Does He Love Me? – 20 Sure Signs to Read His Mind

Does He Love Me? - 20 Sure Signs To Read His Mind

Romantic gestures are cute, but it’s easy to fake. Use these 20 real love signs to find the answer to your does-he-love-me question in no time!

Love isn’t one grand gesture.

It’s a series of little gestures that last a lifetime.

Your man and you may truly be in love with each other.

But every now and then, especially when you’re feeling a little insecure or confused, your mind can’t help but helplessly wonder if he really loves you.

Feeling insecure occasionally is a part of experiencing love.

It’s natural and something all of us feel now and then.

But what matters is what your lover does to reassure you, and make you feel more loved.

[Read: 12 real signs of true love in every relationship]

Does he love me? – Decoding the signs

When two people first fall in love and experience the high of infatuation, all either of you would want to do is please the other person or shower them with little acts of love and romance.

But as the infatuation starts to fade and steady love starts to set in, the same gestures you use to decipher love *infatuation* can’t be used anymore, not when love takes a truer and deeper form.

Your guy may buy you gifts or indulge in romantic gestures to please you and woo you, and they definitely work!

[Read: 25 most romantic gestures you could use easily in your daily life]

But to truly understand whether your man loves you, you need to keep an eye on the signs he gives away when he doesn’t realize it himself.

20 sure signs to answer your does-he-love-me question

The honeymoon period in love is all about romantic gestures, but if you’re looking for signs of love beyond gestures and words, use these 20 signs to read his mind.

#1 He communicates. In a relationship, the more the couple talks, the better they understand each other. And if your guy does love you, he can’t help but talk about his feelings and his desires, and he’ll want to know everything about your life too. It’s the easiest way to connect and build a better relationship. [Read: Pillow talk and why it makes love so much better!]

#2 He’s mesmerized by you. Do you ever catch him staring at you when you’re busy doing something else? That’s a clear sign that he can’t get enough of you! *and he’s definitely awed by you too*

#3 He bears it for you. A guy who really loves you likes seeing you happy. And he’d want to be involved in activities that make you happy even if he doesn’t enjoy it himself. Does he watch your favorite show with you even if he cribs or moans about it? Does he grumble about the dirt and the thorns while helping you weed your garden on a Sunday afternoon? It seems like he really loves you. [Read: How to make your man really happy in 20 different ways]

#4 Together time matters to him. He spends a lot of time with you, perhaps even more time than he spends with his friends. When your guy truly falls in love with you and sees you as a partner for life, even his closest buddies will take a backseat and he’d start spending more time with you.

#5 He tries hard to impress. He’s impressed you and he’s won you over. But if he loves you, he won’t just stop there. He’ll go out of his way to be nice to your friends and family so he can make a good impression on them, even if it’s only because he knows that’ll make you more happy. [Read: 10 perfect things your boyfriend would love to talk about with you]

#6 He bridges the personal space. Secrets are acceptable in a relationship, but when a guy falls hard for you, he’ll start to bridge the divide between his life and yours. He’d be okay with you knowing about his bank account details, a few of his passwords, or even if you answer his phone for him.

#7 He likes hugging you. Does your boyfriend hug you and hold you tightly occasionally, for no reason at all? He feels good when he hugs you because he’s in love with you. A good hug that lasts more than just a few seconds releases feel-good chemicals in your body, and even if your boyfriend doesn’t know this fact, his mind can feel it. [Read: 25 romantic ideas to make your boyfriend melt!]

#8 Your thoughts are on his mind. He may have a busy life himself, but yet he makes it a point to remember all the big events in your life. And if you ever have something big to work on, he’s always around to help you or at least assist you.

#9 He’s changed his world. If a guy loves you, he’d change his habits and his lifestyle just to spend more time with you. He’d even be willing to miss a game or his favorite movie *and he won’t even whine about it* just to help you with a project or to listen to you when you have a shitty day! [Read: 30 facts about your boyfriend that can help you read his mind]

#10 He flaunts you. A guy who’s not committed to you yet would avoid talking about you with good looking girls that he knows, especially his colleagues in his office or his hangout. But if he’s really serious about you, he’d flaunt you every time you come to meet him instead of trying to keep your presence discreet.

#11 He tells you his secrets. Awkward secrets a sign of weakness because it gives other people a chance to judge him. But if a guy loves you, he’d be open to sharing secrets he hasn’t told anyone else with you because he trusts you and loves you enough to share them with you. [Read: 50 relationship questions to find out how compatible both of you are]

#12 You’re in his mind. He remembers you even when he doesn’t need to. He gets you something you like even if you don’t ask him to. Or on his way back home or on his way to meet you, he may stop to buy you your favorite something because he knows you like it even if you say nothing about it.

