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How to be the Best Girlfriend: 25 Ways to Leave Him Addicted

You can’t just land a man and hope he’ll stay with you without any effort on your part. Here’s how to be the best girlfriend and make him stay.

how to be the best girlfriend

Relationships aren’t easy. If they were, no one would be getting divorced, and everyone would have a significant other. The truth is, there’s a lot of work put into a relationship and not everything comes easy.

Many women jump through hoops to get a guy to like them, and then they don’t do anything to make him stick around once he’s hers. This is one of the biggest mistakes out in the dating world today. It seems like too many people work for the chase but not for the catch.

Making him stay done right

What would you do if some guy tried to sweep you off your feet by bringing you flowers, opening the car door for you, buying you gifts you love, and suddenly just stopped doing all of it once you said yes to being his girlfriend?
Most likely, you’d be mad and probably wouldn’t be with him much longer. Am I right? Why? Because he’s not doing anything to make you want to stay! [Read: 17 easy ways to be a good girlfriend to your boyfriend]

How to be the best girlfriend

If you really want to make your man stay, then you need to be a kick-ass girlfriend. Here’s how to be the best girlfriend he’s ever had and make him want to stay for good.

#1 Be attentive. First, pay attention to him. Make sure you’re present in his life and not just a bystander he calls his girlfriend. Watch how his likes and dislikes change and pay attention to them. You’ll be able to better understand him and provide him with things he likes. [Read: 15 what-if questions to ask your boyfriend to grow closer]

#2 Be nice to his friends. Even if you don’t like them, be nice to them. A man’s friends are extremely important to him, and the bond between them is something most women don’t get. So get along with them. He’ll love you that much more for the effort.

#3 Don’t nag him. There is an art form to getting your boyfriend to do something you want. Nagging is NOT the way to go. A good girlfriend avoids nagging; otherwise, her boyfriend gets annoyed real fast.

#4 Understand his man time. Guys need time to themselves without the presence of their girlfriend. If you really want to be the best girlfriend, leave him alone sometimes. [Read: How to love your man without smothering him with too much love]

#5 Be confident. Surprisingly enough, a woman’s confidence impacts a man’s happiness in the relationship. If your boyfriend has an insecure girlfriend, he deals with your jealousy, body insecurity, and the extra pressure to make you feel good about yourself. [Read: 10 subtle body language moves to appear more confident]

#6 Don’t make him jealous for fun. Some girlfriends think it’s funny or a confidence boost when their boyfriend feels jealous and mad because of another guy. However, this seriously annoys your boyfriend and will not make him happy. Be a good girlfriend and make him stay by not making him jealous on purpose.

#7 Cook for him often. And preferably cook his favorite meal. Even if you can’t cook, learn. Take a few classes, look up simple recipes, and make him food, because the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, right?

#8 Be a sex machine. Sex isn’t the most important part of a relationship by any means, but for a man, it’s up there. Being sexually active with him and doing your best to please him is a crucial ingredient to keeping him happy and making him want to stay. [Read: Why is sex so important in a relationship?]

#9 Feed his ego. Make him feel manly. Compliment his big muscles, tell him his beard makes him look extra manly, and just feed that ego of his. Men live off their ego, so make sure to boost it whenever you get the chance.

#10 Compliment him often. Complimenting your guy keeps him happy. Men are more insecure than their girlfriends realize. So making sure he knows you think he’s sexy is key to making him want to stay. [Read: 25 unique compliments for guys they’ll never forget]

#11 Listen to him. It can be really easy to slip into a routine of the, “Hey honey, how was your day?” Then ignoring everything he says thereafter because it’s more of a habit than you actually caring about how his day went.
Listen to his problems and triumphs at work. He’ll realize the difference, making you the best girlfriend.

#12 Appreciate what he does for you. Your boyfriend doesn’t clean the kitchen or buy you flowers for no reason. Don’t just take those as everyday things he’s doing. Appreciate what he does for you and make sure he knows how much they mean to you. [Read: 25 ways to say “I appreciate you” without words]

#13 Be your own person. If you really want to be the best girlfriend, then just have your own life. Don’t be one of those girlfriends who has to be attached to their boyfriend at the hip. Do your own thing and have your own friends and hobbies. This makes you an incredible girlfriend, and it’ll give him the opportunity to miss you.

#14 Don’t constantly ask where he’s been or what he’s doing. AKA: let him be his own person. Don’t continuously track his every move. It makes you one of those annoying girlfriends, and it makes your man want to flee your relationship. He’ll update you on his whereabouts, and he’ll appreciate you not asking. [Read: 13 clingy girlfriend signs and how to avoid them]

#15 Don’t bring up his past mistakes if you told him you forgive him. If you say something is forgiven, then it must be forgiven. That’s what the best girlfriend does.

#16 Have a sense of humor with him. Don’t take everything he says to or about you so seriously. Have a sense of humor and laugh off the silly things. He’ll enjoy himself more with you. [Read: 12 types of humor and how it affects relationships]

#17 Smell amazing. No man wants to run around with a girlfriend who has bad hygiene. Shower regularly, wear his favorite perfume when you can, and always make him happy to grab you in his arms.

#18 Look great in front of his friends. Men take pride in their girlfriends. If you look smokin’ hot in front of his friends, he’ll hear about it and take it as a direct compliment. He’ll definitely want to keep you around if his friends are jealous of him. [Read: 14 surefire signs your boyfriend thinks you’re smoking hot already!]

#19 Be a sweetheart to his family—no matter how they treat you. One thing that will make you the best girlfriend is showing him how nice you can be to his family—even if they’re not always so nice. Be a sweetheart, and he’ll want to stay for sure.

#20 Make an effort to involve yourself in his hobbies—but not too much. Being a good girlfriend means you involve yourself in his hobbies so you can truly understand him. Go see his favorite band, join him on game day. Basically, just be there.

#21 Be active so you stay fit. Go to the darn gym! Be in the best shape you can be. A good girlfriend wants to take care of herself not only to be healthy, but to stay fit and sexy for her man. [Read: 12 benefits of exercise on your mind, body, and libido]

#22 Surprise him often. Show up to his work with a hot lunch, grab an awesome t-shirt you think he’d like, and just do anything to surprise him. Bonus points for getting some sexy lingerie and surprising him the second he comes home.

#23 Communicate with him bluntly—don’t yell. A good girlfriend tells her boyfriend when she’s mad and upset without yelling and blowing stuff out of proportion. A man wants to stay with a woman who communicates regularly without the drama and yelling.

#24 Tell him how he makes you happy. Describe to him all the things he does that make you happy. Don’t let him forget why you’re with him and how much you like him making you happy. Men love hearing they’re successful. [Read: 25 easy ways you can make your boyfriend incredibly happy every day]

#25 Love him. It’s just that simple. Being the best girlfriend really boils down to loving him and loving him well. He should never go a day without feeling your love.

[Read: 25 awesome secrets to keep your guy hooked and happy in love]

Being a good girlfriend is not rocket science, ladies. Following these 25 guidelines on how to be the best girlfriend would definitely show you the way, and leave your man addicted to you.

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Annabel Rodgers
Annabel is a lifestyle writer, cheese enthusiast (Wisconsin native over here) and fantasy adventure author-in-progress who enjoys all things love, dog,...