You may be dating a guy, or a guy may be pursuing you, but does that mean he loves you? If you’re wondering if his interest in you has transitioned into love, or you can’t help but ask yourself ‘does he love me’ when you think of your boyfriend, there are always subtle ways to know the honest truth.
You need to remember that romantic gestures are cute, but it’s easy to fake. After all, real love isn’t one grand gesture. It’s a series of little gestures that last a lifetime.
Your man and you may truly be in love with each other. But every now and then, especially when you’re feeling a little insecure or confused, your mind can’t help but helplessly wonder if he really loves you.
Feeling insecure occasionally is a part of experiencing love. It’s natural and something all of us feel now and then. But what matters is what your boyfriend does to reassure you, and make you feel more loved.
[Read: How men fall in love and the 7 stages they have to pass before loving you]
When two people first fall in love and experience the high of infatuation, all either of you would want to do is please the other person or shower each other with little acts of love and romance.
But as the infatuation starts to fade and real love starts to set in, the same romantic gestures you use to decode love *infatuation* can’t be used anymore, not when love takes a truer and deeper form. [Read: 25 most romantic gestures you could use easily in your daily life]
Your guy may buy you gifts or indulge in romantic gestures to please you and woo you, and they definitely work!
But to truly understand whether your man loves you, you need to keep an eye on the signs he gives away when he doesn’t realize it himself. How does your man behave when he isn’t trying to woo you, or trying to prove he loves you?
Most guys do this! But it’s not his fault or yours really. It’s just that as the talking stage progresses to dating, and then to something more, he just assumes he has to say “I love you” because it’s what a guy is supposed to do. He may not even mean it, especially if he’s not sure you’re the one. Or if he believes you’re not yet invested in him.
By saying “I love you” to you, he assumes it’s the easiest way to keep you happy in the relationship. Or worse, he may do it because he thinks that’s what YOU want to hear!
But, of course, there are always ways to know if he really does love you. Take a look at the signs below, and without any doubt, you’ll have the answer to that question, does he love me, in no time at all!
[Read: How to read the signs your guy means it when he says ‘I love you’]
The honeymoon period in love is all about romantic gestures, but if you’re looking for signs of love beyond gestures and words, use these signs to read his mind. And you will find your answer to, does he love me, by the time you reach the end of this list.
In a relationship, the more the couple talks, the better they understand each other. And if your guy does love you, he can’t help but talk about his feelings and his desires, and he’ll want to know everything about your life too. It’s the easiest way to connect and build a better relationship. [Read: Pillow talk and why it makes love so much better!]
Do you ever catch him staring at you when you’re busy doing something else? That’s a clear sign that he can’t get enough of you! *and he’s definitely awed by you too*
A guy who really loves you likes seeing you happy. And he’d want to be involved in activities that make you happy even if he doesn’t enjoy it himself. Does he watch your favorite show with you even if he rather be doing something else? Does he playfully grumble about the dirt and the thorns while helping you weed your garden on a Sunday afternoon? It seems like he really loves you. [Read: How to make your man really happy and leave him smitten and hooked in love]
We’re not talking about big acts of love here. Does he place his hand on your back as you two cross the street? Does he reassure you when you’re nervous about something? Does he pay attention to your needs no matter who else is around? That’s a sign your happiness and safety is above everything else in his mind.
No one likes canceling plans, at least not most guys, because no guy would want to be called a flake. But even if he’s out with his friends and he finds out that you’re not feeling well or you’ve had a bad day, he’d drop all his plans in a second to be there with you and comfort you.
He doesn’t have to do it, because you wouldn’t expect him to. But he does it anyways because he loves you.
He spends a lot of time with you, perhaps even more time than he spends with his friends. When your guy truly falls in love with you and sees you as a partner for life, even his closest buddies will take a backseat and he’d start spending more time with you.
Of course, this doesn’t mean he gets clingy, but he values you more than anything else. [Read: Am I codependent? The big signs you’re clingy and overstepping boundaries]
He’s impressed you and he’s won you over. So why keep up with the behavior, right?
But if he loves you, he won’t just stop there. He’ll go out of his way to be nice to your friends and family so he can make a good impression on them, even if it’s only because he knows that’ll make you more happy.
