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How to be a Good Girlfriend – 10 Things You HAVE to Do

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Found yourself a perfect guy? Well, if you’re looking for ways to keep your man happy, find out how to be a good girlfriend and treat him right.

The art of being a good girlfriend is simple. Make your man feel special and cared for, and he will love you for it. If you want to know how to be a good girlfriend, you need to keep a few traits in mind.

You may already be indulging in a few of these traits without realizing it. But if you aren’t, perhaps it’s time to be a good girlfriend and make your man fall in love with you, more with each passing day.

How to be a good girlfriend

Men pursue the woman they love earnestly, but many men give up on their charming antics once they’ve snagged the girl.

If you’re dating a guy who’s perfect and makes you feel on top of the world, perhaps it’s time to return the favor. [Read: 25 signs and qualities that make a really good boyfriend]

Here are ten little things you can do for him that would impress him, awe him and make him desire you more than ever before.

Find out how to be a good girlfriend with these ten tips.

#1 Make him a better man

A good girlfriend doesn’t just teach her man how to be romantic or chivalrous. She knows her boyfriend inside out and helps him fix his flaws and improves his perfections. Do you motivate your man to achieve his dreams? Do you talk about his future and his potential? One of the better traits of a good girlfriend is her interest and ability to mould her man to become the best he can ever be.

#2 Make your guy feel special

Every guy loves to be pampered by his girlfriend, especially in front of others. Your guy may never acknowledge this. In fact, he may seem awkward or even embarrassed when you indulge in a bit of affection in public with him. But deep inside, he wants your attention.

In almost all relationships, it’s the guy who pursues the girl and tries to impress her. Perhaps, you can now return the favor by snuggling up to him when you’re with other people. There’s nothing that screams “she’s my girl” in your boyfriend’s head better than this, is there? [Read: 25 sweet ways to make your guy feel appreciated and cared for]

#3 Take initiative in bed

On the outside, women always make it seem like making a move to make out or have sex is a man’s job. But everyone knows women love sex just as much as men do.

You can be coy in bed for most of the time, but every now and then, take the lead and show him what you’ve got. A good girlfriend knows how to play coy but every now and then, she shows him a few sexy moves that can pleasantly surprise him. [Read: 12 foreplay moves that work exceptionally well for men]

#4 Impress his family and friends

If you want to know how to be a good girlfriend, this is a great move to start with. Your boyfriend may be smitten by you, but he’s got a significant baggage that needs some impressing too. Every time you’re with his friends or family, try to participate in the conversations and be cheerful around them. If he sees that you’re bonding well and having a great time with his family and friends, you’re probably going to see his eyes tearing up with happiness real soon!

#5 Want him but don’t be needy

Every guy dreams of getting a girl who’s independent, but yet dependent. Some girls are rather clingy and need a boyfriend’s help for everything. On the other hand, we have a few other girls who are way too independent. Guys love the middle path.

Every guy likes to be there for his girlfriend in her time of need. It may be his protective instinct or he may just want to impress you or please you. If you don’t really need him to help you, but you still want him around when you’re doing something because you love his company, any guy would love you for that. Guys may appreciate an overly dependent girl or a completely independent girl who doesn’t want her guy to involve in her life at the beginning, but as the relationship grows, he’d fall more in love with a girl who doesn’t need him, but wants him. [Read: Annoying girlfriend habits that guys hate]

#6 Earn his respect

Women want to be treated with respect and men understand that. A good girlfriend doesn’t just demand respect from her guy, she earns it. When you believe in yourself and your capabilities and have a strong and determined personality, it’ll make your boyfriend respect you for the person you are.

Learn to show off your capabilities and awe him, and he’ll begin to listen to you and respect your opinion, not because you’re his girlfriend but because you’re such a wonderful person.

#7 Dress like a million bucks

For a guy, there’s nothing sexier than a girl who can illuminate a room when she steps in. Be that girl. When the whole room stops and stares at you, it’ll fill your boyfriend’s *shallow* heart with happiness and pride. Dress like a million bucks when you go out with him, and if his jaw drops at first sight and he can’t stop glancing sideways at you when you walk with him, you know you’ve worked your magic!

[Read: How to look sexy without trying]

#8 Be intelligent and witty

A good girlfriend is aware of the world around her. You don’t need to be a rocket scientist, but if you can be witty and fun, and mix it up with intelligence when you’re having a conversation with him, there’s no way he would ever let someone like you slip away from him.

