Massaging your partner is sensual and sexy, but only if done right. Learn these sensual massage techniques and let your hands do the naughty talking!
There are going to be times where you have to dish out a sensual massage, and you need to know all the right sensual massage techniques. In those moments, you’ll wish you had taken a Thai massage course at your local YMCA.
Everyone loves getting a massage. When it comes to giving one we usually put in a couple minutes of mediocre handwork and then tell the person our hands are sore. I know how it works, it’s my go-to excuse when I give a back massage. Like honestly, who likes giving massages? Exactly.
Mastering all the right sensual massage techniques
Never mind, you don’t need to take a six-week course to learn how to give a massage. The most important thing you need is the will to want to give your partner a massage. If you have the will then you’ll find the way.
This is why you’re here, right? You’re panicking, they’re coming over soon and you want to surprise them with a sensual massage except you only know how to karate chop. Fair enough, some people like a solid chop to the back. But there are some sensual massage techniques and tricks you can pull out of your sleeve.
#1 It’s all about lighting. No one gives a sensual massage under fluorescent lighting, I mean, really, what an eyesore. If you want to give a sensual massage, you need to set the mood. If you can’t dim the lights in your room to give that soft ambience, then turn the lights off and light candles instead. [Read: 16 ways to get your room to scream sex]
#2 It’s the little things. Aside from lighting which is really important, seriously, don’t overlook that, you also have other small yet significant details that affect the mood you’re creating. Make sure the room is not too warm or too cold. Aim for room temperature. Have a warm towel for your partner to lay on, even a glass of water for them to sip throughout the massage.
#3 Go easy on the music. Now is not the time to play your favorite heavy-metal or punk rock band. There are 364 other days to do that. If you can, add some soft music, *not elevator music* but more mediation and relaxation music in the background. It’ll create a warm atmosphere and allow your partner to actually relax which is the entire point of this massage. [Read: 20 most romantic songs for the one you love]
#4 It’s all about the nose. If you’re giving your partner a sensual massage, you don’t want their nostrils to be filled with the scent of dirty underwear or day old cheese. It’s all about the scent. Don’t be afraid to use essences or a fragrant oil that helps relax them. You may not think this is a big deal but trust me when they lay there, they want to relax to the smell of something cosy and warm.
#5 Don’t cheap out on the oil. Listen, you don’t have to use nice towels or go out and buy a CD specifically for massage music. Don’t blow your money on those things when you can easily download music or use an old towel from home *just make sure it’s clean and stain free*.
#6 Know the oils that work. Listen, there are literally hundreds of oils on the market that claim to do wonders for massages. Yeah, you can try them all out, but here are the ones that are well-known for being great to use for massages. Try rose oil, sandalwood oil, or grapeseed oil.
#7 Don’t go to the erogenous zones right away. If you want to massage your partner and hopefully turn them on in the process, you just can’t go straight to their erogenous zones even if you’re working on your sensual massage techniques. Come on people! Think of this like starting a car in the middle of winter.
You need to warm up the engine. Start massaging their neck, upper back, arms, and mid-back. Then, you work your way down their lower back and upper thighs.
#8 Make sure your hands are warm. This may sound silly but having two cold hands touching your back isn’t a fun experience. In fact, it’s more of a turn-off. That’s not what you want.
#9 Work your way down the body. If you’re not sure where to start, the best place to begin the massage is from the head working your way down. If you start from the head, don’t use oil until you reach their neck. No one likes having oil in their hair. Starting from the head or neck and working your way down is the safest way to give a massage.
#10 Shiatsu technique. It’s the easiest technique to use for people that don’t have much experience giving massages. Basically, this technique consists of using your thumbs, applying pressure to the body. You press, stretch, knead, or tap while moving your thumbs in a circular motion. At first, don’t apply too much pressure, you don’t want to hurt them.
#11 Compression technique. Use this technique to mix in with the Shiatsu technique. The compression technique does exactly what it says. You’re applying pressure to the body by pressing your palms flat onto the area, rubbing it in a circular motion. This is usually done right before going into a deeper massage such as a Shiatsu.
#12 Kneading technique. This is similar to the Shiatsu technique in that you typically use this technique for a deeper massage. You would usually use this for the butt or other areas of the body which are more meaty. Stay away from massaging the stomach, not everyone is cool with that. Have you ever kneaded bread before? That’s exactly what you have to do. [Read: Erotic massage 101: How to work some magic]
#13 Don’t massage with the expectation of getting one back. But seriously, don’t do it. I’m only telling you this because you’re not going to get one back, at least not on the same day. They just had a massage. They’re relaxed. The last thing they want to do is massage you. Sorry. Now, if you’re thinking that this could arouse your partner, that’s different and it will probably work.