#13 He misses you even if he doesn’t say it. A guy who’s in love may not always say that he misses you because it sounds corny. But when you finally meet him, you’d see a twinkle in his eyes and a wide smile on his lips that scream just one thing, I love you! [Read: 10 ways to be really romantic without being cheesy]

#14 He’s not judgmental. He may pull your leg about something you did, but he’d always be willing to help you without judging you or making you pay for it.

#15 You make him so proud! He brags about your achievements, and can’t stop talking about how awesome you are when you achieve something. A man who loves you will always celebrate your achievements with the same enthusiasm that he celebrates his own.

#16 He’ll bend over backwards. If a guy truly loves you, he’ll compromise for you just so he can see you smile. [Read: A warm true story of unconditional love]

#17 He dreams. He constantly talks about his big plans and everything he wants to achieve in life. And almost all of his plans revolve around you and how happy and proud he can make you feel.

#18 He humors your bitchy side. Sometimes, girls have a habit of getting annoyed for no apparent reason at all. And at other times, you girls give us the silent treatment and wait for us to decode the mystery of why you’re upset. But if your guy loves you, not only will he put up with your tantrums without sulking or rolling his eyes, he’ll also apologize and try to cheer you up even if he believes he’s done nothing wrong. [Read: 12 bad girl traits every guy wants to see in his girlfriend]

#19 The little things. He shows his love for you in little ways that you may not really notice all the time. It’s the little things like giving you the better drink or the better seat, dedicating a song for you out of the blue, taking really good care of you when you’re ill and many other little things that you may take for granted often. [Read: 25 signs your guy really likes you even if he doesn’t say it out loud!]

#20 He says I love you! Well, this is as direct as it gets. If you’re dating a guy or are married to him, sometimes the easiest way to clear your doubts is when you hear him say it. And he probably does mean it too, especially when he says he loves you out of the blue, for no reason at all!

[Read: 23 must-know relationship advice that all girls really need to know]

A guy can display affection through romantic gestures all the time. But if you want your answer to the does-he-love-me question, the best way to read his mind is by using these signs to find out if he loves you. Do you know any other signs, and in what way does your man display his love for you?

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17 thoughts on “Does He Love Me? – 20 Sure Signs to Read His Mind”

  1. dean says:

    my boyfriend is bi polar and very controlling … i put up with him all this years and its fine to me coz I love him so much …. he doesn’t want to be ask where he goes or who he texting …. when we argues it takes a week for him to talk to me again n it droves me crazy but i deal with it … last two weeks ago he got really mad at me and told me that he doesn’t love me and doesn’t care for me anymore and told me to leave. I cried n beg on my knees not to let me go n he gave me 7 days to look for a place …. the whole 4 days I stayed , I see him very very sad and still he cooks for me and we eat breakfast , lunch n dinner which I don’t understand why he doing this to me … and on the 5th day , that night he grabbed me to HUG me on his arms almost the whole night and the next day , we make love and it all went back to normal … my question is for all the things I mentioned , how true he doesn’t love me but show me different actions n how will I take off in my mind what he told me that he doesn’t love me anymore coz it’s in my head always n it hurts so much ???

  2. samantha says:

    How can i tell if my boyfroend is serious about us or not.? I mean he says he loves me and everything but yet when hes on facebook he adds all these hot girl and it makes me feel like he dont want me. How can i tell if he really means everything he says or if its just another lie?

  3. love says:

    i love my bf vry much..i do care for him , for our future, for our career, for our marriage…..he is a trustworthy guy and usually doesnot hide anything from me…til some days back we used to prepare for competitive xams togethr but now he has got the job and all my friends who were preparing got it but i dint and thing i saw dat he didnot understand my pain although i was vry hpy for him and neither he talked bout our marriage since thn and doesnot evn call me now much and i was alwyz concerned for for..i alwyz hoped dat he should get his job quickly so dat he can think bout our marriage wen i gone thru some writn xam i ws so concrned dat i should not join this job as he will be alone ..i wil join only if he gets the job along with me……now i only call him to listn to his voice but he does not takethe initiate and says i mis u…i dont whether he truly loves me or not……….one more thing is dat b4 our relationship began, i my bf and one of our common frnd were bst frnds but after our relationship dat frnd of mine slowly stoped talking to me and i felt vry bad , i cried for him vry much bt my bf nevr asked him bout dis and stil he considerd him as his bst friend..he nvr felt bad while seeing me crying…i asked my frnd the rsn he answers dat he is not comfortable wid our frnship…bt wenevr my bf toks to him ,i feel vry bad i think like he doesnot respct my feelings…my bf toks to him almost evryday and takes the initiative himself for toking to u although he knws dat i dont like it..i asked him dat i dont like him, i dont ask u to not to talk to u bt plz dont take the initiative urself coz it hurtz my he is ready to breakup wid me bt doesnot leave him…………….plz frnds help me out plzz