Secrets are acceptable in a relationship. But when a guy falls hard for you, he’ll start to bridge the divide between his life and yours. He’d be okay with you knowing about his bank account details, a few of his passwords, or even if you answer his phone for him.
Does your boyfriend hug you and hold you tightly occasionally, for no reason at all? He feels good when he hugs you because he’s in love with you.
A good hug that lasts more than just a few seconds releases feel-good chemicals in your body, and even if your boyfriend doesn’t know this fact, his mind can feel it. [Read: The health benefits of hugging that’ll make you want to him him more]
People blow hot and cold when they’re playing games, or when they’re angry with the person over something. But if a guy truly loves you, he’ll never play games, or blow hot and cold. Even if you two have had an argument, he loves you far too much to hurt you by ignoring you. [Read: Blowing hot and cold – The 3 stages to explain why someone uses this to hurt you]
If a guy likes you, he wants to get to know you, true. But when a man loves you, he wants to know every single detail of your life that he’s missed, and hasn’t been a part of. What was the name of your best friend from school? When was your first heartbreak? What do you like for breakfast? He wants to know everything that makes you, you!
If a guy loves you, he’d change his habits and his lifestyle just to spend more time with you. He’d even be willing to miss a game or his favorite movie *and he won’t even complain about it* just to help you with a project or to listen to you when you have a shitty day! [Read: 30 facts about your boyfriend that can help you read his mind]
A guy who’s not committed to you yet would avoid talking about you with other pretty girls that he knows, especially his colleagues in his office or his hangout. But if he’s really serious about you, he’d flaunt you every time you come to meet him instead of trying to keep your presence discreet.
When a guy loves a girl, he wants to be her “number one”! If you tell him about how you had some car trouble, or some difficulty at work, he’d be upset you didn’t tell him about it already.
He wants you to truly understand that he’s always available to help you and fix your problems, no matter how big or small. If you’re wondering, does he love me, this is something to look out for. A man who loves you will want to play a bigger part in your life, as your “savior”. [Read: The damsel in distress and why men find them so irresistible]
Awkward secrets are a sign of weakness because it gives other people a chance to judge him. But if a guy loves you, he’d be open to sharing secrets he hasn’t told anyone else with you, because he trusts you and loves you enough to share them with you. [Read: 50 relationship questions to find out how compatible both of you are]
He remembers you even when he doesn’t have to. He gets you something you like even if you don’t ask him to. Or on his way back home, or on his way to meet you, he may stop to buy you your favorite something because he knows you like it even if you say nothing about it.
A guy who’s in love may not always say that he misses you, because it sounds corny. But when you finally meet him, you’d see a twinkle in his eyes and a wide smile on his lips that scream just one thing, I love you and I’m so happy to see you! [Read: 24 very subtle signs he misses you badly every time you aren’t around]
He may tease you about something you did, but he’d always be willing to help you or stand by you, without judging you or expecting something in return for it.
This may happen subconsciously, or he may be vocal about it. But does he ask you to leave over a few clothes at his place? Does he give you his spare key so you aren’t waiting around for him when you come over to his place? Or does he talk about moving in together someday?
These are all subtle ways a guy shows a girl that he loves her, and is interested in spending his life with her. [Read: 18 signs a man is emotionally attached and wants to get closer to you]
He brags about your achievements, and can’t stop talking about how awesome you are when you achieve something. A man who loves you will always celebrate your achievements *big or small* with the same enthusiasm that he celebrates his own.
If you don’t live together yet, you’re the first person he texts in the morning, and the last person he texts before falling asleep at night. He could always fake this by staying up and texting someone else, but over time, it’s easy to know if a guy is lying or being honest about it. [Read: 20 reasons why a good morning text is so important]
If a guy truly loves you, he’ll compromise his interests for you, just so he can see you smile. [Read: A warm true story of unconditional love]
He constantly talks about his big plans and everything he wants to achieve in life. And almost all of his plans involve you and how happy and proud he can make you feel.
Sometimes, girls have a habit of getting annoyed for no apparent reason at all. And at other times, you girls give us the silent treatment and wait for us to decode the mystery of why you’re upset.
