39 Lusty Signs He Wants You Bad & Finds You Sexually Desirable

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Are you wondering if a guy is sexually attracted to you? These are the signs he wants you bad, and not just a little bit, but full-on, can’t-stop-thinking-about-you levels of want.

What does it mean when he wants you bad?

The biggest signs he wants you bad and is irresistibly attracted to you sexually

So, what now?

Are you wondering if a guy is sexually attracted to you? These are the signs he wants you bad, and not just a little bit, but full-on, can’t-stop-thinking-about-you levels of want.

You know that feeling when a guy looks at you like he’s picturing what you’d sound like moaning his name? When he gets flustered over a flash of skin, lingers when he hugs you, or stares like he’s mentally undressing you? That’s not in your head. That’s some of the lusty signs he wants you bad and finds you really sexually attractive and desirable! And the best part, it’s measurable.

Psychologists say sexual desire shows up through eye movement, body posture, pupil dilation, and even scent, and men are notoriously bad at hiding it. So if you’re looking for the real signs he wants you bad, this list will decode his every move. From his wandering eyes to his dirty compliments, here are all the signs he’s craving you, and he’s not doing a great job pretending otherwise.

[Read: Is he attracted to me? 22 subtle signs to know if a guy desires you]

What does it mean when he wants you bad?

If a guy wants you bad, he isn’t just sort of interested in you. He isn’t unsure about his feelings. Okay, maybe he doesn’t want a committed relationship right this second, but he is undoubtedly attracted to you. And, if he wants you bad, he wants to kiss you and touch you.

He is sure of that. Yes, he probably also wants to get to know you better and maybe become official. But, wanting you bad means he is trying to gain your trust and impress you. He wants you to like him back, in a major way.

It isn’t all about sex, but sex is definitely part of the equation if he wants you bad!

[Read: 26 very obvious signs a man is attracted to you sexually and wants you]

The biggest signs he wants you bad and is irresistibly attracted to you sexually

Men aren’t that hard to figure out, and you just need to be paying attention. They’re a lot less complicated than we are.

But then again, when he wants you bad, he has feelings. That means he may behave strangely. He could be extra cautious around you because he’s too scared to lose you. Or he might act super cocky even though he usually is shy.

To understand the signs he wants you bad, read on. [Read: Does he like me? 32 signals to decode his body language]

1. He stares at very inappropriate places on your body

If you catch him staring in a not-so-subtle way at your cleavage, butt, or crotch, you can be pretty sure that what’s going through his mind isn’t innocent.

Sometimes guys do this to give off any obvious sign that he wants you bad.

He probably wants you to know how he feels. You can either play into it or not – your choice. But if you play along, he’ll know you want him bad too.

2. He finds excuses to smell you

This sounds strange, but it’d definitely be a way that a guy tells you he wants you bad. He can either do it in a way that isn’t so noticeable, or he can do it obviously by leaning over to you and deeply inhaling your hair or by your neck.

Either way, he likes how you smell, and it is exciting and arousing him. Scent is actually a big part of sexual attraction because it delivers pheromones, and this can drive a man wild. [Read: What are pheromones? The scent of sex and the part they play in love]

3. He needs to “adjust” himself when he’s with you

When a man wants you bad, he might get a little hard just being around you, even if you’re in public.

So, if you notice him shifting his pants around or covering up his crotch with something, you know he’s having dirty thoughts about you, and it’s affecting his manhood. [Read: How to tell if a guy has a boner – 20 signs and turn-ons that get him hard]

4. He stares at your lips like he wants to devour them

You’re talking about something random, your coffee order, your dog, a TikTok conspiracy, and yet, he’s looking at your lips like they’re a damn dessert.

His eyes flick from your eyes to your mouth and back again like he’s fighting the urge to kiss you… or bite. This isn’t about conversation, it’s about how much he wants you. Badly. 📚 Source: David B. Givens, 2016, Nonverbal Basis of Attraction

5. He sneaks glances at your cleavage or butt

Ever catch him in the middle of a glance, and he immediately looks away? Or worse, holds eye contact with your boobs and then meets your eyes like, “Yeah, I saw that.”

If a guy is into you sexually, his eyes will drift to where his fantasies are. You might feel objectified, but let’s be honest, when a guy wants you bad, his gaze betrays his every thought. [Read: What Turns a Guy On? 51 Subtle Sexual Turn-Ons that Arouse Men in Seconds!]

6. He gets flustered when you show skin

One minute he’s smooth, the next he’s fumbling with his words because your top slipped slightly or your skirt rode up.

