Does He Love Me? 86 Warm Signs He’s Past Like & Seriously in Love With You

If you’re wondering, does he love me, then you want to know for sure. But how? There are some very clear signs that he is—and isn’t—in love with you.

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You may be dating a guy, or a guy may be pursuing you, but does that mean he loves you? If you’re wondering if his interest in you has transitioned into love, or you can’t help but ask yourself “does he love me,” there are always subtle ways to know the honest truth.

You need to remember that romantic gestures are cute, but they’re also easy to fake, so don’t start thinking that he’s madly in love with you because he did one nice thing. After all, real love isn’t one grand gesture. It’s a series of little gestures that last a lifetime.

Still in the crush phase? Check this out – Does he like me? for 101 subtle signs and body language cues!

So, how can you really know when your man starts to go from liking you to loving you? By looking out for these signs! [Read: When a man falls in love – how men fall in love and the 7 stages they have to pass]

Men and women often show their love differently 

You can try to prod romantic answers out of the man you love, but it’ll still leave you confused. However, there are ways to know just how much he loves you without forcing words out of his mouth.

For girls, saying “I love you” is the biggest sign of commitment in a relationship. But it’s not necessarily a relationship milestone that they fear. After all, confessions of love are reassuring, and girls love feeling reassured every now and then. [Read: How and when to say “I love you” for the first time – 46 new love must-knows!]

But for guys, saying “I love you” the first few times is important. It’s a huge deal and not something they take lightly. A guy has to know that he loves you before he says it. 

And to know for sure, he has to carefully consider things like compatibility and understanding in the relationship. [Read: 23 must-know relationship advice that all girls really need to know]

Why men say “I love you” even when they don’t mean it

Well, there are multiple reasons why a man might confess loving you even when they don’t, and most of them aren’t good.

Usually, though, someone will lie about their feelings for you to try and manipulate you into doing their bidding. Whether they want to keep you trapped in an abusive relationship or just hook up with you, a man who is cruel enough to do that is also cruel enough to lie about loving you to make you do what they want.

We’re not saying that all men lie about being in love for some nefarious reason. However, when you’re asking yourself “does he love me?” take stock of the situation.

Does he say that he loves you and yet act like he doesn’t? Or is he silent about his feelings, but very giving and caring in his actions?

The latter suggests that he loves you, while the former suggests that he’s just trying to use you. [Read: Is he using me? 23 signs you’re being used by a man who doesn’t care]

Does he love you? The signs that WILL reveal the truth to you

Sometimes you think a guy loves you, and it turns out he feels something else completely. However, there are also times when you might think a guy doesn’t love you, but in reality, he’s hiding his feelings well.

To help you work out this universal conundrum, we’re going to show you the signs a man loves you. However, remember that you need to look for several signs to be sure. Just one or two won’t confirm your suspicions. [Read: What does love feel like? 33 signs you’ll feel when you’re in love with someone]

1. He communicates

In a relationship, the more the couple talks, the better they understand each other. [Read: 42 secrets to communicate better in a relationship and ways to fix a lack of it]

And if your guy does love you, he can’t help but talk about his feelings and his desires, and he’ll want to know everything about your life too. It’s the easiest way to connect and build a better relationship. [Read: What is pillow talk? How to use it and cozy conversations for bed]

2. He’s mesmerized by you

Do you ever catch him staring at you when you’re busy doing something else? That’s a clear sign that he can’t get enough of you! *and he’s definitely awed by you too* [Read: 16 flirty ways to ask a guy if he likes you like a super cool and confident girl]

3. He bears it for you

A guy who really loves you likes seeing you happy. And he’d want to be involved in activities that make you happy even if he doesn’t enjoy them himself. Does he watch your favorite show with you even if he would rather be doing something else? 

Does he playfully grumble about the dirt and the thorns while helping you weed your garden on a Sunday afternoon? It seems like he really loves you. [Read: How to make your man happy – 30 ways to leave him smitten and hooked]

4. He’s protective

We’re not talking about big acts of love here. 

Does he place his hand on your back as you two cross the street? Does he reassure you when you’re nervous about something? And does he pay attention to your needs no matter who else is around? 

