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How to Tell if a Guy Is Turned On: 16 Real Signs He’s Aroused by You

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How do you actually know if a guy is turned on by you? Luckily, there are obvious and not-so-obvious signs for how to tell if a guy is turned on.

If you’re reading this, you may not know the signs that I’m talking about, but you will know by the end. You want to know how to tell if a guy is turned on, right? Well, there’s no point watching chick flicks. Trust me, they get you nowhere when it comes to this.

Instead, I’ll show you some of the actual signs of arousal. That’s right, it’s time you learned the truth behind it all. That way, the next time you’re trying to figure out what this guy is all about, you’ll remember the signs. That way, you’re one step ahead of the game.

How to tell if a guy is turned on by you

I remember as a teenager and having older girls talk to me about guys that are into them. Honestly, most of my high school days were equivalent to being a plant. In other words, no guys paid any attention to me.

So, when I started learning about attraction, I was a little behind with the times. My knowledge came from 90’s chick flicks, not actual real life. Wait, you mean he doesn’t bring you roses on the first date? You slept with him without meeting his mom? [Read: How to find your fictional character crush in real life]

Yes, I know, so naive, yet, it’s kinda sweet, isn’t it? But the minute I made it into the real world, that’s when I started noticing the signs. Oh, you know what I’m talking about, the signs. I’m not saying you have to know how to tell if a guy is turned on around you, but it comes in handy.

#1 All men are different. I know you didn’t want to read this, but it’s important to know this before I blab at you. Though these signs are quite common in men, not all men are the same.

Some men are more obvious with their attraction while some guys that are simply ninja-like in hiding their emotions. I hope for your sake, he can be read like a book. [Read: How to read a guy’s mind and see if he’s into you]

#2 He’s always around you. If you’re not attracted to someone, there’s no way you’re always around them. Why would you? You have no reason to. But if he’s always there, always a couple of inches away from you, aside from him possibly being a close talker, he’s into you. If a guy isn’t into you, they’ll keep a healthy distance.

#3 It’s in the eyes. It’s all about the eyes, baby. But seriously, eye contact is huge when it comes to arousal. If a guy is turned on by you, you’ll see that sparkle of horniness a mile away. It’s hard to miss. You’ll notice him giving you plenty of eye contact, with him trying to prolong it as much as possible. [Read: What does it mean when you have prolonged eye contact in flirting?]

#4 He’s really fidgeting. When we’re nervous around someone, we fidget. Unless you’re a psychopath. But fidgeting is actually a release of energy. Sure, he wants to have his hands all over you, but he can’t and that’s why his hands are fidgeting like crazy.

Fidgeting, playing with objects, these are all types of physical outbursts to release some pent-up energy.

#5 He likes to touch you. This doesn’t mean he’s grabbing your ass or breasts, if that’s the case, he’s a pig and you should look for another guy. But if he’s touching your lower back when holding the door open for you, hugging you, brushing your hair out of your face, well, this man is into you. A man that’s aroused will find any excuse to touch you. [Read: 15 super-obvious signs a man is sexually attracted to you]

#6 He’s flirting with you. Flirting is basically when someone builds sexual chemistry with another person. If he’s heavily flirting with you, he’s subconsciously trying to see if there’s sexual chemistry. Now, he wouldn’t do that if you didn’t turn him on, so clearly, he fancies you.

#7 You’re sexually touching him. No, I’m not trying to talk about #metoo, but this is important to point out. If you’re making out with him or grinding up against his penis, it’s safe to say that he’ll become aroused. This is usually when you’ll feel the mighty boner and figure out what’s going on for him.[Read: How to tell if a guy has a boner]

#8 He’s all about the smiles. Maybe he received a raise or won the lottery but the odds are he can’t stop smiling because of you. If you’re wondering how to tell if a guy is turned on, remember that turned on men will always be in a positive and smiley mood around the woman they like. But remember, while he’s smiling, it’s important to recognize how he smiles. Is it an annoyed smile? A fake smile? Or that I-just-want-to-take-your-clothes-off smile? I hope it’s the latter.

#9 He’s a nervous wreck around you. When you talk, he’s stuttering, slipping through sentences, though cute for you, for him, it’s a nightmare. For some men, their complete ability to speak shuts down when they see a woman they’re into. [Read: How to create sexual tension with a guy so he can make a move]

#10 He licks his lips. When it comes to figuring out how to tell if a guy is turned on, I know this one may sound a little odd, but rewind those moments in your mind where you may have thought that he was turned on by you. Was he licking his lips a lot? Probably. Lip licking is actually an automatic response, something he can’t control. When he’s stimulated, turned on, he licks his lips.

#11 He tells you. When you’re in a hot-and-heavy moment, you may hear him tell you that you turn him on. At this moment, he’s probably not making this up. You’re turning him on and he can’t contain himself. If he tells you that he’s turned on, well, let’s just assume that he is. [Read: 14 surefire signs your guy thinks you’re smoking hot!]

 #12 Did he just blush? I know, everyone always thinks it’s a “girl thing.” Whatever, it’s the 21st century and blushing happens to all of us, usually at the most awkward of moments. Not every guy that’s turned on is going to peacock and make a move. Some guys are more reserved and shy which means you’ll probably catch them blushing around you.

#13 He makes time to see you. It’s one thing to see a guy friend every now and then, but another when he’s constantly trying to hang out with you. Men are more likely to show their attraction based on how much they spend time with you. If they’re always hanging out with you, well, chances are you arouse him.

#14 His manly voice comes out. Oooo, how exciting, his manly voice. Yes, ladies. When a man is turned on, they almost morph into a someone else, someone more manly. When men and women are turned on, they lower the pitch of their voice *subconsciously, of course* to attract the person they’re sexually into. If he all of a sudden sounds like Gaston from Beauty and the Beast, he’s turned on. [Read: 30 hot texts that’ll turn him on and leave him obscenely horny]

#15 The holy boner appears. Well, I know this is an obvious one, thank god. And a straight giveaway that he’s turned on by you. If you’re sitting at dinner next to him or dancing with him at the club and feel something hard, like hard, in his pants, well, that’s his boner. What happens next is up to you. All you need to know is that whatever you’re doing turns him on.

#16 You feel it. Yeah, I know this sounds a little hippy but don’t ignore this sign. Nothing beats intuition and because you’re a woman, you’re full of it. Listen, if you feel that a guy is sexually aroused by you, you’re probably right.

If you’re into him, you feel a sparkle of energy inside of you. If you’re not into him, you get a shiver up your spine. Romantic, right?

[Read: The subtle art of making a guy really horny just by sitting next to him]

You’re probably going back and thinking about all the times where you missed how to tell if a guy was turned on by you. Now that you know the signs, you’re one step ahead.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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