If you walk into the room and he suddenly sits up straighter, or drops something clumsily, that’s not just nerves, that’s his arousal hijacking his coordination. He wants you so bad, it short-circuits his ability to function normally. 📚 Source: Geer, James H., et al., 1976, Cognitive factors in sexual arousal and distraction

7. He hugs you tight and you know he doesn’t want to let go

When he hugs you, he doesn’t just pat your back and release. He lingers. His arms wrap around you tighter than necessary, his hands slide down just slightly lower than they should, and he breathes you in like he’s saving the memory for later.

If his hug feels more like a tease than a goodbye, you already know, he wants you. And he’s imagining way more than hugging. [Read: 25 Types of Hugs & Subtle Secrets to Tell If It’s a Friendly, Flirty or Romantic One]

8. He smells you like it’s turning him on

He leans in for a hug and nuzzles your neck just a little too long. Or he comments on how good your hair smells, even when you’ve done literally nothing new. He isn’t just noticing, he’s inhaling.

Scent is tied to sexual memory and attraction, and if he’s addicted to yours, he’s already undressing you in his head. [Read: What Are Pheromones? The Scent of Sex & The Role They Play in Love]

📚 Source: Grammer et al., 2005, The Role of Pheromones in Human Sexual Response

9. He mirrors your movements without realizing it

You cross your legs, he does too. You lean forward, so does he. This isn’t him copying you; this is his subconscious syncing with yours. When a guy wants you bad, his body starts echoing yours in a silent, seductive dance. It’s called limbic synchrony, and it’s sexy AF. 📚 Source: Human Behavioral Mimicry, Chartrand & Lakin, 2013

10. He adjusts his posture like he’s on display

You walk in and he sits up straighter, pushes his chest out, maybe stretches casually to show off his arms. It’s not a coincidence, it’s primal instinct.

Men physically try to appear more dominant, attractive, and sexually capable when they’re aroused. If he’s peacocking like he’s on a mating call, you better believe he wants you bad.

📚 Source: Postural Display and Courtship, Hugill et al., 2010

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11. His compliments start getting downright dirty

At first, he said you looked nice. Now he’s saying how sexy you look in that dress, how he can’t stop thinking about your curves, or how your voice gives him ideas.

It’s not just flattery anymore, it’s foreplay. If his compliments have gone from sweet to seductive, he’s moved from liking you to wanting you, badly. [Read: 25 Psychology Secrets to Make a Guy Horny & Hard Just By Sitting Next to Him]

12. His pupils dilate when you’re near

You catch him staring, and his eyes look bigger, darker, hungrier. This is a little-known but powerful sign of desire. Pupil dilation is an involuntary response to attraction and arousal. If his eyes look like he’s watching something delicious, it’s because he is: you. 📚 Source: Tuesday M. Watts, 2017, Pupil Dilation to Sexual Stimuli

13. He tries to get close to you

When a guy is sexually attracted to a girl, he wants to be as physically close to her as possible. So, if you find that he is purposely sitting close to you or puts his hands around your chair, that’s because he’s trying to send you a message.

If he didn’t want you bad, then he would try to keep his distance from you because he wouldn’t want you to get the wrong message.

14. He sits with his legs spread

This is a particularly interesting sign that he is attracted to you because he’s “showing you” his manhood. When a man wants to appear dominant, especially around women, he unconsciously sits or stands with his legs apart.

He wants to you look at it and think about what’s between those legs and dream about it being inside you.

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15. He blushes when he’s with you

If he is more of the shy and awkward type of guy, he might blush when he’s around you. He might feel like you know that he wants you bad, and so he gets embarrassed, which causes the blushing.

So, if you know the guy is more of the quiet and shy type, look for this subtle sign that he wants you bad. You’ll have to pay close attention to pick up on this one. [Read: Is He Shy or Not Interested? 26 Signs to Decode a Guy’s Behavior]

16. He notices when other men check you out

Humans are territorial, and men are even more so when they are sexually interested in a woman. So, he’ll notice when any other guy is checking you out. When he wants you bad, he isn’t going to like someone encroaching on his “territory” *you*.

He’ll be overly sensitive to any man in the room whose eyes wander in your direction. He might even point it out to see how you react because he wants to know that you want him too.

17. His voice gets deeper around you

This is another weird biological thing that happens when a man is sexually attracted to a woman. If you notice that the pitch of his voice tends to be lower when he talks to you than when it is when he talks to other people, then that is a good sign that he wants you bad.

The reason this happens from a biological perspective is that having a deeper voice can subconsciously tell a woman that he will produce healthy children. [Read: 33 sexy ways to seduce a man who’s not yet yours and hook him hard]

18. He flirts with you… a lot

When he wants you bad, he steps up his flirting game. That’s because he wants you to know that you are the center of his attention. If he wants you sexually, he’ll lean more toward physical flirting.