That’s a sign that your happiness and safety are above everything else in his mind. Aka, he’s in love! [Read: Key differences – protective boyfriend or controlling boyfriend?]

5. He cancels plans to comfort you

No one likes canceling plans. But even if he’s out with his friends and he finds out that you’re not feeling well or you’ve had a bad day, he’d drop all his plans in a second to be there with you and comfort you.

He doesn’t have to do it, because you wouldn’t expect him to. But he does it anyways because he loves you. [Read: 17 signs of a supportive partner who encourages you and your goals]

6. Together time matters to him

He spends a lot of time with you, perhaps even more time than he spends with his friends. 

When your guy truly falls in love with you and sees you as a partner for life, even his closest buddies will take a backseat as he starts spending more time with you.

Of course, this doesn’t mean he gets clingy, but he values you more than anything else. [Read: Am I codependent? 37 reasons and signs you overstep boundaries in love]

7. He tries hard to impress

He’s impressed you and he’s won you over. So why keep up with the behavior, right?

But if he loves you, he won’t just stop there. He’ll go out of his way to be nice to your friends and family so he can make a good impression on them, even if it’s only because he knows that’ll make you happier. 

8. He bridges the personal space

Secrets are acceptable in a relationship. But when a guy falls hard for you, he’ll start to bridge the divide between his life and yours. [Read: 15 ways to give space in a relationship and feel closer than ever before]

He’d be okay with you knowing about his bank account details, and a few of his passwords, or even if you answer his phone for him.

9. He likes hugging you

Does your boyfriend hug you and hold you tightly occasionally for no reason at all? He feels good when he hugs you because he’s in love with you.

A good hug that lasts more than just a few seconds releases feel-good chemicals in your body, and even if your boyfriend doesn’t know this fact, his mind can feel it. [Read: The health benefits of hugging that’ll make you want to cuddle more]

10. He never blows hot and cold

People blow hot and cold when they’re playing games. But if a guy truly loves you, he’ll never play games, or blow hot and cold.

Even if you two have had an argument, he loves you far too much to hurt you by ignoring you. [Read: Blowing hot and cold – why they do it, the stages, and how to handle it]

11. He wants to know everything about you

If a guy likes you, he wants to get to know you. But when a man loves you, he wants to know every single detail of your life that he’s missed and hasn’t been a part of. 

What was the name of your best friend from school? When was your first heartbreak? What do you like for breakfast? He wants to know everything that makes you, you!

12. He’s changed his world

If a guy loves you, he’ll change his habits and his lifestyle just to spend more time with you. [Read: 30 facts about your boyfriend that can help you read his mind]

He’d even be willing to miss a game or his favorite movie *and he won’t even complain about it* just to help you with a project or to listen to you when you’ve had a shitty day!

13. He flaunts you

A guy who’s not committed to you yet will avoid talking about you with other pretty girls that he knows, especially his colleagues in his office or his hangout. 

But if he’s really serious about you, he’ll flaunt you every time you come to meet him instead of trying to keep your presence discreet. [Read: Overprotective boyfriend – 26 dominating signs and what you should do]

14. He wants to be your go-to guy

When a guy loves a girl, he wants to be her “number one.” If you tell him about how you had some car trouble or some difficulty at work, he’d be upset you didn’t tell him about it already.

He wants you to truly understand that he’s always available to help you and fix your problems, no matter how big or small. 

If you’re wondering, “does he love me,” this is something to look out for. A man who loves you will want to play a bigger part in your life, as your “savior.” [Read: Damsel in distress – why men find women who ask for help irresistible

15. He tells you his secrets

Awkward secrets are a sign of weakness because it gives other people a chance to judge him. 

But if a guy loves you, he’ll be open to sharing secrets he hasn’t told anyone else with you, because he trusts you and loves you enough to share them with you. [Read: 196 fun and deep relationship questions to test your couple compatability]

16. You’re on his mind

He remembers you even when he doesn’t have to. He gets you something you like even if you don’t ask him to. 

Or on his way back home, or on his way to meet you, he may stop to buy you your favorite something because he knows you like it even if you say nothing about it.

17. He misses you *even if he doesn’t say it*

A guy who’s in love may not always say that he misses you, because it sounds corny. 

