33 Sexy Secrets to Seduce a Man Who’s Not Yet Yours & Hook Him Hard

Want a guy to desire you and lust for you? Here’s how to seduce a man who isn’t yours yet and use the right seduction techniques to leave him smitten!

how to seduce a man

Do you want to make him want you? Whether it’s to make him like you or lust for you, here’s your guide on how to seduce a man who isn’t your man yet.

Here’s a heads up you need, we literally have everything you need to know about seduction right here. So sit back for the next 10 minutes or more, and take in all of these tips and moves. And prepare to transform yourself into a real seductress by the time you reach the end of this feature!

The art of seducing men

Seducing a man is an art, and one that’s thoroughly enjoyable. Just watching a man feel flustered and awkward because of the sexual tension you’ve created is a rush that few things can give a girl. 

There are different ways to seduce a guy, and luckily, we have everything’s you’ll ever need to seduce him right here. If you’re looking to seduce him with your personality and bring your awesome self when you’re around him, all you need to do is read on. By the end of this article, you’ll learn how to transform yourself into a complete sex goddess, and the guys won’t even know what hit them!

But if you’re looking for more specific ways to seduce a guy – via texts, phone, touch, without touch, or anything else, click on any of the links below to read the specific area you’re looking for!

How to seduce a man with your touch: seduce him with your touch without making it obvious

How to seduce a man without touching him: turn a guy on without touching him

How to seduce a man on the first date: make him horny and rock hard just by sitting next to him

How to seduce a man through texts: step-by-step texts to seduce him by text in under 30 minutes

How to seduce a man over the phone: seduce him over phone like a sexy, sassy minx

You can use any of the features we’ve linked to above to go to the specific ways you’d like to seduce a man. But once you learn the basics of seducing a guy we’ve shared below, you’ll be able to seduce anyone, anywhere!

How to master seduction subtly without overdoing it

Every woman wants to know how to seduce men. Once you have that power, you can do anything. You’re a natural Super Woman. 

Seducing a man just like that, may sound like an insurmountable challenge. But if you know how to seduce a guy, then you won’t have any troubles achieving your goal.

People make seduction sound like something you need a degree in. Sure, it may seem daunting and a little challenging at first, but it’s nothing you can’t overcome. When it comes to knowing how to seduce a guy, it’s not that hard.

For a man to want to have sex with you, it doesn’t take much. You don’t even need to know how to seduce a guy.

But that’s not what you should be looking for. If you want something more than a one night stand or a fling, then you’re going to need to seduce him.

Seduction isn’t about sleeping with a man. Seduction is about making him desire you and seeing you as unattainable.

And yet, it’s about him worshipping you and wishing he could be with you at the same time. Seduction is the art of knowing how to pull a man in and keep him interested in you… all the time!

[Read: How to be a seductress and seduce everyone around you without even trying]

Seduction is not the same as hooking up

Sleeping with a guy is as easy as parting your legs. But seducing him and leaving him smitten? That’s a whole different way of piquing a guy’s interest.

Today, our culture is all about hooking up and “no-strings-attached” relationships, so finding someone to have sex with you won’t be hard.

But finding someone who finds you incredibly desirable and attractive, inside and out, that’s where the challenge lies. And this is what you need to know if you want to understand how to seduce a man. Is this manipulation? No.

Seduction is about building sexual tension and letting the person develop feelings for you before giving them what they ultimately want *which is sex*. It’s like making a cake and finally getting the chance to eat it yourself. So, let’s start cooking.

[Read: 20 strong signs of sexual tension to know you both make each other horny]

Why do you want to seduce him?

A few of these tips may seem sneaky, but hey, we’re not playing dirty. We’re only using the advantage of being a woman! Your using your gift to make him sweat with desire.

But what next, do you want him to fall in love with you or are you happy with him trailing you like a lost puppy? 

Either way, you’ll have a great time and he’ll love you for letting him have a great time. Everyone’s happy and the world is a better place!

Try to have a goal in mind, even if it’s a hookup or a real relationship. It’s only when you know what YOU want out of seducing a guy can you work towards the results you have in mind.

How to seduce a man and make him think of you sexually all the time

If you want to understand how to seduce a man, especially if he’s not your own boyfriend, use these tips to do just that. It’s subtle, devilishly innocent and he can never ever blame you for seducing him.

