When a Guy Touches You: The Different Body Parts & What They Mean

when a guy touches you

They say it’s all about body language, but what about signs of interest when a guy touches you that tell you he likes you? Lucky you, the answer is yes.

Most women focus on decrypting what a guy is saying in his vague texts or his noncommittal responses, we miss out on the most obvious signs for when a guy touches you and the hidden meanings.

We like to think communication is all about words, but at the end of the day, you can tell a lot about someone and how they’re feeling based on their body language.

Now, your eyes will focus on his touch and where he touches you. Okay, of course, there’s the obvious signs of touch. If his hands are all around your reproductive area, well, we don’t need to think twice about what that means. [Read: Different types of physical touch and what they mean]

What it means when a guy touches you

If you like a guy and he touches your back, you’re probably wondering if that means anything. If it does, what does it mean. I went through university trying to figure out these small signs. Luckily, I’m writing this feature so you don’t have to lose your mind trying to analyze everything to death. I’m a girl, I know how we think.

So, stop overthinking his texts and status updates because everything you need to know relies on how he touches you. And if he doesn’t touch you at all, it looks like I just answered that question. When a guy touches you, every touch means something.

#1 Any touching is a sign. Okay, let me clarify this. If he catches you from slipping, it doesn’t mean he’s going to get down on one knee. But if he’s touching you in general, it’s a good sign that he’s attracted to you. I don’t know what level of the attraction, but it’s safe to say that he at least finds you attractive. Whether he’s going to act on that is something different. [Read: 10 clearly noticeable signs of body language attraction]

#2 Frequent touching counts. If he’s trying to find a way to touch you as much as he can, he’s probably into you. He hugs you, finds an excuse to touch your face, back or arms on a daily basis. This isn’t a once-in-awhile touch to let you know the bus is here, or that your phone is ringing. It’s more than that.

#3 He touches your face. A person’s face is what basically makes us attracted to them. Crazy, right? It’s not the six-pack abs or tight ass, it’s the face. Now, if he’s touching your face, this probably means you’re already comfortable with him. We don’t let just anyone touch our face.

The face has a pair of luscious lips on them which is always associated as being sensual and intimate. So, if he touches your face, or strokes your cheeks, he wants to be sexually close with you. [Read: The not-so-obvious things that makes a man attracted to a woman]

#4 He touches your hips. Listen, girls, if a guy touches your hips, I mean, he could have touched you anywhere else but he chose the hips, this guy wants you. When a man touches your hips, he’s trying to get you closer to him and/or admire your body which he wants a piece of right now.

#5 He touches your hair. The whole concept is hair is very interesting. You can actually tell a lot about a person by their hair. But when a man touches your hair, this means something else. What this actually means is that they like your personality. Sadly, this isn’t a straight giveaway for saying he has feelings for you, but it does show that he likes you as a person.

#6 He touches your upper back. There are two main areas of the back: upper and lower. Shockingly, both areas signify different things, so pay attention. If a guy is touching the upper area of your back, they’re showing you support. This is only for the upper part of your back. The lower part means a whole different thing, girl.

#7 He touches your lower back. This is probably what you want to actually know. When a guy touches your lower back it shows that they’re attracted to you. The lower back is a sensitive part of the body, so you’ll feel their touch more intensely. Oh, and pay attention to the duration of their touch. If they touch your lower back for a longer period of time, it shows their level of attraction. [Read:18 physical aspects of a girl that drive men crazy]

#8 He touches your legs. Well, most of us know that legs are a big deal for men. It’s very rare that you’d find a guy saying, oh no, I don’t like nice looking legs. Now, if you find a guy touching your legs, it’s a sign that they’re into you. With a leg touch, they’re testing the waters, seeing your reaction before they go any further.

#9 He touches your hands. Hands are made to be touched. Hands are a little tricky because we use them for everything. They’re made to hold, carry, pull, and push. Of course, a high-five or handshake show positivity but doesn’t mean anything romantic. But is that paired with prolonged eye contact? If it is, then it means something a little different. [Read: 20 signs of attraction in the first conversation]

#10 Expect eye contact with that touch. If he’s standing behind you, you won’t be able to make eye contact unless you want to look like an owl. But if he touches you and makes eye contact, prolonged eye contact with you, well, he’s clearly into you.

#11 He touches your shoulders. Sorry, girls, but this type of touch isn’t giving off “more than friends” vibes. When someone puts their arm around your shoulders or grabs your shoulders, it shows a sign of appreciation. You’ll see this happen with friends and classmates, people that aren’t close to you. He’s just trying to show his appreciation, nothing more than that. [Read: How to read mixed signals and turn it into love]

#12 How long does he touch you? Now, sometimes people can touch you non-sexually without any motive. Rather, they just touched you to move you out of the way or get your attention.

But if you want to try to figure out what he’s feeling, then look at the duration of him touching you. If it’s quick, it could mean anything, but if he touches you for just a little bit longer then normal, that’s your sign. [Read: 17 subtle ways to touch a guy and make him lose his mind]

#13 Throw a smile along with it. Now if he’s touching you, make eye contact with him. If he smiles, that’s something to look into. There’s that awkward “oops, sorry, I’m just trying to move past you” smile, and then there’s the “can I touch you some more?” smile. Those two smiles make a huge difference.

[Read: How to turn a guy on without touching him – A guide to tantalize]

Now that you know what it means when a guy touches you, it looks like you can put the rest of the puzzle pieces together. Is his body language telling you what you want to hear?

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic
A serial dater, Natasha Ivanovic knows a thing or two about men and the dating scene. Much of her writing is inspired by her encounters with men - and for good ...
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