But when you finally meet him, you’d see a twinkle in his eyes and a wide smile on his lips that scream just one thing, “I love you and I’m so happy to see you!” [Read: Does he miss me? 55 signs and ways a guy shows a girl he’s thinking of her]

18. He’s not judgmental

If you’re asking yourself, “does he love me,” look back on how he interacts with you. He may tease you about something you did, but he’ll always be willing to help you or stand by you, without judging you or expecting something in return for it.

That’s because he loves you!

19. He tries to blend your lives together

This may happen subconsciously, or he may be vocal about it.

Does he ask you to leave over a few clothes at his place? Does he give you his spare key, so you aren’t waiting around for him when you come over to his place? Or does he talk about moving in together someday?

These are all subtle ways a guy shows a girl that he loves her, and is interested in spending his life with her. [Read: 39 signs a man is emotionally attached to you and ready to get closer]

20. You make him so proud!

He brags about your achievements, and can’t stop talking about how awesome you are when you achieve something. A man who loves you will always celebrate your achievements *big or small* with the same enthusiasm that he celebrates his own.

21. You’re the first and last

If you don’t live together yet, you’re the first person he texts in the morning, and the last person he texts before falling asleep at night. 

He could always fake this by staying up and texting someone else, but over time, it’s easy to know if a guy is lying or being honest about it. [Read: 63 cute good morning texts that work like magic to make the smile]

22. He’ll bend over backward

If a guy truly loves you, he’ll do anything for you just so he can see you smile.

No one actually likes driving other people’s family members to the airport, picking up groceries late in the night, or moving furniture during the weekend. But, if your man truly loves you, he’ll do all of these things, and more, just to make you smile and to make your day a little bit easier.

23. He dreams

He constantly talks about his big plans and everything he wants to achieve in life. And almost all of his plans involve you and how happy and proud he can make you feel. [Read: A warm true story of unconditional love]

If you’re still asking yourself if he loves you, stop it! A man wouldn’t involve you in his life plans if he wasn’t absolutely smitten by you.

24. He humors your bad mood

It’s not a sexist stereotype, it’s just the truth that at certain times in the month, women are more hormonal and irritable than usual. This swing in mood can be hard for other people to juggle, especially a man you’re dating.

But if your guy loves you, not only will he put up with your moods without sulking or rolling his eyes, but he’ll also apologize and try to cheer you up in any way he can, even if he’s not at fault. [Read: Bad girl traits every guy wants to see in his girlfriend]

25. He checks in

Does he text you asking you if you’ve reached home after you were out with friends? Does he randomly text you throughout the day to ask you how your day’s going so far? 

He’s not doing these things to play you. He’s doing this because he genuinely loves you, and is concerned about you. Also, of course, you cross his mind very often, all day long.

26. The little things

He shows his love for you in little ways that you may not really notice all the time. 

It’s the little things like giving you the bigger bite, the better drink, or the better seat, taking really good care of you when you’re ill, and many other little things that you may take for granted often. [Read: 60 perfect traits to be a good boyfriend that’ll make you better than the best!]

27. He supports you in your goals

Whatever your goals may be, he’s your biggest cheerleader and support system. Want a better job? He’s by your side, looking for new opportunities. Want to lose weight? He’s googling and sharing snippets of information about health hacks.

He’s not just someone who congratulates you at the finish line. If a guy loves you, he’s out there right at the edge of the field cheering you on!

28. He listens to you

Not the in-from-one-ear-and-out-the-other kind of way. He actually listens to you and remembers the things you say. How can you tell? 

If he remembers something you mentioned in passing a month ago and brings it for you today, it clearly shows he isn’t just interested in hooking up with you, but he truly loves you and cares about you. [Read: 40 secrets on how to make your boyfriend feel happy and lucky to date you]

29. He tries to make you look good

Insecure boyfriends subconsciously want you to feel or look bad because that makes them feel more secure about you and the relationship. 

But a secure boyfriend who loves you would try to make you look good in everything you do. He won’t tell you to change your outfit or make you feel bad for dressing up.