After all, by using these steps on seducing a guy, you’ll make him believe that he’s actually the one who desires you.

1. Work your eye contact

It doesn’t matter where you are, or who you’re with. When you learn how to use eye contact, you can get any guy, anywhere in the room, to constantly sneak glances at you like he doesn’t have a choice.

Now you don’t want him to think you’re attracted to him, so don’t overdo the little staring game. Look and him and lock eyes for a second, but always look away just as quickly.

By doing that, he’ll never be sure if you’re even staring at him or are interested in him. And yet, he’d start to get more and more curious about you. Use these eye contact flirting moves to make sure you’re doing this right.

2. Let him see your best side

Do you think you’re sexy? No? Start by believing in yourself. If you want to become a seductress of all things human, you need to feel like one. And when you do, you’ll be able to perfect these moves and put it to maximum use.

You need to know this, it’s not the most physically attractive girl in the room who can arouse every guy. It’s the girl who oozes sexuality and confidence who does that.

Feel great about yourself, fall in love with who you are. You can fake it for a while, but unless you absolutely love who you are, inside and outside, your insecurities will show and you’ll lose just a bit of edge in your aura of seductiveness. 

You need to be confident and love yourself. This is the only way you get the respect and recognition you deserve.

Check out this guide on how to look sexy, feel sexy and be sexy to own your own kind of sexiness and ooze sex appeal!

3. Don’t think about the future

When you start fantasizing about your future together with a guy you intend to seduce, that’s when trouble starts.

Dreaming up your future with him is going to throw you off your game, and you’ll also ignore red flags. Be present in the moment and focus on your interactions with him. No future thoughts, okay?

4. Pay attention to things beyond looks

Everyone thinks seduction is about looking hot and sexy. But if you want to know how to seduce a guy, you need to remember that attractiveness is subjective, and that’s why confidence is so important.

But seduction is also about the vibe you give to other people. What kind of person are you? Fun? Mysterious? Know what your vibe is and use it to your advantage. Check out these 33 subtle things you can do to yourself to become sexually attractive.

5. You’re not competing against others

If you really want to seduce a man, you need to be able to walk into the room thinking you’re the hottest one in it. I’m serious. Confidence is the sexiest accessory on a woman or man.

Seduction is about highlighting the sexiest and most seductive parts of you. You’re not competing against other women; you’re loving every inch of yourself and letting everyone know it.

6. But pay attention to your looks and assets too!

As much as seducing a guy is a mind game, your physical traits can give you an edge in making a guy desire you, at least from afar. Check out these 51 physical turn ons that arouse guys within seconds and see which ones you can use to your advantage. 

Do you think your boobs are a flattering asset? Your booty? Hair? Your legs? Or is it your hip to waist ratio? Whatever you love about yourself physically, use it and accentuate it.

If there’s anything that makes you feel sexy, use it to your advantage. Let a man admire you from afar, and you’ve got a head start to seducing him already!

7. Dress your best to catch a guy’s eye

Focus on being the sexiest version of yourself. Dress in clothes that make you feel comfortable, confident, and sexy. Don’t try to change your style because you think that’s what he’s going to like. Dress the way you want.

Understanding how to look hot has more to do with how you feel within, and how you present yourself, than throwing on a crop top and booty shorts.

It’s not about wearing the sexiest or skimpiest clothes, and twirling your hair, unlike what they try to convince you in the movies!

Use these 18 tips on how to look hot and go from boring to flawless, and you’ll know everything you need to know about looking hot, from your clothes to your attitude to the supplements you need to take, to look and feel sexy.

8. Let him know you’re approachable to him

If you want to seduce a guy, you just can’t sit in the corner with your face staring at a wall. Show him you’re interested, so be active.

Glance at him now and then, don’t appear bored, and give him a look of curiosity. You need to make it seem like you’re interested in him, but not so interested that you appear easy.

Look at him now and then, and when you catch his eye, tuck your hair behind your ear, look down and smile to yourself. It may seem like a small gesture to you, but to a guy, it’s jackpot!

Check out these charming ways to be more approachable to guys that WILL work every single time and make him come to you 100%!

9. Smile and let him see you do it

Men are automatically drawn towards women who seem happier and more fun to be with. A smiling, flirty woman is far more approachable than a surly, saggy woman. When you’re having a conversation with him, smile often.

