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41 Racy Ways to Turn On a Guy & Make Him Lust & Fantasize About You

If you want to know how to turn on a guy, the truth is that it’s really not as difficult as you think. These tips will help you figure it out. 

How to Turn On a Guy

If you know how to turn a guy on, you basically have all the knowledge you’ll ever need to be amazing in bed. The kicker? Not many of us know how to do this.

Sure, we know all the sweet spots to touch, but to really turn them on? That’s when it gets tricky if you have no clue what to do.

But it can be done. You may have to practice for a while but once you nail down this special trick, you’ll have all the guys drooling over you. [Read: How to attract men: The irresistible secrets no one talks about]

Keep a guy interested by knowing how to turn him on

For women, getting a guy to make out with you is definitely not the difficult part. However, the next step is often where we falter.

An interested guy is not hard to find, but often a guy expects you to lead when showing him how interested you are. So, how should you attempt the practice of turning on your man?

You might be thinking, “Why is it necessary that I learn how to turn on a guy?” Not only will it make you an absolute beast when it comes to your dating life, it will also have a ripple effect on your confidence. [Read: 18 physical turn-ons guys find irresistible in a girl]

You will be able to turn on a guy and you’ll exude confidence.

Men love confidence, so suddenly you will have hoards of men gagging to be with you. And almost no effort, you will become a temptress that can make a guy horny by just being around him for a few minutes. ]

How to turn on a guy before and during a make out session

These tips can be used by anyone, it doesn’t matter if you’re new to the makeout game or if you’re an experienced temptress just looking for some new tips to spice things up in your relationship.

If you are finding you’ve lost an element of spark or sexual chemistry in a long-term relationship, or you’re looking to ignite a spark for the very first time, these tips will help you have the hottest make-out session, ever. [Read: How to make any guy horny just by sitting next to him

1. Be confident and self-assured

This is easier said than done for some of us. If you are not a naturally confident person, this might take a little bit of work and effort.

Be assured of yourself. Buy some sexy underwear if that makes you feel good, or go to the gym and get some endorphins before you get on top of your man.

Whatever makes you feel sexy and confident, and whatever works for you is going to do the trick. Every woman is different, so find what makes you feel comfortable in your own skin. [Read: How to stop being insecure: 15 steps to transform your life]

2. Know what you want, and demand it

Similar to the first tip around self-assurance, it is important to know what you like, and ask for it from him. As we said before, guys love a girl who knows what she wants. If you don’t know what you like, take some time to explore yourself and your sexuality before you try doing so with him.

Don’t be a fragile little girl. It’s not the 20th century anymore, you don’t have to pretend to be innocent and naïve. Women are more than allowed to love sex! [Read: How to have sex with yourself and learn what turns your body on]

3. Be mysterious

Don’t let all of your skills be showcased right away! Be mysterious, tease him, and let his mind run wild with fantasies of what’s going to happen once you take off your clothes. The chase is sexy, and teasing a man will make him desire you intensely.

4. Show your décolletage

The entire area of your collarbone and chest is a huge turn on for a guy in general. However, many women tend to wear their hair over their chest or wear a jacket that covers that area.

Pull your hair back or just brush it over your shoulder so he can see this entire area. Guys are very visual and that specific spot is known to turn them on a lot. [Read: 20 sexy things that turn guys on every single time]

5. Lean in and whisper

If you’re sitting next to a guy, don’t be afraid to lean in and lower your voice. Whisper something in his ear so he can feel your hot breath against his ear and neck. This spot is a widely known erogenous zone and believe us, he’ll basically pop a boner right then and there. [Read: 10 sexy sweet-nothings to whisper to a man]

6. Make sexual jokes

But don’t be overly sexual. So long as he knows you have a rather dirty mind, it’ll get the wheels turning in his head. We know you have just as dirty of a mind as he does, so put it to use!

Allowing a guy to see a little bit of your sexual side will perk those naughty parts of him right up. [Read: 40 naughty and sexual pickup lines to use on men]

7. Use a sexy wink

Guys want to know that you’re thinking about something naughty. They want to see that side of you. Giving them a wink not only shows how interested in them you are, it also shows that you’ve got naughty thoughts in your mind.

