If you can see the signs a friend likes you romantically in your life, you may be able to turn that friendship into something much more without all the confusion.
Making the transition from friendship to a relationship can be smooth, but often it can cause strain and tension. Neither of you wants to ruin the friendship by sharing feelings and being rejected. [Read: How to start a friends with benefits relationship]
When you suspect a friend likes you romantically, it is probably because you like them or because you are afraid of how to reject them while still maintaining your friendship.
So while you are trying to find the signs a friend likes you romantically, consider what you are going to about it once you figure it out.
Are you going to make a move? Are you going to tell them how you feel? Should you ask them about it? Or are you going to let them down easy?
I say, if you aren’t interested, sometimes it is better not to know. You can’t worry yourself about something that may not even exist. Focus on the friendship. That is your main priority with this friend. If something happens, later on, deal with it then.
But if you are interested, you probably won’t be able to stop worrying and thinking about the signs a friend likes you romantically because you want them to. In this case, look for the signs. They can lead to your first move. [Read: The signs your friend is crushing on you]
So, you’ve got a crush on a friend. Or perhaps you think they have a crush on you. Either way, you want to know for sure so you can take the next step.
But how do you find out without making a fool of yourself?
Sure, your platonic friends make time for you too, but a friend that likes you romantically will put more effort in. They offer to help you with things most friends wouldn’t. Even if it is inconvenient for them, they will make the time to see you no matter what it involves. [Read: How to deal with the sexual tension between friends]
A friend who likes you romantically will want to impress you, whether with their jokes, talent, or the effort they put into your friendship. They may even dress up to style their hair differently when they are around you.
Friends are already protective, but they will let you know when a friend likes you even more. They will share their worry about who you date, how others treat you, and how you treat yourself. [Read: How to be friends with someone you like without losing your mind]
Friends often hang out in groups. I don’t need to tell you that. But, when a friend you usually see in a group wants to spend time with you alone, it may be because they like you romantically. It can be challenging to form a deeper connection or make a move when you’re around so many others.
Flirting is a clear sign that a friend likes you romantically. Sure, some friends flirt after a few drinks or because they are attracted to you but not interested. You should be able to see the difference. A friend that likes you romantically will flirt with you regularly, not just at convenient times. [Read: 15 ways to flirt and tease a friend without being weird]
A friend trying to hint at their feelings for you may touch you more often than usual. Instead of just a hug, hello, or goodbye, they might touch your thigh, sit closer, or touch your arm while talking. Even these tiny signs can mean something much bigger. [Read: 16 sexual signs your friend wants to have sex with you]
Good friends support your choices and goals. A friend interested in you romantically will go out of their way. Not only will they congratulate you on a promotion, but they may throw a party for you or help you accomplish your goals however they can.
And they show that they listen. They do more than sit there and nod while you vent. You feel heard. They follow up on things you talk about and really pay attention. [Read: 10 ways to be a better listener]
Sure, friends share. There is a difference between that and sharing with someone you like romantically. They will open up to you because they trust you more and want you to trust them that same way.
They want to know it all. Even if it hurts to know you are seeing someone, they want to know where you are. Their romantic feelings don’t go away because you may be taken at the moment.
They want the updates not to know when they can act on their feelings but because they need to know if you’re happy. [Read: The signs they like you as more than a friend]
You are probably not the only one noticing this friend’s behavior. Mutual friends will see how they look at you and how they treat you differently. They are not usually as subtle as they think they are.
When you are with someone you like romantically, you don’t let other things distract you. They will mute their phone or ignore it when it rings around them because they want to make the most of that time.
Not everyone is as in tune with this, but you will feel their nerves if you are. People who have romantic feelings for you give off a vibe. Their behavior, even subtly, shows those feelings. [Read: 20 unmistakable signs your friend is crushing on you]
A friend that likes you romantically wants not only your attention but also wants to give you theirs. They will reach out more to make plans or just to text or send you a funny meme.
This is a big one. I have plenty of friends that barely know my family, but if a friend likes you romantically, they want to make a good impression on the people closest to you. Whether they think something will happen between you in the future or not, they want the people you care about to like them. [Read: The ways your family affects your love life]
When you like someone, you try not to let anything slip through the cracks. You pay attention. So when a friend likes you romantically, they will remember even small things you said in passing.
Perhaps you mentioned your granddad used to race cars. Most people might not remember that detail, but a friend that likes you romantically will.
You meet up, and they surprise you with your favorite Starbucks drink or your favorite treat from the bakery around the corner. They may even cheer you up on off days or come over unannounced, hoping you’re free. [Read: Naughty ways to get yourself out of the friend zone permanently]
Sure, friends compliment you but not the way a friend who likes you romantically will. They will be so genuine and caring about it. If they like your outfit or hair, they may even gently brush against it while telling you how amazing you look.
This is a weird one, but they won’t introduce you as a friend. They may say, close friend, best friend, or just say your name. They won’t say that you are just friends because they don’t want to be. They hope you think of them as more, so they don’t want to instill the idea that that is all you are.
You feel something there. A major sign a friend likes you romantically is the spark. It is elusive and indescribable, but you feel it. There is electricity between you two. You gravitate toward each other. It can be tension, passion, or just a will we won’t we vibe. [Read: Love chemistry and sparks]
If they ask you about moving, if you’d move for someone you’re dating, or even if you want kids, they may see if you are really compatible as more than friends. They know they like you romantically, but they want to make sure it has a chance of working before they take a risk and ask you out.
They are down if you have a date or even get hit on or asked out around them. They may try to hide it, but you can sense something is off with them. They may have been about to make their move when someone else swooped in and took your attention.
When a friend likes you romantically, they are careful about showing it because they don’t want to ruin the friendship. They will take their time.
Ever go to your friend’s house, and their mom tells you that she has heard so much about you? That is a sign your friend likes you romantically. If your mutual friends say that they are always talking about you or even nagging on someone you like, they for sure like you as more than a friend. [Read: How to know if someone is thinking about you sexually]
Before risking everything and asking you out or telling you how they feel, a friend that likes you romantically will see if you like them back. They don’t want to ask but will maybe bring a date around you to see how you react.
This is a very common sign that a friend likes you romantically. If they ask you for dating advice, they want to know what you like and how you see things so they can use your advice to ask you out.
And of course, one of the most significant signs a friend likes you romantically is they tell you. They may try to be subtle about it and want you to figure it out from clues and hints. Or they may just tell you. When someone likes you romantically, it is hard to hold those feelings back.
Eventually, they will want you to know so they can get an answer either way.
[Read: How to ask a friend out without risking the friendship]
If you are looking for signs a friend likes you romantically, you probably liked them back. Now that you know, you can do something about it. And if not, set the record straight.
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