It’ll make you seem good natured and happy, which will draw him to you. But don’t overdo the smiling by making it obvious that you’ve got a thing for him. You’re trying to seduce him, not let him know you like him! 

When men see a genuine smile, they can’t help but look at you. It’s contagious, and it shows the fun and light side of you. Don’t fake smile. People notice right away if you act genuine or not. Either smile like you mean it or don’t smile at all.

10. Flirt, but very subtly!

If you’ve got these first few steps down to the tee, the guy you’re seducing would already be attracted to you, sexually or otherwise. Now it’s time to warm him up and let him know that you’re up for a bit of safe flirting now and then.

When you’re having a conversation with him, flirt with him and make him want to continue the conversation with you.

If his eyes are ready to pop out in excitement or if he’s staring deep into your eyes or your lips, you’re doing a great job at this, aren’t you, you seductress?

Check out this guide on how to flirt with a guy very subtly without flirting at all to master the art of the subtle but powerful flirt.

Flirting is a great way to build sexual tension, but do this by teasing him as well. Again, you don’t want to make him think that you’re just going to give yourself to him. Guys like women who are a little witty and feisty. Show him your intelligence and wit.

11. Make him feel like a man 

If you want to seduce a man, you need to make him feel like a man. His experience with you is purely mental. How he feels around you will determine his next moves.

If he feels like an alpha dog around you, he’ll want more of you. And that’s actually when you start to seduce him. Make him feel like a man; there’s nothing wrong with embracing your feminine side. [Read: How to attract men in a feminine way they can’t resist]

12. Lingering unexpected touches

When you’re having a conversation with him at lunch, place your fingers over his palm while emphasizing a point or hold him by his hand as you’re crossing the street.

If you’re sitting next to him, allow your feet to touch his feet and pretend like you didn’t notice. Create circumstances to let him touch you, and he’ll want more.

Touch is a huge part of body language. When you like someone, what do you do? You touch them. You rub their arm when you laugh. You touch their leg, their back. Your hands are all over them. So, don’t be scared to touch him but don’t throw your body on him. [Read: The subtle tricks to get a guy to kiss you whenever you want him to!]

13. Use the other senses

Touch isn’t the only way to show affection! You have other senses as well, and they’re just as important. Taste, smell, sight, and sound are all important when it comes to seduction. Wear perfume, smile, whisper into his ear, he’ll eat all of this up.

14. Don’t throw yourself at him

If you want to know how to seduce a guy, never ever throw yourself at him or let him know that you think he’s hot stuff. By letting a guy know that you’re already interested in him, he wouldn’t feel excited by any of your antics. He’ll just assume you’re trying really hard to get his attention. And you don’t want that.

When you let a guy know you like him, it’ll make him start the game of playing hard to get with you. Instead of seducing a guy, you’ll end up looking trashy and clingy.

Always make it look like he’s the one pursuing you, even if you’re laying a seduction trail for him with each step you take. [Read: Why men love a chase and how to use this male trait in your favor]

15. Ignore him now and then

Every once in a while, when you feel like things are going too smoothly between the two of you, stop giving him a lot of attention and conversation time. A guy will always take things easy when he feels like he’s having a great time with a girl.

So at least at the beginning, don’t ever let him feel like he’s completely won you over. Ignore him now and then, or just play hard to get with him.

It’ll shake up his insecurities all over again, and make him woo you harder. It sounds mean, but minor game playing at the start of the dating game is something both sexes do, so you’re doing nothing wrong! [Read: Why do girls play games and shit test guys in the starting stages of dating?]

16. A little peek-a-boo

The fascinating thing about being a girl is the amazing array of clothing you can pull off, and look great doing it!

If you want to get a guy’s mind racing and turn him on, the best way to do it is to use a flash of skin very discreetly. It’ll make him desire you a lot more because he’s glanced a peek, and now he wants to see a lot more of you!

Wearing a short skirt? Let him catch a glimpse of your thigh or a flash of your panties as you bend down to pick something up, or as you it next to him.

A deep neckline? You can always look away for a few seconds so he gets enough time to stare at your cleavage like a gentleman when you’re not looking at him.

It’s sneaky, but almost everyone does this even if no one talks about it!

17. Don’t reveal it all!

Okay, we need to say this, because too many girls get carried away with a flash of skin and reveal far too much, almost to the point of embarrassing the guy.