And remember, an intelligent person isn’t always a walking-talking-encyclopedia, it could even be a person who knows a few things, but knows it well.

#9 Look after yourself and your guy

Do you take care of yourself, physically and otherwise? Fill your life with happiness and have a positive outlook towards life. Work out, look good and feel good about yourself. And help your boyfriend look good and feel good too. When both of you are cheerful and happy with yourselves and with each other, both of you will feel radiant and full of positivity which can have a positive impact on your lives.

[Read: How to be happy in a relationship]

#10 You can be a guy when you have to

A guy wants his girlfriend to be sweet and caring, but every now and then, especially when there’s a game on or when he’s spending some guy time with the boys, he would absolutely love it if you could turn your baseball cap around and chew gum like a man!

If you want to know how to be a good girlfriend, learn to hang out with him and his friends and have a good time in the boys’ club now and then.

[Read: 17 more ways to be the perfect girlfriend for your guy]

Use these ten simple tips on how to be a good girlfriend and you’ll be able to awe him, mesmerize him, and make him fall head over heels in love, now that you’re the best girlfriend he can ever get!

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8 thoughts on “How to be a Good Girlfriend – 10 Things You HAVE to Do”

  1. Sixstring says:

    You left out the most important aspect : Clearcut communication. Don’t make guys try to read your mind when you’re upset, don’t hope for him to magically figure out what you want. Be honest and straight-forward.

  2. Emm says:

    shouldnt your website be more honest? the list about how to be a good girlfriend; if he doesnt like you for how you are, break up with him. he does not deserve you.

  3. Kyle says:

    Emm… So you’re saying that if a relationship doesn’t start out perfect, with both sides perfectly willing to settle and never change what they have, it should never go anywhere? I don’t mean to be rude, but that is complete fantasy, and will not make anyone happy. It has little to do with “sticking to your guns,” and quite a lot to do with being too stubborn to get out of your own way and let yourself be happy.

    Both sides compromise, both sides learn, both sides grow as human beings and as partners in a relationship. This means not only helping to improve your partner (which I noticed you did not state an aversion to changing him, only the other way around), but being willing to have them improve you as well. None of us are above changing, and if it takes a relationship to do it, well, one way or the other you still come out a better, more experienced human being.

    Saying someone does not deserve you because they don’t think you’re a perfect person is absurd; however, I also assume that you’re not going to the extreme like that, so of course you have a point, they should still like most of you… but what about annoying habits you may have, or lifestyle choices, or even little things like the perfume you use? Those are all mere details to be settled, but they are the compromises I’m talking about.

  4. NappyBunny says:

    Sixstring & Kyle have really good points

  5. mancmanomyst says:

    These tips were clearly written by a woman. The first one is a terrible idea! Men do not like women trying to change them. Yes, be supportive and encouraging but don’t criticise, nag and complain. That is the most common way to make a man not want to be with you!

    Men do like intelligent and stimulating conversation but be careful not to be combative and always correcting him. That’s not a good idea – it makes him feel demeaned and disrespected – particularly in public.

    Also be careful with “making him feel special”. Yes, show him you care, you love him and you appreciate him but don’t treat him like he’s a girl. If you’re always paying for meals and buying him gifts it can actually feel threatening.

    The tenth one is also laced with danger. Yes, it’s attractive to men if you show an interest in the things they are interested in and that you get on with their friends but don’t try and insert yourself into parts of his life uninvited. Let him take the lead. Men and women both need time to just be with their mates – if you try and crowd him too much it feels like an invasion not like love!

    They key to a good relationship is good communication on both sides and compromise. Don’t try to interpret his actions and behaviours the way that you think. Instead listen to him and he should listen to you too! Nobody is perfect, love each other for who you each are, flaws and all. Don’t try to change each other, embrace each other and change together as you grow!

  6. mancmanomyst says:

    I agree but remember that goes both ways! From my experiences women tend to have really high expectations of potential partners but feel aggrieved that men may also have expectations of them.

    Love is not about perfect fairytales but compromise and understanding!

  7. Trisha Anne Chi-Young says:

    Wait does being Initiative in bed have to be necessary? I mean there’s something wrong with this how to be a good girlfriend article…this article only shows how to be a people pleaser. Being a good or great girlfriend means you have what it takes to show your man to be a good person and to be who you really are that you are someone that is worth loving for him. Perfection doesn’t have to be like this you know I mean not everyone is perfect in this world people have flaws or mistakes too. Sex may not always be the answer to everything

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