21 Big Signs He Wants You Bad and Is Irresistibly Attracted to You

We all worry about whether or not someone is into us. Even though it can be hard to tell, these signs he wants you bad will clear it up.

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Sometimes when you can’t figure out if a guy is into you, you just trust your gut instinct. And sometimes, that means putting your ego aside and accepting that, as marvelous as you are, he doesn’t want you. But, what are the signs he wants you bad?

Is he staring at you but then standing there like a deer in headlights? How are you supposed to figure it out?

On top of that, all guys are different. Some guys will approach you, acting like they’re interested, and then nothing comes out of it. Some will hit on you to feed their ego, and others will be into you. You could literally die not knowing the truth.

See? So, if a guy shows you the signs he wants you bad, he’s into you. If these signs aren’t there, it doesn’t mean he’s not into you, but there’s probably less chance that he is.

What does it mean when he wants you bad?

If a guy wants you bad, he isn’t just sort of interested in you. He isn’t unsure about his feelings. Okay, maybe he doesn’t want a committed relationship right this second, but he is undoubtedly attracted to you. And, if he wants you bad, he wants to kiss you and touch you.

He is sure of that. Yes, he probably also wants to get to know you better and maybe become official. But, wanting you bad means he is trying to gain your trust and impress you. He wants you to like him back, in a major way.

It isn’t all about sex, but sex is definitely part of the equation if he wants you bad.

The biggest signs he wants you bad and is irresisitibly attracted to you

Men aren’t that hard to figure out, and you just need to be paying attention. They’re a lot less complicated than we are. But then again, when he wants you bad, he has feelings. That means he may behave strangely. He could be extra cautious around you because he’s too scared to lose you. Or he might act super cocky even though he usually is shy.

To understand the signs he wants you bad, read on. [Read: Does he like me? 18 signals to decode his body language]

1. He tells you

Maybe he’s had one too many beers, but if he’s telling you to your face that he wants you, then he wants you bad. You can tell when someone just wants to f*ck you and when they want to devour your body, mind, and soul. You can feel it and see it in their eyes. So, pay attention. If he tells you that he wants you badly, he isn’t lying.

2. He laughs at everything

You’re not that funny. I mean, even Eddie Murphy had jokes that flopped, so let’s get real. But this guy, he’s laughing at everything you say. He just thinks you’re hilarious.

When you like someone, you usually find whatever they say to be hilarious. Don’t ask me why. Maybe it’s all the pheromones floating around in the air. So, if he’s in tears at your jokes *which are probably mediocre at best*, he’s into you.

3. He pays for everything

If he insists that he pays for your dinner or movie and wants to take you out, he is trying to impress you. To some people, this is now “old-fashioned,” but he shows his appreciation for you. That is one of the huge signs he wants you bad.

This doesn’t mean you have to sleep with him. Remember, you don’t owe him anything for that. But it’s a gesture that shows that he’s not just trying to stick it in. If he takes you to his house for a date, then he’s just trying to f*ck you, so don’t be fooled by a “home-cooked meal.” [Read: 17 signs he likes you more than a friend and wants to ask you out]

4. He texts you throughout the day

If he asks you how your day’s going, what you’re going to do after work/school, he’s interested in seeing what you’re up to.

If he were just into having sex with you, he would only text you when he needs you. So, if he’s taking the time to text you throughout the day and chit chat with you about whatever, then he’s interested. [Read: How to tell if a guy likes you via his texts]

5. He’s not pushing you to have sex

Let’s not play dumb. He wants to have sex with you. If you suggested it, he would have had sex with you days ago. But he’s playing it cool.

He’s dying inside, but on the outside, he’s not pressuring you to do anything. That’s the trait of someone who respects you and values you as a person. If he’s pushing to have sex, then he may not be into you for the reasons you think he is.

6. You already met his friends and family

He’s already taken you to meet his friends. Maybe you got to meet his mom as well. Guys don’t introduce girls to anyone unless they’re really into them.

Why would any guy subject themselves to endless questions about this girl? Who is she? Do you like her? What does she do? They have to really like you to endure question time. This is one of the obvious signs he wants you bad. [Read: 30 guaranteed signs he likes you already]

7. He asks you out frequently

If someone wants to see you, they’ll try to see you. It’s really that simple. If you’re not sure a guy is into you or not, just watch to see if he attempts to take you out on a date.

If he tells you he’s going to call you in a couple of days and he doesn’t, well, he’s not really that into you. So, remember, if a guy really wants you, they’ll move mountains to do it.

8. The guy is on time

Believe it or not, being on time is another one of the signs he wants you bad, because people who are on time are people who actually give a shit. Plus, it shows that they also respect your time.

If someone is always late to meet up with you and they don’t actually have a valid reason, well, just assume that they were forcing themselves off the couch to see you. If a guy wants you badly, he’ll be there right on time.