  4. Reem says:

    I love a boy but he loves another girl an he knows I love him but his actions sometimes seems like he loves me like sometimes he puts his are on my shoulder and sometimes he come running towards me opening his arms like his gonna hug me I know another guy that loves me but I don’t really like him even and sometimes he says to me I love u or something the boy that I love starts fighting with him and tells him get away of her she’s mine and one time he drew a heart on a car and made an arrow and wrote his first letter and my first letter too and also wrote I love u…… From …… I really don’t know what to do and no one understands me can u help me plz I really don’t know what to do and I rally love him!!

  5. Heather says:

    Wow–do these men really exist? That’s quite the “wish list.” I don’t think any human being acts this perfectly all the time.

  6. Alexis says:

    So someone recently asked me out, the very next night he had already said he loved me. At first I freaked out but didn’t say anything, is he going to fast? I think he is but I’m not sure

  7. mia says:

    hello i have a problem i fell in love with a married man and i think he loves me too.he care for me alot and always calls and when i have to wale up early he stays awake just to wake me up even if he has to wake up a few hours later.he trys to make me happy . and yasterday he kissed me and after that he called and said i felt something i didnt feel for 10 years.. so does he love me?? what should

  8. Jeannie says:

    I met this guy online and we clicked immediately. But within a few days I experienced his mood swing (we haven’t met) and I was scolded for bothering him at work (via sms). We stopped contacting for almost a month. Late one night, he texted me asking me to hang out with him. I immediately say yes and ran off to meet him, in the dress I bought for our first date. We met at a karaoke bar. He chose a few songs and sing to himself. We had little contact and he just immersed in his own world. He paid no attention to me except when he needed to excuse himself to the loo. I felt so cold and lonely around him. Finally the karaoke session ended and I requested to leave early. He actually ask me to pay for the bill!!! And I did, stupidly. We took a cab home soon after. instead of seeing me to my door step, he alighted before I reach home, leaving me to pay for the cab fare on my own. That night I receive no phone call or text msg from him or watsoever. Likewise for the following week, until now.
    I have given up waiting for him and will stop answering his calls or msg in the future. I am not contd to be a stupid fool and ruin my life because of him.

  9. Nanette Gorena says:

    I hate to be the one to brag, but my man is all of these. I was laughing as I got to the part of my tantrums part; so true. By far the best article I came across. I have so many songs dedicated to me. I get weight lifting gloves, coffee, a stop watch, suppelements and protein. Yes we lift! He is the best husband ever. Tells me how huge his dreams are for us and not him. He supports me I’m anything and everything I want to do. -took the last good one in Texas??

  10. Trish says:

    Hi .. My boyfriend says to me all the time he loves me loads misses me etc! Can’t wait to see me .. Like everything he’s so nice any other girl wouldn’t have no problem but some reason I keep thinking is this just him giving me false hope I feel like he doesn’t really love me we have been together now for a year It was perfect honey moon period I would call it for 7-8 month then after that he started doing what he wanted when he wanted it was like he got away with it the 1st time so he kept doing it I never really said anything till the end .. We are still together but I think does he love me for treating me like this turning phones off partying with friends and other girls etc he seems to always blame other why he was there why he was with these people .. I need some advice asap! Is this just me or what!? Because I still believe if he never went on like that it would have been perfec still! Now I think because he’s away he all lovely now but is that because he’s away n when he comes bak will he do this all over agan! I could go on and on about this! HELP

  11. MPHO says:

    I am 28 years and my bf is 22,he has been the best bf I ever had in many years as he showed me true love and for a moment I forget th,t he is younger than me. These days I am sensing that he is shifting as when we talk on the phone,he is cool,he in love with me,bt as soon as we meet for the weekend,he spends 90% not talking to me,and if I try to start a conversation,his answer is always”I don’t know,no,yes”,nothing why”does he love me or must I just forget abt him

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