This wink also intrigues them simply because it could mean so many things. You could be thinking about something dirty, you could have a joke in mind, and it just makes you seem more mysterious in general. And that definitely turns a guy on. [Read: How to wink like a total tease and catch anyone’s eye in a flirty way]

8. Genuinely laugh and smile

A girl who can throw her head back and laugh and smile with ease is attractive. It shows a guy that you’re easygoing and very positive.

When a guy thinks you won’t come with any drama and irritation, he’ll be way more turned on. So let yourself laugh and have a good time. He’ll like you more for it.

9. Wear fitted clothing

Men are visual beings. They see something that catches their eye and it’s all they can think about.

To know how to turn a guy on without touching him, you have to know what guys find attractive. And according to science, that’s curves. It doesn’t matter if it’s accentuated boobs, hips, or your booty. So long as he gets to see one or the other, his mind will immediately be in a naughty place. [Read: How to look sexy without even trying]

10. Wear something slightly sheer

Luckily, this style is becoming more and more popular and accepted everywhere. We don’t mean that you have to show your nipples through a white t-shirt. That’s a bit absurd and looks rather trashy on most women. Instead, wear something slightly sheer where he can see your bra or bralette through it.

This is very tasteful but it also shows a man your sexy side. Don’t be afraid to look sexy. Embrace it. [Read: 14 ways to be irresistible to men]

11. Compliment something semi-naughty about him

Again, if a guy knows your mind is on something dirty, his will go there right away. For that reason, complimenting something about him that hints at sex is the perfect way to turn him on.

Our favorite way to do this is to mention his lips. It’s really easy to lean in close and tell him he has really great lips. That’s all you have to say. Leave it at that and he’ll be ready to do whatever it takes to have you. [Read: How to compliment a guy with something he actually wants to hear]

12. Have a sense of humor

Don’t be uptight. Learn to joke with him and laugh with him. Obviously, if he’s making jokes that are offensive or crude, he’s not a guy you want to turn on anyways.

Enjoy his sense of humor and show him that you have one too. There is nothing sexier than a woman who can joke around with a guy. [Read: 60 seductive things to say to a guy to turn him on]

13. Love yourself

Though you may not realize it, self-confidence and self-respect is a huge turn-on for men. Loving the skin you’re in is the first thing you need to do before even thinking about guys.

A real man is turned on by a woman who loves herself and the body she has. [Read: 15 amazing ways to glow, discover self love and happiness]

14. Talk about his passions

If you know some of the things he likes, you can use those topics to strike up a conversation. For example, if he’s into baseball, bring up a game that just happened or a future game you’re interested in seeing. This is a great way to make subtle hints without diving right in.

Learning how to turn on a guy isn’t always sexual, sometimes you have to engage his mind too. [Read: 30 really sexy flirting tips if you’re looking for obvious ways to sexually arouse a guy]

15. Don’t be too available

That’s right. If you want to learn how to turn on a guy without being obvious, you need to keep some mystery between you. When it comes to the chase, no one likes an easy catch.

But in all seriousness, you should continue on with your life and not try to make yourself available for him. In the end, that’s what will also keep him interested. [Read: 15 qualities all men secretly crave in the woman they date]

16. Lightly touch him

This doesn’t mean you should jump on him. When you’re laughing at a joke he made or just talking, you can lightly touch his arm or shoulder. Physical contact doesn’t need to be intense to show him you’re interested.

Plus, it’s a good way to gauge how he feels, whether he accepts the touch or moves away.

17. Don’t overlook the hug

A hug is quite powerful and can tell you a lot about the person you’re hugging. If you’re hugging a guy goodbye or hi, let it linger just a bit and hold the hug a couple of seconds longer. It’s subtle, but it will tell him how you feel.

You don’t need to hug him all of the time, but when you do hug him, make it count. [Read: 14 very subtle moves that’ll make any girl a natural seductress instantly]

18. Make use of music

When the mood is right, don’t be shy about putting some music on. Music not only puts us in a relaxed state, but it also connects people.

Putting on some feel-good music can hit the spot as it’s more arousing than touch.

19. Use your hair

Your hair can come in handy when it comes to subtle flirting. Running your hand through your hair or moving it out of your face are subtle acts that’ll make his eyes focus on your face.