If you want to seduce a man, never bare everything or wear skimpy clothes that leave little to the imagination. It draws the wrong kind of attention, and instead of being seductive, you’d look like an easy lay. [Read: 18 things a girl does that makes guys think she’s too easy]

Wear something that gives you an opportunity to give him a little peek now and then. If he’s standing around you, lean forward to take your phone out of your handbag.

A guy’s eyes are pretty quick when it comes to sneaky boob grazes. Always make the guy believe he’s the one sneaking glances at you. And never make it seem like you’re giving him the opportunity to do so. Master this, and you’ll be able to seduce any guy and make him think of you sexually. 

[Read: The real reasons behind why men are so crazy about boobs!]

18. Subtle dance moves to your rescue

If you’re at a bar or club, the easiest way to seduce a guy is on the dance floor. Take his hand and lead him to the dance floor. 

You don’t have to give him a strip tease, but dance playfully. Build some connection and tension between you two. With music, that can be easily done.

Guys can’t resist a girl’s curves. So take those sexy curves and move them on the dance floor, and he’ll be floored by you. Show off your skills, and let him watch you. Dancing with each other is a great way to build the sexual chemistry and leave a few lasting memories with lingering touches.

Even if you’re not on the dance floor, or you don’t think you’re a great dancer, humming along to music as you subtly sway your body side-to-side while hanging out with him will have the same effect on a guy!

[Read: 25 things guys find incredibly attractive and sexy about a girl and the things she does]

19. Use those awkward moments to max effect!

If you want to know how to seduce a man, get this right and you’d leave the guy you want to seduce with a heart full of desire and a trouser that’s stretching with a hard on!

Squeeze into a crowded elevator with him and “unintentionally” let your butt graze against his leg. If he’s sitting down in a chair, come from behind him and reach across his table to get something when he’s not looking. He’ll involuntarily turn and his shoulders have nowhere to touch but your breasts. And that’s by accident, of course!

And when you hug him, make sure he can feel your body touch against him. Don’t make any of these moves obvious, and he’ll think he’s the lucky one for getting to touch you in places he can only dream of. 

Give him the chance to touch you, and create awkward situations around him. His pants will get tighter, and he’ll do more than just fantasize about you.

You don’t always have to go looking for awkward moments. There’s always that awkward moment! Maybe you’re walking by him, brushing up against his leg, or your arms graze against each other while sitting beside each other—this builds up the tension between you two.

Make sure you do this without looking like you planned it out. Awkward moments are a great way to focus his attention on what you need him to be looking at.

[Read: 13 lusty signs of sexual attention to keep an eye on]

20. End a conversation abruptly sometimes

You like him and want him, but here’s the thing, show him that he doesn’t have you in the palm of his hand. Make him work for you.

So, give him your attention but don’t be afraid to go to the bathroom or talk to your friend and pay him less attention when he’s standing around you. This also shows you have your own life outside of him.

If a guy starts to sense that he has all of your attention, and you’re ignoring everything and everyone else for him, he’s obviously going to be happy about it.

But at the same time, unless he’s already incredibly smitten by you, he’s not going to bother pursuing you anymore because he thinks he’s won you over already.

[Read: All the reasons why chasing a guy never helps]

21. Use sexual innuendos

You don’t have to talk dirty with a guy you’re trying to seduce. Save all of that bold talk when you’ve already hooked him or are in a relationship with him. But tease him, and drop a few sexual innuendos and double entendres to leave him confused. 

“Did she mean something sexual by that?” “Is she flirting with me?” Leave him guessing and he’ll want more signs to know if you like him.

And that’s how you arouse him and seduce him without saying anything directly. Use these 30 subtle, naughty, and overly sexy flirting tips for girls and you’ll know exactly how to do this right!

22. Make him chase you

The chase is everything when it comes to seducing a man. Even if you like a guy, you must seem attainable, but just out of his reach.

It sounds like you’re playing, but in reality, this is exactly what a guy wants. A guy doesn’t see it as a trick, he sees this as him wooing and pursuing you, to impress you. And every minute or day he gets closer to you, he thinks he’s winning!

If a guy thinks you’re easy, he assumes you’re not desirable enough. But if a guy works to get your attention, all the while believing he’s almost there, he’ll drive himself crazy to win you over – after all, he thinks he’s succeeding with “his seduction moves!”

