If there’s one thing that happens most often when flirting, it’s prolonged eye contact. Here’s just what it means and how you can master it yourself.
I think we all know that if someone is making eye contact with you, it’s for a reason. Sometimes it’s to get your attention, other times it means they find you attractive, and most often, it means they’re flirting. This is especially true if it’s prolonged eye contact.
Growing up, we were always told that staring is rude. We learned not to look at someone for too long but as we got older, we couldn’t help it. In our teenage years, we spent a lot of our time staring at attractive people and then quickly averting our eyes so they couldn’t see. As adults, this has completely changed. [Read: 15 obvious signs of flirting you just can’t ignore]
Flirting power play moves that make all the difference
In the world of dating, flirting plays a huge role. You have to be able to flirt effectively if you want to find someone to spend your life with. If you can’t, you’ll just end up making things awkward and running away with a face the shade of a tomato.
But flirting doesn’t come easy. The best thing to do is nail down a few moves that’ll make all the difference.
A coy smile is something that’ll attract almost anyone you aim it at. Biting your bottom lip is a really flirty move that makes a person think about kissing you. And last but not least, prolonged eye contact can get you noticed anywhere. [Read: 30 subtle, obvious, and really sexy flirting tips]
What prolonged eye contact really means and how to perfect this flirty move
Not everyone who makes eye contact with you is trying to do the same thing. First, you have to know just what it means before you can learn how to perfect it while flirting.
#1 They’re trying to communicate something subtly. Don’t make the mistake of thinking everyone who makes prolonged eye contact with you is trying to flirt. Sometimes they may be trying to convey something to you silently.
This is often accompanied with a head nod in a certain direction as a means to get your attention there. If someone is making eye contact with you and also raising their eyebrows in a way that seems NOT flirty, they may be trying to tell you something. So pay attention and try to decipher it. You never know what they might have to say. [Read: 13 ways to express your feelings without using words]
#2 They think you’re attractive. This is the one that may seem the most obvious, but you could get it mixed up. When someone is giving you prolonged eye contact that’s also accompanied with a smile and even a wink, it means they’re attracted to you.
However, people may be giving you some serious eye contact and not showing any other signs of attraction simply because they’re nervous. If this is the case, give them a little smile and see what they do. If they smile or their face turns red, it’s attraction.
#3 They’re trying to get your attention. This could be because they think you’re hot and want to talk to you, but not always. When someone is making eye contact, it’s because they want you to look at them.
Since humans have an urge to look one another in the eye, it’s the easiest way for someone to get your attention. And if they’re prolonging that eye contact, it’s because they want you to realize they’re looking at you. [Read: How to get a guy’s attention no matter what]
#4 They’re just not paying attention. Do you ever zone out on something and end up staring at that object or person for a prolonged amount of time? Well, that may be what’s happening when you see someone looking at you and making eye contact for a long time.
It may not be that they’re trying to at all. If you give a wave and they look away, this may be what happened. Another way to tell if this is the case is if they don’t look at you again for the remainder of your time there.
#5 They’re trying to flirt with you. This is the most obvious. If someone is giving you prolonged eye contact while also showing you other signs of attraction, it’s definitely flirting. The good news is that this gives you the go-ahead to walk up to them and chat – so long as you’re into them, too. If you’re not, keep your own eyes averted. [Read: 15 ways to know for sure if they’re flirting with you]
How to make prolonged eye contact flirty and enticing
The tricky part about flirting using prolonged eye contact is that if not done correctly, it can be a little creepy and off-putting. Have no fear! We’re here to show you just how to perfect this move.
#1 Start by sending looks their way. Don’t immediately hit them with some prolonged eye contact. You’ll freak them out if you do that. Instead, just send them some flirty glances every now and then. Bring out your inner 13-year-old and shyly look away once they catch you. [Read: 10 subtle eye contact flirting moves that really work]
#2 Let them see you checking them out. Then, after a few glances their way, let them see you fully checking them out. Take in their entirely. From top to bottom, let your eyes glaze over them.
And don’t even look away when they catch you. In fact, don’t make eye contact with them just yet at all. Instead, focus on their body and their clothes and their vibe. Then you can move onto the next step.
#3 Bite your lip and look away coyly. After you’ve looked them up and down – and they’ve seen you do just that – bite your lip lightly and look away. This is a move that’s super sexy and alluring. They’ll see that you’re interested and it’ll spark their attention.
The key to this flirty move is to make sure they see it. It can be hard to know whether or not someone is looking at you without making eye contact with them, so just practice. If you nail down this move, the rest is a piece of cake. [Read: 15 secrets of seduction to turn anyone on]
#4 Then move your eyes to theirs and hold their gaze. After you’ve accomplished looking away shyly. Take a few seconds before you look over at them and lock eyes.
They may not be looking at you immediately, but be patient. If you’ve done your job and they saw you bite your lip, their eyes will definitely be wandering back in your direction in no time. Once they do, give them prolonged eye contact and hold it for at least 10 seconds. [Read: 13 lusty signs of sexual attraction to keep an eye on]
#5 Give them the faintest smile while holding their line of site. After a few seconds of them meeting your eyes and not looking away, give them the slightest smile. Something with teeth may be too much.
All you need to do is lift the corners of your mouth up ever so slightly. If they smile in return, you’ve hooked them! The trick for this is to make sure it’s subtle enough so it doesn’t seem creepy and desperate.