9. He’s no longer on Tinder

If this guy has deleted his dating apps, whatever they are – Tinder, OkCupid – he means business.

Really, that’s his portal to an endless supply of pussy, but he gave that up for you. Think about it, to delete your dating app is one of those pretty big signs he wants you bad, because that’s saying you’re not interested in anyone else but this one person. [Read: 15 clear signs he wants a relationship with you]

10. He’s all up in your social media

He’s added you on Facebook, and he’s following you on Instagram and Snapchat. Whatever the social media, he’s on it. That’s the best way for him to get to know you and see what your lifestyle is like.

Plus, he also gets to see if you’re single or not – Why else would we use social media? Oh, right, cat videos.

11. He’s straight up with you

He’s not into playing games. He’ll tell you about his last relationship and why it didn’t work out, he’ll let you know what he’s looking for, what he’s like as a person, and things you should know about him.

We all have a past, and if he really wants you, he won’t hide anything from you. Now, if he’s leaving out important things from his past, that’s a red flag. [Read: 25 sure-fire signs that tell you if a guy really likes you]

12. He listens

Some guys nod their heads and smile when you talk, and then some guys actively listen to you and engage in conversation. You want the latter because it is another one of the signs he wants you bad.

If you wanted someone to nod and smile, you would date your dog. If he’s engaged in conversation, he’s genuinely interested in getting to know you and forming a relationship with you.

13. He gets protective

Now, not like obsessively protective like a bodyguard. We’re talking about him being worried about you walking home alone or having a random guy cat-call you. That type of protectiveness. If he’s getting obsessive, this is a whole different story, one that you should end.

Being protective shows that he cares about you, but don’t get this mixed up with being territorial. Guys can get like that as well when they’re trying to prove that you’re “theirs” – whatever that means. [Read: 18 clear signs a guy is way too overprotective and dominating]

14. He’s all about the manners

This guy is opening doors for you, taking you out for dinner, not tongue diving on the first date. He’s going textbook gentlemen with you.

That’s because he respects you. If he were just in it to sleep with you, well, you would have already slept with him by now. If a man wants to get laid, they’ll work their magic to get into your pants. [Read: Is he a player or a gentleman? The clear giveaways you can’t miss]

15. When you’re in a rut, he’s there

Now, he may want you badly, and he may desperately want to sleep with you. Now that’s nothing wrong with that if that’s what you want as well. But if you’re expecting something more profound and serious, like a deeper wanting of you, don’t expect it from him.

On the other hand, if he really wants to be with you, if you’re in a rut, he’ll be there. That’s how you tell the difference between someone who genuinely likes you and a fuckboy. There. It’s that simple.

16. You feel the energy

When someone wants you badly, as in, really badly, you can feel it. You can actually feel their energy. They’re into you, so whether they’re shy or not, you’ll feel that the vibe between you two is not friendship.

Whether you want him back or not, you’ll have this feeling in your stomach that if you were both drunk, home alone, someone would try to make a move. [Read: 20 signs of strong sexual tension to know if you make each other horny]

17. He touches you

When a guy wants you bad, he can’t help himself. This isn’t in an inappropriate way, but he will touch your lower back when you cross the street together, he will put your hair behind your ear, or he will brush his hand against your cheek.

These small touches can be very telling and even very intimate. See how they make you feel. The odds are he feels even more intensely.

18. He compliments your body

As lovely as it is when a guy is into you, he isn’t just there for your personality.

Sorry, but your body has a lot to do with it too. He isn’t in love, but he wants you bad. If he compliments your body, calls you hot or sexy, or even mentions your outfit, he wants you. There is no doubt about it.

19. He buys you romantic gifts

A friend can get you a cup of coffee. A guy you’re dating can buy you flowers. But a significant sign a guy wants you bad is buying you romantic gifts.

If he is buying you roses over any other flower, he is probably into you. If he is buying you lingerie, candles, massage oils or anything along those lines he wants you bad, and he wants you to know it. [Read: Roses, their colors and how it can be used to convey a deeper meaning]

20. The look in his eyes

This one is a little more subtle and really takes a good level of gut feeling, but it is usually right on the money.

When a guy wants you bad, he will tell you with the look he gives you. Remember the meme of Meghan Markle on her wedding day? The look she was giving Harry is the look you want to see from this guy.

21. He wants to make you feel good

When a guy is putting your needs above his own, he wants you bad and really bad. He won’t just satisfy his sexual urges and desires. He wants you to get pleasure out of it too.

Even if this isn’t about sex, he will want you to be comfortable wherever you are. He will offer you food, water, or his jacket. He wants to please you.

[Read: 15 super obvious signs a guy is totally sexually attracted to you]

Now that you know the signs he wants you bad, you know what to look for the next time he’s around. See if he’s showing any of these gestures. And if all your internal alarms go off, take a leap and make a move. Maybe that’ll help relieve the situation.

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