It’s sweet and sexy. [Read: 15 subtle and speedy moves to get a guy to make a first move and ask you out soon]

And when you’re ready to make out with him, use these tips to turn him on even more …

20. Take the reins when turning on a guy

Don’t always let him take control. Although some guys like to be in control sometimes; it is a common myth that they always want to be in charge. If you always let a guy lead, they won’t experience the pleasure of knowing you crave them and want their touch.

Men love it when you tell them you want them. Show him where you want to be touched, move him around when you’re turning him on. Act demanding, like you know what you’re doing sexually.

Be bad, it’s actually pretty fun. [Read: 12 bad girl traits every guy wants in his girlfriend]

21. Have some fun with his ears

Kissing should not always be about the mouth. Take your kissing all around his body, especially the sensuous areas that are known for turning a guy on.

One of the most popular areas for men is their ear lobe and all around the side of the ear. Have a nibble, use your tongue. Switch things up so that he feels your tongue, mouth, and lips all over him. This is absolutely irresistible and also a massive tease. [Read: 8 erogenous zones to touch a guy and leave him weak]

22. Use the nape of the neck

Continuing on from the ears, take a quick trip down to the neck. The nape of the neck is an instantaneous turn on for a lot of guys. It shows that you’re moving down from the mouth and closer to where they really want you to be.

The neck is a fan favorite for turning on a guy! Just be careful not to give him a hickey—guys aren’t fond of those. [Read: 15 tips for a sizzling, satisfying make out session]

23. Use your hands

Many women get stuck just using their mouth in a make out session; so don’t restrict yourself!

Move your hands all around his body in a sensual manner and watch his eyes go wild with desire. It will instantly turn him on to know that your hands are starting to wander, because it’s exactly where he wanted this to go.

24. Grip him, and don’t let go

This tip is very much tied into the taking charge and demanding side of turning your guy on.

Grip him in places where it won’t be necessarily painful, but it will make him feel like you desperately want him and need him. The action of grabbing him will portray an overall sense of desire. [Read: The art of make out mastery: 20 tips for powerful success]

25. Press your body up against him

There is nothing sexier than being pinned up against a guy and having your bodies collide. The feeling of being as close as you can get with your clothes makes your minds run wild with what will happen once they come off.

For a guy, being pressed up against your body will allow him to either feel your boobs or your bum, and either one of these options will get him going. You might even feel something starting to press up on you once you try this technique out. [Read: What are pheromones? The scent of sex and the role they play]

26. Position yourself on his lap

Now, for obvious reasons, this is going to get a guy all worked up. This is an especially good one if you know what your best asset is.

If it is your bum, he’ll be able to grab your ass while your rub up on him and wrap your legs around him. If it is your breasts, he’ll have a great view while you get him going by slowly rubbing up on him.

27. Kiss his collarbone

As you are slowly making your way further down his body, it will make him think you’re going to continue your trip further down. This will get him very excited straight away.

The best idea is to head down to the collarbone right after you’ve spent some time on his earlobes and the nape of his neck. This constant progression downwards will frustrate him and tease him intensely. [Read: How to touch a guy: 17 subtle moves to make him lose his mind]

28. Get closer to what you’re turning on… *if you’re ready*

Now this is definitely a bigger step, but a surefire way to drive your man wild. Whether it’s running your finger over his pants, or looping your hands into his belt loops; he’ll start to feel like you’re getting to the place he really wants you to.

This move could quickly escalate your make out session to something a little less PG!

However, even if you’re just using it to tease him; it will turn him on completely to fantasize about how close your hands are to where he wants them to be. [Read: Damsel in distress – Why men find women who ask for help irresistible]

29. Incorporate your tongue

Don’t forget about your tongue! It is one of the best tools we have to turn on a guy. Kissing is definitely about more than just your lips. The hottest kiss will definitely come with an element of tongue, if not a lot more!

However, don’t forget to use it in moderation! We don’t want a sloppy kiss, just one that will make him fantasize about where else your mouth could be. [Read: How to kiss with tongue sexily and avoid a gross sloppy mess]

30. Let him touch you up

In all honesty, he will probably try to do this of his own accord. So let him!

Let his hands explore your body and touch what he wants to. You know what your best assets are, so his hands will probably wander to what his eyes and mind have always wanted to touch. This is bound to turn him on and drive him wild.