And all you have to do to make this work, is know learn to appear unattainable while giving in just a bit! Use these 20 subtle ways to make a man chase you and fall hard, you can’t go wrong with these moves.

23. Don’t rush, build the tension

This isn’t a race. Seduction takes time. In some cases, it won’t take long, but you want to build the sexual tension between you two, so give it some time. There’s no time frame, but just with what makes you feel comfortable with him.

24. Where are you?

This is actually very important. You need to know your playing field. If you walk into a sports bar in the middle of a game hoping to seduce a guy, it’s not going to happen.

You need to pick the scene properly. Places where there’s not many distractions are the best ones to go for, at least in the beginning. Crowded places are too stimulating. 

25. Love yourself

To seduce someone and to do it well, really appreciate and love yourself. If not, you easily lose yourself in your own game and lose a sense of who you are and what you’re doing. So, before you start seducing men, know what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. 

[Read: 33 subtle tips that’ll make you way more attractive in no time]

26. You cannot make him feel like he’s being seduced

No one wants to feel like they’re in someone else’s game. So, make him feel like you’re seduced by him. You have to let him feel that he did all the work.

He needs to feel secure. If he feels like he’s being seduced by you, he pulls back because he feels out of control.

Once a guy realizes he’s being seduced, he’ll realize you like him already. That’ll only make him pull back and take it easy. And what started as a game of seduction will turn into a game where he sits back and watches you throw yourself at him with desperation. 

27. Give him space

Usually, when we want someone, we make the mistake of smothering them. Everyone likes attention but to a point.

The people we usually fall for don’t give us too much attention. And that’s the ticket. Don’t be needy or clingy, be the opposite. It’ll drive them nuts and make them work harder for you.

28. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket

You may be interested in this one guy, but that doesn’t mean you should invest everything into him. Plus, if it doesn’t work out, it’ll hit your ego and self-esteem.

But, if you have other desirable options, the blow won’t be too hard on you. Instead, you’ll move on easily. [Read: How to date multiple guys without being shady or called a cheater]

29. Having options is hot

When a guy sees that you have other men interested in you, it changes the game. He doesn’t have time to wait around and relax.

He either needs to jump on the opportunity or not. If you’re in-demand, it’s better for you. Plus, who doesn’t want to have options?

30. Highlight your best, forget the rest

People suck at seducing others because they’re too uptight. How can you seduce someone when you’re nervous and sweating?

Don’t overthink how you’re going to dress or act. Think of seduction as highlighting the best parts of yourself, that’s it. The rest you need to let go and relax.

31. Understand you have the power

As a seducer, understand the power is in your hands. You’re in control of your mood, of your vibe, of your emotions.

You decide how you want to walk into a room, and how you want people to see you. But to truly use your power, work on getting rid of your negativity.

You’re seducing a guy, so you need to feel the aura of seductiveness tingle in your veins. You need to feel great about yourself, and you need to realize that you do have the power to turn on any guy you want.

[Read: The art of seduction – 25 ways to smolder and ooze sex appeal]

32. Change your mental state

Having negative thoughts isn’t something uncommon; we all have negative thoughts. But if you want to seduce a guy, seduction and negativity can’t go hand-in-hand. And this is why self-care is important.

You need to work on your emotions and feelings, understanding where your negative thoughts come from. And most importantly, learn how to let them go and think positively. 

33. If you make jokes, don’t degrade him

No one likes being degraded by someone else. If you want to make him feel like a man and seduce him, avoid making jokes that make him feel small and insignificant.

If you have a heated debate, maybe you need to double-check and see if this is someone you want to seduce. Because if he makes you feel anger, why seduce him? 

If you want to seduce a man, be someone he can engage in conversation with. Be curious about his ideas and thoughts.

Everyone wants to feel appreciated and accepted by someone they like. If not, they’ll turn to someone else. Be someone he feels comfortable and supported by, that’s what men want.

And that’s about all you need to take your first few steps into the exciting word of seducing a man, with literally no added effort on your part.

Now, you know how to seduce a guy, or for that matter, any guy you want. All you need to do is take these steps and put them into practice.

So now that you know how to seduce a man who’s not yours, what are you going to do next? It feels so good to have so many choices, doesn’t it?!

Want more features on the art of seducing men, try these:

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Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of LovePanky.com, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...