But if your guy loves you, not only will he put up with your moods without sulking or rolling his eyes, he’ll also apologize and try to cheer you up even if he believes he’s done nothing wrong in the first place. [Read: 12 bad girl traits every guy wants to see in his girlfriend]
Does he text you asking you if you’re reached home after you were out with friends? Does he randomly text you throughout the day to ask you how your day’s going so far? He’s not doing these things to play you. He’s doing this because he genuinely loves you, and is concerned about you. Also, of course, your thoughts cross his mind very often, all day long.
He shows his love for you in little ways that you may not really notice all the time. It’s the little things like giving you the bigger bite, the better drink or the better seat, taking really good care of you when you’re ill, and many other little things that you may take for granted often. [Read: 33 traits of a boyfriend that make him the best ever]
Whatever you goals may be, he’s your biggest cheerleader and support system. Want a better job? He’s by your side, looking for new opportunities. Want to lose weight? He’s googling and sharing snippets of information about health hacks.
He’s not just someone who congratulates you at the finish line. If a guy loves you, he’s out there right at the edge of the field cheering you on!
Not the in-from-one-ear-and-out-the-other kind of way. He actually listens to you and remembers the things you say. How can you tell? If he remembers something you mentioned in passing a month ago, and brings it for you today, it clearly shows he isn’t just interested in hooking up with you, but he truly loves you and cares about you. [Read: 40 secrets on how to make your boyfriend feel happy and lucky to date you]
Insecure boyfriends subconsciously want you to feel or look bad, because that makes them feel more secure about you and the relationship. But a secure boyfriend who loves you would try to make you look good in everything you do. It’s not because he thinks he’s too good for you, but because he believes he treats you right. [Read: Why being an Instagram boyfriend makes a guy awesome and not whipped]
Many guys hide little secrets because they don’t want to “hurt” you. He’s playing video games instead of meeting you? Or does he have a flirty coworker? If he loves you, he won’t hide these details from you. Instead, he’ll be honest and have a laugh about it, because he knows he’s proven his loyalty and love to you already. [Read: Why do men lie? Understanding why men fib the way they do]
He may have a busy life himself. But yet, he makes it a point to remember all the big events in your life. And if you ever have something big to work on, he’s always around to help you or at least assist you.
Is he heading out with his friends? Will he be late from work? No matter what the reason or circumstance, he makes it a point to let you know beforehand. He does this not because he has to report his activities to you, but to make sure you’re not worrying or wondering what he’s doing. If there’s anything he can do to make you worry less, he’ll do it.
All of us have our careful hidden sides that no one else sees but the closest person in our lives. Maybe you fart like a skunk, or are extremely lazy once you get into bed? Or perhaps, you have a terrible temper that you reveal only to the people closest in your life? Whatever it is, he’s seen it, and he’s still chosen to stick around. [Read: 18 relationship turn offs that can ruin your love life]
These days, people just don’t keep their word anymore. But when you love someone or care about them, you do. If your man truly loves you, he’ll make sure he keeps his word, no matter how inconvenient it is for him.
If he says he’ll come over to help you with something, and his car breaks down – he’ll walk a few miles or get a cab, or just about anything else, but he’ll be there for you if he gives you his word. A man who loves you will never let you down.
If you’re wondering, does he love me, ask yourself if he’s tried to involve himself in a regular activity of yours in some way. It could be something as simple as cooking together during the weekends, taking a walk everyday, or working out together.
If a guy wants to merge an activity and create a routine out of it, he’s doing it only because he wants to create a special “us” time with you. [Read: 25 must-follow relationship rules for happy love]
Well, this is as direct as it gets. If you’re dating a guy or are married to him, sometimes the easiest way to clear your doubts is when you hear him say it. And he probably does mean it too, especially when he says he loves you out of the blue, for no reason at all! [Read: The 25 best relationship topics to talk about if you really want to be happy]
When a guy verbally tells you he loves you, that’s a good enough sign to answer your question, does he love me? But a guy who truly loves you goes above and beyond when it comes to displaying his love for you.
He shows you just how much he loves you by the way he treats you. Want to know how? Read these different ways a guy can say I love you without using any words at all.
[Read: 23 must-know relationship advice that all girls really need to know]
A guy can display affection through romantic gestures all the time. But if you’ve ever wondered, does he love me, the best way to read his mind is by using these signs to find out if he loves you!
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