It’s not because he thinks he’s too good for you, but because he believes he treats you right. [Read: Instagram boyfriend – why men hate him and what makes him awesome]

30. He doesn’t hide secrets that could hurt you

Many guys hide little secrets because they don’t want to “hurt” you. He’s playing video games instead of meeting you? Or does he have a flirty coworker? 

If he loves you, he won’t hide these details from you. Instead, he’ll be honest and have a laugh about it, because he knows he’s proven his loyalty and love to you already. [Read: Why do men lie?! 29 common lies all guys say +best ways to confront him]

31. He gives you a heads up

Is he heading out with his friends? Will he be late coming home from work? No matter what the reason or circumstance, he makes it a point to let you know beforehand. 

He does this not because he has to report his activities to you, but to make sure you’re not worrying or wondering what he’s doing. If there’s anything he can do to make you worry less, he’ll do it.

32. He’s seen your worst and he still wants you

All of us have our carefully hidden sides that no one else sees but the closest person in our lives. Maybe you fart like a skunk or are extremely lazy once you get into bed. [Read: 25 subtle relationship turn-offs that provoke and push a couple apart]

Or perhaps, you have a terrible temper that you reveal only to the people closest in your life? Whatever it is, he’s seen it, and he’s still chosen to stick around.

33. He keeps his word

If you’re not serious about the person you’re seeing, you’re not going to care about keeping your word. But when you love someone or care about them, you do.

If your man truly loves you, he’ll make sure he keeps his word, no matter how inconvenient it is for him. [Read: 57 warm signs to tell if a man is in love with you and really serious about you]

If he says he’ll come over to help you with something, and his car breaks down, he’ll walk a few miles or get a cab, or just about anything else, but he’ll be there for you if he gives you his word. A man who loves you will never let you down.

34. He wants to participate in your life

If you’re asking yourself, “does he love me,” ask yourself if he’s tried to involve himself in a regular activity of yours in some way. It could be something as simple as cooking together during the weekends, taking a walk every day, or working out together.

If a guy wants to merge an activity and create a routine out of it, he’s doing it only because he wants to create a special “us” time with you. He wants to share a common hobby with you, how romantic is that? [Read: Relationship rules – 30 must-know tips to live your best love life!]

35. He says I love you!

Well, this is as direct as it gets. If you’re dating a guy, sometimes the easiest way to clear your doubts is when you hear him say it. 

And he probably does mean it too, especially when he says he loves you out of the blue, for no reason at all! [Read: 50 best relationship topics and things to talk about in a relationship]

36. He shows you he loves you

When a guy verbally tells you he loves you, that’s a good enough sign to answer your question, “does he love me?” But a guy who truly loves you goes above and beyond when it comes to displaying his love for you.

He shows you just how much he loves you by the way he treats you. Want to know how? Read these different ways a guy can say I love you without using any words at all.

37. He’s chivalrous and treats you like a lady 

A guy is chivalrous to a girl when he cares about what she thinks of his behavior. If your guy doesn’t care about you, he wouldn’t care what you think of his behavior. 

This goes beyond basic politeness. It’s about showing you that he cares with small actions, such as holding doors open for you, kissing you on the cheek or lips when he greets you, and generally being a gentleman. This is one of the big signs he loves you. 

38. He takes care of your needs 

If your man truly loves you, he’ll always look for little ways to make your life better. [Read: Is he the one? 32 signs to know if he’s the one who’s perfect for you]

It could be by covering you with a blanket when you’re cold, charging your cell phone even when you don’t ask him, or even serving you the better piece of chicken when you’re not looking. 

These are very small things, but they mean a lot because it means he’s thinking of you all the time. 

39. He holds your hand 

If a guy instinctively holds your hand when you’re in a crowd or places his hand on your back while crossing the street, this is a big thing. [Read: Public display of affection – how to do it, PDA etiquette and 26 must-knows]

It’s a reflex action that neither of you may realize. If a guy loves you, he’d definitely want to protect you and reassure you. 

This is his small yet significant way of doing just that.

40. He values your opinions 

One of the signs a man loves you is when he values your opinions. Not only that, but he doesn’t make any important decisions about his own life without hearing your opinions and having a discussion with you. [Read: 23 subtle signs of a controlling boyfriend most people don’t notice]

That doesn’t mean he’s always going to do what you suggest, but he will take your ideas and suggestions into account and use them as part of his choices. 

