How to be a Strong Independent Woman that Men Love

If there’s one thing taking men by storm lately, it’s independent women. Find out if you have what it takes to be the type of woman that men love.


Strong, independent women are sexy, in charge, and know exactly what they want. Doesn’t that sound just like something every man wants? Well, that’s because it IS what most men want. When you become independent, you get rid of most of those insecurities that make you more unappealing.
I bet you could walk down the streets in your town and, just by looking at the way a woman walks, you could tell if she’s the type who makes her own decisions, or the type who has everyone walking all over her. It’s really not hard to miss.
What makes independent women so different?
Their personalities, their no-b.s. attitude, their commanding presence, and the fact that they had to work hard to be who they are. Nothing happens overnight. You can’t just flip a switch and decide to become a bad-ass independent woman. [Read: 10 traits in a woman that draw all men towards her]
If it were easy, I would have done it a long time ago. But the truth is that you have to make changes in your everyday life in order to become a strong, independent woman. Lucky for you, I’ve discovered the steps to getting there. Here’s how to turn yourself into an envied, strong independent woman that men love.
#1 Stand up for yourself when necessary. An independent woman takes action when she feels that she has been wronged. If you really want to be a strong, independent woman that men love, you stick up for yourself in a situation that calls for it. Just remember to always keep calm and be respectful when doing so.
#2 Provide for yourself. This one is taking the term ‘independent’ literally. If you want to be this type of woman, then you have to literally provide everything for yourself. You can’t rely on anyone else for money, a home, or even happiness.
If you really want men to love you, you’ll be able to provide everything you need yourself. This takes the pressure off of your guy to ‘be the man’ and provide everything because sometimes, he can’t. This lets him know that you’re not with him for his money or assets, you’re with him for him. [Read: The step-by-step guide to be independent even when you’re in a relationship]
#3 Have your own life. Don’t spend all your time pining over someone or something. Have your own hobbies, goals, aspirations, and more. Be a person in this world and not just another fly on the wall. Have your own life and you’ll become an independent woman.
#4 Deal with your problems on your own. While it’s okay to ask advice and have someone weigh in on what they think you should do, never put your problems onto someone else and make them feel like it’s their job to fix. Your problems are only yours and you should act as such.
It’s true that men love to fix things. But this is more accurate for when the garbage disposal isn’t working and they can throw on their tool belt. No man is going to want to be the one to fix all your problems for you. [Read: 15 qualities all men crave in their woman more than anything else]
#5 Ignore negative people. Haters are everywhere. They’re online, walking down the street, in the mall, and even a few cubes down from yours at work. You can never escape them. But if you want to be the kind of woman a man loves, you will learn to ignore them and not let them affect you.
#6 Stay calm in a crisis situation. I know how easy it is to simply freak out when something goes wrong, but you can’t do that. Independent women can take a terrible situation and stay relaxed. They can deal with it with poise.
#7 Stop being impulsive. Impulsive behavior makes you look young and immature. Real independent women take their decisions – no matter how small – seriously and think them through before taking action. So before you spend $1000 on that fluffy throw rug, think about it.

#8 Don’t let other people’s opinions affect your self-esteem. This one is a major aspect of an independent woman. Those who can ignore critical comments without letting them take down her confidence are strong in so many ways. This rule is crucial for transforming yourself into a strong, independent woman.
Men love women like this because they know they don’t have to be the ones to pick you up when your confidence wilts. Sure, they might love being someone to make you feel better, but they don’t want to carry the weight of your falling self-esteem all the time. [Read: How your self respect affects you and the relationships in your life]
#9 Work hard – harder than ever before. Independent women don’t just sit around and wait for something to be handed to them. Nope. They work harder than they should in order to achieve greatness. This is especially true in a society that is so male-dominant in the workforce. So wake up early, leave late, and watch success fall into your lap.
#10 Don’t settle. Whether it be your job or your love life, never settle for anything less than what you deserve. You deserve the best and that’s all you should have. So if you’re not happy where you are, move on. That’s the mantra of independent women everywhere.
#11 Stay fit and healthy. Being an independent woman isn’t just about being mentally tough. You actually have to be physically fit and healthy. Go to the gym, lift weights, eat real foods, and you’ll feel so much better about yourself. Not only will it help you feel better, but you’ll look like a badass too. [Read: 25 things guys find really sexy and attractive about a girl]
#12 Be realistic in your life goals/relationships. Independent women know that real life isn’t like the fairytales. Real life is hard work and takes a lot of trial and error to get things right. Don’t let your fantasies take over or you’ll only end up with disappointment.
Men like a girl who doesn’t expect him to be the knight in shining armor. You understand that relationships aren’t really played out how they depict them in romantic comedies. Men love that because it assures them that you know how to work for a happy relationship. [Read: 17 easy ways to be the perfect girlfriend for your man]
#13 Be happy on your own. You need to learn how to be happy and fulfilled on your own before you can really be considered an independent woman. Let go of all the things that upset you, build a life you love, and be happy with what you have.
#14 Know what you want – and go after it. Don’t sit there thinking “someday,” when it comes to your goals. If you want it, then go get it! Independent women don’t sit around and wait for opportunity to come knocking at the door. They bulldoze through opportunities’ door and take what’s theirs.
Men love women with ambition. They like to see you be passionate about something because it shows him that you’ll be able to be passionate about him, too. [Read: 9 important lifestyle habits you need to be more independent in life]
#15 Respect yourself. This is last for a reason. It is the most important thing you need to be able to do in order to become a strong independent woman that men love. You need to respect yourself. If you have no respect for yourself, nobody else can respect you and that image is gone.
[Read: An inspiring guide to take that next step to independence and success]
Being a strong, independent woman comes naturally to some people. However, most have to work hard at achieving this. If you want to be the type of woman that a man loves, this is how.

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Annabel Rodgers
Annabel is a lifestyle writer, cheese enthusiast (Wisconsin native over here) and fantasy adventure author-in-progress who enjoys all things love, dog,...