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11 Reasons Why A Female-Led Relationship Is Just Awesome

It is high time you boys step aside and let the ladies take the reins. Here, we give you 11 reasons why a female-led relationship just works.


Since the beginning of time, men have always sought to be on top. There is something about being an Alpha male that satiates their male-ego-bullshit. Even so, history proves that women of all ages and origins were taken seriously and heralded as equal to men. Cleopatra, Empress Wu Zetian, and Elizabeth I are just a few examples of women who held unparalleled positions of power.

In today’s day and age, there are many more women who lead not just households, but entire nations. From the single mother who lives across the street, to Chancellor Angela Merkel of Germany, women are quickly proving to men that they can handle just as much, if not more, than them.

Wearing the metaphorical pants in a female led relationship

When it comes to relationships, letting the woman wear the pants is still a relatively taboo topic. Men may be willing to give up their seat in the boardroom, but they’re not as willing to give up their seat at the head of the table. However, times are changing and men around the world are starting to understand that letting their lady be in charge may not be such a bad thing.

Establishing a solid hierarchy in a relationship is just as important as establishing one in a company. It is up to each couple to decide just how much power gets distributed amongst one another. It could range from letting the female handle certain aspects of the relationship, such as giving her full control in the bedroom, to the other end of the spectrum, where she has complete control over the entire partnership. In any case, here are 11 reasons why a female-led relationship is simply awesome.

#1 Full awareness. Women are fully aware of everything that’s happening. From knowing exactly when the cookies in the oven are done, to figuring out what’s bothering you, women are mindful of their surroundings and will do their best to ensure smooth sailing.

#2 Multi tasking abilities. There is no denying that a woman can juggle a full time job, keep the kids alive, ensure that the home is in order, and still keep the spark alive in the bedroom. For men, it’s a pick-one-and-deal-with-it scenario. Who wants that, when they can have it all?

#3 Organized and efficient. I have a full-time job and so does my partner. The difference between him and me is that, despite working long hours, I’m still able to stay organized and efficient both at home and at my desk. From making dinner reservations, to keeping track of anniversaries, birthdays, Thanksgiving, and other important dates, I do it all. Not once has the thought of letting him do it all crossed my mind. I don’t doubt his ability to do it; I doubt his ability to do it well. [Read: 8 relationship dates men should never, ever forget!]

#4 Not afraid to ask for help. From asking for directions, to signing up for marriage counseling, women don’t have the ego that men have. If there’s something wrong or if they can’t do something, they won’t hesitate to ask for help. Men usually retreat into their man caves and hope that the problem goes away, which obviously doesn’t solve anything.

#5 Better communication. Couples in female-led relationships express themselves better than others, giving them a higher chance of maintaining a happy and healthy relationship. This is because they understand that expressing themselves and indulging in fluid communication is more important than engaging in a mindless shouting match—or worse, giving one another the silent treatment. [Read: 12 real reasons why so many couples drift apart over time]

#6 There is no reading between the lines. Some may call this being bossy, but I call this taking control. When you take the guesswork out of everyday situations, things will run smoothly and efficiently. For example, instead of hinting for the male to pick up his socks, the female lead will simply tell him to do it and it gets done. Of course, the female has to learn not to abuse her power, because the goal is for both parties to have a happy relationship.

#7 Being equal. In a female-led relationship, the man doesn’t hold all the power, even if he earns more money than his lady. There is a good distribution of power that both parties can appreciate—and this is gender equality at its finest.

#8 Less pressure. Once the female takes charge, there is less pressure on the male. The male doesn’t have to worry about much else, aside from making his lady love happy. As mentioned above, women handle multitasking a lot better than men, and it is this ability to juggle many things at once that will help the relationship thrive and take the pressure off both parties.

#9 Higher sense of satisfaction. When things run smoothly, there is no doubt that both parties will feel a higher sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. No one likes it when things are in shambles, and in most female-led relationships, there is no need to worry about things getting out of hand. Women seem to have a higher sense of responsibility when taking charge of the kids and household, and there is no doubt that she will do an excellent job running the relationship, too.

#10 Improved sex life. You will be surprised at how many men yearn to be the submissive one, especially in the bedroom. In a female-led relationship, there is no doubt that the woman will take on the domineering role. This, in turn, will spice up the couple’s sex life, resulting in a happier and more satisfied relationship. [Read: What feminists want to hate in bed, but totally love!]

#11 Good learning experience. Whether you opt to try out a female-led relationship for a little while, or completely change the dynamics of your relationship for good, there is no doubt that both of you will learn something from the experience. Switching roles will give both parties the chance to appreciate and understand what the other usually has to deal with and this, in turn, will encourage togetherness.

[Read: 20 things happy couples never do in a perfect relationship]

Like everything else, there are bound to be challenges in a female-led relationship. Examples include dissatisfaction and the customary power struggle. However, there is no reason why you can’t work through them and emerge stronger than ever as a couple.

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Lianne Choo
Born in Singapore and raised in Malaysia to multi-racial parents, Lianne is a self-proclaimed travel and food junkie. Having traveled extensively around the wor...
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