41. He wraps his hands around you 

If a guy wraps his hands around you or stands closer to you when you’re talking to some other guys and having a good laugh, that’s significant.

It’s his way of letting the world know that you’re the one he loves and that every other guy should back away. [Read: How to cuddle someone – a guide to snuggle up and feel the love]

He’s not doing it in a possessive way. Rather, it’s a gentle gesture that’s there to reassure you and to let everyone else know that you’re taken! 

42. He uses the word “we”

Does he say “we” instead of saying “I” or “me”? If he does that a lot while talking and doesn’t even realize it, it’s because he’s already planned his life and future with you in it.

He’ll do it instinctively because you’re a part of his life, an important part at that. Clearly, he’s in love with you. [Read: 39 signs he wants a serious, exclusive, and committed relationship with you]

43. He’s very interested in your life 

If your man loves you, he’d always be eager to know everything about your day, including the little details. 

That doesn’t mean he wants a full run-down of every single second of your day and who said what, but he’s keen to know what you’ve been up to and how your day went. 

Again, that’s one of the signs he loves you because if he didn’t, he wouldn’t care how your day went. [Read: 21 signs of a clingy girlfriend and how to avoid turning into one]

44. The helping hand 

He’s always ready to offer a helping hand every time you ask him *even if he’s busy, and he does it while whining and grumbling at the same time*. 

He’ll want to show you how strong he can be on one hand, but it’s also about making sure that you’re taken care of, and you’re not struggling with anything. It’s cute on many levels! 

45. He’s keen to make up after a fight 

He makes up after a fight just as much as you make up with him. And at times, he even swallows his pride and apologizes first, even if it’s not his fault in any manner. [Read: Make-up sex – how to feel hornier, naughtier, and closer after a fight in love]

It doesn’t mean he’ll do it every time, or he’ll do it straight away, but after a short amount of time, he’ll reflect and realize none of the stress is worth it, and you’re better together. 

46. He keeps you updated

He keeps you informed about his life and what he’s up to, even though he knows he has no obligation to do so. 

He’ll talk to you about what’s happening at work. He might even talk about his family, but that depends on how long you’ve been together. [Read: How to be patient in a new relationship and avoid risking a new love]

He does all of this because he wants you to be aware of his life, and he also wants your advice when he’s not sure about something. Again, he’s making you a part of his life, and it’s one of the signs a man loves you. 

47. He shows that he respects you 

If he treats you with a lot of respect, that’s a great sign. For sure, everyone should respect one another, but when a man is in love, he shows the utmost respect to his partner. [Read: How to show respect in a relationship and love each other better]

He doesn’t stare at other girls when you’re around, and neither does he cut you off in the middle of a conversation. He shows you that you’re important to him and that he respects you at all times. 

48. He makes a lot of effort to fit in 

If he makes a lot of effort to be liked by your friends and family, it’s because he knows they’re important to you, and that means they’re important to him too. [Read: Relationship stages – phases couples go through by months and years]

He cares about what your friends and family think of him, and he also understands that their impression of him will affect your relationship with your friends and family.

49. He can’t stay mad at you 

When he’s mad, he can’t stay mad for more than a couple of hours. People in love can’t stay mad at each other for long; it hurts both lovers too much. 

So, if he makes the effort to apologize or accept your apology, he really does care about you and your feelings. [Read: Relationship arguments – 38 tips and ways to fight fair and grow closer in love]

50. He talks a lot 

If a guy loves you, you’ll find that he opens up really easily to you and talks a lot about everything, be it his life, his plans, his work, or even about how annoying his friends really are. 

But don’t expect him to talk about every single deep emotion he feels. Some guys just aren’t good at that, whether they’re in love or not. 

The point is, he’s willing to try, and that speaks enough for his love for you.

51. He stands up for you 

No matter what you’ve done and no matter where he is, he’ll always have your back. A man who truly loves his woman will stand by her side even if she’s in the wrong. [Read: 21 secrets signs of a bad relationship that signal a bad future ahead]

He may criticize you in private, but never, ever in public.

