How Guys Flirt: 15 Subtle Things Guys Do to Impress a Girl

Ever wondered how guys flirt? You may think it’s obvious, but guys can flirt in many subtle ways that might not be immediately obvious to a girl.

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If you are wondering whether he really likes you, if he is interested in you in THAT way, or if he is just being friendly, read on to find out the awesome, subtle, and sometimes-weird things a guy can do when trying to impress a girl!

Subtle flirting signs

Although these signs might not seem like clear indications of romantic interest, they are simple, subtle symptoms of a love bug bite.

#1 He asks you questions. If a guy is interested in you, he wants to know more about you. Kind of a no-brainer, right? Pay attention to how many questions a guy is asking you. If he’s flirting, he will be far more interested in talking about you than talking about himself. [Try: 30 subtle, obvious, and really sexy flirting tips for girls]

Asking question after question is also a sign of nervousness—he is desperate to keep the conversation going, and is worried there will be awkward silences if he doesn’t keep talking. Look out for random and irrelevant questions—this just means he is desperately racking his brain to think of something else to say, bless him!

Remember: there is a difference between general questions that come about in everyday conversation, and questions targeted to get to know you better. One shows polite interest in small talk, while the other is an attempt to flirt.

#2 He finds things in common with you. When a guy is flirting with you, he will subtly try to find out what kind of things you like… and lo and behold, when he does, he will miraculously like them, too! He may well be genuinely trying to find out your interests and hobbies to see if you’d make a good match and have things to talk about in the long term, but he’s also trying to extract information out of you so he can impress you.

For example, if you mentioned you love horseback riding and the next time you talk to him, he not only loves it, but appears to know a lot of random information about it, you can safely conclude that he is interested. [Read: 28 hush-hush signs that someone has a BIG crush on you]

#3 His body language. If he leans in or steps closer to you when having a conversation, he is probably trying his luck at showing you he is attracted to you.

Often this can happen unconsciously, but if you find yourselves standing oddly close together when having a chat, he almost certainly likes you.

Even if you are at a bar or club where the music is loud, if a guy comes closer to talk to you, he is interested. If he wasn’t, he just would tell you he couldn’t hear you, then leave! If he touches you when he talks to you *we’re talking a brush of the hand, a touch of the arm—not a full-on boob squeeze, obviously!* this is another positive sign that he wants to be more than just friends. [Read: 18 body language cues a guy just can’t hide if he likes you]

#4 He approaches you. This is all about confidence, of course, but if a guy comes up to you, especially if you haven’t met before, he is probably hitting on you *unless he needs directions*. If a guy comes up to you just to talk, it is more than likely because he finds you attractive!

#5 He acts differently when you are near. Whether it is getting really loud and showing off, or going really quiet and barely saying anything, if you notice a change of behavior in your guy whenever you are near, it is a sign that he likes you.

If you hang around in the same social groups as him, try to observe him from a distance, then join the conversation. If you can see a change, it is probably because you make him nervous—in a good way, of course!

#6 He teases you. One of the most obvious ways to tell if a guy is flirting with you is if he teases you. If he is always making fun of you *kindly*, he is probably trying to flirt with you. Laughter is the way to many people’s hearts, after all!

#7 He‘s mean to you. While this may seem counter-intuitive, sometimes guys can be a little stupid. If a guy likes you and he’s not sure if you like him back, he might be a bit mean to you, because he’s scared of getting hurt or rejected. [Read: How to reject a guy or turn down a guy nicely]

If he tries to put you down, or makes fun of you a little too harshly, it might be that he has a secret crush on you and doesn’t know what to do about it!

#8 He ignores you. Another classic *and baffling* male flirting technique is to ignore you entirely. If you are somewhat popular with the guys, this can be a cunning strategy to get you to notice and want him.

Think about it: if you are used to loads of attention, yet there is this one guy who isn’t interested in you at all, it makes you want to talk to him, right? So look out for the guy that doesn’t seem interested, and you may find the guy who is! It’s the oldest trick in the book!

#9 He keeps catching eyes with you. If a guy is flirting with you, he’ll look at you! But he probably doesn’t want you to know he’s doing it, so he’ll keep catching eyes with you and then looking away. If he offers you a cheeky smile or a wave, it probably means he wants you to approach him! [Read: 10 subtle eye contact moves that always work]

#10 He buys you something. It might be flowers, it might be a cocktail, it might be something awesome that you talked about that you never thought he would remember, or it might be the most random gift of all time.

Whatever you receive, if you do get a gift from a guy, he gave it to you because—yep, you guessed it—he likes you! A guy, particularly if he’s a stranger, isn’t going to waste his hard-earned cash buying you a drink if he doesn’t think it might go somewhere.

If he’s a friend and he buys you something thoughtful or strange, he is probably trying to show you he cares for you—perhaps more than the average friend would!

#11 He adds you on Facebook. If a guy has requested to be your friend on Facebook, he is trying to tell you something. Unless he is already happily coupled up, a guy adding you on Facebook—particularly if you don’t know him that well—means he wants to get to know you better, be able to contact you, and *of course* check out your pictures!

#12 He smiles at you. Okay, with this one, we mean a lot—like the seriously grinning and beaming type of smile. He’ll also hold your gaze for longer than is normal. You make him feel happy and excited, so naturally he is going to light up when he sees and speaks to you. If you like him, make sure you smile back! [Read: 14 signs to know for sure if a guy is flirting with you]

#13 He‘ll ask if you are single *as casually as possible*. If a guy asks you whether you are single, unless you are filling out some sort of form, this is almost certainly him trying to ascertain whether he can ask you out.

Think about it: what other reason could there be? It’s a simple and direct way of finding out whether you have a boyfriend. He might try to casually drop this into a conversation with you so it doesn’t seem like he cares too much, but he’s just biding his time to pluck up the courage to ask you on a date!

#14 He gets protective. Guys who are trying to flirt and show you they like you will often try to do this by getting protective around you. They’ll put an arm around you, gently steer you places, and position themselves in the way of you and others. He may even offer you his hand if you are trying to push your way through a crowd.

#15 He remembers everything about you, and tells you so. Your name, your birthday, the last holiday you went on, that you like your sandwiches on white bread with no mayo… whatever it is you’ve told him, he remembers and makes sure you know it!

He wants you to know that he has been hanging on to your every word, that he’s interested in you, and is a good listener. If you reckon he could take a quiz on everything about you, he is probably trying to show you he cares.

[Read next: 25 surefire signs that clearly reveal if a guy is interested in you]

If you’re still wondering how guys flirt, put these 15 clues to the test, and find out for sure whether that cute guy is interested in you. You‘ll never know until you do!

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