Examples of this include touching your hair or touching your lower back. [Read: How guys flirt – 25 subtle things guys do to impress a girl]

19. He laughs at everything

You’re not that funny. Really, even Chris Rock had jokes that flopped, so let’s get real. But this guy, he’s laughing at everything you say. He just thinks you’re hilarious.

When you like someone, you usually find whatever they say to be hilarious. Maybe it’s all the pheromones floating around in the air. So, if he’s in tears at your jokes *which are probably mediocre at best*, he’s into you.

20. He pays for everything

If he insists that he pays for your dinner or movie and wants to take you out, he is trying to impress you. To some people, this is now “old-fashioned,” but he shows his appreciation for you. That is one of the huge signs he wants you bad.

This doesn’t mean you have to sleep with him. Remember, you don’t owe him anything for that. But it’s a gesture that shows that he’s not just trying to stick it in.

If he takes you to his house for a date, then he’s just trying to f*ck you, so don’t be fooled by a “home-cooked meal.” [Read: 17 signs he likes you more than a friend and wants to ask you out]

21. He texts you throughout the day

If he asks you how your day’s going, what you’re going to do after work/school, he’s interested in seeing what you’re up to.

If he were just into having sex with you, he would only text you when he needs you. So, if he’s taking the time to text you throughout the day and chit chat with you about whatever, then he’s interested in you to the point that he wants you, and bad. [Read: 27 Big Signs to Tell If a Guy Likes You Over Text & Is Falling Hard for You]

22. He’s not pushing you to have sex

Let’s not play dumb. He wants to have sex with you. If you suggested it, he would have had sex with you days ago. But he’s playing it cool.

He’s dying inside, but on the outside, he’s not pressuring you to do anything. That’s the trait of someone who respects you and values you as a person. If he’s pushing to have sex, then he may not be into you for the reasons you think he is.

23. You already met his friends and family

He’s already taken you to meet his friends, or at least, they all know about you. Maybe you got to meet his mom as well. Guys don’t introduce girls to anyone unless they’re really into them.

Why would any guy subject themselves to endless questions about this girl? Who is she? Do you like her? What does she do? They have to really like you to endure question time. This is one of the obvious signs he wants you bad. [Read: Does He Like Me? 101 Subtle Signs & Body Language Clues Guys Can’t Hide]

24. He asks you out frequently

If someone wants to see you, they’ll try to see you. It’s really that simple. If you’re not sure a guy is into you or not, just watch to see if he attempts to take you out on a date.

If he tells you he’s going to call you in a couple of days and he doesn’t, well, he’s not really that into you. So, remember, if a guy really wants you, they’ll move mountains to do it.

25. The guy is on time

Believe it or not, being on time is another one of the signs he wants you bad because people who are on time are people who actually give a shit. Plus, it shows that they also respect your time.

If someone is always late to meet up with you and they don’t actually have a valid reason, well, just assume that they were forcing themselves off the couch to see you. If a guy wants you badly, he’ll be there right on time.

26. He’s no longer on Tinder

If this guy has deleted his dating apps, whatever they are – Tinder, OkCupid – he means business.

Really, that’s his portal to an endless supply of pussy, but he gave that up for you. Think about it, to delete your dating app is one of those pretty big signs he wants you bad because that’s saying you’re not interested in anyone else but this one person. [Read: 50 Signs a Man is Falling Deeply in Love with You & He Can’t Help Himself]

He’s following you on Instagram, Snapchat, and MIRL, he’s even added you on Facebook! Whatever the social media, he’s on it. That’s the best way for him to get to know you and see what your lifestyle is like.

Plus, he also gets to see if you’re single or not – Why else would people use social media? Oh, right, cat videos.

28. He’s straight up with you

He’s not into playing games. He’ll tell you about his last relationship and why it didn’t work out, he’ll let you know what he’s looking for, what he’s like as a person and things you should know about him.

We all have a past, and if he really wants you, he won’t hide anything from you. In fact, he’d love to share everything he possibly can with you! Now, if he’s leaving out important things from his past, that’s a red flag. [Read: 77 HUGE Signs to Tell If a Guy Likes You & Ways to Make Him Like You More]

29. He listens

Some guys nod their heads and smile when you talk, and then some guys actively listen to you and engage in conversation. You want the latter because it is another one of the signs he wants you bad.

If you wanted someone to nod and smile, you would date your dog. If he’s engaged in conversation, he’s genuinely interested in getting to know you and forming a relationship with you.