31. Run your hands through his hair and tug on it slightly

As you’re making out, run your hands through his hair and around the back of his head.

A great show of desire is to tug on his hair slightly. This will show him that you desire him and want him, which will bring him an immense amount of pleasure and increase the build-up of sexual tension overall. [Read: How to tell if a guy likes kissing you and get turned on when you kiss him]

32. Communicate! It’s sexy

Don’t be nervous to tell him how you feel! Tell him that you’re so turned on by him, tell him how hot and attractive he is.

Communication is sexy, don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise. If you tell him what you like and enjoy, he’ll feel comfortable to reciprocate; opening up a form of healthy communication for future intimate sessions that you might enjoy together.

33. Run your nails up and down his back

A little bit of pain is so hot. Run your fingernails up and down his neck, back, and over other parts of his body.

The scratching of your nails and the tingling sensation that your rubbing all over him will bring will be an immediate turn on for your guy. Don’t draw blood *obviously* but don’t be afraid to be forceful if it starts to turn him on. [Read: 15 dirty ways to have the sexiest rough sex ever]

34. Keep your hands on the sensual parts of his body consistently

Be consistent with your touching and rubbing all over his body. Don’t take your hands off the wheel, if that makes sense.

Try not to ever go into auto-pilot in a makeout session, because that is where you lose the spark. Rub all over him and explore parts of him that you haven’t touched or tried out yet.

35. Tease him

Teasing is fun. Why do you think edging is so popular in the bedroom? Getting your man excited and worked up will not only be enjoyable for him, it will also turn you on in the same way.

Pleasuring your man will be enjoyable for you, and it’s fun to realize that you can have so much of an effect on him. [Read: 15 really sexy moves to tease your boyfriend and leave him stiff]

36. Give him ‘sex eyes’ to turn him on

Eye contact is so key when it comes to turning on your man. Sex eyes are a real thing. They portray a ‘come hither’ look of passion, lust, and desire. All three being very key in any intimate encounter we have!

Your man will instantly know that you are not only attracted to him, but that you want him in the exact same way he wants you at that moment. [Read: What are bedroom eyes? How to master the art of seduction just with your eyes]

37. Nibble on his body

We talked about how important the use of your tongue was, and now it’s time for the teeth.

Nibbling gently on your man’s bottom lip and then continuing to nibble around his body as you make your way down to the important areas is a surefire way to turn on a guy.

38. Make him feel like a man

Men love to feel like they are ‘the man’, and one of the easiest ways to turn on a guy is make him feel powerful.

Make him feel sexy and confident in himself and what he has done to you to make you so attracted to him. Make him feel like ‘the man,’ and he will start to get more and more turned on. [Read: How to be a good girlfriend – 27 ways to make him love you more]

39. Shoot him a secretive smile

We all know the sexy smile that we shoot someone when we want them.

Shoot him a sly and secretive smile which lets him know that you’re enjoying yourself just as much as he is enjoying himself. This will encourage him to get more into what you are doing to him and reassure him that the sexual attraction is definitely reciprocated.

40. Portray desire and passion

Your eyes, your words, and your actions all combine to portray how you feel during a make-out session. If you want to know how to turn on a guy, make sure your eyes, words, and actions all line up to portray a lustful desire for the man you are making out with. You will definitely reap the rewards. [Read: Passionate lovemaking – 14 secrets and ways to make sex lustful and steamy]

41. Bite your lip seductively

Lips, teeth, and mouth; all seductive and sexual parts of the body. Lick your lips when you look at him, bite your lip when you glance down to look at an area that might excite him.

Look at him like you want to devour him, and let your body show him and react accordingly. Biting and licking your lips portray a feeling of hunger and desire that will intrigue and excite him. [Read: Lip biting and the scientific reasons behind why it’s so sexy]

Practice these tips and turn him on!

Although these tips are tried and true, they might take a little bit of practice or a boost of liquid courage to try them out successfully.

Remember, don’t be discouraged if not every tip or trick works on your guy. Turning on a guy is mostly about knowing what makes them tick. What turns on your guy might not quite do it for another.

Just experiment and see what works!

[Read: How to make a guy really horny just by sitting next to him]

Trying to analyze how to turn on a guy while making out can be nerve-wracking! Take our advice and read these tips to turn him on like a pro.

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