Every woman wants to know how to seduce men. I mean, once you have that power, you can do anything. You’re a natural Super Woman.
I consider seduction to be an art form. To be able to know how to seduce men, you must read them quickly and figure out what they look for. Now, I’m still learning the ropes of seduction. Sure, I can seduce some guys, but sometimes, I just can’t seem to get it right.
But this just takes practice. Some people are seduced by others quickly while other people are more aware of what’s going on.
How to seduce men – Slowly and surely
But your goal is just to have a basic understanding of how to seduce men. From there, work on your skills and develop them. You have to know though, this isn’t going to be easy. It’s not that hard, but it takes effort. In fact, it’s a lot of trial and error, but once you find your groove, it is smooth sailing.
So, what are we waiting for? It’s time to get you started and learning what you need to do in order to seduce men.
#1 Where are you? This is actually very important. You need to know your playing field. If I walk into a sports bar in the middle of a game hoping to seduce a guy, it’s not going to happen.
#2 Don’t show it all. You don’t need to show up topless to seduce a guy. In fact, my best seduction moments were when I wore a baggy sweater and jeans. See, it’s not necessarily what you wear, but it’s how you wear it and how you carry yourself. This is what counts.
#3 Confidence is key. You need to be confident. If not, seduction isn’t going to work. You don’t have to look like you can have anyone in the room, but you need to look like you love yourself. This is the only way you get the respect and recognition you deserve. [Read: 10 subtle body language moves to appear more confident]
#4 Don’t rush, build the tension. This isn’t a race. Seduction takes time. In some cases, it won’t take long, but you want to build the sexual tension between you two, so give it some time. There’s no time frame, but just with what makes you feel comfortable with him.
#5 Show you’re interested. If you want to seduce a guy, you just can’t sit in the corner with your face staring at a wall. Show him you’re interested, so be active. Smile at him, look at him—make it obvious that you’re interested in him. He can then come to you or if you want, you can go to him. [Read: How to get a guy’s attention in any circumstance]
#6 Touch him playfully. Touch is a huge part of body language. When you like someone, what do you do? You touch them. You rub their arm when you laugh. You touch their leg, their back. Your hands are all over them. So, don’t be scared to touch him but don’t throw your body on him. [Read: How to flirt by touch without making it obvious at all]
#7 Use the other senses. Touch isn’t the only way to show affection! You have other senses as well, and they’re just as important. Taste, smell, sight, and sound are all important when it comes to seduction. Wear perfume, smile, whisper into his ear, he’ll eat all of this up.
#8 Smile. Men love women who smile. When they see a genuine smile, they can’t help but look at you. It’s contagious, and it shows the fun and light side of you. Don’t fake smile. People notice right away if you act genuine or not. Either smile like you mean it or don’t smile at all. [Read: Prolonged eye contact when flirting: What it means and how to do it]
#9 Be flirtatious, but tease him. Flirting is a great way to build sexual tension, but do this by teasing him as well. Again, you don’t want to make him think that you’re just going to give yourself to him. Guys like women who are a little witty and feisty. Show him your intelligence and wit.
#10 Don’t give him all your attention. I know you like him and want him, but here’s the thing, show him that he doesn’t have you in the palm of his hand. Make him work for you. So, give him your attention but don’t be afraid to go to the bathroom or talk to your friend. This also shows you have your own life outside of him. [Read: All the reasons why chasing a guy never helps]
#11 Learn some dance moves. If you’re at a bar or club, the easiest way to seduce them is on the dance floor. Take his hand and lead him to the dance floor.
You don’t have to give him a strip tease, but dance playfully. Build some connection and tension between you two. With music, that can be easily done.
#12 Have an awkward moment. There’s always that awkward moment. Maybe you walk by him, brushing up against his leg—this builds up the tension between you two. Make sure you do this without looking like you planned it out. Awkward moments are a great way to focus his attention on what you need him to be looking at. [Read: 13 lusty signs of sexual attention to keep an eye on]
#13 Love yourself. To seduce someone and to do it well, really appreciate and love yourself. If not, you easily lose yourself in your own game and lose a sense of who you are and what you’re doing. So, before you start seducing men, know what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. [Read: How to be comfortable with yourself]
#14 You cannot make him feel like he’s being seduced. No one wants to feel like they’re in someone else’s game. So, make him feel like you’re seduced by him. You have to let him feel that he did all the work. He needs to feel secure. If he feels like he’s being seduced, he pulls back because he feels out of control.