30. He gets protective

Now, not like obsessively protective like a bodyguard. We’re talking about him being worried about you walking home alone or having a random guy cat-call you. That type of protectiveness. If he’s getting obsessive, this is a whole different story, one that you should end.

Being protective shows that he cares about you, but don’t get this mixed up with being territorial. Guys can get like that as well when they’re trying to prove that you’re “theirs” – whatever that means. [Read: 18 clear signs a guy is way too overprotective and dominating]

31. He’s all about the manners

This guy is opening doors for you, taking you out for dinner, not tongue diving on the first date. He’s going textbook gentlemen with you.

That’s because he respects you. If he were just in it to sleep with you, well, you would have already slept with him by now. If a man wants to get laid, they’ll work their magic to get into your pants. [Read: Is he a player or a gentleman? The clear giveaways you can’t miss]

32. When you’re in a rut, he’s there

Now, he may want you badly, and he may desperately want to sleep with you. Now that’s nothing wrong with that if that’s what you want as well. But if you’re expecting something more profound and serious, like a deeper wanting of you, don’t expect it from him.

On the other hand, if he really wants to be with you, if you’re in a rut, he’ll be there. That’s how you tell the difference between someone who genuinely likes you and a f*ckboy. There. It’s that simple.

33. You feel the energy

When someone wants you badly, as in, really badly, you can feel it. You can actually feel their energy. They’re into you, so whether they’re shy or not, you’ll feel that the vibe between you two is not friendship.

Whether you want him back or not, you’ll have this feeling in your stomach that if you were both drunk, home alone, someone would try to make a move. [Read: Sexual Attraction: 36 Lusty Signs & Spicy Ways to Create Tension]

34. He touches you

Body language is very telling because most people do it unconsciously. When a guy wants you bad, he can’t help himself. This isn’t in an inappropriate way, but he will touch your lower back when you cross the street together, he will put your hair behind your ear or will brush his hand against your cheek.

These small touches can be very telling and even very intimate. See how they make you feel. The odds are that he feels even more intensely. [Read: 25 Signs He Just Wants Sex & Reasons Why He’s Faking Love to Sleep with You]

35. He compliments your body

As lovely as it is when a guy is into you, he isn’t just there for your personality.

Sorry, but your body has a lot to do with it too. He isn’t in love, but he wants you bad. If he compliments your body, calls you hot or sexy, or even mentions your outfit, he wants you. There is no doubt about it.

36. He buys you romantic gifts

A friend can get you a cup of coffee. A guy you’re dating can buy you flowers. But a significant sign a guy wants you bad is buying you romantic gifts.

If he is buying you roses over any other flower, he is probably into you. If he is buying you lingerie, candles, massage oils, or anything along those lines he wants you bad, and he wants you to know it. [Read: Roses, their colors, and how they can be used to convey a deeper meaning]

37. The look in his eyes

There’s a certain look that a guy gives you when he wants you badly, and it hits you right in the gut. It’s not just eye contact, it’s intensity. His eyes soften but darken at the same time, and it feels like he’s seeing straight through your clothes and into your soul.

It’s the kind of look that lingers longer than it should, that makes you feel warm and flustered all at once. It says everything he’s not saying out loud, “I want you. Now.” When a guy gives you that look? You’re not just imagining it. He wants you bad.

38. He wants to make you feel good

When a guy is putting your needs above his own, he wants you bad and really bad. He won’t just satisfy his sexual urges and desires. He wants you to get pleasure out of it too.

Even if this isn’t about sex, he will want you to be comfortable wherever you are. He will offer you food, water, or his jacket. He wants to please you. [Read: 23 signs to know if someone is thinking of you sexually and desires you]

39. He tells you

Maybe he’s had one too many beers, but if he’s telling you to your face that he wants you, then he wants you bad.

You can tell when someone just wants to f*ck you and when they want to devour your body, mind, and soul. You can feel it and see it in their eyes. So, pay attention if you’re looking for signs to know if he wants you bad. If he tells you that he wants you badly, he isn’t lying!

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So, what now?

If he’s showing five or more of these signs he wants you bad, he’s not hiding it very well. His eyes, his touch, his voice, they’re screaming what he might be too nervous to say. Just remember: being wanted is a power move, but only if you know what to do with it.

So flirt back, take control, or make him work for it, whatever you want. Now that you know the signs he wants you bad, the rest is just a game of when.

[Read: How to tell if a guy is horny around you – 22 signs he’s aroused AF]

Now that you know the signs he wants you bad, you know what to look for the next time he’s around. See if he’s showing any of these gestures. And if all your internal alarms go off, take a leap and make a move. Maybe that’ll help relieve the situation.