52. He never forgets your special days 

Be it your birthday, anniversary, or a big day at work, he doesn’t forget. And he goes out of his way to help you prepare for any big days or events in your life. 

From surprises to small gifts, he’s keen to show you that he cares by remembering the special days in your life because he loves to see you smile. [Read: The 41 best qualities of a good man that sets him apart from the lesser men]

53. He doesn’t get annoyed with you easily 

While everyone gets annoyed occasionally, he doesn’t tend to get annoyed easily with you. 

Even if he’s busy and you tease him or fool around with him, he’s patient enough to see your playful side and actually quite enjoys it! 

If you’re asking yourself, “does he love me,” think about how often he gets annoyed with you. If he gets annoyed with you once in a blue moon, he might indeed love you.

54. He makes a fuss of you at social gatherings 

While you’re out at social gatherings, he never gives any girl more attention than he gives you, even if he meets a celebrity. [Read: How to make a relationship official without relying on social media]

He’s not going to be stuck to your side all night, but he’ll let you know that you’re on his mind even when you’re over the other side of the room. He has no problem showing others how much he cares about you. 

55. He’s concerned about your wellbeing 

Of course, a good person will be concerned about another person’s well-being. But if your guy is concerned about yours as much as or more than his own, that’s a tell-tale sign that he’s in love! 

He wants you to be healthy and happy, so he cares about every aspect of your life. 

56. He shows you that you’re a priority in his life 

This doesn’t necessarily mean that you are his number one priority because we all have full lives to lead, with family problems, friends, and everything else. [Read: The right priority in a relationship – how to find it and focus on it]

But if he regularly shows you that you are a top priority in his life, it’s a very good thing indeed. 

57. He would ‘probably’ give you anything you asked for 

It doesn’t mean that you should ask him for anything you want for the hell of it. But you have a sense that if you asked him to do something for you or give you something, he would do so, within reason. 

We don’t do those things for people we don’t care about. It’s one of the signs he loves you, for sure, so you don’t have to keep wondering “does he love me?” [Read: Key moments in a relationship that will predict your future together]

58. In all honesty, you can feel it 

Of course, the biggest signs a man loves you aren’t things you can actually see but things you can feel instead. 

If you just feel that there is love radiating from this man, then that means there probably is. Learn to trust your gut.

59. You’re a solid part of his life

Basically, you’re in his life, really in it. You’re not his Friday night fling, you’re his Monday-to-Monday girl.

You know everything he does, he knows everything you do, you talk on the phone all the time, you’re over at his house, etc. [Read: Girlfriend material -15 small gestures that make a guy feel lucky to date you]

You guys are in each other’s lives, and you’re very active. This is what love is, you’re a part of each other.

60. You’ve met the family

Listen, this one is huge. Men do not bring women home to meet their families if you’re just some girl. If you meet his family, you’re someone very important to him.

He’s proud of you, and he’s proud to show his family who he stands beside. This is a huge sign you’re someone he really cares about., so this should calm your worries. [Read: 18 signs it’s time and ways to prepare your partner to meet the family]

61. He loves being close to you

Does your man find any excuse to touch or be close to you? Maybe he loves cuddling with you and watching movies, or he loves sitting beside you during dinner or standing next to you at the club. 

He wants to be beside you; why? Because he loves you, obviously! If he’s close to you, there’s a reason why. If he weren’t into you, he’d be wandering around the club, hitting on chicks.

62. He makes an effort to please you in bed

Men who don’t care about you, well, they’re not concerned about pleasing you; they’re concerned about ejaculating. [Read: 24 sexy signs your guy thinks you’re hot and finds you very attractive]

If a guy really cares about you, when it comes to sex, he’ll focus on pleasing you and making sure you leave feeling satisfied. 

With love, he knows it’s not all about him, and he doesn’t want it to be only about him. 

63. He pulls away

We know this one sucks, but it’s very common. Men get scared when they feel that they’re losing control of their feelings. If he feels he’s falling in love, sometimes, instead of telling you, he’ll pull away.

