You thought sex was just about penises and vaginas? Well, think again. It’s time you learned about the different types of foreplay.
Foreplay is the special time where you build the sexual chemistry and tension between you and your partner. So, if you want really mind-blowing sex, focus on foreplay. I’m not going to leave you hanging, read on for all the types of foreplay to use during sex. [Read: 9 sexiest foreplay tips you can ever use in bed]
The types of foreplay you need to know
In the beginning, much of my understanding of sex came from movies—including the adult ones. I didn’t really know what sex was. Okay, of course, I knew what it was, but I didn’t really know. The movies don’t really show you realistic sex * Hollywood or adult ones*. But when you have sex, you realize it’s much more complex than what movies and television shows.
Many women complain about the lack of foreplay in bed which is a huge factor in sex. In fact, foreplay can easily be argued as even better than penetration. This is the part where you’re truly intimate with your partner when you touch, taste, smell, and hear them. Some people think it’s wasted time, but, trust me, they’re easy to remember.
#1 It’s all about the kiss. It always starts with a kiss, right? Though kissing doesn’t always lead to sex, it can just be a hot and heavy makeout session, the kiss is very important. Starting foreplay off with kissing and caressing is extremely sensual.
#2 Don’t forget breasts. What a weird thing to say. You probably think, how can I forget the breasts? Well, you can and you will. During foreplay, it’s easy to focus on one area of the body, but you need to expand. Don’t forget the breasts.
You can kiss them, suck on them, lick them, whatever way stimulates your partner. The nipples contain sensitive nerve endings, so take advantage of that.
#3 You don’t have to be naked. Here’s the thing about foreplay, it can start however you want it to and whenever you want it to. You don’t have to be in bed naked in order to engage in foreplay. If you’re at work, you can send them a pic or naughty text. Preparing them slowly for when you see them. That’s the thing about foreplay, it can literally last for hours. [Read: How to perfect the art of foreplay from afar]
#4 Undress your partner. You usually take off your own clothes, right? Wouldn’t it be hot if someone else took them off for you? See where I’m going with this? Undressing your partner is one of the first steps in different types of foreplay, aside from kissing. You don’t even have to kiss your partner while undressing them.
Having your fingers gently graze theirs is highly arousing and stimulating. Maybe you’ll even get to witness them getting goosebumps.
#5 Breathing. Who thought breathing could be a type of foreplay, but alas, it is. Use your breath to stimulate and arouse your partner. When you kiss them, move down their body, using your breath in sensitive areas such as their necks and genital area. Of course, make sure your breath smells nice… just sayin’
#6 The dry hump. I know, “the dry hump” doesn’t have the best ring to it, but hear me out first. If you are in bed, on the couch or standing, you can grind up against your partner ever so slightly. You can be clothed or fully naked, but it not only shows how turned on you/they are, but it also heats up the moment. [Read: All the do’s, don’t’s, and best positions for dry humping]
#7 Get handsy. If you’re kissing your partner with your hands limp, resting by your side you’re doing it all wrong. You have two hands for a reason, so, you better start using them. During foreplay, use your hands. Touch their face, run your fingers through their hair, grab their breasts, thighs, ass–feel them! Don’t be afraid to explore their body, unless they say no, of course.
#8 Over panty action. We usually assume that anything involving the vagina has to be done while naked. Now, I’m totally with you on that, but you can have some vagina action with the panties on. Tease your partner by gently stroking and caressing around and on top of their vagina while they have underwear on. It, first of all, drives her insane but also is highly arousing as well.
#9 Oral. Now, if you don’t like giving oral, that’s completely okay. But if you’re not against it then you should incorporate oral sex into your foreplay routine. You don’t need to be aggressive when you’re down there, in fact, it’s best to be a little gentle.
#10 Labia love. Many people completely ignore the labia, but you shouldn’t. The labia is packed with nerve endings which need some loving. You can hold each labia in between your thumb and forefinger, massaging it slowly, going up and down.
#11 The ass. Now, this isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, so this isn’t something you have to do. But if your partner is into it then try it out. The anus has very sensitive nerve endings which are often ignored. If you’re performing oral sex, you can lift their legs up slightly and gently lick around the anus. Or you can try it while your partner’s in doggy-style. Don’t lick too aggressively, rather, just gently lick. [Read: A walkthrough and complete guide to eating ass like a champ]
#12 Relax. Listen, if you’re nervous, none of these foreplay moves will feel that great for your partner. So, relax. It’s just foreplay. Think about it like this: you learn about your partner and what they like through touch, taste, and sound. [Read: 17 sexy foreplay moves that’ll make anyone hot and horny]
#13 Multi-task. Use all these types of foreplay, and don’t be afraid to multi-task and do a couple of these moves at the same time. For example, finger your partner while eating their ass or make out with them while you touch their genitals.