]

Some people are just very touchy-feely when they talk, just like some people always talk with their hands. This doesn’t mean he loves you and is flirting with you.

I know we live in a world where it’s very easy to be jaded and not believe that there are still good guys out there. And sometimes, we can’t help but think that, if a guy is being nice to you, he obviously is only doing so because he wants something from you.

Newsflash: It might mean he’s just one of the beautiful souls walking around our universe, who are there to remind you that when these random acts of kindness happen to you, you should restore your faith in humanity.

Sure, there are users out there, but that’s life. Some people suck and are only nice to you for certain things. But there are also really awesome people in the world with good manners and good intentions, and it’s important to always remember that.

[Read: 13 charming ways to be more approachable]

As Martin Luther King Jr. said, “The time is always right, to do what is right.” Maybe the guy being nice to you just so happens to know that no truer words were ever spoken.

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3 thoughts on “7 Things Nice Guys Do That Girls Mistake for Flirting”

  1. jacked up says:

    I’m a nice gu, a really nice guy and most women just can’t tell if I’m flirting or just being nice to them. I end up getting crazy long ass love messages from them admitting their long true and affectionate love for me. I actually take it as a compliment because I am by far the most good looking guy I know and that’s not tooting my own horn because it’s just true. I get that all the time and because I’m nice, I get it a lot more. I don’t have to be a bad boy to get the girls. I just do me and good things happen to me. I get what I deserve and sometimes more than what I needed or wanted. I had a lot of girls fawning for me ever since high school, that’s when puberty hit me and it never stop hitting me with countless girls admitting their love for me. It’s really flattering but I just had to pass nicely. They don’t take it hard and find it as an access to be my friend. I have a lot of friends that are women and I love it because I prefer girl friends over male friends any day. It’s like a feel an intense connections from the girl I’m with and I make room for a lot of fuck buddy relationships and we don’t really fall in love. At least I can say it’s true for me but most fuck buddies I had ended bad because they really fell in love with me. You can’t blame them because I suck their nipples so nice that their oxytocin hormones get jacked up and they think they love me so much. Yes, I’m a science geek as well. 🙂

  2. Lucky says:

    I just think it;s nice that most girls find the nice things I do for them as flirting because it saves me the hassle of actually trying to flirt because I am really awkward when I flirt. It serves me an advantage because most girls that I meet and be nice to really want me in their pants and it only takes a little effort me to really get to their pants. You know what I;m saying, brother? I really know that whatever I do, I just can’t seem to make them stop liking me. After I do something nice, a girl would really fall for me in an instant. It’s as simple as giving them their coffee and saying their name when they didn’t hear the barista. I do that most of the time and the girls I call the names out are really gorgeous. Am I lucky or am I lucky? I really think I’m the luckiest guy in the world sometimes. I never lose my luck and it’s awesome. I saw that movie starring a beautiful girl who’s name I can’t recall, anyway, the movie was called just my luck and I really think I’m her boy version, but I never lose my luck even if I kiss a girl. I got the best luck ever and I tried those scratch offs. I win every single time. One time, I won 100 thousand dollars worth of scratch offs and blew 50 percent of it all on charity and more girls came flocking over to me. I wasn’t rich before but they came flocking, now that I’m rich, they still keep on coming. I make about 10 thousand dollars per day because of scratch offs. The sellers cannot believe my luck. If I would scratch it off, I would win but if they try to scratch, they don’t win anything. It’s really amazing and I think I’m going to be featured on TV one day as the luckiest man alive.

  3. cool says:

    Let’s get one thing straight ladies, me holding a door open for you does not count as flirting. I repeat, IT DOES NOT COUNT AS FLIRTING. Like this one time, I held the door open for this girl and she was like, “Can I have your number?” I said, “No, but have a nice day”.

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