You’ll feel him becoming distant and cold while he pushes you away. This doesn’t always mean he doesn’t like you, it just means he’s scared. [Read: 42 signs and reasons why men pull away and how you need to behave to fix it]

Unfortunately, when this happens, many girls assume that their guy has lost interest, and they start to pull away too. 

64. His friends know all about you

Before you even meet them, they’ve already seen your photos, your Facebook, the whole nine yards. 

He wants to show you off to his friends. He wants them to see the girl that has his heart. [Read: Win ’em over – how to get your boyfriend’s friends to like you]

This is a huge deal because men don’t introduce their one-night stands. If they introduce you to their friends, that means he loves you, so stop asking yourself if he does!

65. The look – you know the one

You know what look we’re talking about. It’s that moment of silence when he’s staring, really looking at you. At that moment, you know what he’s thinking – he loves you. 

Now, does that mean he’s going to tell you? No. He could be scared or shy, but if you see it in his eyes, you know how he really feels. [Read: 78 cute signs of attraction to know a guy is catching feelings and falling hard]

66. He really only has eyes for you

It’s normal for a man to check out other women. You do the same when a good-looking guy walks by. But when a man is in love with you, he isn’t really looking at other women. 

He doesn’t feel the need to chat with other women or hit on someone at the bar. With the way that he acts, you feel like you’re the only woman in his life. That’s because he wants you to be. [Read: 39 signs he wants a serious, exclusive, and committed relationship with you]

67. He understands you

Do you feel as though he just ‘gets’ you? If he’s fallen for you and you feel the same, you feel totally in tune with one another. What a wonderful feeling that is!

If you’re asking yourself, “does he love me,” and you feel so understood by him, you might not need to ask yourself anymore.

68. He talks about the big stuff

Do you have conversations about important things such as living together, marriage, or kids? If he is up for those kinds of serious conversations with you, it means he loves you and wants to be with you forever. [Read: 50 signs a man is falling deeply in love with you and he can’t help himself]

69. He’s happy for you both to do your own thing

While it might seem counterintuitive if your relationship progressed to the stage where you are both in love, you’ll be happy to let each other do their own thing. [Read: How to give someone space without losing them]

That doesn’t mean he won’t want to spend time with you, just that he’s secure and happy enough to know he doesn’t need to impress you all the time! [Read: 15 ways to give space in a relationship and feel closer than ever before]

70. He doesn’t blow you off

A clear sign when it comes to knowing how to tell if a guy loves you is to see if he gives you the respect you deserve. A guy who loves you won’t be messing around. 

He sticks to plans and won’t blow you off because he wants to see you as much as possible. He views you as an important person in his life. [Read: How to tell if a guy is playing you – 40 signs he’s just using you]

71. He cares about you

If a guy loves you, he cares about you. It’s as simple as that. He should see you and your needs as a priority, and you should feel that’s what he is doing.

If he goes out of his way to prove that he cares about you, you don’t have to ask “does he love me?”

72. He doesn’t give up—even when times get tough

Every couple goes through bad patches and argues—if your man loves you, this won’t phase him. [Read: 72 cute, sweet things to say to your boyfriend and make him really happy]

It’s okay to have falling-outs from time to time, but you know, deep down, this doesn’t really affect the connection the two of you have.

73. He laughs at all your jokes

This is something you’ll notice when anyone likes you in general. However, in order to know how to tell if he loves you, just pay attention when you make jokes. 

Even the worst of jokes will get a laugh from him if he truly loves you. [Read: How to be funny – 28 must-know tips to make everyone love your humor]

74. He smiles after kissing you

Not only is this really cute, but it also shows how happy you make him. And when you make him really happy, he’s bound to love you. If you notice this along with other signs that he loves you, you can put your “does he love me” question to bed.

75. He brings you around his friends often

A guy who doesn’t want a future with you isn’t going to bring you around his friends all the time. If your man does and also actively works toward building a relationship with your friends, he definitely is in love with you.

Also, watch how he acts when he’s around you while his friends are there. Does he act the same and even affectionate toward you? If so, then he’s absolutely in love with you. [Read: Reasons women don’t understand men’s communication styles]

76. He calls and texts for no reason

If you’re asking yourself “does he love me,” think if he might calls and texts you for no reason at all. This is proof he’s in love with you because he just wants to be able to talk to you through the day. [Read: Does he like me? 101 subtle signs and body language clues guys can’t hide]

He just wants to keep in touch. There’s no reason for him to want to be able to talk with you other than he just loves you.

