How do you tell someone “I want you now” without telling them? By mastering the art of bedroom eyes! Follow our tips to learn how to seduce the silent way.
What is your go-to seduction technique? Are you all about the words, or do you opt for a little subtle body language? It turns out that seduction isn’t all about the clothes you wear and the things you say, it’s also about using bedroom eyes.
As it turns out, seducing someone is mostly about the way you present yourself and the body language you use, including your eyes. [Read: 29 secrets to seduce someone & make them horny just thinking about you]
If you’ve ever done even a small amount of research into how to actually seduce someone, you will no doubt have come across the term “bedroom eyes” or “come-to-bed eyes”. They are the same. What are bedroom eyes exactly, and how can you get them?
The good news is, you already have them. You simply need to use the best parts! [Read: 47 sexy secrets to be seductive & make anyone feel horny around you]
What are bedroom eyes?
The term refers to an expression called “heavy-lidded” eyes, where your eyelids are relaxed. This means you’re looking a little like you’re dreaming, or your eyes are half-shut in pleasure, even though nothing is actually happening for you to feel that way.
It communicates that you’re thinking about pleasurable situations with the person you’re looking at, without even being touched.
There are also other body language cues that go alongside bedroom eyes to make up the entire effect. These include:
1. Biting your lip
2. Licking your lips
3. Looking at the other person’s lips
4. Looking at the person and then looking away, before turning to meet their gaze
5. A coy smile
6. Playing with your hair
7. A certain amount of pouting
[Read: 28 flirty ways to tease a guy & make him realize he really likes you]
The science behind bedroom eyes
When we say that there’s a science behind the art of bedroom eyes, we don’t mean that figuratively. As it turns out, attraction and lust are very scientific! But what exactly is the science behind this seductive look?
We tend to make bedroom eyes when we’re in the middle of an intimate situation, and we do it without even thinking about it. We also tend to use bedroom eyes when we’re looking at someone we really want, someone we have a certain amount of sexual longing towards.
The key components of bedroom eyes are the heavy lids and the dilated pupils. That’s because when we’re feeling pleasure, our bodies are completely relaxed, so our eyelids aren’t wide-open and alert.
And you can thank attraction for the dilated pupils because our pupils instinctively expand when we’re looking at someone we like, basically so that we can see more of the hunk/babe in front of us.
By learning how to recreate bedroom eyes outside of those situations, you’ll make people think that you’re actually recalling rather dirty thoughts in your mind! [Read: Eye fucking – how to master the secrets of intense sexual eye contact]
How to recreate bedroom eyes with makeup
Makeup is designed to enhance our natural features, so yes, makeup can be used to add an extra oomph to your bedroom eyes!
For this, you’ll simply need whatever you normally use to make a smokey eye, such as eyeshadow, eyeliner, and perhaps false lashes.
Using a dark brown eyeshadow *it’s up to you if you want to go for a bronzed warm tone or a frosty cool tone*, on a small, angled brush, start at the outer corner of your eye and start packing it on like its a winged eyeliner. Once you have a general shape, blend the top of your winged line but not the bottom so that it blends into your eyelid but stops at a soft line just above your undereye.
Work with light brushes of eyeshadow until you build your look up to a perfectly blended smokey eye. The trick here is to extend the shadows of your eye past their natural limit to give you those seductive bedroom eyes, so focus on placing and blending your eyeshadow outward rather than upward.
Then, apply eyeliner if you so wish, a coat of mascara, and pop on a half-lash to really accentuate that shadow placement. Do the rest of your makeup as usual and you’ll be looking va-va-voom! [Read: How to feel sexy and desirable all the time]
Bedroom eye body language
Of course, make sure that the rest of your body language isn’t completely going against what your eyes are telling the other person.
The best way to go about the whole bedroom eyes routine is to go with small glances. Then, look away in a coy manner before repeating the process with a little smile.
In that way, the person you’re showing your bedroom eyes to will not doubt what you’re trying to communicate, albeit silently!
A coy smile is the best way to go and also quite disarming. It’s tailing down the effect of your bedroom eyes and making you a bit more approachable than you would otherwise be. As a result, if you’re seriously crushing on this person, your slight smile could be all it takes for them to come over.
If you want to seduce that special someone, make sure you avoid the following:
1. Crossing your arms over your body or sitting with legs crossed
Crossing your arms or your legs over one another basically means you’re defensive and closed off. When you’re trying to seduce someone and give them your best bedroom eyes routine, you’re going to confuse them by creating a barrier between you. Instead, sit or stand with your arms loose.
2. Avoiding eye contact
Avoiding eye contact is usually something we do when we’re nervous. It’s also a way of showing someone that you’re not genuine. Failing to meet someone’s eye is a clear sign of lying.
If you’re showing them the bedroom eyes but not quite meeting their eyes at the same time, it’s not only confusing, but it’s showing that you’re not genuine either. [Read: Subtle eye contact flirting tips to catch someone’s eye from afar]
3. Looking bored or uninterested
This is also about not sending mixed signals. If you’re sending off bedroom eyes while also acting like you’re not interested in them, they won’t know what to think!
You might think that looking bored or uninterested is a way to show someone that you’re all cool and funky, but it’s actually confusing to the other person.
It doesn’t work when it comes to seduction or flirtation!
The power of your own bedroom eyes
Do you think your bedroom eyes are powerful? Whether you think you’re good at it or not, they certainly have some power! [Read: How to show a guy you like him & charm him while being a real tease]
Practice in front of the mirror and see how it looks. You might think you look ridiculous, but the chances are that if you did this in front of someone who you really had your eye on, the results would be quite impressive!
Of course, we also have to state that it’s not only women who are great at bedroom eyes! Guys can inflict some serious bedroom-eye power on those they have their literal eye on!
A smoldering look complete with a slight smirk can be enough to drive the object of your desire crazy and wild. The same advice as above stands for guys too.
[Read: How to increase sex appeal & 31 secrets of subtle sexual provocation]
There’s really nothing complicated about the answer to what bedroom eyes are. All you need to do is think of what you would like to be doing with that person. A natural look of longing is likely to make its way across your face.