77. His gifts are meaningful

When he gives you gifts, they’re not pointless. They have a deeper meaning to them. Those gifts show how much he cares about you and how much he’s been paying attention.

78. He gives you soft, sweet touches

These are very meaningful forms of affection. He’ll kiss your forehead or place a hand on your thigh as you’re sitting down together. 

They’re not erotic or meant to get you in the mood. They’re for the simple purpose of being in physical contact with you because it makes him feel good.

79. He tries really hard to brighten your day

In order to learn how to tell if he loves you, you’ll have to learn how to tell when he’s trying to cheer you up. He’ll be the first person there to try and lift your spirits on a bad day. [Read: Simple ways to make each day more meaningful]

How do I figure out if a man doesn’t love me? 

Now that you know all the signs that a man does love you, what are the signs that he doesn’t? Here are some things to look for if you’re not sure.

1. He makes you feel insecure

When a man doesn’t love you, he doesn’t care very much about your feelings.

Therefore, his actions will probably make you feel insecure. You never quite know what to expect from him from one day to another. [Read: Why am I so insecure? 41 signs and 51 ways to deal with insecurity and fix it]

He might blow hot and cold. One day he will seem very into you, and then the next he might not contact you at all and/or act very distant. This results in you having a “pit in the stomach” feeling all the time.

2. He’s spending more time with his best friend and away from you

When a man is in love with you, he makes you a priority in his life. He naturally wants to spend as much time with you as he can because he doesn’t like not being with you.

So, if you find that he’s frequently blowing you off to spend time with his best friend—or anyone else for that matter—that’s a big sign that he’s not in love with you.

You should be his best friend and he should want to hang out with you whenever he can.

3. He won’t introduce you to his family and friends

A man who is proud of you and in love will want to show you off to his family and friends. He wants to shout from the rooftops how much he loves you and that he’s the luckiest guy alive.

So, if you have been with him a while and you still haven’t met his family and friends, there is a reason. [Read: Stashing in a relationship – what it is, 26 sign you’re stashed, and what to do]

Either he doesn’t want you to meet them because it might give you the wrong idea, or he doesn’t want them to get the wrong idea that he is in love. 

4. He gets upset all the time

Usually, when people are in love, they feel good. They tend to be calmer, more peaceful, and happy. The little things that might normally bother them just roll right off their shoulders.

But if he’s getting upset at you all the time, then he might not love you. [Read: Are relationship fights normal? 15 signs you’re fighting too often]

Even if he gets mad at other things going on in his life, he might not see you as his “safe place to fall.” When people are in love, they have a lot more positive emotions than negative ones.

5. He seems apathetic

Apathy is a terrible thing in a relationship. It means that the person just doesn’t care, is numb, and has just kind of checked out. They don’t get happy or sad. It’s like they’re not even there.

At least when someone is willing to engage with you—or even fight—it shows that they care on some level. But if he is apathetic to you and the relationship as a whole, it means he probably doesn’t love you. [Read: 59 signs it’s time to break up and give up instead of trying to fix a relationship]

6. He’s no longer interested in sex

Most men love sex. And if you used to have a regular sex life but you don’t anymore, that is also a sign that he doesn’t love you. 

A man in love wants to be close to his woman, both physically and emotionally. So, when he’s in love, he wants that intimacy. If he’s not, he won’t even want it very often, maybe not at all. [Read: Turn offs for guys – 72 physical, dating, and sexual put offs all men notice and dislike]

7. He doesn’t value your opinion

A man in love makes his partner feel valued and respected. And that includes things like asking your opinion about things in his life. 

But if he doesn’t even ask your opinion—or doesn’t take your opinion when he does—then he is probably not in love with you. A man in love sees the two of you as a team, which includes exchanging opinions with each other.

A guy can display affection through romantic gestures all the time. But if you’ve ever wondered, “does he love me,” the best way to read his mind is by using these signs to find out if he loves you!

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Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...